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6/11/12 10:35 P

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You're welcome.

What did you think about the situation? You didn't mention.

cj

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6/11/12 9:51 P

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thank you for the advice

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6/11/12 7:16 P

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I'm 43 and I still cry when I am hurt, sad, or upset by something. Emotions don't have an age limit, I don't think.

With my own kids, and those that I work with at school (I am an educational assistant), when we deny kids their feelings, they tend to come up in other ways. Whereas, when we acknowledge that they may be feeling hurt or sore, they can move on passed their feeling.

cj

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6/10/12 7:59 A

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Hi,
My husband , son and daughter. Were ridding bikes and my daughter fell over her bike and my husband said she had bad fall. She did not cry. She is nine years old my husband she is to old to cry. What do you think?

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3/6/12 11:55 P

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My dh and I have been married for 22 years this May - and we are still struggling to get it right!
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cj

God is closer to us than water is to a fish.
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2/20/12 7:16 P

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guess i have to look more into these other love ways, just thought after being 7 years of marriage you would know all the signs by now, but i guess even in time people still change even the slight.

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11/13/11 5:29 P

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Not for sure how to reply but to tell you what I would do with my hubby is just to sit down and talk about all the feelings your having. He may feel the same or having some problems and to shy to say anything on his own so try just talking to him about how you feel. If he is like my hubby he won't be one to start a conversation but if I start it he will let me know how he feels. Good luck to you and hope you get some answers you need.

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11/10/11 7:54 P

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I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with this right now. It sounds very upsetting and frustrating for you both.

I am certainly no expert in matters of marriage or love or romance. My dh and I have our share of struggles in our relationship at times!

I have a few questions for you, though. Have you tried talking to your husband about the struggles? If so, what did he say about it? Did he have any thoughts on it all?

Do you know each other's 'love language'? Have you ever heard of this concept? There is a series of books written by Gary Chapman. He maintains that each person has one of 5 love languages. He also says that we are often attracted to people who have a different love language than our own. And just like a person who does not speak our verbal language, when you get two people speaking different love languages, they do not 'understand' each other, they do not feel love from the other person.

For example, if my husband feels loved when I do acts of service for him, me writing him a love note, while nice enough, does not mean as much as if I iron his shirts or do errands for him. Likewise, if my love language is quality time, my dh can get me as many gifts as he likes, but I only feel cherished if he spends time with me, just being together.

Perhaps the two of you do not feel loved by each other? Is that possible? Usually when there is a problem, it is because we are not 'speaking' the same 'language'. I find that whatever my dh is complaining the most about, is what matters to him the most.

I would suggest talking to your husband about the situation. Enjoy another 'romantic' evening together, not with sexual intimacy the goal at first, but emotional intimacy. Then, when the emotional is there, the physical may follow.

cj

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11/10/11 7:28 P

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Not sure how to ask it or where i actually begin.

The story... my husband and I have had very little contact lately, its been awhile too. Wondering if you have any advice or tips i could try.

I would like to plan a date night but each time i do , nothing comes of it. Its been one sided for some time. What can i do that it actually goes through?

I would like to do something romantic with my husband, i tried have candles and movie , we did that but then the mood was somewhat gone once the movie had finished. How can i keep this romantic feeling going?

I would like some romance in the bedroom, i have given hints and such and tried to caress him in ways. But we have not really got past foreplay. Is there a way i can continue this so it does lead to sex?

~ Jessica ~
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