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12/19/12 5:48 P

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That's one of my NYE resolution

1.) get life insurance on all 3 of us
2.) get a DPOA and even a medical one all squared away for both of us
3.) create a will outlining our wishes

Sometimes my 35 year old brain sometimes forgets I'm adult and adult things happen...

Jamie, what a story! Thanks for sharing, I am so glad you guys got one...I see so many ppl who ask us to make changes and we legally cannot. So I share the wealth xooxox

Edited by: MRS.NG.06 at: 12/19/2012 (17:48)
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12/19/12 1:20 P

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i did make a will but haven't gotten it printed and notorized. i just used an inexpensive program on my computer. we picked my parents for now- we just don't have anyone else we feel comfortable with in that way and they also have most experience with the kids too.

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12/18/12 10:42 P

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Thanks,
I've been in LNA for 7 years now so i knew all about the signs and what should be done before it got to this point. I got my mom to be her DPOA medical and financial. She manages the Dr. apts and the bank accounts and I deal with the every day stuff.
I know what you mean about it getting all locked up though. My best friends dad got into a car accident and was in a comma for a while before they even identified him and contacted his family. when he came out of it he was basically mentally disabled and wasn't able to go home by him self. she had to get a lawyer to get DOPA/guardianship over him so that she would be able to take care of him. the whole thing was awful but actually after going through all that with her was when i decided that i wanted to get my LNA.

thought jump: Has everyone picked guardianship for their kids in case both parents die?? I know i brought this up before but I still never did anything about this. We never made up a will or anything. I really need to do this soon!!

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12/18/12 12:30 P

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OH MY GOD. That would have scared the daylights out of me. Thank god for mother's intuition that woke you up that something wasnt' right. We have tons of those anti-turn childproof plastic doorknobs for our house that doesn't allow Joe to go outside or open the basement door..and of course..locks locks locks hee hee.

Off topic-I work in the life insurance field and if you haven't already gotton a Power of Attorney for your Nana, I would suggest you do so now. If you are her primary caretaker and not just for medical but get a Durable Power of Attorney to authorize you to handle her financial affairs if she becomes totally incompetent. When she becomes engulfed in full blown dementia, she will not be able to handle her affairs and if you have a Power of Attorney for her now, you can sign on her behalf to handle her accounts in the future when that happens. Otherwise, everything can get all locked up and you'll have go to court if she's not competent and hire expensive lawyers, that can be even more costly. I would hate for you to be caught up in that battle. I hope if you haven't already thought of this, you should look into it.

My Nana just turned 90 and is amazingly in good health, which we are ever thankful for....a little osteoporosis...but other than that she is sound as they come both mentally and physically and my parents have POA for her "just in case"...she's the only one left out of both of our families..we call her "super nana" hee hee

I think everyone should have a POA, you never know when something could come right out and change your life forever like a car accident or a stroke...

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12/18/12 11:45 A

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whoa Jamie. you definitely need a doorknob lock on that door to stairs. thats scary.

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12/18/12 11:25 A

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We live in an inlaw apartment in my nana's house. We have 3 rooms upstairs and we share a kitchen and bathroom. We used to live in the entire upstairs that had it's own kitchen, bath living room, dining room, and the three rooms we have now and we paid her rent took care of the house and what not. but then she needed to either have someone actually living with her or move out into a assisted living facility. Which we wont let happen. so we converted the up stairs into two separate spaces so that she could rent out the other half of the apartment as a 1 bed room and we could keep some of our own private space but actually live with her. Since she requires so much work we only pay $400 for rent now as espoused to the 1,400 we use to pay. but she gets 1,000 for the one bedroom so it's all the same for her. So it's working out very well actually. She will be 89 in January and is in the beginning stages of dementia so we never leave Marley alone with her if we're not in the next room or so because she just can't handle it.
(Back to the crib story)
Since the up stairs use to be it's own apartment there is a door that locks at the top of the stair case that use to separate the living spaces. Marley has down great with coming straight to us when she wakes up but yesterday she went down stairs instead (she can open doors now) she woke Nana up and then they went out on the porch to get the news paper and Marley got locked out there. I was laying in bed and i got this o crap feeling, ran into marley's room saw she wasn't there and started a mad search for her. found her knocking on the window and giggling. she wasn't out there for long because she wasn't very cold. (it was snowing yesterday). the whole thing scared the crap out of me. the door to the porch that leads out side is super easy to open and she could have gotten outside very easily. never mind freezed.
morel of the story we now lock the door to down stairs. which we should have been doing in the first place. emoticon

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12/17/12 8:41 P

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Natalie- i would close or gate door to his room and then put doorknob cover on it.
douglas is staying in crib as long as i can get him to. hes already huge and too big for PNP- has to scrunch up just to sleep in it - but i don't think hes ready to be "free"

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12/17/12 5:06 P

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Wow, big girl Marley!! That's great! : )

I'm nervous cuz Joe isn't going to fit into the pack n play at my parents for long...we were given this flipping cute toddler car bed for Joe by our neighbors whose little boy is now 16 yrs old lol. Since we have the crib that converts with the toddler rail, we'll probably give this car bed to my parents..but its not restrictive and I worry that he might walk out of the spare room that my parents put him in and take a tumble down the stairs...what then?

Anybody else nervous about things like that at other houses? I don't even know what we'll do at my in-laws...

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12/11/12 9:41 P

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I never really let Marley cry it out. but when i did go in i would only pick her up for a minuet and then put her back and tell her that it was time for us all to sleep.

By bed time she's usually really tired so she stays in her bed with only a little wining for us to come back. but we just yell in to her that it's time for her to sleep and that we would be right next door. that seems to be good enough as long as she has some music playing and her puppy.

Nap time has proven a little different. she does come out of her room a few times if she's not wanting to sleep. we just bring her back in and tell her that she doesn't have to sleep but she does have to play in her bed. she then will end up playing with her stuffed animals until she falls asleep.

she likes us to leave the door open so we do and it's working out ok or now because the first things she does when she wakes up us come find us. but once she gets a little older and stopes care so much about us i think she'll be getting into stuff. Not that there is really anything for her to get into but still.

She did fall out of her bed last night. i heard a big thud and then she started to cry. I ran in and she was quite a distance from her bed on her hands and knees i just hugged her and she hugged me back and fell back to sleep immediately. so i guess it wasn't that big of a deal. but i did end up laying a body pillow on the floor beside her bed to soften any future falls.

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12/11/12 9:33 A

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Jamie, that is awesome! Sometimes Lil still fusses when I lay her down at night. I should've done the cry it out thing much earlier. She doesn't cry for very long now, but I know she would be running out the door if she could. I'm glad Marley is taking the transition well.

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12/10/12 12:58 P

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that is WONDERFUL. hope it continues to go well.


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12/9/12 9:56 P

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So this is night two in a big girl bed for Marley. both nights she went right down and never came out of her room. This morning she work me up 45 min earlier (8:15) then i normally get her up because i usually let her call me a couple times before going in to start the day. But I think that's great. Could it really be this easy??

And the crib i bought turns into a day bed then a full bed frame. it doesn't do the toddler side rails. It is low to the ground still so i figured we would try it like this to see if we needed to get side rails to put on but. she's not having trouble with it so far. So i might not end up getting them after all.

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12/6/12 12:37 P

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not moved douglas yet. he just turned 2 but is the size of an average 4 yo (36.5 lbs and 39.5 in tall) which means he could easily climb out it he tried. he has gotten out of PNP at my moms before but doesn't even try that much anymore. i am going to keep him there as long as possible and really, as long as we are in this house, there is no where safe for him to be in a toddler bed. so really hoping he doesn't get out of crib :)
about PT- i am not going to worry about nighttime at all. my ped says its normal for kids to wet at night for years so just to use pullups or something. my sister always took her son to potty when she was about to go to bed so thats another option to avoid toddler bed thing.

i agree that if you are worried, you should definitely put a gate up. you could even put a little kid potty in her room so she could get up and go potty and go back to sleep. if she is super advanced that is!

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12/6/12 12:37 P

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I haven't switched yet either. I don't need my child to be roaming the halls in the middle of the night. She doesn't try to climb out either...just stands up and cries bloody murder. LOL. Sometimes she still cries when I put her to bed at night, so I know if she were in a regular bed she would be opening the door and coming out of her room. Heck no. That's my down time. She needs to be in the crib for as long as possible. :)

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12/6/12 10:23 A

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Yeah luckily Joe doesnt climb out either..thank god for that!

I honestly don't know what we are going to do when that time comes around. Normally its only 1 of us in the morning that gets Joe ready. We kinda depend on him being stuck in his crib in his room until we are done with getting showered and changed for work and then we get him. Also that boy loves to be up early, I cant even fathom him coming in our bedroom at 6am....he usually goes back to sleep in his crib now cuz he doesnt have a choice..definitely something to think about. Espicially with potty training...Joe is just starting to get interested in it and he'll need to go at night so he doesnt have an accident. Obviously we need to start doing that during the day first but another good reminder about whats to come.

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12/5/12 10:06 P

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Have you guys made the switch from crib to bed yet??

Marley still doesn't try to climb out so we haven't made the switch yet but i'm starting to think it's time because she's doing really well with potty training and i figure she can't learn to use the potty at night if she can't get out of her crib.

I like that she can't go anywhere when placed in her crib though. since i live in an old house the doors never really stay closed. i'm afraid that she'll wake up and want to play in the middle of the night and run around all over the place. I guess i could gate her room but idk

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