Some people just can't deal with money. I think they can't understand that nothing's free in this world and paying for necessities is not like having someone steal your money. My boy's that way. Arg! When it's time to sleep take time to tell yourself that nothing will get resolved in the next 8 hours and you can get a fresh start in the morning if you just let it go now. You have to be persistant and retrain your brain to stop eating at you at bedtime. There are books at the library about how to do just that so you can sleep.
The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.--Socrates ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ *~*~*~*~*~*~ The only person you need to be better than is the person you were yesterday.
Pounds lost: 1.0
Fitness Minutes: (11,005) Posts: 839 3/30/14 10:23 A
thanks ks, I feel awful for a few days then I go on because I know that we have great credit and its because of me. all our bills are paid and some have been paided ahead by a month or two incase something happens we don't have money coming in. he doesn't see any of this because he refuses to sit down on Friday and see where the money goes because then he cant say its my fault. lol. thanks for your feedback appreciate it. we just have to stick together I was actually looking at realistate in w. va. yesterday, haha.
Moodykeys - ewwwww - my first husband was like that. All he paid for was the small mortgage we had - I paid all the utilities and groceries and gas, etc.I was lucky if I had $20 to spend on me by the end of the month while he kept most of his pay cheque and whined we didn't have much blaming everything on me. It's hard but hopefully you can find a way to let his negativity roll off your back - that won't help you financially but may go a long way to easing the strain. You mentioned a breathing machine - I have a C-Pap for Sleep Apnea - same? You could get him back by rolling over and facing him while he's sleeping and the exhaust form the machine would blow very cold on him. I keep waking up trying to be sure I'm not doing that to my DH.
Lin from Peterborough, ON., Canada
10 STEPS TO SELF-CARE - If it feels wrong, don't do it; Say "exactly" what you mean; Don't be a people pleaser; Trust your instincts; Never speak bad about yourself; Never give up on your dreams; Don't be afraid to say "No"; Don't be afraid to say "Yes"; Be kind to yourself; Let go of what you can't control; Stay away from drama and negativity as much as possible. (unknown)
Lost 48 lbs. in 2012 & 13 but gained 30 back!
Pounds lost: 0.0
Fitness Minutes: (11,005) Posts: 839 3/29/14 11:30 A
between my breathing machine and stress how do I sleep. I didn't get much last night as my husband as usual puts a guilt trip on me for everything he thinks is not going his way, everything is my fault. food prices( spending more money on that), mortgage going up because house taxes go up every year( my fault), price of everything going up that's my fault too. I have put every cent i earn into paying any bills we have while he gets to keep over 200 dollars a week in his pocket for what ever he wants. but remember I am to blame. this is my life, how do I sleep peacefully . don't know.
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