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9/18/12 2:07 P

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cupcakecutecat, I have been a vegetarian now for over ten years and was a piscatarian for a year before that. My boyfriend eats meat but never at my place and only sometimes when out and when he's with his family..... he likes vegetarian food and my cooking so I consider myself lucky. I am never bothered by telling people I am a vegetarian.... in fact, I have a lovely friend from Kenya who purposefully makes a couple of vegetarian offerings when she has a barbeque.... I appreciate her a lot for that. When I go to parties or gatherings or potluck dinners, I am able to take a dish that I know I can eat at the very least. When people invite me over and it seems difficult to them to focus on my eating habits I tell them not to worry and that I am sure there will be something there for me (potatoes? salad? dessert?). Since you are new to vegetarianism, your boyfriend will take a bit of time to adjust - as will you. And his family too are just meeting you and learning about your eating choices - if they are regular, nice people, they will have no problem with it... I was sad to read the story of another poster whose family takes her vegetarianism as a personal affront!

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9/18/12 2:00 P

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Rapunzel, I hope you don't think I am forward and perhaps it is not accurate but I saw your ticker at the bottom of your post and it says your goal weight is 95 lbs. I hope that you are 4 ft 11 or shorter to have a goal so low.... if you are about 5 ft 4 and over you are already at a very good weight....

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9/17/12 9:38 P

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I don't socialize much but when I'm going to be in a short term situation I make sure I'm not hungry when I get there. If I find something I can eat I'll keep some of that in front of me to help fend off the "oh, try this" offers. Visiting family isn't a problem because my kids and I share and respect each others values. I do take my blender and make smoothies for anyone who cares for one.
Any boyfriend put between Mom and the Girlfriend isn't going to come out a winner on either side. It isn't fair to expect him to survive unscathed. If he supports you when Mom isn't in the picture be appreciative but give him some slack around Mom Girlfriends, and wives unfortunately, come and go (if the relationship doesn't grow) but a Mother will always be Mother.

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9/17/12 6:53 P

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I guess he didn't think about it or see it would come up as an issue. It is a fairly new relationship as a romantic interest (we started as friends about two years ago). Plus I haven't been vegetarian for very long. I was a Pescetarian. At restaurants now adays there is more selection so I can eat vegetarian. Favorite one now is The Loving Hut .. I believe they are all over. Has anyone been there?

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9/17/12 6:44 P

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When I first "came out" as a vegetarian, my family took it pretty hard. In fact, six years later they still give me grief about it. My kids are growing up healthy and happy, even though my parents were pretty sure I would stunt their growth by omitting meat from their diet. After a year of only eating meat at my parents' place, we stopped that too and the invitations for dinner stopped coming. For two years we ate a vegan diet that further upped the ante.. my parents thought I was trying to get back at them for something, that I was being difficult on purpose. It was very strange.

I also find it strange that your boyfriend wouldn't give his parents the heads up. What is up with that?

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It's not a big deal to me at all. If someone asks or notices I just say I'm a vegetarian and move on. It's the one thing I'm proud of not ashamed.

If some forget maybe it's because they're just not thinking about it or you. People are busy with their own lives and problems.. What we think might be important they don't.

Some might think it's just a "phase". I've been on SP for several years and I know that people want to become vegetarian and try for awhile but then decide it's not for them.

I do find it odd that your boyfriend forgets? Hmmmm. Maybe it time to rethink the relationship?



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9/17/12 4:54 P

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I understand why you might be annoyed at the fact that people "forget" you are vegetarian. Personally, I don't mind telling people that I am vegetarian. My hope is that my vocalization of this fact might lead to some interesting discussions about the virtues of being plant based and perhaps even change the minds of some carnivores the room!

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9/17/12 4:49 P

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My immediate family is vegetarian but I have several friends and family who are not. I find that sometimes they forget and it is hard. When I invite people over to my house it does bother me when they have to have meat.

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9/17/12 4:44 P

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I find sometimes I have to remind others when going out to a restaurant that, I Am a vegetarian. I Am polite about it. Just slightly annoying to have to remind them such as boyfriend and family. When meeting boyfriends parents for the first time they had tacos with beef. I was polite and said, I don't eat those things and later told his Mom which she didn't know I was a vegetarian. Not trying to be difficult but got to make a stand in what I want there. Can anyone share on this topic? Especially sinced the holidays will soon be rolling around.

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