Is it really about how you look or is it the unknown of change that he is afraid of? Maybe he is telling you that a drastic change/looking like a toothpick is not for him...but healthier would be OK. 14 pounds in one week is not normal, or likely even sustainable. Most of the process is probably going to be more gradual/subtle than that. Two pounds a week is a good rate of loss to aim for over time.
I was with someone years ago who was really only attracted to fat women...but I think it was more complicated than just a question of looks and taste in our case. At the time I was about the size I am now--big, pudgy, but not huge--just large enough to be aware of my reduced market value. I'm pretty sure I was the smallest woman he ever dated. So there are guys like that out there who just like bigger women sexually, but maybe there can be emotional elements to it as well.
Things like this can really change the power dynamic in a relationship. My ex-boyfriend would never have been "good enough" for me if I had been 30 pounds thinner when I met him. I would have been totally out of his league for several reasons. Had I started losing weight during that relationship, it would have made him very nervous. It wasn't exactly a security thing, but my fat allowed him to be a bit of a jerk and get away with it because he knew I couldn't just pick up another guy walking down the street.
If your relationship is otherwise strong though...well, I bet your husband will get used to the idea. If he loves you for you, he will adapt, especially if the change happens gradually and you aren't putting your health at risk as you lose weight.
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