Step 4 - I make a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself
• Have you had any broken relationships? If so, describe them and how they hurt others or yourself. Describe any grudges, anger or resentment that you have over these relationships.
• Have you ever felt self-righteous? Explain when and the circumstances. Was this justified? Elaborate.
• What events or triggers have caused you to begin your addictive behaviors in the past? Describe situations, feelings, events, food or people that you seem to be a part of your life just before or during your addictive behaviors.
• Have you ever held a grudge? Did you try to get revenge? If so, explain the situation and how it played out, including whether or not someone else was hurt.
• Describe times that you have been oversensitive. Did this ever damage your relationship with others, or were you just trying to keep your own boundaries?
• Describe the faults that you most detest in others. Do you have any of these traits yourself?
• Put a checkmark beside any of the following traits that you despise in others. Also check whether you see these traits in yourself.
Traits that I Despise in Others Trait In Others In Myself Trait In Others In Myself Selfishness Greedy Cowardice Snobbish Dishonesty Sarcastic Fearfulness Hypercritical Controlling Gossip Manipulative Tightwad Intimidating Harsh Power-hungry Unforgiving Possessive Verbally abusive Prejudiced Physically abusive Overly dependent Sexually abusive Procrastinating Impatient Judgmental Adulterous Preoccupied Sneakiness Lying Ungrateful Cheating Cynical Intolerant Bitter Self-Pitying Full of Rage Jealous Envious Insecure
• Have you failed to do things that you KNOW that you should have done? If so, then explain in detail.
• What are your fears? How have they caused you difficulty in your life?
• Describe your relationship with your friends, co-workers or neighbors. Is there something that you wish that you could do over again? If so, explain in detail.
• Describe your relationships with your family of origin. Do you have conflicts with any siblings or with your parents? Are you avoiding these matters in your family?
• Describe the earliest memories of your life. Did you share a similar personality with those in your family or were they very different than you? Do you think that these similarities o differences caused problems in your life? If so, explain.
• If you were to describe your family's major themes, what would they be?
• Describe your relationships with your nuclear family (spouse and children) if that is different now from your family of origin. Is there anything that you wish that you could erase from this part of your life?
• Describe in detail any major experiences in your life that you believe changed your life forever afterwards (good or bad).
• What decisions have you made in your life that made a significant impact on your life? How did you go about making those decisions?
• How much of your life have you used up already? If you drew a time line of your life, where would you be now?
• Put your major experiences and major decisions on a timeline. Is there a pattern of any kind?
• What are you most ashamed of in your life?
• Do you see any patterns in your addictive behaviors? If so, explain them in detail.
• What have you done to cover and conceal your addictive behaviors? What other deceptions did this lead to?
• What kind of personality do you exhibit at home? At school? At work? When no-one is around?
• What is so shameful in your life that you would not want to tell anyone? Who would you hurt if you told this?
• Write a summary of the highlights of your fourth step.
• How would you like to share your fourth step summary? What details would you like to make sure that are known? Write these details down in your summary and prepare the summary for presentation in your fifth step.
• Describe anycelebrations or honoring activities that you hae done to honor the completion of your 4th step.
"God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one of them to say -THANK YOU-?" - Dr. William Arthur Ward.
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