Many of us have learned from a decent amount of experience that it is eaasier to see and judge the faults and shortcomings of others, such as our family members, our friends, our co-workers and even strangers, than it is to see them in ourselves. However, we can LEARN to examine ourselves without ridicule and perfectionism. IT IS A PROCESS! Each and every day of our lives is a study of humanity and introspection. Sure, we all have days that make us want to scream, but generally speaking, we should be striving toward forward motion and PROGRESS. We were all born with future trials, challenges and weaknesses to overcome.
If the term were called relations-examination, the rules would be A LOT different, so there is a reason that it is SELF-examination.
How far out of control do our lives, behaviors and habits have to be before we are "bothered" enough to change? Do we have to wait until we have had a stroke, heart attack, or the removal of a limb in order to change our lifestyles and eating habits? I THINK NOT!!!
We seem to run around like amateur policemen, putting one "person" in the big house after another, or running from one situation to the next, instead of prioritizing our actions, behaviors, plans and goals. MOST of us have come to the realization that we will probably never reach "perfection" during this lifetime, but what about reaching to be complete, in balance and mature? That doesn't sound to hard, now does it? This is our process. A journey. A quest.
It feels great to accomplish something that you have been working on. It feels GREAT. But after all the "celebrating" and excitement, and it IS very exciting, you may find yourself asking "What now?", "Was that it?" and "What was it all for?" My answer to you: THE WORTH OF IT WAS THE PROCESS! Not the event itself. I'm asking you to make a study of YOU.
So, where do we start?
My PHYSICAL challenge for you is to do this, it's very simple.
After your take a shower or bath or just get undressed, look in the mirror, YES - naked. Study yourself, find your physical flaws and write them down, even freehand a drawing of what you see when you look in the mirror. (A full length mirror would be best),
After you have done this, I want you to tuck that away, somewhere that it can be easily recovered and in a month, do it again. Simple.
What greater challenge could we have than to understand ourselves more fully and to bring ourselves into balance with ourselves and others? Well, while the truth may make us free, it may also hurt, at least at first. It may hurt, frustrate, anger, confuse or even frighten us. In fact, we may not even want the truth AT ALL. Nevertheless, if we don't maintain our quest for the truth, life will progress beyond us, and even if we start out strong, we will be left FAR behind.
Establishing a relationship WITH OURSELVES, yes, you heard me correctly. If you establish a relationship with yourself, you will know WHO you are and what you WANT. And when you know these things, your other relationships WILL fall into place. Be familiar with yourself, your core self and be ACTIVELY engaged in nurturing it in directions you want to go with your LIFE. Life will THEN have purpose AND happiness. Win-win!
The LARGEST mistake in self-examination is to confuse your "symptoms" with the source of your PROBLEMS. For instance, physical ailments, can these symptoms be caused by more than ONE source? You're darn tootin' they can! For example:
Common cold or hay fever?
General irritation or sleep deprivation?
Influenza or morning sickness?
These are extremely different causes, however they present themselves in similar symptoms.
SO, examination is the easy part, INTERPRETATION is difficult. MANY physical symptoms may be our bodies reactions to stress, relationships difficulties, troubles with your children, a poor diet, PTSD, or even past abuse. Self-examination is CRUCIAL. Mental and emotional pain are the result of both exposures to life's problems and our inability or LIMITED ability to cope with these problems effectively.
We will ALL be exposed to illnesses, fatigue, lack of respect, difference of opinion, loss, stress, and disappointment, but we will ALL experience them in different ways and cope with them differently. Many people use EXCUSES for the way the behave or react to what goes on around them, but WHAT IF we decide to let go of our excuses and CHOOSE to step to a higher level?
Failure is something that EVERYONE can relate to at one point or another. Some people are MORE afraid of success than they are of failure. Failure and disappointment are universally experienced, BUT success means RESPONSIBILITY, responsibility means EXAMPLE, and example means LEADERSHIP. So why would you pick failure over success? Lets take a look. What do you think would happen if we NEVER gain any knowledge of ourselves? THAT'S RIGHT! We never change our behaviors. If we never change our behaviors? Ding ding! We have the PERFECT EXCUSE to fail. And if we fail? Yes, that's right, we have our excuses to explain to ourselves and those around us WHY we failed.
Often, we want to succeed, but we don't want to take the responsibility needed to do so. People don't like being confronted about how they firsthandedly sabotage THEIR OWN GOALS or that they may have the will to fail, do they?
Well, That is you're next step. Think about it. LISTEN to your CORE feelings.
My MENTAL challenges for you to do are these... It may be a little more difficult than the last.
I want you to listen to your core feelings. Your gut feelings. Pay close attention to your emotions. NOW, write down 20 things that you want to change about yourself AND 20 things that you want to change about your LIFE. THEN, I want you to reflect on those 40 things... Write a full explanation to the reasons WHY you want to change these things AND how you're going to go about doing them. When you are done with this, I want you to set a goal date for each one of those things. Keep this one where you can see it, as a reminder that you have GOALS and you WANT to work on them.
If you are unsure of what you are afraid of, IF you ARE afraid, I want you to WRITE IT DOWN. Keep it safe and reflect on it whenever you feel that it is necessary.
Good Luck!!! You can do it!
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You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.
You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
Your goals, minus your doubts, equal your reality.
You're never beaten until you admit it.
You've got to say, I think that if I keep working at this and want it badly enough I can have it. It's called perseverance.
| Pounds lost: 20.0