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3/21/13 2:29 P

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Last night I read an enlightening article on obesity. However the comments by some fellow SP members were enlightening too. It was people like these who drove me from Spark People a while ago, so when I came back I vowed to only socialize but not talk about weight loss or exercise. For the last 3-4 months it’s worked well for me – no drama, no guilt, no self abuse talk, etc. At least until I read that article and the comments following it. Its where I met Resamarie...*S*

I’m one of those women who CANNOT loose weight. In my youth I starvation dieted and over exercised to maintain 145 pounds on a medium-large 5’ 4” frame. It’s a common story found all over Spark People and the internet. That abuse I am paying for today, but I’m a survivor. With my doctor’s support I continue to eat well 1200-1600 calories per day, and stay active with cardio and strength training for 40-70 minutes 5 times a week.

The dedication I gave starvation and over exercising I now give to eating food and being active. (Note the word changes; no more “dieting” or “exercising” for me.) Except this time around I’m not hungry or in pain ALL the time. It’s a nice, comfortable experience too.

Coming back to the original topic: what happened to tolerance, compassion, understanding, sympathy, empathy, etc? Even “the benefit of the doubt”. Demoralizing or stigmatizing people into loosing weight is not a solution to a very real problem.

And yes, I’ve been attacked and judged, verbally and physically, for being overweight. By family, friends and strangers. I was called fat when weighing 145 pounds, and now called obese at 257 pounds. I’m tired of trying be someone else’s IDEAL…

So…. “Hi! I’m Pamela. I’m 50 years old, obese, a workaholic, emotional eater, over exerciser, and starvation dieter. I don’t care what you think of me any longer. I love who I am. I love my appearance and how I live my life.” Gonna post this on my wall, then I see it every day.


PeaJay50 aka PJ, Pam or Pamela Jenewein

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3/20/13 7:28 P

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I am just really tired today. emoticon

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2/24/13 10:18 A

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Oh boy! I just asked SP to delete on of my threads. I don't like the posts some people made. They seemed to get carried away! OUCH! Next time I will be more careful to what I say.

~ Our greatest happiness does not depend on the condition of life in which chance has placed us, but is always the result of a good conscience, good health, occupation, and freedom in all just pursuits. ~ Thomas Jefferson


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2/20/13 4:12 P

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Read my blog. I am so disappointed with SparkPeople!
The price is more than double for me to join the SparkCoach program!!!
My sister gets it for a year at $48.99!!!

~ Our greatest happiness does not depend on the condition of life in which chance has placed us, but is always the result of a good conscience, good health, occupation, and freedom in all just pursuits. ~ Thomas Jefferson


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2/20/13 4:11 P

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Sorry to hear about your computer but I am glad it is being fixed.

~ Our greatest happiness does not depend on the condition of life in which chance has placed us, but is always the result of a good conscience, good health, occupation, and freedom in all just pursuits. ~ Thomas Jefferson


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2/20/13 3:49 P

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Today: my computer. My hard drive failed and Dell will replace it, but nor before end of next week. I am NOT a happy camper... emoticon

If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am not for others, who am I for? And if not now, when? ETHICS OF THE FATHERS

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And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. JEREMIAH 29:13


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2/20/13 9:41 A

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I have no idea why homework is due on Sunday. For me, Sunday is family day...church, lunch or dinner and going to see mom and my sister with my husband. I expect my kids to call me too!

Oh boy. I finally had some work online and the server was out! I am tutoring online and subbing is hectic. The lessons have no numbers on the students plans so I have to figure out what is up next in some kind of order. I hope to get my own class soon.

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2/19/13 6:04 P

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I missed a section of homework that was due last Sunday. I didn't even see it. I wondered why we need a couple of weeks for the homework. I could just kick myself, but having been sick and stressed, didn't help either.

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2/19/13 5:26 P

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Runners Repair Manual? I have to check this. Thank you!

If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am not for others, who am I for? And if not now, when? ETHICS OF THE FATHERS

But if from thence thou shalt seek the Lord thy God, thou shalt find him, if thou seek him with all thy heart and with all thy soul.
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And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. JEREMIAH 29:13


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2/19/13 10:43 A

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When I was working outside the home my dogs were so sad. It is a de-stressor to talk to them and pet them. Mine love belly rubs. I need to walk them again. They love to walk but ever since they ran away and they were gone for over 7 hours I just was not ready to take them out.

Life is so busy I know how hard it is to take after "me". Somehow we need to find the time.

AS far a knee trouble, i read the Runners Repair Manual and the exercises to strengthen the muscles around the knee helped me. Occasionally I still need to ice it before and after activities My ex-husband kept my book!

I hope everyone is up and ready to be "you" again soon.

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2/18/13 7:23 P

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Between a new job and school, i feel like I don't have time for myself, no down time. I feel like I am neglecting my dogs.

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2/18/13 12:10 P

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Thanks Termitemom and Resa. I've spent almost 3 days at bed and I still feel weak. "That too shall pass".
Termitemom - I can identify. Knee problems are so annoying, especially when you you do want to work out! But we do what we can emoticon

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2/18/13 12:02 P

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Arthritis in my knee - it prevents me from doing a lot of exercices...

I hope your flu gets better - getting some rest is the best medicine!

If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am not for others, who am I for? And if not now, when? ETHICS OF THE FATHERS

But if from thence thou shalt seek the Lord thy God, thou shalt find him, if thou seek him with all thy heart and with all thy soul.
DEUTERONOMY 4:29

And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. JEREMIAH 29:13


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2/18/13 9:00 A

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Feel better!! Ty to relax and let the other stuff go. I just finished telling my husband that Americans at work is so demanding. Have some soup and juice. emoticon Get some rest and try to watch a movie that picks up your spirits.

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2/18/13 8:40 A

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What bugs me right now is my flu! I've got so much work to do, and other health issues to take care of, and this flu comes along?!! emoticon

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2/18/13 8:23 A

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Why does it take a couple of weeks to lose 2.6 pounds,

but only a couple of hours to gain it back??? emoticon

xoxo elle~


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2/18/13 7:44 A

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This is a great place to get some stress of interferences with your healthy lifestyle. Feel free to post any conflicts you might have.

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Have a wonderful day!!!

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