Phone calls for donations I have no issue hanging up. Too many in this area are scams, so I don't even listen to the speal. For me it's more the face-to-face pressures. In a span of 2 weeks for example - bring items for the shoebox donations (being sent overseas), bring food for the local christmas hamper and $2 for the turkey certificate. Bring food for the food drive. Purchase a gift of $15 for the work gift exchange and bring a plate of food. Bring food to the resident's Christmas party - which I don't mind, as I make my "famous" no-sugar fruit jello. Loads of requests for every charity out there and when I say NO, I get "you make good money, even a dollar will help out." I figured out if I give a dollar to all, I will spend around $100. That's crazy pressure. Like you I am super good at saying no and walking away.
Sounds good with the saving money for your children and giving $$ as gifts. Teens always appreciate that very much especially when raised knowing about money issues and budgets.
Gift giving for me is simple, always has been. My family of origin was and still is big on not spending tons on gifts. My brother and his wife go in with me for the folks - around $50 (total). Each one gets a gift of around $25 and I'm big on finding sales. My friends get small gifts of around $5-10 depending on what I get, and I'm creative. I've given my time as a gift - to two young mothers, I gave them babysitting certificates. When kids were small I told their parents to not have them buy me gifts, draw me a picture. Some made me different things that were inexpensive. It's the thought and time together that matter. Or the thought and intention of giving in the spirit of Christmas that matters....not that its a huge gift that one went into debt over. I told one of my very close friends to not worry - her gift list has exploded with grandchildren, to accept my small gifts and I will gladly accept the Christmas breakfast and lunch that she and her family share with me every Christmas morning. I love being creative with gifts, makes it really fun. :)
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