Thank you all for your responses. After seeing more people do their presentations this week, I think my anxiety has more to do with me thinking I didn't do well and over analyzing. Now that it has been over a week my worry about it has definitely worn off. I ended up getting a 92 on the presentation with remarks that I had good eye contact and presentation style so I couldn't have been that bad, right? I have another one at the end of the semester but I have a lot more time to prepare for it so I'm hoping I feel less anxious about that one.
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I do a lot of public speaking in my profession and what you're feeling is so common...and understandable. I can't tell you how many times I've been 20 or 30 minutes into a speech and have been convinced that someone in the front row thinks I'm an idiot because they have a scowl or seem annoyed. I laugh at that now because, on more than one occasion, the very people I thought were bored came up front after the presentations to compliment me. I try to remember that when I assume someone isn't enjoying whatever I'm talking about. Some people will enjoy it and some won't. I have to keep telling myself that and focus on my enthusiasm for my topic.
Also, even though flubs happen, those of us prone to anxiety or perfectionism tend to dwell on the mistakes rather than the successes. I once had a group of students in an undergrad Italian class snicker when I pronounced a literary character's name in Italian (the character was Italian..and we were in Italy for goodness sake!). They really rattled me and I started going back and forth between the English and Italian pronounciation when the name came up. I decided I wasn't going to give in to a bad audience again. I try to focus on the people who are contstructive and DO want to hear what I'm talking about.
Years later, I was on a group panel and looked down into the audience where a board member had opened a copy of USA Today and was reading it (his face was covered as he held it up directly in front of himself). Really?!? We were only a few minutes in at that point and he kept the paper up there the ENTIRE time. I was able to laugh at such bad manners and I realized it was about him, not those of us on the panel. Because so many people are intimidated by public speaking, I promise you that even if you had a glitch here or there, they were probably sympathizing with you and thinking about how nervous they get when they have to speak in front of a group. The people who wish you well are the ones who matter.
The most important thing is that you got up there and gave your presentation, so congratulations on seeing it through even though you were scared!
I can so relate to this...I cant even do public speaking. In high school I almost failed my english class because 1/2 of the grade was getting in front of the class and I just couldnt do it ....I was willing to take the F than do it...but I had a wonderful teacher that let me do the presentaion in front of her only and was able to get at least a C. At that time I didnt know I had severe anxiety disorder or panic attacks(just found out in Oct 2009). Then I had to do a Class for a new system at work and I almost quit because of it. But a co-worker helped me through by having me sit in a chair in the middle of the room and not have to be up front of the class. and this was only in front of 15 people at a time MAX. (this was also before DX) I have spent all my life avoiding to do ANY talking in front of groups of people....now even going to the grocery store and laundery mat gives me anxiety.
I COMMEND you for even getting in front of them and giving the presentation!!! Having anxiety and still being able to get there is AWESOME!!! Give yourself some time and know that it was a huge accomplishment even though you may not feel like it is right now. Your one strong person no matter what others in your class may think!
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You can't go back and change anything about it now. Give yourself credit for getting up there and giving the speech. You mentioned one key factor to keep in mind for next time: you didn't give yourself enough time to prepare. That makes a huge difference! And remember that people really aren't going to dwell on how you did - they're going to worry and dwell on how they did. Good luck next time.
God grant me the serenity to change the things I can, to accept the things I cannot change, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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Hi everyone. I am new to the team. I've always had anxiety and go through periods where I seem to be able to control it and period where it is really bad. Right now I've been having a lot of anxiety. I'm in grad school and felt extremely anxious (lack of sleep, worried, stressed ect..) all week because I had to give a presentation in class. Most of my classes have presentations which I get nervous for but this was a lot worse than usual. I felt as though I didn't have a lot of time to prepare (the presentation was 15 minutes). I felt like I was okay when I got in front of the class of about 40 people. Then I felt like I made some lame jokes because I was nervous. My voice also got shaky a few times. Now I can't stop thinking about it and it keeps running through my head. I thought it would help if others could relate to this or if I just wrote it out. I'm sure it was not as bad as I'm picturing it, but I keep running it through my head.
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