You have a fantastic suggestion for making "ME" time - In addition to delegating some chores to the family, using a crockpot, and so forth, I would suggest that you MIGHT wrap your exercise time together with some of the family time - dancing around with kids, playing at a playground, bike riding together, taking the dog for a long walk, etc. are some ways to do that. One thing that a lot of kids (from little bitty ones to teens and even other adult family members) often enjoy is the chance to help cook - little ones can use already cut up veggies to make attractive salad plates - by 10 or 12, they can even prepare an entire simple meal on their own or at least a dish or two. I am NOT suggesting that they have to start out doing it on their own, but working together can be a really nice time with the family. Many hands make quick work and could allow you a bit more "ME" time and the family time might be a LOT less stressful. If you have not expected any help in the past, you may have to call a family meeting and explain that you need help and point out that everyone makes the mess, wears (and dirties) the clothes and dishes, eats the food, etc. There are lots of ways to assign tasks and they ALL work if you make it CLEAR what you expect. Another thing that worked for me especially as a single mother when my kids were young was to explain that there was a SET BEDTIME - it had NOTHING to do with THEM (they can argue that they are NOT tired or sleepy - how can you WIN that argument?) - it is about the fact that I needed some quiet time to relax and that the rules were that they could do whatever they chose in their rooms, quietly, and ON THEIR beds - no games, but reading was okay - playing with their cars quietly was okay, etc. When it is about YOU they really can't win that argument because just like YOU really can't KNOW that they are tired, neither can THEY know that YOU are. They also need to learn that as a family you can all reach some sort of agreement about who does what. If there are chores that everyone hates, then those can be assigned in a rotation. If there is a chore ONE person HATES but another loves - why not give it to the one who loves it. If everyone loves to do a chore, you can assign it in rotation just like the chores everyone hates - and you MIGHT even give it to the person who had the HORRIBLE chore last week or last month as a reward for doing a good job. Make them help you problem solve about how YOU CAN GET YOUR ME TIME - they will feel respected and powerful because you are asking their help.
With love and caring from Nancy ... wishing all of you a wonderful, blessed, and precious day.
Challenge progress for 1 pound per week and 100 days challenges - late starter - but focusing now
February 15 - new starting point = 245
February 22 = 243
March 1 = 244
March 8 = 244
March 29 =
| current weight: 238.0