I just read something about choosing that attitude, and it is one of the things that we have control over. I have to remember that, when I am feeling out of control in other areas of my life, I can choose my attitude.
JODROX - Your response to the compliment doesn't surprise me - it goes right along with what EASTFALLS first posted about being witty and cynical to succeed. In America, we are conditioned to love self-depricating humor. It's the first defense of the "less-than-perfect".
There's a spectrum of optimism and pessimism. I think a healthy place to live is on the optimistic side, but if you get too far that direction, you will 1) start to irritate people, and 2) start missing important lessons or ignoring things you need to fix.
I try to start the day hoping for the best and then working toward getting the best outcomes. I draw the line at handing out leaflets on "Living in the NOW". :)
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A couple of weeks ago I ran into an article that talked about negative people in our lives giving us the opportunity to appreciate it when we are positive. Maybe everything is there for a reason, and is there to test us and shake us into awareness. When someone is rude and abrupt, it reminds me to be patient and kind. It keeps me from feeling complacent.
Very interesting topic. My thoughts -- people may be naturally more optimistic or pessimistic, but I think those of use who want to feel happier have to work on it. I tend to naturally be overly critical of myself .. I think a lot of people are like that! What's your first inclination the minute someone compliments you? "Oh poo, this old dress?" A while back someone said to me, "Gosh, you've gotten thin" and the words that flew out of my mouth were "Not thin enough!" Why? Dunno. Maybe just looking for a laugh! :)
It's so easy to see the bad stuff in life, because let's face it -- life does throw challenges our way. It's life! But if we choose to look for the positive, count our blessings..... you really can "choose optimism"! I believe it!
Great topic! I look forward to hearing what others have to say!
You put it very eloquently. I am 62 in March and this habit has been a lifetime thing I have had to practice EVERY day. I am constantly trying to improve myself and being positive/ optimistic can be a struggle but it pays off big time.
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Not sure where to put this one so chose the "random awareness forum" ---
I was reading an article the other day about choosing optimism. In the past I have seen in myself, and observed in others, the tendency to equate optimism with either blissful ignorance (translation: you're too out of it to even REALIZE how hard life is) or some sort of Pollyanish hype rooted in an inability to deal with the challenges of real life.
I am part of a profession that is generally characterized by cynicism: he/she who is most cynical and detached somehow gets the prize for being the wittiest, smartest, etc. I fell prey to this for a while myself.
But now I see optimism as a sign of bravery. A choice that defines a mindset. And if EVER you need to make a choice about your mindset, it certainly comes into play when you are talking about changing food and lifestyle habits.
The more I focus on happiness and optimism, the less I feel chained to bad food habits of the past. The more I choose to be hopeful, the less panicky I feel when I make mistakes or allow myself to eat a little too much.
Would love to dialogue with others about this effect and keep encouraging each other to be brave.
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