All I can suggest, not having children at home when I went veg, is to teach by example. Teens can be very difficult to understand. It wasn't until my daughter turned 13 that I understood what my mother meant about us kids making her crazy. She, my daughter, will be 40 tomorrow and we are finally good friends. But it took her daughters hitting teenage for HER to understand me.
"Adam fell that men might be, and men are that they might have joy."
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I feel for you. The fact that you are not only aware that something is going on with your daughter but also acting on it is huge. From what you write, the possibilities of what could be happening with her from merely manifesting her independence and saying 'no' to her mom to some really restrictive eating manner that lies on the surface of deeper troubles...I hear your care and love. I guess expressing that to your daughter and letting her know you very much want to listen to anything she has to say. Tell her she is not alone. Okay, I'm probably going way overboard and she is simply being particular. I guess I'm thinking on my own past, growing up vegetarian, getting super restrictive, never eating in front of people, hardly ever eating... 14 years old is a tricky time. Let her know her mom is there and is on her side.
Edited by: PETALIA at: 10/4/2012 (07:52)
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Welcome! It is a challenge being a parent, but take courage. When my strong-willed daughter was that age I would have my say on a subject in a way that she knew I was looking out for her best interest, then end it with "it's your choice, you do what you want". Finally I left the room for her to think. 99% of the time she would do what I suggested, but it was HER choice. Maybe this will work for you, too. (I also did a lot of praying)
My daughter just turn vegetarian this summer. I'm a vegetarian too since 33 years. I turn vegetarian at 16. Now I know how my mom was feeling back then. My daughter is 14 and she is almost vegan. I'm scared because sometime she dont want to be feed properly. I try to teach her the good way to be a vegan, but she is 14 and very determinate to go her way. I tried to cook more delicious meal for her and try to introduce her to new stuff. I know, she will find her way, like me but it's hard to look at her, she remember so much of me, a bit stubborn and a lot determinate.
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