you are so right . If you try to do it all in the beginning it is to much to even think about . overload your brain and you will not do the active. I know when we want to change we want it immediately and not have to wait . impatient with yourself and the time it takes to change . change will come if we stick it the plan . move forward . if we slip we get up and start all over again . am reading right now the inner child and calming of our own . . my inner child has a fit from time to time .
Over the past couple of years, instead of sinking into diet, exercise, "be healthier" kind of books, I have tried to read as much as I can about what social science research can teach me about change - what makes it likely to occur vs. not likely; what motivates people, etc. It is my thought that if I can understand these general concepts better, I can apply them to my own life.
So one of the concepts that the Heath Brothers (Dan and Chip) talk about is CHUNK THE CHANGE. When we have a change in front of us that we want and wholly embrace - for example, when I wanted to have a child - you can make herculean changes in your life and though they might be stressful at time, you are incredibly motivated to do it and so you simply do it. But when we have ambivalence about the change we are trying to make, we are much more likely to have fits and starts and get overwhelmed by the CHANGE we are using up so much of our focus to think about, plan, assess, etc. So a common technique is to chunk it into manageable doses. Maybe the first change is to have 2 pieces of fruit a day. Do that for a month until it feels natural to be doing it and you don't have to exert as much energy to make it happen. Then you may decide to have dinners with no meat for 2 nights a week for a month... ok, you get the idea.
I find that when I sit down and think about the BIG changes I want to make, it is easy to get overwhelmed. So I look for all the positive things that are already happening in my life and say "ok, let's add one more positive thing to the mix" - and that is what I try to do. It is not always a choice about food and drink - it can be a choice about reading more, reexploring a hobby you once loved, etc - anything that ENHANCES your life. In the end, I feel like if I keep moving the needle closer to the "happiness" and "fulfilled" end of the gauge, the other changes will become easier to make because I have more mental energy to draw on.
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