Congratulations on your 5K, and your other achievements!
I think the advice from the other comments is correct in that you need to speak with him. The first thing that came to mind when I read your post was "take him with you" - what better place to discuss what's on both of your minds than on a walk.
Best of luck, JD
current weight: 173.0
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You are going to have to talk to him. It will be hard. But, you must. You don't deserve all the stress and worry. Just flat out ask him why he is showing no compassion for you and is downright mean at times. Let him know the only way for the both of you to get past the tension, I'm sure you both feel, is to lay it all out and figure out the necessary steps you can both take to create a happy household for all.
As far as wanting your dad to be proud of you, I don't know if that ever goes away. I'm 45 and still want my parents to be proud of me.
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First of all, congratulations on being strong and sticking with it no matter what. You have a lot on your plate, but you can do it. Have you tried talking to your father? Confronting him directly and asking why he's not supportive of you? Doesn't he want you to be healthy? Is he afraid of your independence? I am not shrink but it may be not about fitness of weight, but about family dynamics, fears, etc. You two should sit down and play your own shrinks and get to the bottom of it, in a constructive manner.
Hey guys, was hoping I could get some feedback here. Maybe someone is in the same situation and can relate.
I'm 29, single mom (of course), of 2, not working right now due to health issues, living with my father. Part of my health issues are due to the weight I've had on me. I've been told by my doctors that losing weight will help me. And I have lost some. My highest is 220, I'm down to 182. I'm 5'1, by the way. You'd think my father would try to be understanding of that. I do receive assistance and bring groceries into the house and buy things for the house. So I do contribute something to the household. And I clean up after everyone, including him.
He always wanted me to be athletic and active. Now that I am and I'm going running/walking early in the mornings before everyone is awake and I'm doing 5k's, he seems to be annoyed with that. He's not supportive of it. He's mean to me about it, in fact. I just don't understand.
Running is not something I ever saw myself doing a year ago, much less being in a race and I just completed my 3rd race and am training for a half marathon! You'd think he'd be proud of me and supportive. I just don't understand. My mother passed away in 2005 so he's the only parent I have left and I feel silly at almost 30 wishing that my dad would just be proud of me, but I do.
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