I agree! We've become a culture where everyone embraces their conditions. I used to answer a hotline so I got to hear everything, and little of it was good. (It was a complaint hotline, and not a suicide hotline or anything like that.)
I would get the calls where the person would start off the conversation by screaming in my ear that they had PTSD--literally! No "hello," no "good afternoon." (I wanted to say that I had it too, but you wouldn't hear me screaming about it.) I don't embrace it like it is part of my identity.
I wanted to say that if you had PTSD, you are probably one of the quiet ones....
The caller would explain that their PTSD is why they scream....
I would call their condition something else, but it would not be nice to say what it is in polite society.
Urgh! So I'm hugely guilty of this in my personal life as my son has a diagnosis of Autism and I often catch myself parenting the Autism more than parenting HIM just as a person. This over-relating to the diagnosis could also have a connection to my own experiences of feeling as though anxiety is an internalized external force that is acting upon me in a very real yet still internal way. So when I say "my anxiety" I'm trying to differentiate it from the anxiety that I view as external, the typical anxieties of daily life. When "My Anxiety" is acting up, it makes no sense to me because it's not in repsonse to anything stressful that's happening in my life. So it does truly feel like mine, though I am not my anxiety.
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I know I am chiming in late, but this is one of my pet peeves as well. Why do people throw around the term "bipolar" like it is nothing? For those who have it, it is a seriously debilitating disorder, not some feeling of sadness that comes and goes or an excuse to treat people badly. I could go on and on and agree with what you both said about ADHD and depression.
SOME MORE RANTING--I have serious problems with the simplistic titling of disorders. As a society and as a profession we are too quick to declare that someone "has" something. Unfortunately this happens most often when the pharmaceutical companies are involved. I heard a pharmacy professor once say, in a presentation, that depression was a disease and we know that because there is a pill that can cure it. I also have problems with talking about subclinical populations as having serious disorders. My biggest rants are for ADHD and depression. By making these common problems we take the focus off those who have serious problems with these disorders. It also makes it seem as if rambunctious boys and people with periodic low mood levels are not normal. Like you, I agree that both ADHD and depression exist and are serious disorders.
As you can see you hit one of my buttons with this topic.
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I read this Health News article this a.m....and I am going to be irritated for a while...sounds like food sensitivity to me and not ADHD to start with at all - of course it is a summary of the research and not the numbers, but since there was a group of kids who didn't "get better" on the diet, maybe it could be a way to make the dx. more accurate?
ADHD is so overdiagnosed it isn't funny - and usually without any visible effort to rule out all of the disorders that have similar symptoms....I'm not saying it doesn't exist, but ......at least glance at the DSM....
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