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Yeah people are all the time "You make up your mind! You're ether a vegetarian or not!" mainly because I've been on and off for a few months. Well, a lot of them have been like so rude and asking why I won't eat meat. And can't believe that I won't eat deer or anything like that. I mean you don't have to be so rude. WE SHOULD ALL REPLY "YOU NEED A VEGGIE BURGER" OR "WHY DO YOU EAT MEAT?"

You want something bad enough do it yourself.


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YEA ME TOO

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"and being the skinny kid I was she was always trying to fatten be up"

Ha! Ain't that precious--and you probably got some good treats out of dear ole granny! Granny's are famous for cakes and cookies! Mom's and granny's are always "showing love with food".

(Trouble with me is now as an adult I try to be my own mom or granny and am always saying to myself, "Eat! Eat! You need to eat!!!!" LOL!!! It works against me, now! Ha!)



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Terry I had a Jewish grand mother she wasn't really Jewish but she was from the old country, the Ukraine. Where food is very important and being the skinny kid I was she was always trying to fatten be up

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I'll have to admit I'm probably one of those people! Ha! It only bothers me if I go out to a resterant setting with people (which isn't often) and one person might decide not to eat. I don't get "upset" with that person...I just probably will say, "Aren't you going to eat?!" (Thinking...why did they come to a resterant, of all things, if they weren't going to eat! Ha! It doesn't make a whole lot of sense.)

The reason this "bugs" me is one gets the feeling that the non-eating person is "watching" the others eat. It's a social phobia thing for me. I just wish they had ordered a salad at least and joined in dinning with the rest of us. In other words, it's not "what" they eat that bugs me, it's that they are not eating at all and therefore they have nothing left to do but to stare at the rest of us eating! LOL!!! It's just socially uncomfortable, I think.

But quite honestly, that has happened only a handful of times in my entire life, so it's not much of a problem.

Now if it's an informal family gathering, like a cook out, I don't think much of it if a person decides not to eat. But I do have enough of my mom's gene's in me to "worry" a little bit about why the person is not eating! Ha! (All mom's are Jewish, aren't they? "Eat! Eat!!!!!" LOL!!!)

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Absolutely. I dread family gatherings specifically for that reason.

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I have. I wish people would realize that them worrying about what I'm eating or not eating is more upsetting to me than what I can and and can't eat emoticon

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has anybody noticed that when you go out to a family gathering or with friends that everybody gets all kinda upset expecting you to eat. They feel obligated to see tht you eat so you will have a good time

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Thanks everyone for the responses. Interesting to read about other vegans' experiences and responses.

I am definitely lucky that I have so much support. I have a few vegan friends, and even my non-vegan family is supportive (including my old school "meat and potato" grandma who was worried I'd get sick...now she happily eats whatever vegan deliciousness I bring out when i visit her!). Most of the rude comments I've received are in a group setting with 2 or more women and interestingly enough, only when the men have left the table.

Happily though, my bf and I met up with his friends this weekend in a smaller group. The woman who initiated the original comment the other night had nothing nasty to say and was actually quite a pleasant. I think I forestalled any comments when she asked me why I'd chosen to come out with them for brunch since the place we'd gone to (one that her and her bf picked) was not vegan-friendly. I said, quite honestly, that I enjoyed spending time with them so why wouldn't I go? Then when I ordered my fruit plate, she and I had a nice talk.



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When people notice that I am not eating meat I usually start with, "oh, I'm vegetarian."

When they ask why, I start with "Just have been for a long time."

If they push the issue, I say "I read a couple of books about meat production in the US and it kind of turned me off. I would tell you about it but I don't want to ruin your dinner."

If they wonder why I am turning down sweets, I say "my cholesterol is high and I don't want to take the drugs to fix it!"

However, it hardly ever comes up!

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Your are right, Mike. My brother was a weight lifter and explained that to me, how genetics played a very big role in it.

A good example is Bruce Lee. He became very muscular and "defined", but he could never have the build of Arnold or Sly, because it just was not in his genes. He developed a very toned "swimmers build" of sorts and he looked impressive, but he didn't have the genes to develop "bulky" muscles. So when clothed he still looked "small and slim", while guys like Arnold looked big and huge even with their shirts on.

You're right--it has a lot to do with genetics. But somehow back in the 80's when we saw these guys on screen, most of us thought if we tried "really hard" we could look like them, too! Hehe! Oh well...at least we have dreams! ha! emoticon

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what many people don't realize about body building is that to have that truely cut body like the world class guys requires some genetics as well. In other words if you don't have the jeans for cut abbs they wont be cut.

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"For years male weight lifters have pushed the value of meat protein, and what man doesn't wish he looked like Arnold Swartenegger or Sylvester Stallone! Ha! "

What I meant by that statement was what those two actors looked like in their prime (in the 80's or 90's)--not necesarrily what they look like now.

I think Arnold has let his weight lifting go by the way side...I haven't seen Sly in anything lately, so not sure about him. But in their younger days, if these men said they ate meat to look as good as they did---then we men would eat meat! (But lift weights? Heck no! Too much trouble! LOL!!!! And that's where our problems started!)

Wouldn't it have been wonderful if one of those actors had been a vegan and said that was how he ate! It might have changed a lot of men's eating habits back then and carried over to now.

We may not be superstars here, but it does remind us that we have a responsibility to the ones we love (to them we may be superstars!). They notice how we eat and how it affects our body. We owe them a healthy example (wheather they adopt it or not)...and I've only recently fully understood that.

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@DESERTJULZ Yeah, I pretty much do the same thing. Don't make fun of my tofurky, and i won't make fun of your carcass.

I don't get too much of that. Most people know I will not take any sh!#, so they don't. Also, I've always been about the same size, and am healthy, so they have no ammunition there. (I did have a stranger ask if that was why I was so small. Um, no.) It may not be the best tactic, but if they're nasty, I'm nasty. It usually shuts them up quickly.

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"I find it befuddling how much meat eating seems to be a manly thing to do in our culture."

I agree, AJC...but I think it all started in an innocent way. For years male weight lifters have pushed the value of meat protein, and what man doesn't wish he looked like Arnold Swartenegger or Sylvester Stallone! Ha! Add to that football players who also sing the praises of meat eating, and men are set up for failure. (I say that because they overeat on the meat, but then most don't exercise or lift weights. So they gain weight and get high cholesterol.)

I really hope it changes. I fully back guys like Rip Essylstein who are trying to get the message out that men don't need all this protien like they have been told--especially not from animal sources.

I don't blame you for not cooking your hubby meats. Not that it is a bad thing if a vegan wife chooses to cook her husband and family meats if they eat it...but most men can cook meat anyway and are famous for being good grillers. But your not cooking it may help him become aware that maybe he should not be eating it himself.



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I received more comments initially than I do now. I do think that people feel lack of control and very defensive about their food choices. I think about how many ppl I know that are overweight or obese (I am overweight too) and food is very frustrating for them. So, I think when we are out to eat and I order a veggie wrap no cheese w/ fruit, and they are eating a quarter pound hamburger, they feel like they have to spew out something to defend the ick on their side of the table.

One of the more interesting comments that I hear from my husband's friends is "WHAT??? You aren't feeding your husband meat???" As if I'm a bad wife because I'm not cooking him meat! I always tell them that he has the choice to eat meat if he goes out or cooks it, but I'm not going to cook things that I won't eat. I find it befuddling how much meat eating seems to be a manly thing to do in our culture.

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meat is the status quo, that is what we are taught is right from the time we could understand words why would any body comment on what is right. On the other hand vegan is as you say different and interesting and to many threatening because it is different.

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I think it's amusing that no one thinks to comment on a meat-eater's plate, but everyone wants to weigh in on what a vegan is eating. But then, we do eat much more interesting and varied meals. emoticon

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I've only had it happen a couple of times at work and those comments came from
people who need to step away from the donuts. Jealous I'm sure I've lost a lot of
weight in big part from going vegitarian then began.
Others ask about it and a couple have converted or modified their menu to do it
a couple days a week
I ignore the haters and ignorant.

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I think its ironic that people are rude when you are just trying to eat friuts and veggies.



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That is fine wisdom you share BILBY 4!!! BRAVO!!!

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Very interesting to read through all the various responses. I do agree the high road is the best choice; however, if you try that and are still attacked, you now have several snappy comebacks!

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If any body does ask I usually say I am dieting and that is accepted. some have said you don't eat meat at all. I say I can control my weight better with out it, that is accepted

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I usually laugh it off or make a joke about it when my meat free diet is attacked. There are times, however, when I go a little "off" and let them know that I think eating dead animals is disgusting, unhealthy and wasteful. That usually shuts them up.

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I recently read something that especially for women, the amount that is eaten in a social setting sets one's place on the social ladder: the less one eats or the healthier choices one makes the higher her social status. This is all subconscious and who knows why society is like this other that westerners obsession with dieting.

The female that confronted you is obviously concerned about her usually standing as the Alpha female (or at least usually competes for this position) and is uncomfortable with you "beating" her at the game. She is trying to make you feel uncomfortable and to bring you down a notch by suggesting to others that you may possibly have an eating disorder. Other strategies women use are making excuses for the reason they have more food on their plate that you do (for example, I didn't know it was going to be this much or I plan to eat half for lunch tomorrow).

Anyway, I have discovered that especially as a new and insecure vegan that life with meat eaters who are used to you being one too can be tough. Women are especially cruel in their comments, and I think most of it comes from a lack of understanding and a fear of something new and different. The best thing to do is to take the high road, and if the opportunity presents itself later on down the road (once trust is built) provide a little education.

Confidence in knowing that you are doing what is right is important.

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I also think I take the high road when I would comment to folks (for instance, I should have mentioned that if people keep badgering me about what I eat and it gets to the point where I might use the "you are what you eat--how's your pig?" comment, I would have said it with laughter...which should result in the group laughing and probably would break the ice about talking about what we eat. But by the same token, it's a two sided sword. The joke is made, but the truth has been said, too. It's a "half joke" that hopefully they would think about and get my point.

Petalia, I'm glad to hear you are not having to face this. Getting together with folks for meals really should be a joy. But I have ran into a few folks who wanted to take my joy away--right there at the dinner table! Usually I have found these folks are controlling people. They think they know what's best for them and everyone else! (Not just on food matters, but most matters!) So my experience is that most "normal" people are nice about it...but control freaks are not.

Yes, variety should be the spice of our lives. Life should be a learning experience--even at the table. It should be interesting to meet people who eat differently and to learn their story.

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Reading this thread, I'm astounded by all the provocation and difficulty people are experiencing when eating with others. When I get together with folks, what people eat is often so very varied. It's a given that there will be religious, cultural, ethical, or health related concerns, perhaps there are allergies... I don't often get stuck on who is eating what and why. Breaking bread with others is a joy - and I don't even eat bread!

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I also suggest taking the high road, it is so much more comfortable to travel there. When I am asked about my food choices (which is not frequently, since I known as a strong willed person), I reply that animal products are simply not appealing to me.

If pressed, I will tell them that I no longer have the enzymes to digest the 'stuff/crap/poor animal/cow/pig/bird/dead animal' anymore and that it will make me sick if I eat it. At this point - if my husband is there, he chimes in with "Don't Eat That!!". However, I frequently eat out for business when he is not with me. This is getting sick (extreme diarrhea [TMI-sorry!]), is VERY true for me, and I have spent more than one night running to the bathroom after a waiter/server/host/hostess has lied about what was in the food I trustingly ate. I will then tell them that I don't think I want to be sick all night. This is usually followed by dead silence - and then they change the topic of conversation.

I don't prescreen my business lunche or dinner places. I have happily eaten MANY a green salad & naked baked potato lunch/dinner at a steak house when out for business - but I stick to my guns. (Gosh-it's just one meal.) Further, I find myself taken VERY seriously by business associate & coworkers after the lunch/evening out. I am rarely doubted during negotiations or planning sessions.

Good luck to you. Please take the high road, it's very rewarding.

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AJBO, I think Bilby is on to something about it being a "defense" thing---they don't feel good about what they are eating so their only option is to attack you for eating right.

I would let it go a time or two--chalking it up to ignorance, but if it continues I'd use the strategy that Rennegade has and I'd tell them: "You are what you eat. So how's your pig tonight?" (LOL!!! I loved that, Renney! That's a comment straight out of "Desperate Housewives" or something! Hehe!!!)

Now I DO understand the uncomfortable feeling of going out to eat with people and someone in the group doesn't eat (for whatever reason). It's just kinda awkward. You almost have the feeling the person not eating is "watching" everyone else eat...which is uncomfortable, so I "get" that kind of aggrivation. I would suggest at least ordering a salad. (But then again, you said you still got those comments even when eating a salad.)

But here's a lesson that may comfort you: my sister used to give me heck over eating vegan. This went on for about two and half years. But when she learned her husband has some early symptoms of heart disease, that changed everything. They now buy veggie burgers and have asked me about how to eat vegan, on occasion. She still jokes with me about some of the "strange" vegan recipes I come up with, but now she respects being vegan and probably wishes she and her husband had chose to be one long ago.

You are probably young and it might take many years before these folks respect your choices...but the day may come when they also wish they had been vegans!

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I always try to take the high road. I find that if I am kind, I may stew about it later. But if I join in and be just as mean or rude or cutting, I am embarrassed that I let them pull me down to their level. I choose to not let them get to me. Now that you know that they will always try to attack, you can be prepared.

I gentle response is often a question or a statement about how their actions are making you feel. "Why do you feel the need to attack me?" or "I am here trying to have a good time, I don't appreciate being abused because of what I choose to eat."


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I've had some people get all weird and defensive or passive-aggressive with me. I'm convinced that it's because they feel badly about their own food choices. It's never easy to handle these awkward moments.

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Yeah, I get rude comments from people I know all the time :/ It doesn't help that for the past year or so I've been anemic, which has nothing to do with the fact that I'm vegetarian because I've been vegetarian for 6 years now and this is the first time I've been anemic, plus my mom becomes anemic every once in awhile and she eats meat. Anyway, people tell me all the time that my life would be so much easier if I would just eat meat and just a few weeks ago a family member said to me that I wouldn't be anemic if I would just eat a big bloody steak....I almost threw up right there (sorry, TMI!) and I also could not believe they would say something like that to me since they know how I feel about animals (which is why I'm vegetarian). I'm not quite sure how to respond to people saying rude things like that especially when it's a family member or friend because I of course don't want to start a fight, but at the same time it really does bother me :/ I guess the best thing is to just try to ignore it unless it goes way too far or if they won't stop even if you ask.




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People make comments because they feel insecure about the crap they are eating and then feel the need to seek some social justification by group-hunting some easy prey, i.e. you. So pity them if you are a saint, educate them if you are knowledgeable. If someone else opens the gate I don't have any qualms about driving the vegan truck through and letting them know in very clear terms how good it is for heart, mind and body.

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Great response desertjulz. I've only gotten negative comments from my dairy farmer cousin.

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6/7/12 7:42 P

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LOL, Rennagade! That's a good comeback.

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i always like "you are what you eat, by the way how's your pig (or cow)" if they are eating burgers it's how's your pink slime

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Not any more. Most people are more aware now, that it is reasonable to be a vegan/vegetarian.

On the rare occasions when someone makes a rude comment, I politely tell them something along the lines of, "We each make our own choices about how to eat. I choose not to eat meat, you choose to do so. That does not make me wrong and you right nor does it make you wrong and me right. It makes us different and I value our differences."

That's the polite one. If they continue, I get tougher: "Let's make a deal. I won't point out the toxic, disease-causing nature of your food choices and you stop harassing me for my healthful, aware choices."

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that is a hard call, try telling them that you don't tell them what to eat so you don't want them telling you what to eat, and tell them you don't want to discuss food

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Does anyone else get rude or negative comments about being vegan/vegetarian? I've been vegan for awhile now and while my friends and family are supportive (to the point of my mom becoming vegan, as well) other people are definitely not.

I just started dating a guy and he's been super supportive. We go out to eat at vegan restaurants and he checks menus online to make sure there's something for me to eat if we're going out with friends. Unfortunately, some of his friends are not supportive and feel the need to make comments. I try not to throw my eating habits into people's faces and go out with my bf and his friends to eat, even if it's a place that doesn't have options for me and I end up not eating (which is fine, since I'll eat before I go and then just order drinks).

So the other day we were out and everyone was mowing down on ribs while I was just drinking. The guys left to get more drinks and one girl (who knew I was vegan from previous outings) commented, "do you ever eat?" and then before I knew it, it was a pile-on. Other girls started making comments on how I look like I need to eat a cheeseburger and what not. As soon as the guys came back, the comments stopped.

Does anyone else get comments like this? How do you deal with it? The reply "you look like you need to eat a salad" popped into my head but I didn't really want to go down that road...at least not yet. I like hanging out with these people (besides the comments about what I "should' be eating) but I know every time we go somewhere - since I don't expect us to go to vegan restaurant - I'm going to hear those same comments. Just ignore them?

Oh, and to add: bf is really sweet and will change places to go if he knows there's nothing I can eat on the menu (which is why he checks them online). But i get the same comments if I order a salad or veggie wrap and everyone else is eating chicken wings or ribs or whatever.

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