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that would be awesome...if not then we ca always talk and share nfo
Boy, I feel for you. I'm 46 and a mom at home. The kids at home are 9 and 14, but I have two older kids who are 23 and 26. I didn't have a career, so I'm not adjusting to that, but like you, I feel out of place. I don't have the answer, but maybe you could move into my ward and we could feel out of place together.
Yes, you can!
a couple of sundays ago i was missing my dad so bad it hurt and i broke down went into the bathroom and cried and cried. it was the day after his death date. his death date has always been hard for me he was 8 when he died cause he killed himself and it just hits home more for me that he is not here..a good friend of mine had his arm around his daughter. and that was it i lost it.
my visiting teacher came into the bathroom and she listened and suggested a preisthood blessing which i got from my hubby. but you know it wasn't just my dad it was everything
i will be the big fifty this yr and well i am raising a two year old. not alone doing it, but still. most friends my age do not have kids. i have worked 18 yrs and now i am a stay at home homemaker. if someone calls me a house wife i get grumpy why i am not married to a house. hahaha
i am on a allowance and it is so hard at times. i am so used to having money and not asking for things. but it is my chioce. i feel it is better for a child if a parent can stay at home with them and they not be in daycare. i felt that way even before i joined the church. luckily we can afford for me to stay at home for katy.
but sunday i was and have been feeling so out of place so like I do not fit in anywhere in church and i was hurting . the relief society president who is young 27 i think and has three kids and one on the way. she is always around you can tell she cares. i was a couselor of hers when she was primary president a real sweet girl. anyway she came up to me and asked if i was ok. i blunted it out i feel so useless i said you know it is good beng at home being a stay at home mom but you know i just don't feel the spirit like i used to and you know. i used to make money and now i have to ask for it. and you know i just don't feel like i am getting anywhere. being a mom you can't always see the good you are doing. you can't see the differenc eyou are making. with work you get a paycheck and since i am a nurse i felt like i was serving others. yes i am serving katy girl but i feel lost most days. anyway i said some other things and susan said you know ginger i am a loner and now i am never alone. she says everything you are saying i feel and have felt and i understand you.
i about died how could she being 20 yrs younger feel as i do or what i am. my point in all of this is we are all daughters of our heavenly father and you know we are sisters in zion. if we are not happy if we need others, if we are feeling out of place. maybe we need to pick up the phone maybe we need to call. reach out to others and be our sister friend. yes it is hard stepping out of our confort zones but isn't it harder being alone and feeling alone and on a dessert island.
hope everyone is ok just me ginger
any ideas you have at reaching out to others lease let me know
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