Do you have a partner (gf/bf, husband/wife)? If yes:
Yes I have a SO and he is pretty wonderful, kind & caring! He tells me I am sexy and beautiful quite a few times a week. He tells me he can see and feel I love him so it makes him want to be a better man for me.
1) Did you tell them about your weight loss goal/efforts?
I have never been obese or overweight. I had joined SP because I wanted to make exercise, nutrition and overall health a priority in my life. I noticed as an adult a few pounds would creep on a year and I didn't want to wake up one day needing to lose, say, 20-40 pounds so I took action. I talked with my SO about this and he understood and said to me that I didn't need to lose any weight. I said I don't want to wake up one day needing to lose a lot of weight or not feel like I don't have energy and strength. He understood because my sister is fairly overweight. He thought about it and figured any benefit I gained personally he would receive it by extension. Plus he does his best to work out and stay in shape. I monitor his diet a fair amount because in his family diabetes and high blood pressure run on both sides. Anyhow, he was on board and he says as long as I didn't exercise to excess then it was okay. (I'm known as a taking certain things to an extreme. He wanted to be sure I wasn't going to look anorexic, I got that!)
2) How do they support you?
The SO is supportive by not bringing a lot of junk food in the house and not giving me grief when I am working out and he wants me to attend to his needs. He also is helpful by letting me know of functions we are to attend ahead of time so I can get exercise and nutrition in order for the day so we don't have him run behind late for functions. He appreciates that I am not so cranky or moody after exercise and taking care of my spiritual needs. He cooks for me sometimes the way I cook for myself which was a little rough at first since I don't eat meat pretty much and he loves his fish and lean meats.
3) Do you ever feel like they don't support you?
The SO is pretty supportive overall but once every so often when he needs me and I decline I can see he is disappointed so I make him a priority at most other times. He says I need to take a few more cheat days here and there but I don't want to lose my motivation. On our anniversary or some holidays I relax a little but when he met me he knew I wasn't into sweets and most meat and dairy so that part wasn't a surprise for him.
4) If you've shared your goal, does this make you feel more accountable or more stressed?
I'm not stressed by the SO and I'm really only accountable to myself. He knows if I feel well and I am healthy it means more time and effort given to him. Yes, in the short term there is a little give and take but he hasn't thrown a tantrum or tried to undermine my efforts. I am lucky in that regard!
Edited by: FANCYKAYAH at: 7/4/2013 (09:42)
"If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. Think twice before reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay."
"Your happiness is up to you. Whatever happened in your life to make you who you are up until this point is irrelevant. It is your responsibility now to take control and change your life to be what you want it to be. Energy and persistence conquer all things. Make time, not excuses."
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