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I just wanted to bring our list of resources we have listed throughout this thread closer to the top so there is not as much info to wade through.

If you have lost a child:
www.compassionatefriends.org/about_u
s/
our_mission.aspx


This site addresses many different life challenges, with grief and loss being one of them.
www.helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.
ht
m


And on the same site, here are some guides to helping others.
www.helpguide.org/

This is a site with a lot of good articles and information on grieving that I personally have found very helpful.
connect.legacy.com/

Here is a site that sends out a daily email if you subscribe, as well as has support groups located throughout the country. It is built on a Christian faith-based premise.
www.griefshare.org/

Here is a beautiful site where you can light a candle in memory of a loved one or in honor of someone. This link will take you directly to the page of the Losing a Loved One team.
www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles
.c
fm?l=eng&gi=lalo


A grief support site that also sends out emails if you subscribe.
heartachetohealing.com/blog/

How to help a grieving friend. This site also has other information and you can select a religion of your choice for various articles.
www.beliefnet.com/Inspiration/2010/0
5/
21-Ways-to-Help-a-Grieving-Friend.asR>px?nlsource=10&source=NEWSLETTER&utm
_c
ampaign=Inspiration&utm_medium=n
ewslet
ter&utm_source=NL&p=


Link to My First Christmas in Heaven and many other sympathy poems, sayings and products
www.sympathy-sayings.com/sympathy-po
em
s/my-first-christmas-in-heaven-wordsR>-of-sympathy/


And a link to our own SparkPeople on anger in crisis
www.sparkpeople.com/resource/health_
ne
ws_detail.asp?health_day=647935


And another one to an article by SparkPeople's Dean Anderson
www.sparkpeople.com/resource/wellnes
s_
articles.asp?id=962


Here is a book that I have found very helpful, and others have expressed the same. This is a Christian faith-based approach to grief.
www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_37
?u
rl=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywordsR>=grieving+the+loss+of+someone+you+lo
ve
&sprefix=grieving+the+loss+of+so
meone+you+love


www.care2.com/greenliving/how-to-gri
ev
e-5-myths-that-hurt


This site offers support if you have lost a loved one through a workplace fatality.
www.usmwf.org/

Your local funeral home may have a listing of local support groups.

Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation www.sslf.org/

Widowed Community www.widowedcommunity.org

The Widdahood www.thewiddahood.com

Open To Hope www.opentohope.com

Hope For Widows www.hopeforwidows.org

Centering Corp www.centering.org

Grief Healing www.griefhealing.com

Please let us know any other links that you have found.


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Some resources from the book "How to Mourn" some not been mentioned in this thread.

1. Your local funeral home may have a listing of local support groups.
2. http:// www.griefshare.org/ findagroup allows you to enter your zip code to find a local support group.
2. Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation http:// sslf.org/
3. Widowed Community http:// widowedcommunity.org/
4. The Widdahood http:// www.thewiddahood.com/
5. Open To Hope http:// www.opentohope.com/
6. Hope For Widows http:// hopeforwidows.org/
7. Legacy Connect http:// connect.legacy.com/
8. Centering Corp http:// centering.org/
9. Grief Healing http:// www.griefhealing.com/


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Thanks for shaing this Linda. Cathy, I just thought the same thing about divorces. My nephew is going through a divorce. Two beautiful children - my heart aches for them. They appear to be strong and resilient, but it surely will affect them in ways we don't even see. And yes, Linda, I can identify with becoming like a child in my grief. This is just plain good - whether we are young or old.

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This is good advice for children going through moves and divorces too. Thank you.



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Helping Children Grieve ...Day 187 [from GriefShare Daily Emails dailyemails@griefshare]
[I am shariing this because in grief, each of us becomes a child again in many ways and I loved the simple instructions given in this brif article from a wonderful source ~Linda49]

Children can accept loss if there is something to hope for, something to look forward to. But if they view their lives as one loss after another, recovery is extremely difficult.
Here are some general guidelines in helping your children grieve:
• Understand that children have feelings even if they do not show them. A child's initial response, like adults, is denial.
• Tell your children about the feelings you are struggling with.
• Tell them they are not responsible for the loss.
• Help them understand what has happened. Share just enough details to satisfy their questions, avoiding anything that would traumatize them.
• Be there for them. They need more than words. Your presence can help them grieve the loss.
• Help them remember the good times and encourage them to share their emotions.
• Empathize with their hurt without condoning any wrong behavior.

"Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!" (Isaiah 49:15).

Lord, You love my children even more than I do. Give me the wisdom to care for them and nurture them through my grief. Amen.

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Yes, I went to five funerals of relatives of friends and acquaintances a few years back. All I could think about was DH's brother and my sister. However, I hope that I was able to put on a kind face and show love and compassion to my friends.



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True - the grief of others opens the wound.
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My best friend since junior high married the first of the year, looking forward to a long wonderful life with DH. He passed away 5 months later. His parents approved of the funeral means many grieve now. I lost a child and ache for all of them. Gets you thinking and feeling sorry for yourself. Opens the local wound.
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-- Grief Credo ----
˙·٠•●♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄
;Ʒ ♥●•٠·

[Writing Through your Grief 2012]

I believe grief is a process that involves a lot of time, energy and determination.
I won't "get over it" in a hurry, so don't rush me!

I believe grief is intensely personal.
This is my grief. Don't tell me how I should be doing it.
Don't tell me what's right or what's wrong. I'm doing it my way, in my time.

I believe grief is affecting me in many ways.
I am being affected spiritually, physically, emotionally, socially and mentally.
If I'm not acting like my old self, it's because I'm not my old self
and some days even I don't understand myself.

I believe I will be affected in some way by this loss for the rest of my life.
As I get older, I will have new insights into what this death means to me.
My loved one will continue to be part of my life and influence me until the day I die.

I believe I am being changed by this process.
I see life differently.
Some things that were once important to me aren't any more.
Some things I used to pay little or no attention to are now important.
I think a new me is emerging, so don't be surprised…
… … and don't stand in the way.





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I know this site well. I'm going to school trying to get my grade 12 and I had to write a process essay so this was the site I used to write my story. I have posted it on here as seven stages of grief. I invite anyone to read it, it helped me write my feelings.

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Thanks so much for this good information. I will try to get the resource thread updated soon getting all the information to a central post on the thread.

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Again, I am going to borrow from you and start a new thread with this resource. Thanks!



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Please add to my list below. 31. Locating your marriage license, property tax receipts, and automobile tag receipts as they are often necessary to prove that you are the current spouse these days.

Here is another good link for grievers. It is about 5 myths that hurt concerning grieving. I ran across it today and had to say amen to what it was saying. There is another link at the bottom of the first page that you might want to check out, too, on how to or how not to write a sympathy note.
www.care2.com/greenliving/how-to-gri
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What a great list!

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Char posted this on another thread. Many helpful ideas, so she gave me permission to post it here too.

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From Char:
Lee, if I had it to do over, and believe me I never want to relive that part of my life, I would have made a list of all the things he did for me. I would certainly make sure I thanked him for doing those things and would tell him how much I appreciated him taking care of them.
I would make it specific with nothing being to small a thing to put on that list.
For me it would have been.
1. Sewing the pocket back on my heavy winter coat for me when he was in the hospital because he asked to do it and wanted to do something for me. He was used to taking care of me and it was hard for him when it became the other way around.
2. Taking care of my foot which is hard for me to reach when I sometimes get a cut that my Reynauds makes difficult to cure.
3. Finding my glasses for me when I would lose them.
4. Knowing how and taking care of connecting my computer and all the hardware and software that goes with it, monitor, printer, DVD drive, speakers, batter back up, etc. I wish I had asked and paid more attention on this.
5. Knowing where and how our power, electric, etc. comes into the house and what is plugged in where, which breakers cut off what part of the house, etc.
6. I needed to ask what amperage system we had to our house and if it is sufficient for the needs of what we were running or if I added anything would it cause a problems.
7. Also I needed to know how the electric was hooked up to the well, and outbuildings on our property.
8. How to fix the toilet if it doesn't flush?
9. How to prepare for zero degree weather to keep the pipes from freezing.
10. What pet meds we used and needed to keep on hand and where he bought them. (brand names, how much, what the pet meds we had on hand did and why he chose that particular brand or treatment?)
11. How do I access the attic and what is up there?
12. I would thank him for all of the carpentry work he did and general maintenance along those lines, and would thank him for the tools he left me to do the work I am able do in order to save money.
13. I would have asked him to start making the things that would be difficult for me to do easy before he passed away rather than me having to fix them later so that they would be easier for me to do.
14. I would thank him for keeping the house warm in the winter and knowing how to light pilot lights and set the temperature on the water heater and wish I had asked him to show me how to do these things while he was still here.
15. I would ask where he kept his tools, batteries, battery chargers for tools, car batteries, etc.
16.I would ask how the phones are wired into and plugged in inside our house.
17. I would ask what those little noises a car made meant and what was important for me to look and listen for before it wound up costing me a lot of money.
18. I would ask him what kind of motor oil he used, and because he had more than one mechanic which one did the best job for him on what automotive problems, as well as their phone numbers.
19. I would ask him how to turn off the power to the house and how to turn off the water to the house.
20. I would ask how to fix a leaky faucet.
21. I would ask how to maintain things around the house and what things I should check regularly and when I should check them to see if they need maintenance.
22. I wish I had asked him when he got new tires, when he last got a new battery, how long the warranties are on both, and where he kept receipts on things that were under warranty. Also, I would ask when the tags are due on the vehicles, what is listed on our property tax.
23. I would ask him to show me how to do taxes or who I should get to do taxes for me,
24. I would ask about the sewer system and what we had to unclog drains and toilets.
25. I would definitely ask about the insurance we had for cars, home owners, life, etc,
26. I would ask about all accounts and account no. and any savings, CDs, IRAs, etc.
27. I wish I could thank him a hundred times over for making sure that everything was in both of our names jointly so that everything would automatically pass on to me as owner. I am so glad my husband did this for me and anyone anticipating an end of life situation should make sure they have taken care of these things.
28. Making sure, if you have a will, that you also have all the information concerning the lawyer, etc. and how to reach him/her.
29. I would have him locate and all the keys in all the drawers and everywhere around the house as well as on the key chains and identify each one of them as to what they belong to and if you still own what they belong to.
30. My husband took care of all his funeral arrangements down to the songs he wanted sung, who he wanted to preach his funeral, where we would be buried, etc. If you can bring yourself to get these things out of the way it will be so much easier.

My husband did a lot of these things for me, but some were left out on the financial end, the odds and ends and little things department, like how to hook up the computer and peripherals, and all the other "guy" stuff that neither he nor I even thought about. I also found a lot keys that I haven't a clue about as to what they are to or if we even own what they were made to access. I also wish I knew what some of the tools and gadgets he left me are and how they are used.

I am sure I am leaving a lot of questions to ask out, but I hope some of this helps. I wish I had asked a lot more than I did and at the time it just never occurred to us.

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This is on Gratefulness.org same as our Candle Site.

www.gratefulness.org/t/griefj
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I've seen this before, but I don't think we have a link directly to this. Here is the mourner's bill of rights. I found it through the Heartache to Healing website (see link in previous post)

heartachetohealing.com/blog/wp-conte
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For our newcomers, and for those who have been here for awhile and haven't looked over this thread, I am bringing most of our resource links into this post so that they are all together at the top of the thread. I've brought a few in from other threads as well. Do feel free, however, to read down through the thread to see other's thoughts and input on the different sites and resources.

This link covers the different elements of grief, gives you space to share your personal story and gives some coping strategies.
www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-
of
-grief.html


This site offer support if you have lost a loved one through a workplace fatality.
www.usmwf.org/

If you have lost a child, you may want to check out this link. www.compassionatefriends.org/about_u
s/
our_mission.aspx


This site addresses many different life challenges, with grief and loss being one of them.
www.helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.
ht
m



And on the same site, here are some guides to helping others.

www.helpguide.org/

This is a site with a lot of good articles and information on grieving that I personally have found very helpful.
connect.legacy.com/

Here is a site that sends out a daily email if you subscribe, as well as has support groups located throughout the country. It is built on a Christian faith-based premise. I have subscribed to the emails personally and found them very helpful. At least one of our team has been to meet with one of their support groups.
www.griefshare.org/

Here is a beautiful site where you can light a candle in memory of a loved one or in honor of someone. This link will take you directly to the page of the Losing a Loved One team.
www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles
.c
fm?l=eng&gi=lalo


A grief support site that also sends out emails if you subscribe.
heartachetohealing.com/blog/

How to help a grieving friend. This site also has other information and you can select a religion of your choice for various articles.
www.beliefnet.com/Inspiration/2010/0
5/
21-Ways-to-Help-a-Grieving-Friend.asR>px?nlsource=10&source=NEWSLETTER&utm
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ampaign=Inspiration&utm_medium=n
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ter&utm_source=NL&p=


Link to My First Christmas in Heaven and many other sympathy poems, sayings and products
www.sympathy-sayings.com/sympathy-po
em
s/my-first-christmas-in-heaven-wordsR>-of-sympathy/


And a link to our own SparkPeople on anger in crisis
www.sparkpeople.com/resource/health_
ne
ws_detail.asp?health_day=647935


And another one to an article by SparkPeople's Dean Anderson
www.sparkpeople.com/resource/wellnes
s_
articles.asp?id=962


Here is a book that I have found very helpful, and others have expressed the same. This is a Christian faith-based approach to grief. "Grieving the Loss of Someone You Love" by Raymond R. Mitsch and Lynn Brookside. This link goes to Amazon, but I'm sure you can find it at many different places online or at your local bookstore. I bought mine on Ebay.
www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_37
?u
rl=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywordsR>=grieving+the+loss+of+someone+you+lo
ve
&sprefix=grieving+the+loss+of+so
meone+you+love


Please let us know any other links that you have found.

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Excellent, I will meet you over there.

Elizabeth: I found that statement interesting too. My agnostic friend lives by all of Jesus's principles. So even though she refuses to use the language we use or to see God the way we do, she still has a faith, love, hope, charity and respect for life. My athiest friend is a former Catholic and she is angry at God. My pagan possibly wiccun friends who adopted us for a day spent the whole day sending out prayers of blessing, grace and goodness within their four corners. They asked permission before including us. They were willing to move to a different part of the park, but after talking to them, we felt blessed. We felt God wanted us there. Only our Higher Power can know our hearts. I just personally find comfort and salvation in God's arms. It is like a knowing in my soul. But maybe, other people have that knowing and use a different language or style or name for God to acknowledge it.

Sorry for getting so long winded and preachy about this. I just heard an excellent sermon today. I am feeling very uplifted. I hope each person can find that peace today too.



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Thank you, Cathy for sharing this link. When I first logged on this morning, that article flashed in my face on my start page. I was eager to read it, but spun the wheel first, then I couldn't find it, there was a snowblowers article under the health tab. I was feeling so disappointed and wondering how I would find it again, and there it was. I'd like to hear some discussion on this. I'm going to start another thread about anger.

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I immediately read the article when I saw the link on Health News... I was curious to see how the study matched up with what *I* feel. Here's the part that I found the MOST interesting:

"Interestingly, those who don't believe in God or question God's existence reported more anger at God than people who said they believed."

What that says to me is, even when a person says they "don't believe," there's that little bit deep down inside that DOES - or at least that HOPES!


My son Scott's memorial:
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"I'm not telling you it's going to be easy.
I'm telling you it's going to be worth it."

"Life isn't about how to survive the storm,
but how to dance in the rain."


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I feel so peaceful after doing it!! I will do it again :)

Kama is ready to take it all the way!


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The candle link helps me to focus and pray too. I go back to it periodically.



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These links are awesome. Just lit candles for my parents :)

Kama is ready to take it all the way!


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thank you so much for these links

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Coping during the holidays
www.connect.legacy.com/inspire/handl
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g-the-holidays


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How to Help A Grieving Friend.

Originally posted by Kat in the Discussion Forum. I took the sticky off to keep a couple other threads on top, but wanted to make sure this link stayed on top too. So moved it here since it is a very good resource and I wanted to call attention to it again.

www.beliefnet.com/Inspiration
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Another good link that Kat found...

heartachetohealing.com/blog/



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This link is to a website to light an online candle in memory of a loved one.

www.gratefulness.org/candles/
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www.griefshare.org

This is a link to a website recommended by Warmspringday. They offer a daily e-mail on grieving to help support you. Please check it out.



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Thank you. Good idea to get this resource on this thread too.



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Here's a reference to a very comprehensive grieving website called "Legacy Connect," originally posted by WarmSpringDay:

connect.legacy.com


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I'm telling you it's going to be worth it."

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Here is a link to help support others.

www.helpguide.org/mental/helping_gri
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www.helpguide.org/mental/helping_gri

eving.htm


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I think I will mention this to my friend who just lost her grandchild. I would hope the hospital hooked the parents up with Compassionate Friends, but you never know.



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Compassionate Friends is a group for those who have lost a child. This description is from their website:

"Whether your family has had a child die (at any age from any cause) or you are trying to help those who have gone through this life altering experience, 'The Compassionate Friends' exists to provide friendship, understanding, and hope to those going through the natural grieving process.
Through a network of more than 625 chapters with locations in all 50 states, as well as Washington DC and Puerto Rico, 'The Compassionate Friends' has been supporting bereaved families after the death of a child for four decades."

Here's the link to their website - it's easy to look up a local chapter to find support close to you:

www.compassionatefriends.org/about_u
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I'm telling you it's going to be worth it."

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If you know of other good resources please add them here.



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Good links. Thanks for posting them everyone! emoticon

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www.usmwf.org

I found this link through our new friend Marrrbo.
Thank you.

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Your friend is truly an angel. She has not subscribed to a timeline. She does understand grief.



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When I lost my son, an acquaintance became my guardian angel and dear friend. She did not only provide resources for me once, she has continued every couple of months for nearly three years now to send me inspirational/spiritual material short notes, and little gifts. She lost her son about 3 years before Mike died and she took me under her wing - it was her ministry - helping those who also had lost a son to grieve and heal. Her help was and continues to be a treasure that is beyond words. Thank you for sharing that link.


With love and caring from Nancy ... wishing all of you a wonderful, blessed, and precious day.



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When I lost my sister a friend who had lost her son the prior year gave me a pamphlet that described the stages of grieving. It was a lifeline, because I had been afraid I was going crazy in addition to being mad and sad.

Here is a link to a resource page. I have not read the whole site, but felt what I did read was reasonable.

http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stag
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www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-
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