... but I finally convinced FI to put his foot down with the boys' mother. She can go from perfectly civil to raging, irrational bitch fast enough to make your head spin (I know mine is spinning often after an "encounter" with her). The lastest (and last straw for me) was picking the boys up last Friday. FI went to the door, the little guy (5 yo) wanted to show him something so Jeff stepped in and their mother said, seemingly out of nowhere, and in front of the boys, "I don't want you in here, you can wait for them outside." The little one looked disappointed that he didn't get to show his dad whatever it was (we still don't know because he didn't want to tell us, I think he was too upset by what happened) and the older one (8 yo) asked us in the car later, "why did mom kick you out of her apartment?" FI just said, "I don't know, but it's her apartment and it's her right to ask someone to leave if she wants to. I will just have to wait for you guys outside from now on." The older one thought it was weird and said that it was rude of her. We still have no clue what got up her ass, or why she's been flipping back and forth between tolerable and super bitch.
His theory is that the whole divorce and "freedom" thing didn't go the way she had planned. She's still not working (but he pays her so much between maintenance and child support that she makes more than I do, don't think that doesn't aggravate the heck out of me), hasn't had any luck finding a job or another sucker to take care of her (I would assume that her bittnerness probably comes through loud and clear in an interview or date) and is probably pissed that the "asshole" who's to blame for all the problems in their marriage moved on so easily. Oh yeah, and I really think she doesn't like me, given the fact that she turned on me during an email exchange and said she doesn't want me emailing her anymore. And then proceeded to tell the 8 year old that she didn't want me emailing her.
Anyway, this morning I let FI have it because she sent another email of "demands". I told him enough was enough. If she couldn't treat him with respect, then he shouldn't go out of his way to do anymore than what's necessary for the boys. I finally got it through his head that she treats him like crap because he lets her. I'm not saying be mean, but stop jumping when she says to. He sent her an email basically saying, I don't care that you don't like me. But you need to stop acting like a bitch in front of the kids because they're picking up on it and it bothers them. He obviously worded it much more diplomatically than that, but that's the gist of it. We'll see if it makes any difference. I, for one, am not looking to parent teacher conferences on Monday. Yep, all three of us will be there with the boys. Lovely.
Lots of people talk to animals.... Not very many listen, though.... That's the problem.
- Benjamin Hoff, The Tao of Pooh
“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but, remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” Epicurus, philosopher