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4/27/11 10:57 P

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Please listen to SERENEART. I am sorry if I mistook your therapist with my Doctor. Of course therapy can help you with ED. Yes, there are a lot of good, caring people on SP. Ignore the negative and cling to the positive. Learn who to trust and hold them close.

Depression is the impression left by fear. Be willing to fight the fear. Conquer it with love.

Nancy Rubio
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4/27/11 4:25 P

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oh honey you need a hug. so watch out here comes one headed right at you... emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon I am here to talk . you need to .. speak up . no one here will hit you .. yes i know panic attacks . makes you fear things unreasonable things .the fear is real not in your head . Grotty we love you .. you are at times a voice for reason and calm . we at times can be misunderstood . but at all times you are all loved .

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4/27/11 9:28 A

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I'm sorry you felt attacked. emoticon Some of the things were inappropriate and should not be said. Unfortunately, it is just ignorance to the nature of the beast of ED. I see people on here that think Spark is the answer to their problems. It's kind of like some people think the latest and greatest diet will heal them. They will lose the weight and be happy. I'm not justifying their response. Take what you can from it and leave the rest or ignore the response. You don't need to explain or justify yourself to them. I know I have had friends who have tried to help by saying we all have our problems or their are people in worse situations than you to try to make me feel better. Umm... that doesn't work, for me it just invalidates what I have said...that I'm not worthy of having these struggles or compared to other people my problems are nothing.


All that I am saying is I understand completely where you are coming from. I have been there and struggling with ED myself. I have been in a treatment facility and still continue to seek professional help as I continue in my recovery. My problems aren't any less important than anyone else's and neither are you.

For me after I had been in treatment, it took me a long time to come back to Spark, because alot of it is so triggering, with the weights, foods, calorie counting.... etc....

I am back, but I use it as one of my tools in my toolbox and I stay away from forums and other areas, that could incite ED. It is not my only tool.

In my opinion, I don't normally post much in this forum partially because of time constraints and because (I'm sure someone may blast me on this because I am generalizing). I just get the feeling this forum really isn't for those who really have an eating disorder...yes maybe disordered eating. Those are two different things and there can be a fine line between them. I know there are folks on this forum who are or who have battled ED.

I've seen blogs where people accuse other people of using Spark to fuel their ED or that they just don't support people with ED because they are obviously acting out their eating disorder. I don't subscribe to those blogs anymore. If they don't understand or want to try to understand....forget it. I am in recovery and working towards that I work at it everyday. I'm not perfect... I don't know why people expect me to be....It's okay for them to make a mistake but not me. Maybe I just have the wrong type of people in my life. I don't want to go back to where I was. I might was well be.... if I was back there. It was a very painful and dark time in my life. I was very ill.

I don't know if this is helping or hurting, but I just want you to know that I am in your corner. You can do this. You are so worth it! You are so brave for taking these steps and confronting ED. It takes a lot of work. I know I have my days where it's just 5 minutes at a time.

Hang in there! You can do this!





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4/26/11 8:55 P

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All I meant was that in my case, I was BiPolar for 10 years and went from 145 to 120 pounds. Also my bipolar has never caused me to eat. This, the eating and gaining weight stem from other problms in my life.
As I have said many times. one answer is not for everyone.

Depression is the impression left by fear. Be willing to fight the fear. Conquer it with love.

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DRELLABELLA Posts: 375
4/26/11 8:45 P

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actually, I do not think they are two totally seperate things. i think mental illness contributes to binge eating and emotional eating as we try to self-medicate through food. Also, I have a history of eating disorder involving binging, which of course needs professional attention, but which i can also get support, encouragement and advice about from the sparkers on this forum, as they are going thru the same kind of deal with their eating.
i don't know why people seem to think that i expect sparkpeople to fix my mental health issues. I was just sharing my background as to the things that contribute to my emotional eating, and saying that i feel the things i ahve learned at spark-people carry over into other areas of my life and help me with dealing with my mental problems as well--the leesons we are taught here apply to weight loss, but also to so much more and I think are helpful when applied to other areas of our lives.
talking about the triggers in my life that i think helped lead to the developement of my eating disorder does not equal expecting sparkpeople to cure my mental illness. it is just honest sharing about where I am at and what I think is behind much of my emotional eating.
I am starting to feel kind of attacked for simply sharing my story. sorry, geez
--marcella

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NANCYRUBIO's Photo NANCYRUBIO Posts: 318,417
4/26/11 8:29 P

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I am bipolar and on medication-- I would not expect my psychiatrist to treat me for weight loss, nor should I expect SP to treat my bipolar. They may feed on each other but are entirely different in nature.

Depression is the impression left by fear. Be willing to fight the fear. Conquer it with love.

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DRELLABELLA Posts: 375
4/26/11 7:51 P

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sugarmom--
just so everyone knows, i am seeing a therapist once a week , doing group therapy that focuses on both mindfulness, emotional regualtion, and crisis survival strategies (ways to get through emotionqal pain without making the situation worse with self-destructive things like...oh, i don't know--say, binging (lol) ). I see a psychiatrist once a month for meds, and even take vitamins that are supposed to help with depression and anxiety--fish oil for depression, mega b complex for depression and anxiety, calcium for anxiety, and vitamin d, which is supposed to help with depression. I am doing pretty well- don't feel markedly depressed, but not quite normal. the anxiety is partially under control--i still have panic attacks when i try to drive, and unfamiliar situations make me quite anxious, but it is nothing like it was before. as for the ptsd, I am healing. i do still have nightmares, but they are less and less--the most pronounced symptoms are extreme jumpiness and the fact that i go into a panic if anyone comes even close to touching me meck--or even if I think they might touch my meck--totally irrational, because it is my husband doing the touching, and rationally I know he would not hurt me, but the flashbacks make me have irrational fear anyway.
so no, i am not relying strictly on sparkpeople to help with all my problems. i ahve a fairly complex professional support team in place. it is just nice to be able to get extra support for the emotions that lead to my binge eating from all of you guys. I don't expect you to cure me. i just know that getting a different perspective and getting some advice from people who also suffer from eating problems might help me when years of therapy really haven't been effectively helpful for my binge eating problem--counseling was effective for my bulimia to some extent, eliminating the purging, but not so much for the binging aspect of the eating disorder. i want toe get advice from what other s do to stave off binges and hear from people who have been successful in beating this. I made that long post so other people on the forum could understand the kind of obstacles and stress I am facing in my life that contribute to the continuation of my eating disorder.
--marcella

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4/25/11 2:48 P

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spark people is not really able to fix all problems of our emotional eating problems . what would work for one will not work for all . Your triggers are different then mine . many have had years of talking to a doctor and still do not know what their problems are . !! we are here to try to help but we do not take the place of help you get from the outside . we all can help one another by being there to lend a hand . but that is all we can do lend a helping ear not cure the problem . emoticon emoticon

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4/25/11 2:04 A

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it got very detailed and personal and if anyone hs any advice, feedback, or encouragement,or their own story to share, i would appreciate it. i have talked about some of this stuff before and some i have not, but I wanted to explore the idea of the psychological triggers of my binge eating AND how the sparkpeople outlook and methods can be applied to weight loss and health, but also to other challenging areas of your life-- how this realization has not made things all better, but it has given me hope and motivation in some very hard circustances, and it has deepened my desire to better myself and change that of my life which i can change for the better--in all areas
--marcella

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