Day 71, It's too hard...
Every few months Joanne would decide she was ready to lose weight. She'd gear up by saying, "This time, I will stay on my diet perfectly, I'll walk every day, and I'll never eat when I'm not hungry."
On her chosen day (always a Monday) Joanne would begin her diet plan. Initially she would do great -- measuring and weighing her food, writing in her journal, and declining lunch invitations. But when unexpected events or other difficulties came up, she'd struggle to stay on her plan.
It seemed taht demands from her work, her family, even her dog made every day a challenge. Finally Joanne would give up on her diet, saying "I just can't do it. It's too hard!"
And she's right. For most people, it's extremely difficult to stick with goals of healthier eating and exercising. No one is ever immune from bad days, stress and fatigue. And the ongoing challenges of life events can certainly make it hard to stay on your plan.
But that's not a good reason for giving up! Instead you need to learn how to face the tough times without allowing them to pull you off track.
"I can do hard things!"
If you're like most people, you've done many hard things in your life. Giving birth, working at a job, moving to a new city, even cleaning the house -- all of these fit the description. In reality, you can do hard things!
So instead of caving in on your plans to make changes in your life because it feels too hard, doublecheck that your plan and goals are reasonable for you, consider taking a wider road for the day perhaps, and then do what you can for the day. Reassure yourself: "Of course it's hard. But I've done a lot of difficult things in my life, and this isn't any different. I know that I can do hard things!"
Be willing to do the work
There's no way to avoid it -- losing weight takes a lot of effort, usually for some longer time. You need to make the time to do the things that will help you lose weight, like plan meals, track what you eat, avoid food temptations, to mention a few. Sometimes you have to make difficult decisions, tackle challenges, and manage people or situations that feel extremely difficult. But if you can find the courage and the focus to put up with the hard parts, you'll reach the goals you want so badly.
Suggested activities for today
~ in your notebook, write "I can do hard things."
~ Make a list of hard things you've done in the past. Remind yourself that you are a strong person.
~ Renew your commitment to doing the work that's involved in this project. Tell yourself you can do hard tings, including changing how you eat and exercise. Make a commitment to make yourself a priority, each and every day, and then do what you can each day :)
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link to our discussion day 70 www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messagebo
link to day 72 :) www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messagebo
Edited by: LIFEWALK at: 9/9/2011 (17:46)