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2/23/09 12:52 A

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Woo-hoo! You're doing very well, 1313Lucky! Keep it up!

Last week everyone. Let's finish off February with a
bang!

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2/13/09 12:10 A

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Love Challenge:
11 Feb-physical contact with DH (5 points),
verbal compliments for DH (5 points),
act of service for DH-took his turn at vacuuming (5 points)
12 Feb-physical contact with DH (5 points),
act of service for DH-made his favorite coffee (5 pts),
quality time-took him to dinner, his choice (5 pts),
words of appreciation-took me to work (5 pts)
13 Feb-physical contact with DH (5 points),
act of service for DH:hand-sewed buttons (5 pts),
14 Feb-physical contact (5 pts),
quality time-watched movie of his choice (5 pts),
words of appreciation-helped w/closet cleaning (5pts),
act of service-purchased his fav.brand beverage (5 pts)
15 Feb-physical contact (5 points),
quality time-watched his choice of documentary (5 pts),
words of appreciation-he washed dishes (5 points),
verbal compliments (5 pts)
16 Feb-physical contact (5 pts),
verbal compliments (5 pts)
Discovered his love language!!(physical contact:10 pts)
17 Feb-physical contact (5 pts)
verbal compliments (5 pts)
words of appreciation (5 pts)
18 Feb-physical contact (5 pts),
verbal compliments (5 pts)
quality time: did laundry together (5 pts)
19 Feb-physical contact (5 pts),
words of appreciation (5 pts),
small gift (5 pts)
20 Feb-physical contact (5 pts)
act of service: picked up his Rxs (5 pts)
21 Feb-physical contact (5 pts),
compliments (5 points)
small gift (5 points)
22 Feb-physical contact (5 pts),
words of appreciation (5 points)
quality time: 30 minute walk (5 points)
23 Feb-physical contact (5 points),
quality time: 30 minute walk (5 points),
small gift (5 pts)
24 Feb-physical contact (5 pts),
quality time: helping w/plants (5 pts)
compliments (5 pts)
words of appreciation (5 pts)
25 Feb-physical contact (5 pts)
quality time: had lunch together (5 pts)
compliments (5 pts)
MY Love Language: Quality Time (10 points)


Healthy Challenge:
11 Feb-requested grilled cheese w/o butter on bread (5 points),
requested DH not buy any Valentine's candy (5 pts)
12 Feb-chose not to eat bread on fish sandwich (5 pts),
used hand weights to do upper body exercises (5 pts)
13 Feb-chose fruit for dessert (5 points),
used hand weights (5 points)
14 Feb-chose grilled fish, not pasta (5 points),
walked around block (5 points)
15 Feb-split dessert instead of having my own (5 pts),
recumbent bike (5 points)
16 Feb-walked around the neighborhood for 1st time (5 pts)
17 Feb-chose the smallest candy bar I could find, when I really, really, really wanted the huge one! (5 pts)
18 Feb-was tired but made dinner at home, even though DH was tempting me to have dinner out (5 pts)
19 Feb-resisted co-worker's chocolate chip cookies! They looked so good too! (5 points)
20 Feb-tried different strength training exercises (5pts)
21 Feb-used the new SP feature to evaluate nutrition tracking for the week, and made menu for the week accordingly (5 points)
22 Feb-instead of eating out, made veggie stew (5 pts)
23 Feb-choose not to pick up dessert and made a healthy fruit salad instead (5 points)
24 Feb-out to dinner and chose baked potato w/dab of butter, but really wanted French fries!!! (5 pts)
25 Feb-used DH's weight bench for 1st time (5 pts)

Edited by: LUCKY-13 at: 2/25/2009 (15:48)
Life's an adventure ... take it one step at a time and don't underestimate yourself! You're capable of more than you think you are! How do I know this? You're still here aren't you? That means you haven't given up!


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2/11/09 9:54 A

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Physical:
2/4 - physical contact with DH
2/7 - backrub for hubby
2/9 - physical contact with DH
2/10 - physical contact with DH
2/11 - physical contact with DH
2/12 - physical contact with DH
2/13 - physical contact with DH
2/15 - physical contact with DH
2/16 - physical contact with DH

Healthy:
2/14 - 2 hours on Wii
2/14 - DH and I made a healthy Valentine's dinner together.



Edited by: ARIANESMOM at: 2/17/2009 (09:47)
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CJBAGGINS Posts: 31,266
2/9/09 8:09 P

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2/6:
Healthy choices - was running late but instead of grabbing a fat-filled muffin at the cafeteria, I made sure I took a packet of instant oatmeal and had that instead!

Love Languages - physical touch with dh
10 points

2/8:
Love Languages - offered dh some words of affirmation
5 points

2/9:
Healthy Choices - (1)decided to drink nothing but water for a week! (2)Plus, wasn't feeling well but did my strength training anyway.


Love Languages - was grumpy with dh but hung his clean shirts anyway.
15 points

2/10:
Healthy Choices - wasn't feeling well but did 4 miles on gazelle anyway
Love Languages - hugs and kisses and 'stuff'
10 points

2/11:
Love Languages - gave dh small gift today
5 points

2/12:
Love Languages - dh and I played cribbage together (quality time)
5 points

2/13:
Healthy Choice - chose not to purchase anything from vending machine at ds's basketball tournament, despite being very very hungry.
5 points

2/14:
Love Languages - quality time and physical touch with dh we snuggled as we watched and then discussed "Fireproof"
10 points

2/15:
Love Languages - quality time with dh (we played cards together)
5 points
Healthy Choices - was craving pouched eggs and bagels. I chose two slices of bread instead of a 300 calorie bagel!
5 points

2/16:
Healthy choices - had tea with 1 tsp sugar instead of hot cocoa; wanted potato chips but had brussels sprouts with some margarine instead!
10 points

2/17:
Healthy choices - after quite a few days of getting things from vending machine or eating treats people had brought in to school, I ate only what I took to school to eat today
5 points

2/20:
Love Languages - gave dh a little gift today
5 points

2/22:
Love Languages - acts of service - cleaned bathroom today (instead of later in the week)and vacuumed rug in livingroom for dh (his job usually)
10 points

2/23:
Healthy Choices - turned down donuts (5), turned down chocolates (5)

Love Languages - physical touch with dh (5)
10 points

2/24:
Healthy choices - avoided treats in the staffroom (5)
5 points

2/25:
Healthy Choices - kept to fasting menu today with no snacks, no treats, didn't eat after midnight like I usually do on Ash Wednesday (5)
Love Languages - words of affirmation (5) and lots of hugs (5)
15 points

2/26:
Healthy Choices - turned down cake at wedding shower (5)
Love Languages - lots of hugs (5)
10 points

DH out of town Thursday evening to Saturday evening. Then again from very early (4:15 am) sunday morning until Monday evening.




Running total - 145 points
cj

Edited by: CJBAGGINS at: 2/27/2009 (22:43)
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2/9/09 9:02 A

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2/4 - physical contact with DH :)
2/7 - backrub for hubby


"Only by seeking challenges can we hope to find the best in ourselves."
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2/4/09 8:09 P

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Health - Started the Couch to 5K Program - 2/9
*2/11 - continued the c25k running program & drank more water
*Week of 2/15 - walked and ran with my sister
*2/21 & 2/23- C25K finished week 2 days 1 and 2

LOVE
2/22 - along time with DH and then holding hands while window shopping
2/21 - family movie night with DH & kids
2/14-2/20 - DH had long meetings hardly home
2/12 -since sick - didn't kiss DH or try to breathe in his face.
2/11 - cuddled in the am
Love Languages - told DH I love him 2/9, 2/10
Rubbed DH's back 2/8

Sounds good. I'm in.

Edited by: JERSEYGIRL318 at: 2/23/2009 (22:51)
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Always leave enough room in your LIFE to do something that makes you happy, satisfied or even joyous.
Paul Hawken...

Goals!
Walk a 5K faster than 45 minutes!
Run a 5K!
Control my eating!







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CJBAGGINS Posts: 31,266
2/4/09 7:56 P

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Great! glad to see the enthusiasm.
I guess we should decide when to start as February is already well under way.

Shall we say this Friday? Does that work?

cj

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2/4/09 7:38 P

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count me in!

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2/4/09 11:10 A

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this maybe what I need. I'm going to try it.

"Only by seeking challenges can we hope to find the best in ourselves."
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2/4/09 10:57 A

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I'm in...This challenge sounds like fun...


Healthy Choices:
2/4 instead of frying potatoes for dinner...I made a more healthier choice, by first boiling a little in hot water, coating in a little flour, use a cooking spray, and bake in oven...


Love Languages:
2/4 I opted to let hubby watch his favorite tv program, instead watching what I wanted...

Edited by: VCISNEROS at: 2/4/2009 (22:29)
My Goals
*Making the best efforts to work happiness into my life.
*Exercise at least 30 minutes 5X a week.
*Drink 64oz of H2O a day.
*Work at least 10 minutes of meditation into my day.
*Work Yoga 3X a week.


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Sounds interesting.
Sam

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2/4/09 9:53 A

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It's been awhile since I've been in a challenge.

Count me in!

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2/4/09 9:28 A

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This challenge sounds like fun. emoticon

Healthy choices had turkey sub at subway instead of my favorite bmt. left cheese off.

Love language purchased a bed that hubby needed for his back.
2/12 physical contact with dh 5pts
2/13 quality time went to dinner at his favorite restraunt

health choices
2/12 brought lunch to work instead of eating burgerking 5 pts
2/13 drank skimed milk intead of whole 5 pts

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CJBAGGINS Posts: 31,266
2/4/09 1:42 A

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Here's an example of a possible 'score card':

Healthy Choices:
2/5: turned down cookies - 5 points
2/7: took stairs up and down nine flights twice at hospital visiting Mom - 10 points
2/10: baked low fat version of favourite chocolate cake with recipe from SP for dd's birthday - 5 points
etc.

Love Languages:
2/4: gave dh a back rub - 5 points (physical touch)
2/14: made dh a home made Valentine's card - 5 points (gifts)
2/15: invited dh for lunch and we talked for a half hour without the kids interrupting us! - 5 points (quality time)

bonus - I think my dh is quality time he's been talking about the lunch for days already! 10 points

bonus - I think I am gifts. I've remembered every little and big present he has ever given me and I love how he spends the time to pick the perfect gifts for me! 10 points

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2/4/09 12:59 A

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It's the month of love! And as we're the Married Life Team, I figured we should have a love and healthy-living themed challenge this month.

LOVE PART OF CHALLENGE
Last summer, my dh and I read a great book together called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. I would highly recommend it to all. It does have a Christian-slant as Mr. Chapman is a Christian himself, but his ideas themselves are pretty non-sectarian and well worth the read.

Cliff Notes version: Mr. Chapman believes that each person in this world has a specific 'love language'. This love language is how we are most comfortable expressing love and how we feel the most loved. The problem is, most couples may not be aware that they are often speaking different 'languages'. One spouse may feel loved and express their love with gifts - they make or purchase little or big tokens of their affection. The other spouse, however, feels loved when they get to spend quality time with their husband or wife. If the language they speak best is not spoken by their spouse, they will feel unloved and resentful. Over time, this can lead to major problems in the marriage. The solution - find your spouse's love language and learn how to express love to them with that language and they will feel fabulous and you will revitalize your marriage!

The Five Love Languages are:

(1) Words of Affirmation - verbal compliments, words of appreciation

(2)Quality Time - spending time together as a couple, going for walks, just talking together, playing games, playing sports together, etc.

(3) Gifts - small or large tokens of love - notes, cards, flowers, favourite snacks from the bakery, jewellery, etc.

(4)Acts of Service - doing chores or small or big tasks for your spouse (laundry loads, dishes, cleaning the car, washing the floor, etc.)

(5) Physical Touch - caresses, pats, hugs, massages, sexual activity

SCORING
The LOVE part of this month's challenges has to do with these love languages. Each time you express love for your spouse in one of these ways, you get 5 points.

There is a bonus of 10 points if, by the end of the month, you share your own love language (if you think you know it), and another 10 points if you figure out what your spouse's is. Not sure? Try expressing love in one love language for a few days in a row or a week. The week that your spouse responds the most to your offers is probably the week you were 'speaking their language'!

If anyone needs suggestions on how to express love in these languages, just let me know here or sparkmail me.

HEALTHY CHOICES PART OF THE CHALLENGE
Some members have expressed interest in a having a challenge wherein we need to be conscious of our choices. Therefore, for this part of the challenge, we need to consciously make healthier choices this month.

SCORING
Each time you make a conscious choice to do something healthier (change a recipe to a healthier version, take the stairs instead of the elevator, park waaaaaaaaaaay back at the shopping mall to get in some steps on the way to the doors, pass up the donuts at work, etc.), you get 5 points.

RULES
These healthy choices have to be actual choices. If you don't normally eat at your workplace cafeteria but you put down, "Chose not to eat at the cafeteria and have the greasy fries," it doesn't count. However, if you are a cookie fiend and have a really really hard time turning them down, but at work when people were passing them around, you got up, walked away, and took out your grapes or apple for a snack, you would definitely get points!

Questions? Just sparkmail me or ask here.

If possible, make one post and edit it each time you have something to add. Tell us what it was (what love language you expressed with your spouse or what healthy choice you made) and on which day of the month.

Good luck!

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Edited by: CJBAGGINS at: 2/4/2009 (01:36)
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