This is from my daily food meditations book:
There are times when all of us find it difficult to say no. Even though we realize that intellectually we can not have and do everything, we have trouble saying "no" to the foods, activities, and people that are not good for us.
Abstaining means saying "no thank you" when offered something that is not on our food plan. We may think that we are afraid of hurting someone else's feelings by our refusal, but sometimes it can be our own compulsive desire that prevents us from getting a firm no. Our sanity and health are more important than pleasing whoever is offering what we don't feel right having.
As we work our program, we become more aware of the people and activities that use up our energies unecessarily. Avoiding them gives us more time for strength for what means most to us. Learning when and how to say no is a very important part of our journey. Most often, the person we may need to say no to is ourselves.
Proud to be a Sunny Gal!
"Be not the slave of your own past. Plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience that shall explain and overlook the old." -Ralph Waldo Emerson