Author: Sorting Last Post on Top ↓ Message:
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/27/15 9:58 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/27/15 8:44 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

We all carry it within us; supreme strength, the fullness of wisdom, unquenchable joy. It is never thwarted and cannot be destroyed. But it is hidden deep, which is what makes life a problem.
--Huston Smith

How does one lose touch with his strength, his wisdom, and his joy? Perhaps it is in the nature of humanity. Our most profound qualities are hidden deep. They never go away, but we cannot always find them. There may be nothing wrong with us when we lose touch. It doesn't have to mean that we are "bad" for getting depressed or for feeling inadequate. Who doesn't have that problem? It is the nature of life that we sometimes feel this way. This program helps us unearth the resources hidden within us.

When we cannot find those reassuring feelings of strength and wisdom and joy, we may think they are gone forever. We even doubt we ever had them or could have them again. But they are still there. They cannot be destroyed. And when we regain contact we know they have been with us all along.

I will have faith that the innermost places in me can never be destroyed.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/26/15 10:36 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/26/15 9:40 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

It does make a difference what you call things.
--Kate Douglas Wiggin

Most of us think of dandelions as weeds. We buy special tools and poisons when they crop up and complain about them as surely as we welcome the spring that brings them.

Yet is there anything more lovely than a sea of yellow dandelions by the side of the road in June? Or as remarkable in transformation as the filaments of the mature dandelion blowing on the wind?

Sometimes we let someone else define for us what are weeds and what are flowers. We don't have to. Much of the beauty of the world is that we ourselves decide what is beautiful according to our own feelings. How lucky we are that, when we choose to, we can open our eyes and see!

Can I see the beauty in those around me right now?

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/25/15 9:48 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/25/15 9:21 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads?
--Albert Camus

Sometimes, we say we're getting our lives together. Together with what? With our selves. The Twelve Steps help us clean up the mess we've made. We're fixing our mistakes. We're looking at ourselves closely – at what we believe, what we feel, what we like to do, who we are. We're asking our Higher Power to help us to be our best.

No wonder our lives are coming together! No wonder we feel more peace, harmony, and happiness!

Prayer for the Day

Higher Power, help me remember that best harmony comes when I sing from Your songbook.

Action for the Day

Today, I'll make choices that are in line with who I am.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/24/15 10:02 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/24/15 9:01 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

No day is like any other day. Isn't that interesting? And you never know what the next day will bring, and that's exciting.
--Alpha English

Alpha has not lost her zest for life. Although nearly ninety, she nurtures a young mind and a wise heart. Her attitude influences those around her too, making them fortunate people indeed. We have the capacity to bring only joy to those around us, too, What's the key? Perspective.

The eyes with which we view our circumstances take charge of the day. What may look scary to someone else, such as giving a talk at the book club or playing bridge with a new partner, may actually excite us. Or the reverse may be true. The important lesson is, if others can look ahead with glad anticipation, so can we. They have not been endowed with any qualities that we can't acquire.

Most of us were too busy in our youth to pursue all the activities that interested us. Now is our time. We'll discover we have enough time to journey in any direction that calls to us if we have cultivated an eager attitude.

I am embarking on a special mission today. I pray to look upon the experiences with a glad heart.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/23/15 12:51 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/23/15 8:58 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Worry is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.
--Arthur Somers Roche

A trickle of water that drains down the side of a hill poses no problem to the hill, its vegetation, or the people living in the valley. But if that trickle grows into a stream, the water will erode a path, carrying along plants, rocks, and soil, endangering the lives and property of the people in the valley.

When a worry nags us, it is like that trickle. It poses little threat to us and can be stopped at any time because it is so small. But if we let more worrisome thoughts feed into the stream, we will allow it to grow until all of our thoughts and energy are focused on one worry that has attained great power.

We all have things we worry about. But we don't have to give these worries more than passing acknowledgment. The trickles that run through our minds are okay to have. But to keep them at that size, we need to remember what is important to us at this very moment. We don't need to let the worries grow.

I have worries just like everyone else. However, I don't have to dwell upon my worries or make them any bigger than what they are.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/22/15 4:02 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/22/15 8:58 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

...alone in the company of our partner.

To be alone in the wilderness is less painful than to feel alone in the company of our partner. When we shut down in silence because we feel wounded by our partner, we slam the door on healing. We may justify emotionally abandoning our partner by telling ourselves that we do not want to be hurt again, and we may be convinced that our partner is never going to change anyway. We each have our own style of "going away" and our own way of maintaining our loneliness.

When we feel the pain of separation from each other, we need to reach back and reopen communication. We can do that by telling our partner how we disappeared and asking her or him to join us in healing the wounds. When we talk about our feelings and we are understood, we make genuine contact and we are no longer alone!

As a way to enhance your connection, tell your partner about a way that you have disappeared.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/21/15 10:16 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/21/15 8:45 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.
--William James

Many of us learned as children that rejection and abandonment are part and parcel of being alive. We are so used to feeling as though things won't work out, that fear - like a shadow - is always lurking behind us. Usually there's something specific to be afraid of - that we won't have enough money to pay our bills, someone we love will die, or our children won't do well in school. And always there's the generalized fear that events will overwhelm us in spite of our best efforts.

We need to be careful about creating what we look for. Regardless of the frightening experiences of the past, we need to believe that other results are possible: All loved ones don't leave, all risks don't end in devastation, and all efforts aren't dashed on the rocks of defeat.

New consequences are possible when we believe they're possible. The brave new world that each of us seeks stands on the shoulders of that belief.

I am sick and tired of being fearful. Today, I am confident that positive efforts will yield positive results.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/20/15 9:46 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/20/15 11:58 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Thought for the Day

We must be loyal to the group and to each member of it. We must never accuse members behind their backs or even to their faces. It's up to them to tell us themselves if anything is wrong. More than that, we must try not to think bad things about any members, because if we do, we're consciously or unconsciously hurting that person. We must be loyal to each other if A.A. is going to be successful. While we're in this lifeboat, trying to save each other and ourselves from alcoholism, we must be truly and sincerely helpful to each other. Am I a loyal member of my group?

Meditation for the Day

Carry out God's guidance as best you can. Leave the results to Him. Do this obediently and faithfully with no question that if the working out of the guidance is left in God's hands, the results will be all right. Believe that the guidance God gives you has already been worked out by God to produce the required results according to your case and in your circumstances. So follow God's guidance according to your conscience. God has knowledge of your individual life and character, your capabilities and your weaknesses.

Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may live according to the dictates of my conscience. I pray that I may leave the results to God.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/19/15 10:40 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/19/15 9:18 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Sunday, July 19

In music, in the sea, in a flower, in a leaf, in an act of kindness... I see what people call God in all these things.
--Pablo Casals

The Third Step refers to "God as we understood Him." The pathways to meeting our Higher Power and to our spiritual awakening are all around. Every tree and every leaf on every tree, as it rustles in the wind, expresses God in our lives. When the little bird flies overhead or when it comes to visit the feeder, we are being visited by a spirit. When the sky boils with a storm, when lightning and thunder crash, we are witness to power greater than ourselves with a history beyond the centuries. The beautiful works of art created by our fellow human travelers on this journey through life are expressions of their courage to reach out and create something. A line of music moves us and we feel the spirit.

A child makes a drawing and gives it away. A neighbor helps you start your car. You treat the clerk at the checkout counter like a real person. Whatever word we use for God, if we decide to be open and receptive, we find God in the little details of our lives. Spiritual awakening is a wonderful daily occurrence.

God, open my senses to take in your presence more fully.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/19/15 2:05 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/18/15 9:24 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Saturday, July 18

I shall tell you a great secret, my friend. Do not wait for the last judgment. It takes place every day.
--Albert Camus

We live our program in one day portions - and our actions today have immediate consequences. For instance, if we listen to a brother or a sister in the program, we may be enriched and the other person strengthened for today's challenge. We don't have to confront every temptation of life on this day - only the portion we can handle. Our old insanity would have us predict the entire story of our future from today's limited viewpoint. But our spiritual orientation guides us to restrain ourselves. We simply live in this moment.

The rewards of recovery are granted every day. We begin with the gift of a new day and new possibilities. We now have relationships that sustain us through difficulty and give us reason to celebrate. We have a new feeling of self respect and hope.

I am grateful for the rewards of each day in my spiritual awakening.


* * *



Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/18/15 3:35 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/17/15 8:41 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.
--Henry David Thoreau

Recently a filmmaker friend approached me with good news. He had just received a grant to do a documentary. "I can't believe it," he said. "I'm finally getting paid for my work. I can't believe how lucky I am to be doing this."

After our conversation, I thought: "This person believes that he is earning a living in spite of doing what he loves; but the reality is just the opposite. It is because he is following his passion that he prospers. As he aligns himself with his higher purpose, the Universe cannot help but make straight, smooth, and perfect his way."

People who say, "Be practical," don't realize that following your heart is the most practical thing one can do. There is no greater way to ensure success than being true to whom you are. On the other hand, there is nothing more likely to block that success than turning away from your calling. Living at cross-purposes with your true nature creates struggle and lack of fulfillment at a deep level. It is hard to be someone other than yourself.

The lesson is clear: As impractical as it may sound, the safest and most secure way to lead your life is to follow your dream.


Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/16/15 1:37 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/16/15 8:58 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

The man who never alters his opinion is like standing water and breeds reptiles of the mind.
-- William Blake

We seek the answer. Sometimes we think we have found a central truth and later learn that beneath it is another truth. Or what seemed so crucial as a guiding principle for our lives last year is still true but not as crucial. It is like trying to take a snapshot of a changing world while the camera itself is changing.

Some of us in our hunger for security grab for "absolute" truths, which are not absolute. We must continue forever to be eager learners. In stepping across a stream from one floating log to another, we must resist the temptation to become overcommitted to staying in an especially secure looking place, or we will never reach the opposite shore. Even the Twelve Steps of this program are given to us as a "suggested" program of recovery. It is a program that works because it takes us out of our rigid ways. We are continually made new. That is the vitality of the spiritual life.

God, help me to be open to new opinions - to things I had never thought of on my own.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/15/15 9:51 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/15/15 9:00 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

We are all travelers in the wilderness of this world and the best that we can find in our travels is an honest friend.
--Robert Louis Stevenson

Addiction destroyed many of our relationships. It took away our ability to get close to others. The above quotation reminds us that real friends are more important than the people we hung around with while using alcohol or drugs.

Recovery is all about bettering our relationships. Our lives depend upon this. We find honest friends in recovery. We are not alone anymore. We are honest with each other about character defects and work to help each other have better, ever-closer relationships. Our lives also depend upon this. We work to help each other find a way out of the wilderness or at times just survive in the wilderness. Over time, we see that, even though people can be a pain at times, friendships and relationships are the best things in life.

Prayer for the Day

Higher Power, teach me how to be a good, honest friend. Comfort me as I travel in the wilderness of life.

Today’s Action

Today I will think about what makes a good friend. Then I will do an honest inventory of what type of friend I am. Am I there for others in the bad times as well as the good times?

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/14/15 12:23 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/14/15 8:52 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Daily Surrender - No Regrets

This I pray, Higher Power: I will surrender to Your will today, which brings me peace and joy that makes all things new. I no longer have that trampled look of someone forced to remember every mistake he or she has made. I no longer hide under that blanket of regrets.

My daily surrender to You and the Fellowship that surrounds me leads me away from darkness and into the wonderful light of Your wisdom.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/13/15 9:57 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/13/15 8:31 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Is there any stab as deep as wondering where and how much you failed those you loved?
--Florida Scott Maxwell

Treating our loved ones as we hope to be treated is our assurance against failing them. And if we listen to our inner voice, we'll never falter in our actions toward others. There is always a right behavior, a thoughtful response, and a respectful posture.

Let us be mindful that we're sharing our experiences with others who need the talents we have to offer. It's not by coincidence but by design that we're given opportunities to treat those close at hand in some manner. We'd do well to let the choice be loving.

How we treat another invites like treatment. Actions from our heart will soften our own struggles. Also, spiteful, critical treatment of others will hamper our steps. We teach others how to treat us by our gestures and words.

The inner voice can be heard if I choose to listen. It will never guide me wrongly.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/12/15 2:19 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/12/15 9:20 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Why admitting we're wrong is right.

Sometimes it's painful or almost impossible to admit that we've been wrong. This means we'll probably go on making the same mistakes until we're finally forced to face the truth. Why does this happen?

The problem lies with what we call the ego in our Twelve Step discussions. We commit ourselves to defending this ego at all times, especially around people who seem to put us down. Far from being a minor correction, any admission of wrong feels like total defeat, at least in our warped way of looking at things.

We can release ourselves from this bondage simply by coming to see that admitting and facing our wrongs is essential to growth. A store manager who overstocks a certain item "admits" the mistake by putting the goods on a clearance sale and getting rid of them. We can cut any loss in the same way by admitting a mistake and going on to a better course of action.

I'll not plan to make any mistakes today. But I'll hold myself in readiness to admit them if they occur. This is no threat to my ego. I am much more than my mistakes.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/11/15 2:34 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/11/15 8:52 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Counting our blessings

We have passed from death into life. We know that a powerful life force flows through us and a new and beautiful serenity is ours. What we once despised, we now cherish. We cease to find the world of drugs attractive.

This is a blessing and a miracle, for at one point we were among those considered to be the hopeless ones. Let's thank our Higher Power for our spiritual understanding and for the blessings of a clean and sober life.

Do I count my blessings each day?

Higher Power, I give thanks from the depths of my heart and soul for the blessing of my new life.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/10/15 1:41 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/10/15 9:03 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

To give and to receive are one in truth.
--A Course in Miracles

Giving our love away, honoring someone in need by giving our full attention, will usually bring kindness and concern in return. And unkindness and neglect on our part are likely to result in the same from others. We will usually elicit that which we've so thoughtfully or thoughtlessly given.

Not many elements in our life are so fully in our control as how we choose to treat other people. There are few among us who aren't moved by another's expression of pure, unconditional love. We are humbled by it and feel valued. We can honor the existence of our fellow travelers by our open, willing love for them too.

We need to feel appreciated. And yet, to express appreciation is such a simple act, one that has profound effects for all concerned. Acts of kindness multiply very quickly; we contribute to a world favoring our true humanity when we give out loving thoughts even as we receive them.

I will extend the hand of love to a friend today and thus help to make a better world.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/10/15 2:53 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/9/15 8:57 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

As one goes through life, one learns that if you don't paddle your own canoe, you don't move.
--Katharine Hepburn

Newcomer

I appreciate the fact that you remain friendly and even-tempered even though I don't always follow your advice.

Sponsor

Friends can disagree without having to end their relationship. I might have trouble sponsoring someone who never attends meetings, someone who has frequent relapses, or someone who complains about his or her problems without ever being willing to attempt the Steps. But occasional disagreements are a part of life.

A sponsor's suggestions aren't commands, any more than the Twelve Steps are. As a sponsor, I only make suggestions; even though they're based on my experience, I'm not always right about what will work for another person. And I may misjudge what another person's timetable is. I'm not infallible. I try not to let my ego get in the way, to feel hurt or angry when you need to try something on your own. Learning to make your own decisions is necessary to growth.

Each of us makes his or her own way through the process of recovery. We learn more from our own experiences, good and bad, than from anything we read in a book or hear at a meeting.

Today, I learn from my experience.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/8/15 1:41 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/8/15 8:49 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Remember always that you have not only the right to be an individual; you have an obligation to be one.
-- Eleanor Roosevelt

When we were using alcohol and other drugs, we often thought that we were different from others. We secretly thought that no one could understand us. Maybe we tried to be one of the group, but we were lonely.

Now we know for sure - we are different from others. Everyone's unique. We all have this in common. Being like others helps us feel safe and normal. But we need to feel good about the ways we're different from others too. We think a little different, act a little different, and look a little different from anyone else. We each have our own way to make life better for others.

Prayer for the Day

Higher Power, help me be an individual. Help me use my special gifts, not hide them.

Action for the Day

Today, I'll make a list of the things I'm good at. I'll think about how I can use these gifts.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/7/15 9:44 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/7/15 8:48 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Formula for failure; trying to please everyone.
--Anonymous

It has done us no good to set standards we could not reach. On many occasions, we adopted goals that couldn't be reached from the beginning. We allowed our identities to become tied in with pleasing people. If we suffered rejection, we collapsed into a quivering heap. Each time we wrapped ourselves up in a package for someone to pass judgment on, we set ourselves up for failure.

We know we are not God. We must realize no other human being is God, either. We can't ask any person to judge us. We can't judge anyone else. The foundation of our Program is the decision we made in Step Three to turn our wills and lives over to the care of God. This is the formula for success. Try pleasing God, not other people.

I can't build my life and recovery on always trying to please others. My road to success is pleasing my Higher Power.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/6/15 9:53 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/6/15 8:32 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

There is nothing permanent except change.
--Heraclitus

Most of us don't like change very much. Getting sober is like stepping into a rushing river of change that will take us to new places in our lives. We sense that. We are learning to trust it more each day. But even though life keeps getting better for us, we still keep some of that fear inside us about what will happen if we keep working our recovery program and life keeps changing for us.

Maybe we get a good job, and we are afraid we will louse it up. Maybe we make new friends, and we are afraid they will find out what a jerk we really are. Maybe our kids are speaking to us again and want to have a better relationship, and we are afraid of the responsibility.

You know what? It'll be okay. It's okay to have good things happen. It's okay to trust ourselves to handle responsibility. Nobody knows how to do life perfectly - that's why we need our Higher Power to guide us.

Prayer for the Day

Higher Power, Help me listen for Your directions today as I walk through a new day in sobriety. Together we can handle any surprises and changes the day may bring.

Today's Action

Today I will write down three ways fear of change is holding me back, and I will talk with my sponsor about these things. What do I need to do to be ready for these changes?

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/5/15 10:21 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/5/15 9:17 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Stop Fixing Others

Dear Higher Power,

When I am overly dependent on others, I try to fix them. I have a real talent in pinpointing what is wrong with other people. But the very thing that enables me to see their defects most often blinds me to the same, sometimes even worse, shortcomings in myself.

Help me stop fretting about others and instead focus on correcting my own character defects.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/4/15 9:59 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/4/15 8:47 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Celebrate your freedom

Today in the United States; we celebrate our nation's independence. Why not take a moment to celebrate your independence as well? Whether you've found freedom from an addiction or from codependency, or you've discovered the freedom to live your life as fully as possible, take a moment to honor and acknowledge how much that freedom means to you.

It's good to identify our problems. Through the awareness of what's wrong and what's broken, we learn what to repair and fix. It's good to focus on the health and the goodness in our lives, too. Becoming aware of what's right and what's working is how we discover joy.

Look back along the winding road of the path of your life. See how far you've come? It looks good to me. How does it look to you?

Hurray! We're finally free!

God, thank You for setting me free.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/3/15 1:31 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/3/15 9:12 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

. . . I was taught that the way of progress is neither swift nor easy.
--Marie Curie

We are looking for progress, not perfection; however, we sometimes get lost or confused between the two. Expecting ourselves to be perfect at something we are only now learning is a familiar affliction. As we accept our humanness, we'll allow the mistakes that are a normal part of the process of living and learning - a process we call progress.

Our need to be perfect will lessen with time. And we can help ourselves break the old habits. Perfection and self-worth are not symbiotic, except in our minds. And it's a symbiosis that has done us a grave injustice. Breaking the old thought patterns takes a commitment. We must first decide and believe that we are worthwhile, simply because we are. There is only one of us; we have a particular gift to offer this world. And our being is perfect as is. Affirming this, repeatedly, is our beginning. But with this, too, progress will be slow; perfection need only be worked for, not achieved.

The patterns I am weaving with my life are complex, full of intricate detail and knots. I need to go slow, taking only one stitch at a time. With hindsight I will see that whatever the progress, it was the perfect fit to the overall design.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/2/15 1:05 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/2/15 8:57 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.
-- Seneca

When we reach a stressful time in our lives, our vision gets narrow. We fail to see the options and possibilities we have. If we give ourselves over to our worries and fears, our sight closes down even further. Finally, we reach the point of blindness to reality and to all the support around us. In our fearful blindness we say with conviction, "This is too difficult! There is nothing I can do."

Spiritual people strive to keep one eye on the horizon, even in a worrisome situation. They breathe deeply so they do not tighten up or close off their exchange with the world. They return to the relationship they have with their Higher Power, trusting the process to carry them through - and they open their eyes to quietly take in the possibilities before them.

Close to my Higher Power, I have a place of calm in the midst of difficulty and see the possibilities and dare to act upon them.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
7/1/15 1:06 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
7/1/15 8:57 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Seeing the good.

The beauty of our souls shines in many ways. The greatest of these is love.

In the spirit of loving kindness, every day a little ugliness is removed; our perspective on life grows broader and deeper.

In the spirit of love, our lives become fresher, our souls humbler; evil seems to disappear, and we learn to distinguish sinner from the sin.

Do I see the good in people?

Higher Power, let me walk in your love and see the good in all things.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/30/15 1:44 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/30/15 8:40 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Doing nothing, that hurts you.
--John Arnold

Doing nothing as a steady diet would wear thin after a while, but doing nothing once in a while is good therapy. We need to let our minds and bodies rest. Being always booked for an activity gives us too little time for reflection about our lives. We have come a long way. Taking the time to appreciate that during our quiet spaces will enhance our self-perception.

Not a one of us has had an unsuccessful life. We may not have accomplished every goal we've set for ourselves but we can believe that we did what really needed to be done by us. There has been a divine plan at work even though we were unaware of it. The same continues to be true. We will be nudged to pursue hobbies or volunteer activities or jobs if that's the plan for us. This certainly takes the guesswork out of our lives. It makes us know we are pretty special, too.

I'll do whatever calls to me today. As long as it's not something that will hurt another person, it will be right.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/30/15 3:44 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/29/15 9:24 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Money may not buy happiness, but it can buy the type of misery you can live with.
-- Ziggy

We think to ourselves, "Wouldn't it be nice not to have to worry about the washer breaking down?" "Wouldn't it be nice to drive a reliable car?" "Wouldn't it be nice to take a Caribbean vacation every year?" "Wouldn't it be nice not to have to work?" If we had money, we think, at least we wouldn't have to worry so much and could live comfortably.

True. Money buys external comfort - plush couches and chairs, luxury cars, beautiful environments. Money buys what comforts and soothes us on the outside. And, if we're going to be miserable anyway, why not do it in comfort?

We remember that regardless of our surroundings, misery is misery. Unless we have the right attitude, we'll find something wrong with whatever we have or don't have. When we work on improving our inner world - on alleviating the real cause of our misery - we know true comfort. We know serenity.

Today I know that the better I get, the richer I become.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
MAESTRAPLANK12's Photo MAESTRAPLANK12 SparkPoints: (45,332)
Fitness Minutes: (37,163)
Posts: 3,523
6/29/15 8:01 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon emoticon emoticon

 July Minutes: 1,658
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/28/15 2:37 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/28/15 8:27 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

One has to grow up with good talk in order to form the habit of it.
--Helen Hayes

Our habits, whatever they may be, were greatly influenced, if not wholly formed, during childhood. We learned our behavior through imitation - imitation of our parents, our siblings, and our peer group. But we need not be stuck in habits that are unhealthy. The choice to create new patterns of behavior is ours to make - every moment, every hour, every day. However, parting with the old pattern in order to make way for the new takes prayer, commitment, and determination.

All of us who share these Steps have broken away from old patterns. We have chosen to leave liquor and pills alone. We may have chosen to leave unhealthy relationships. And we are daily choosing to move beyond our shortcomings. But not every day is a successful one. Our shortcomings have become ingrained. Years of pouting, or lying, or feeling fearful, or overeating, or procrastinating beckon to us; the habit invites itself.

We can find strength from the program and one another to let go of the behavior that stands in the way of today's happiness. And we can find in one another a better, healthier behavior to imitate.

The program is helping me to know there is a better way, every day, to move ahead. I am growing up again amidst the good habits of others and myself.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/27/15 10:13 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/27/15 9:21 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Separateness

... put our efforts where we can succeed.

The appeal of a "fix" tempts us. One day we dream, "If only I had a different job my life would be happy, or if only I had a different house." Perhaps we even dream of having a different partner. When we waste so much precious energy on trying to change something or someone outside ourselves, we usually end up alone, unhappy, or exhausted. It takes great effort and a long time to develop what we truly seek: love, self-acceptance, honesty, and peace of mind.

Fixing or changing our partner might appeal on the surface, but why not put our efforts where we can succeed? What can we change? Ourselves - by becoming less critical we build our honesty and self-worth.

Do I block my own growth when I focus on someone else's action?

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/26/15 11:13 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/26/15 8:57 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Honesty is the best policy.
--David Tuvill

Newcomer

I've heard people talk about "firing" their sponsors, about sponsors "firing" their sponsees. I find that term disillusioning I thought we were here to help one another.

Sponsor

Human relationships change, for all sorts of reason, and there's nothing wrong with acknowledging that reality. Sponsors, like sponsees, are just people in recovery, growing and working the Steps; we don't always handle things perfectly. One sponsor may take on more than he or she is really prepared to handle; with phone calls coming day and night from an overload of sponsees, frequency or quality of communication may be inadequate. Another sponsor may enjoy being bossy and have trouble recognizing the difference between passing on program experience and trying to impose his or her will in areas where personal choice is appropriate. A sponsor may discover that a sponsee lacks the desire for recovery or has significant problems in an area in which the sponsor has no experience.

When differences are resolved by talking and listening, relationships grow and deepen. Are we avoiding necessary confrontation with ourselves or others? Or does growth, this time, mean that it's appropriate to separate? Honesty, courage, and love are qualities that help us make transitions in our relationships.

Today, my willingness to grow enhances my relationships with others.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/25/15 1:02 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/25/15 8:43 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of good luck.
--H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Managing desires is one of the most crucial elements of being an adult. Children want many things that aren't good for them, and their impulses can often get them into trouble. They need loving, caring adults to protect them from the harm that can come from getting what they want. As adults, our spiritual development includes learning how to regard our desires and how to manage them. On the one hand, it isn't healthy to become so controlled and repressed that we never let ourselves have fun, and on the other hand, we know that indulging every desire will kill us.

Sometimes we want something very badly and when we don't get it, we feel desperate or very disappointed. However, life continuously points us in directions we hadn't expected. Disappointment can serve to reset our lives. Not getting our desires, if we keep our eyes open, points us in directions that can be better than what we had imagined for ourselves.

Today I will be open to the new directions that life points me toward.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/24/15 9:49 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
MAESTRAPLANK12's Photo MAESTRAPLANK12 SparkPoints: (45,332)
Fitness Minutes: (37,163)
Posts: 3,523
6/24/15 8:47 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon emoticon

 July Minutes: 1,658
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/24/15 8:46 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forward.
--Soren Kierkegaard

Once, in a small village, there was a huge fire. The blaze spread and several homes and businesses were burned to the ground. After a long while, the fire was brought under control and put out. Villagers banded together to rebuild their town, but one quite persistent young man insisted on searching the rubble for the cause of the fire.

Impatient townspeople scolded him, saying, "Why waste time searching for causes? Knowing them won't put out the blaze or repair the damage."

"I know," replied the young man, "but knowing why might prevent other fires."

Sometimes we have to look at painful past experiences in order to prevent their recurrence. When we understand ourselves better, we can move beyond the past and walk toward the future with surer, safer steps.

How well can I use my past today?

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/23/15 9:47 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/23/15 8:59 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

What happens to us is not as important as how we respond.

The external events of our lives are largely beyond our control. We do not choose our parents, our emotional environment, the historical period in which we live, our body type, or the flow of circumstances that shape our experience. These are givens. We do not select them, but we can choose how we will react to them, and in that choice lies our freedom and our responsibility.

Instead of complaining about the hand we've been dealt, we can concentrate on playing it well. This is the way we exercise our freedom. What might appear to be random chance can take on meaning and purpose as we delve for insight and use our deficiencies as opportunities for growth.

Our responsibility is to do the best we can with what we have where we are. And we don't do it alone. We have help in learning how best to respond. We have a support group, we have a Higher Power, and we have an inner guide if we will listen for direction.

Today, I will remember that the what of my life is not as important as the how.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
IMNOTSTOPPIN's Photo IMNOTSTOPPIN Posts: 536
6/22/15 3:18 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Thank you for yesterday's thought and the truth revealed.

"There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure."

-Colin Powell


 current weight: 170.8 
 
197
184.25
171.5
158.75
146
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/22/15 9:48 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/22/15 8:26 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

If a man can carve something out of wood, he is just as much a creator as a man who works with words.
--Clara Glenn

It's really not what we do in life that matters, but how we do it. To more clearly understand this, let's take an example. We can all remember dreading a project that needed doing - maybe mending some pants or replacing a screen in the back door. First, we couldn't find our glasses to thread the needle, and then we stuck ourselves with the needle, drawing blood that promptly got on the pants. Or we hit our index finger with the hammer as we attempted to install the new screen. Our recollections are endless. Interestingly enough, our personal attitudes always directly controlled the success we had with the project.

What does this mean to us now? It suggests that if we are fully attentive to whatever we pursue, our experience of it will be significantly different. We are competent to handle anything that needs our attention. In most cases, we'll be more than competent. And if we have a real desire to do the job, we'll excel at it, providing we give it our undivided attention.

I am a creator of something today. Maybe it's a friendship or a poem. They are equal in the eyes of God.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/21/15 1:33 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/21/15 9:03 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

I wasn't exactly brought up in one of those Norman Rockwell paintings you used to see on the cover of the Saturday Evening Post.
--Reggie Jackson

We have many myths about other people's lives. When we compare ourselves to these stories, we come up short. We have the TV families in our minds. We may have stories our father told about his moment of glory and how he met his challenges. Any of these images selects part of the truth and highlights it, creating a myth that might be worthwhile if we don't take it too literally.

Living a real life never feels as serene as our fantasies. A myth lifts us up, carries us away to other possibilities, but we should always take it with a grain of salt. Recollections or a Norman Rockwell painting romanticizes a piece of reality by omitting the drudgery and confusion of life. Myths are meant as inspirations, not as measurements of our lives.

The difficulties and confusion I feel may just be part of real life. Serenity comes when I accept the mixture that real life is.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/21/15 3:00 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
DRADISCH's Photo DRADISCH Posts: 3,575
6/20/15 2:14 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon emoticon emoticon

I wish we could put up some of the Christmas spirit in jars and open a jar of it every month. ~Harlan Miller

The best
thing about the future is that it comes only one day at a time.
- Abraham Lincoln
Live your life from your heart. Share from your heart. And your story will touch and heal people's souls.
-- Melody Beattie


 current weight: 282.0 
 
288
254.75
221.5
188.25
155
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/20/15 9:29 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

The one lesson my dad taught me:
If you're going to do anything in life, do it right.
--Monty Cralley

Our parents may have had a way of instructing that often bordered on shaming us. No matter what we might remember about it, or them, they meant well. Their own experiences colored how they parented us. This pattern was probably played out in our own parenting, too. We all did the best we could. None of us did a perfect job. But now that we have the time to contemplate the past, we might want to consider forgiving our parents if we still harbor any grudges. Or we might want to make amends to our children or other family members if we are able to see our own failings now.

We made tons of mistakes getting to an older age. Some were intentional; most were not. Do we have to redress all of them? Actually, we don't even have to acknowledge any of them. But if we do, we'll feel far better about ourselves and we'll have helped to break the cycle of the poor parenting we might have experienced.

We all have a chance to do something significant in life. This doesn't have to mean inventing a tool or a drug that will help millions of people. It's really quite easy. Smile at a stranger today, for starters. Consider putting aside an old grudge. Apologize for an unkind action.

I can do something really important today. Am I willing to examine how I treat other people?

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
MAESTRAPLANK12's Photo MAESTRAPLANK12 SparkPoints: (45,332)
Fitness Minutes: (37,163)
Posts: 3,523
6/19/15 10:24 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon I embrace change....but it took a lot of work to get here. emoticon

 July Minutes: 1,658
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/19/15 8:49 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Change is sometimes necessary

Despite the fact that many of us live turbulent, chaotic lives; we may we don't like change. This causes us to seek our security in familiar places, rather than reach out for the unknown that lies ahead.

This may not be real security, however, because familiar places and situations also change. Our resistance to change may simply be the fear of trying something new.

If we find that fear of change is causing us to put up with a situation that's become unsatisfactory, we need to adjust our attitude toward it. While we view change as risky, it may be the necessary route for improvement. Let's start by simply accepting the idea that change is sometimes necessary. After that, we can expect our Higher Power to guide us to the new situations that are right for us.

Today I may find myself fearing change. I'll remind myself that nothing ever stays the same, and that only change can bring the true good I'm always seeking.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/18/15 9:01 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

"Thinking," said the little boy, "is when your mouth stays shut and your head keeps talking to itself."
--Arkansas Baptist

We need quiet times in order to develop peace and serenity in our lives. We spend most of our days speaking or being spoken to. It's important to set aside time to speak to ourselves. We need to speak to ourselves gently and honestly each day. We need to spend quality time with ourselves to keep in touch with who we are and where we're headed. A diver takes the time for a deep breath and a quiet moment before he jumps, and so it is for us before we jump from one activity to the next. In this way we can honor ourselves and our actions by offering respect for what we've just done, and for what we're about to do.

Today I will have at least one quiet time for myself because I deserve it.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/17/15 8:58 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

The greatest gift we can give another person is the gift of ourselves.

When we can share our deepest convictions and failures, our ideals and disillusionments, our hopes and frustrations, our dreams and despairs, our answers and our questions – then we are loving our neighbors as ourselves as well as "loving our enemies."

A friend put it this way, "If I share the whole of me with you, I share the good as well as the bad. I don't hide anything of myself from you, not in a deep friendship, or a deep marriage for that matter. By sharing some things I hate about myself, I'm loving my inside enemy. I'm telling you I'm still human and have a lot of growing to do. I'd love to tell you about all my good points, it would make me feel a lot better, but it wouldn't be sharing all of me with you."

TODAY I will concentrate on sharing my insides and outsides with another; I will listen to myself as I talk. I will not be satisfied if I sit on my laurels or wallow in my woes. I will improve myself by becoming aware of how I communicate to others.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/16/15 8:55 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

One of the attributes of love . . .
is to bring harmony and order out of chaos.
--Molly Haskell

Have we forgotten how to love in our hurried passage through life? Perhaps we need reminding that love focuses our attention and guides our direction. Our actions aren't hurried and our feelings aren't confused and unraveled when we're loving others and ourselves. Love offers form and enhancement to each moment.

When we experience the love of another, we remember our importance, and theirs, to the circle of life, and we feel encouraged, at times even impelled, to share the enchantment of love with someone new.

When the day's frantic activities crowd the heart's silent places, we must slow our pace and take notice of the loved ones in our presence, there by intent, remembering with them the design that has captured us and given meaning to our lives.

Love creates music from the disharmony of our haphazard life choices. Giving it away is like a song of happiness emerging from our hearts.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/15/15 8:34 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

I was so mixed up I tried to be perfect at avoiding perfectionism!
-- Kathryn G.

Oh, the struggle with perfectionism! Of all the clubs we can use to beat ourselves with, that one may be the worst. With all the "musts," "must nots," "shoulds," and "should nots" we demand of ourselves it's a wonder we can get through some days at all.

One woman said she called one of her cats by the other cat's name and as a result spent the next two hours depressed. Most of us don't go that far with perfectionism, but we still make unreasonable demands of ourselves.

The "one year" test is a good one for perfectionism: "If I (fill in the blank), what difference will it make in a year?" Some things will be important in a year. Making meetings, contacting our sponsor, communing with our Higher Power, and being honest with ourselves and others are all important. And we should be concerned when we fail. But more often we punish ourselves for the little failures - forgetting someone's name or saying the "wrong thing." These are the "crimes" we remember the most. But now we can learn to forgive ourselves and concentrate on what's really important: our new lives in recovery.

Today, help me remember what's important. Help me forgive myself for minor mistakes.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/14/15 10:57 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Duty is what one expects from others - it is not what one does oneself.
--Oscar Wilde

Newcomer

I do intend to make amends to everyone I've harmed, but I still feel scared to think about it.

Sponsor

The prospect of facing someone to whom we owe amends may bring up unnecessary fear if we cling to our old notion that we do everything alone.

We can plan to telephone a sponsor or program friend both before and after making the amend. We can ask for help from our Higher Power, praying for the willingness to make the amend, for the ability to speak our truth simply and clearly, and for the serenity that comes from understanding that another person's response is not in the realm of things we can control. Tools work, when we're willing to use them. As always, faith is the antidote to fear. If we feel that our faith is insufficient, we can listen to others in recovery sharing about their experience of the loving presence of a Higher Power - we can borrow from others' reserves of faith, when our own are low.

Today, I'm not alone, I allow myself to ask for and accept the support I need and deserve.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/13/15 9:17 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Many of us achieve only the semblance of communication with others; what we say is often not contingent on what the other has just said, and neither of us is aware that we are not communicating.
--Desy Safan-Gerard

When we don't listen fully to each other, when we don't revere the Spirit within others that's trying to talk to us, we destroy the connection that wants to be made between our Spirits. Our inner selves have messages to give and messages to receive for the good of all. Our ego selves often keep us from hearing the very words that would unravel a problem in our lives.

How hard it is, how often, to be still and to fully listen to the words, rather than the person. How much more familiar it is to filter the message with our own ongoing inner dialogue - our own ongoing continual assessment of another's personhood at the very time our higher power is trying to reach us through them.

There really are no wasted words. Messages are everywhere. We can learn to listen.

I will hear just what I need to hear today. I will open myself fully to the words.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/12/15 4:40 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
CORKYTHEMOM1's Photo CORKYTHEMOM1 SparkPoints: (124,991)
Fitness Minutes: (83,870)
Posts: 17,226
6/12/15 9:27 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Love, Light & Laughter,

*~* Monika *~*


 July Minutes: 3,240
 
0
90
180
270
360
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/12/15 8:57 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

One Day at a Time

My best friend was going through some tough situations in her life. I was in the midst of a hard stretch too. We didn't particularly like the things we had to do in our lives. We talked about our feelings and decided that what we were going through was necessary and important, even though we didn't like it. We expressed gratitude for our lives.

"It's still a dreadful time," I said.

"Brutal," she said. "I guess we're back to the old one-day-at-a-time approach. We're so lucky. What do people do that haven't learned that gem?"

There are times when we can look at the stretch ahead and like what we see. Taking life one day at a time is still a good idea, even when things are going well.

Taking life one day at a time can be particularly useful when the road ahead looks dreadful. We may not even know where to start with some challenges. That's when taking life one day at a time is essential.

"I've been using alcohol and other drugs every day since I've been twelve years old," I said to my counselor years ago in treatment. "Now you're telling me I need to stay sober the rest of my life. Plus get a job. And a life. How am I going to do that?"

"One day at a time," she said. She was right. Sometimes I had to take life one minute at a time or one hour at a time. And all these years later, it still works.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/11/15 1:20 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/11/15 11:05 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

F.E.A.R. = Frustration, Ego, Anxiety and Resentment
--Anonymous

We don't want to return to the life we led before recovery, but fear should never be the reason why we don't. Fear keeps us from being open to the Program. If we're only in the Program because we're afraid of the old way of life, we'll never pay attention and open our souls to learn about the new way. We'll be too busy looking back over our shoulders to make sure the old life isn't creeping up on us.

We have to want the Program out of a desire for a new life, not out of a fear of the old. Positive thinking and behavior will be in charge if we are to make any character growth. Every fear encourages negative thinking that can destroy us. Guilt and shame come from the past, just like fear. If those feelings are what drive us, we will never grow.

I will make it a practice to take note of my fears. I will take an inventory of each fear until I understand what caused it. Then I will be able to find a way to work through them.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/10/15 3:39 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
MAESTRAPLANK12's Photo MAESTRAPLANK12 SparkPoints: (45,332)
Fitness Minutes: (37,163)
Posts: 3,523
6/10/15 9:35 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

 July Minutes: 1,658
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/10/15 8:36 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

"It was the hardest two years of my life," a woman said. "So many painful, unexpected events happened. I felt so abandoned, so lost. I didn't understand what was happening, and I felt tortured by God and life. I didn't think it would ever end. But it did. Now I can look back on that time and say, Wow. Look at all I learned. There's nothing that life can bring my way that I can't handle and get through."

She learned self-confidence. But whether she's conscious of it or not, this woman is beginning to learn the value of trusting the process.

Sometimes we don't know what we're learning, or whether we're learning anything at all. It's easy to look back on a situation once it has worked itself out and be in awe of the process and all that we learned.

The time we most need to trust the journey is when it looks like we can't.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
CETANISTAWI's Photo CETANISTAWI Posts: 4,253
6/9/15 9:58 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
emoticon

Co-leader Frozen Northerners


 Pounds lost: 12.0 
 
0
33.75
67.5
101.25
135
AJDOVER1's Photo AJDOVER1 SparkPoints: (287,911)
Fitness Minutes: (174,110)
Posts: 30,735
6/9/15 8:54 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today's thought from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Attitudes and Limitations

What we consider our greatest strengths can also be our greatest weaknesses.

Excessive pride in "being able to handle everything," for example, may result in our taking on other people's responsibilities. In "taking over," we often lessen another's desire to meet his or her own obligations.

A boastful "I'll do it myself!" attitude can also mask a desperate feeling of inadequacy. Having a constant drive to prove our worth to others, we may trample on, or ignore, the needs of those around us who are just as eager to exhibit their competency and worth.

What are some other examples of virtues becoming vices?

Determination, to excess, becomes obstinacy and stubbornness. Honesty, when misdirected, is synonymous with gossip and slander. Sympathy and concern, overdone, can cripple and smother.

TODAY I will make a list of ten of my strengths and weaknesses. How has acting on each of these virtues and vices created joy or sorrow in my life? I will be aware that my strengths can be my worst enemies if I abuse them.

Let's walk!


 July Minutes: 3,140
 
0
750
1500
2250
3000
Page: 1 of (30)   1 2 Next Page › Last Page »

Report Innappropriate Post

Other Friends In Recovery Positive Encouragement Posts

Topics: Last Post:
Listen and Learn 6/23/2015 6:04:15 PM
One Day at a Time 6/23/2015 4:43:35 PM
Easy Does It (Al-Anon Slogan) 6/17/2015 5:01:26 PM
Think (Al-Anon Slogan) 6/18/2015 7:56:15 AM
Let go and Let God (Al-Anon slogan) 6/15/2015 10:58:08 PM

Thread URL: http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=16853x46057x50971088

Review our Community Guidelines




x Lose 10 Pounds by September 8! Get a FREE Personalized Plan