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4/5/11 9:18 A

sometimes, deep breathing helps me to be less stressed, and just meditating in prayer.

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3/16/11 1:06 P

My sons found beautiful ladies who were strong and told them to straighten up on look elsewhere. They are great and the guys have learned to do things that they would never do for me. I wish I had been strong enough.

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3/16/11 8:42 A

I am not sure how to do it but my son "claims" he is looking for work. I know that there is really nothing around here, we live up in the "sticks". Once summer comes there are a lot of seasonal jobs to which he probably has a garenteeed job. In the mean time we can't take him off our car insurance as long as he is living in this house or shows proof of having his own ins. If we don't let him use the car he can't get to school and if we don't give him the gas in car he can't get there. He isn't allowed to use it for another else unless he gets a job. *sigh*

Yeah I pretty much work around my husband.

Thanks everybody

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3/15/11 8:43 P

I understand-I am also BiPolar depressive. Sounds like your son is learning to be just like his father. You can't change them, but you can change your outlook. Stop taking care of your son--let him fend for himself. he is old enough. Many go to college and work a full time job and look after themselves.
It is too late to change your husband. Look at him as another child you must take care of. Be happy he is home and not out drinking up his paycheck.
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3/15/11 7:03 P

I am feeling better this evening but it was a wasted day for me

When I did my blood pressure reading today it was up from what it has been.

I did some calendar checking and well it is coming to that time, I have PMDD on top of my other issues. That is why and also seems to be the pattern of when I can't deal with "my boys"

Tomorrow is a new day.

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3/15/11 8:34 A

I'm glad you thought of writing it down and sharing it with us. I know it helps me to do just that. I also know where you're coming from: my husband sounds a lot like yours. I really hope you feel better soon. Sending hugs and good thoughts your way...

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3/15/11 5:53 A

Not sure where I should post this but I need to get this off my chest.

Okay so this is like a vent but also looking for some input.

Brief history - I am bipolar/depression/anxiety. I do/can not work due to these reasons at this time so I am home. I am married to a man that works hard physical labor 50 hrs a week. We have an 18 yr old living at home while going to college 3 days a week.

I am good for a few hours of something daily, but then I am just wiped out especially if it is physical work. So I do what I can in the a.m.'s I have been getting better and getting a second wind and cooking dinner more and getting some of the clean up done that night in stead of saving for the a.m.

My husband feels that since he works like he does he doesn't need to do things like shovel or wood when he is home. Heck he really doesn't think he needs to do anything 12 out of 14 days. Once in a while he starts a load of laundry or cooks dinner.

Our son feels that since dad doesn't do much than neither should he. When he is asked to do something he puts it off and puts it off till I end up doing as it needs to get done like wood.

So anyway this really gets to me at times. I am sure not good for my blood pressure.l It is a definite trigger that can ruin my whole day, stress drains all my energy.

Son says if I keep reminding him he just keeps ignoring me so I try not to but...... when it has been 3 days I think I can start harping.
Husband says I should be able to do it all (not in so many words) he is able to spend his wk-ends visiting friends. Is it so much to ask that if I am doing the physical work about the house he couldn't put away his laundry or fold a load of his clothes.
Could them both not just pick up after themselves, rinse there dishes or put them in the dish washer.

Sorry I am having a bad morning and getting up to my sons mess and my husbands laundry still in buckets just got me going.

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