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thanks for sharing that with me after i posted it i felt real odd cause well it did bother me, not so much just quitting except i hate to give up on anything, but how people have been toward me since then.. the callings we get are to help us and others. but i think if our personal life is so out of wack that we just can't handle it. we can't handle it. we are only human and our well being has to come above other things.if we don't have it in our self's to do our callings we don't.. i honestly don't feel or think the Lord would want us to hurt so much over callings. adversity is something that makes us all stronger and helps us to become better people but you know in the church i feel we all need to feel good about our self's and about our abilities..
all i know is the best calling i ever had was a teaching in relief society and family history. to be honest i am just not strong like i once was. to be honest to i honestly don't know of any calling i would want in church.. is that sad or not...
my old relieve society president came out to my house.. she said they where visiting all the sisters.. anyway. i talked to her some about somethings i was going through and well she gave me two visiting teachers that show up all the time have for about three months now i feel like i need to do my visiting teaching out of guilt is that not sad....
maybe what we are all going through is a sign of the times and all part of of things. Satan works to destroy the true church and to destroy latter day saints. so well if he gets us to have hard feeling toward people or feel out of place he is winning... i think personally I need to not worry what others think or feel i tried to talk they don't want to i need to just move on.if i am not wanted that is ok to cause i have allot going on in my life as it is.
i have always let what others think of me get to me and well to be honest i need to get past that.. cause what they think is not what the lord thinks... my questions need to be am i worthy of my temple recommend am i worthy of the Holy Ghost everyday. and i living my life as i should.... i am so sorry you where hurt by your church leaders it was unkind and to me uncalled for. we have a right to tell others when it is to much. You know noone else does most of the time..ahng in there.. just me ging again thanks for sharing i needed to hear that.

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4/10/11 8:51 P

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Boy, I hear you about feeling uncomfortable after something happens. And it takes a long time. I don't know how long. I'm still waiting. I had a similar experience about 3 years ago. I had 4 callings (RS teacher, Sunday school teacher, ward organist, and cub committee chairman) and felt a little overwhelmed to say the least. Finally, I asked if maybe I didn't need to have so many callings. So then the bishop's counsellor called me a name in print on the bishopric meeting agenda which I found out about because the ward clerk told me. He thought it was a joke that I was in on and was quite shocked to find out it wasn't. Well, needless to say it didn't all work out so well. I still go to church for the same reasons you do. But it's still hard.

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4/5/11 2:11 P

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advice talk to your bishop or relief president even. also pray and fast.. "don't just not do your calling though" cause then you just feel guilty. also write down everything you are upset about and why you want to give it up , then write everything you like about it. take the list with you when you talk to the bishop or relief soc president.
your will find your answer..let the spirit guide you...just me ginger

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i have asked to be released from some callings and i have not felt to bad about it either.. some but not horrible. for example i was primary president i am not a good leader i do not delagate well and people that are pushy i tend to get flat stubborn on and do my own thing. most of the time. anyway. i was under so much stress and got to a point in my own life i just flat could not do it anymore. i did not have it in me i know my limits and i was way past that. it was right during the time my hubby and i put in for custody of Katy girl we where dealing with the dcs/foster care/ helping her bio parents to see her etc i had a job from heck and they wanted me to lie all the time. i was also. teaching her biol parents how to be able to care for her.
i had told my branch pres i needed to be released he said he understood. the next week i flat went to relief society.
I was also having problems with the branch pres grandkids and other kids who acted out all the time. i had already personally talked to the parents of the kids first hand. i had got myself and my counselors chewed out a couple of weeks before i just flat quit, because of how i had handled the kids acting out. i felt i had no choice with no support from anyone. we did not have the people to run down thier parents to get them to handle the kids. it was bad real bad.
so i was to a point to just plan give up and tow weeks after getting chewed out it I did.
I know to this day he ad his family have issues about me but you know none of them where in my shoes none of them understood the pressure i was under and none of them was doing a thing to help support us in our callings. I have tried to talk to the mom about it but she just smiles and acts like everything is cool but outside of the church she ill not even talk to me. I talked to the stake primary and they did not even know what to do.
somedays many days i don't even want to go to church anymore because i am not in the click, but i do cause i need the church in my llfe and need the lord to know i am doing all i can to live right and the church is true but the people aren't. I am in the nursery third hour and i miss relief society real bad i go every once in a while when my david watchs the nursery for me. but to be honest i flat avoid the dinners and relief society nights..if i was asked to take a calling i would take it and try but to be honest i i just don't have it in me anymore to do much.
I have been putting of being sealed to katy tell i get the weight off and something else I just don't have the drive in me like i used to.anyway even to do genealogy or temple work very odd for me..
they called a new relief soc pres she is like 29 and he gave her two counslors and helpers and a sec everything. and primary doesn't even have enough teachers, there is no young womens pres either.. after she got called she is a wonderful women i love her allot but all the women flocked around her and i was so jealoius and i was mad cause well not that i would want that calling i wouldn't but she is in the click. when i came home i realized it and i prayed and prayed cause i needed to repent because no matter what a branch pred does or doesn't do it is not my place to tell anyone how to do thier calling. nor should i feel like that either.
you know i could have done things different i could have tried and waited to be released but you know a person can only handle so much. there is nothing wrong with venting we all have struggles and well i hate to say it but our struggles are part of our weight and health issues too.
don't know if any of that helped you but it made me feel better to get it off my chest.

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4/5/11 1:30 P

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Talk to your bishop. Don't ask to necessarily be released but tell him what's going on and ask for guidance. He may be inspired to redo the callings or he may be inspired to offer you other counsel. Also, maybe a personal fast & prayer could help you.

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I feel for you! I sometimes try to do my best and seem to get more frustrated while doing it because of the people that I have had to work with. Right now I am in the RS Presidency and feeling like I am very stagnant and not doing all that I should, when I told the president she said she is tired and just wants out. I too have been taught that I should never refuse or ask to be released from a calling...but sometimes it may be the best. I try to stay strong and I just do my best day to day. Sometimes its a good day and others not so good, but I know the Lord will bless me if I am just trying to do what I can.

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I don't remember my parents having very many church callings, but I do remember them refusing a few. So I'm trying to be like all of you who would never refuse a calling or get fed up and complain (at least that's how I see it). I hope I'm not the only murmurer out there. Well, now I have a calling that's giving me a real test. Compassionate service leader. I don't mind the funeral lunches, but when I have to ask someone to take a meal I feel like I'm standing outside walmart with a sign that says "will beg for food." To make it worse, I have a partner who is clearly the boss. She tells me who to call, who not to call, gets upset if I call someone who has done something too recently, and so forth. Last time she even wanted me to see that two people didn't bring the same type of food to the same person. I didn't do that, I'm just grateful if they'll take any food.
So for the rest of you, how do you carry on so patiently and pleasantly? I'm feeling like a really bad team player. emoticon

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