Step 9 - I make direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others
• What amends do you think that you have already made? These can include apologies already made, helpful tasks for those that you have hurt, changed attitudes and so forth.
• From your list of amends, if there are apologies that you need to make, write them down here first.
• Read your apologies to a friend or a sponsor and ask them if it sounds sincere or if it sounds defensive or like an attack on the other person. Record here what response they have about them.
• Role play with your sponsor or friends for anything that you are going to say when making amends. Record here how these practice sessions went and what you learned.
• After you have had your first encounter with making amends, record what happened here. How did you feel about it? How did the other person respond? What have you learned from this? What would you do differently next time?
• After you have done your first several encounters for making amends (for example, after 5 times of making amends), record your overall impressions here. Is there anything common? Has anything surprised you? Has anything disappointed you? How do you feel about the process and how has it affected you?
• What amends do you have the most difficulty making? What do you need to do to be able to make these amends?
• How has making amends affected your relationship with others?
• How are you dealing with the feedback from others after making amends? How are you feeling? How are you dealing with the desire to defend yourself?
• Write down any other amends that you found that you needed to make after starting the process of making amends.
• How can you celebrate or honor the completion of your making amends (step 9)?
• Have you had any dreams about making amends? If so, describe them in detail.
• Describe any celebrations or activities that you have done to honor the completion of your making amends.
"It's ridiculous to harshly condemn others and to stand over them as if your life is perfect. God is the only judge with clean hands. The rest of us are dirty people, pointing each other to the shower." - Trip Lee
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