I used to feel the same way in the gym. I'd hide on the furthest treadmill from the door, never looked at anyone, yadda yadda. I was over 400 pounds when I first walked in there, ashamed was an understatement!
It's all different now. When I'm there with my trainer, I strut around like I own the place, lol. I have no problem 'staking out my territory' in the training area if I need to do something in there. (Mats, floor work, stability balls, etc).
I think what changed in my head that made it suddenly ok was the moment when I realized that I may be walking slower or doing fewer sits ups, push ups on my knees, or whatever, but I'm working ten times harder than that skinny person over there.
Sweat is pouring off my face, my shirt is soaked to the skin - get out of my way people! I have work to do :D
I've also been ridiculously lucky with my gym choice. The staff are amazing and I have a wonderful relationship with my gym..
I have the same issue, plus I have a bit of social anxiety in general. At the last gym I belonged to, some teenage girls said mean things to me, so now I avoid teens at the gym. So I look forward to school starting back so the kids won't be at the gym. But i think it is important to ind a gym where you are most comfortable,which it sounds like you have found a good one.
But these are issues in my head- at my current gym nobody pays much attention to anyone else. They are all to busy working on their own stuff.
Pounds lost: 0.0
Fitness Minutes: (132,603) Posts: 11,926 5/6/10 10:22 A
I know what you mean but I think regardless of our size everyone or most everyone has the same issue about this. Put your mat down and exercise or get on a stability ball and take up your space! You need to work out work out! Big hugs! Pretty soon you will take up less space by taking your space. I love my gym ( the ymca ) it isn't a MEAT market either and everyone welcomes me there as well. WTG on your progress! WE CAN DO THIS! pj
I think it helps that the gym I joined is more of a neighborhood tennis club with a gym attached. It seems to draw a different crowd than I saw when I tried to join Bally's. (I felt judged just walking across the parking lot at Ballys.)
I'm still not sure what's so much harder about the free-weight area than the naultilus-type machines - I guess it's that there isn't a defined area to be in. Even away from working out, I hate feeling like I am impinging on anyone else's space. So if I have a perimeter (like the edge of the treadmill or the immediate area on the machine), then I can know I'm inside it, and thus ok. In a free-form area, you have to "claim" space, which is where my issue is.
Part of me wants to just find nautilus-type machines that work the same muscles as the free weights and avoid the issue, and part of me thinks I should try to get past my inhibitions.
current weight: 270.2
Fitness Minutes: (132,603) Posts: 11,926 5/4/10 7:56 P
Hi Ydurus! WTG for getting to the gym! Keep going! I am glad people are nice to you there that isn't always the case. The shyness will go away believe me it will. Hang in there you have every right to be there! WTG on your progress! Lots of people even little people think they take up too much space and feel shy and awkward. I know weird huh? Big hugs. WE CAN DO THIS! pj
FULLY and in the MOMENT!
current weight: 194.3
Fitness Minutes: (1,944) Posts: 1,267 5/4/10 6:14 P
Ydurus, if we weren't overweight, we wouldn't need to be at the gym. You have as much right as anyone to be there and you're not in the way or taking up too much space! That's what gyms are for, getting healthy and getting to and maintaing a healthy weight for our body size. I don't live near enough to join a gym, but that's okay. I have too many health issues right now to join one anyway. You hang in there, and remember..................WE CAN DO THIS!
I find myself ok at the treadmill. My gym has tv's and I have earbuds, so I can put myself in a bubble when needed. I can even manage the weight machines ok. But I have a lot of trouble going over to the mats if there's anyone else around at all. I fell like that just by being over there, I'm in the way, and I have no right to be taking up space.
I'm pretty sure nobody's staring at me, and, in fact, anyone who's acknowledged me has been nice. (I think the closest thing to a personal remark was someone who mentioned that we must be on the same schedule.) I still hate doing anything in shared space, because I'm too fat to be at the gym.
SparkPeople, SparkCoach, SparkPages, SparkPoints, SparkDiet, SparkAmerica, SparkRecipes, DailySpark, and other marks are trademarks of SparkPeople, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
SPARKPEOPLE is a registered trademark of SparkPeople, Inc. in the United States, European Union, Canada, and Australia. All rights reserved.