My part time job is in the sex toy industry, and I can not tell ya'll how many times I have heard women say that their weight effects their sexual lives in a million ways. This is soooo common, and thank you so much KEENIEBOY for bringing this topic up!
Not only do people's (I say people, because men are in this boat too) weight effect them with a partner, it also effects them in their own personal sexuality. Many times people are afraid to purchase a new toy because they aren't comfortable with themselves sexually, which in turn decreases their comfort level with a partner. Don't want the lights on, don't want to try a new position, don't want to act out a fantasy... it happens when we are not comfortable...and it DOES happen to both men & women!
Anytime I am doing a show, I always tell my customers how the #1 reason to lack of sex & romance in a relationship (with a partner or with yourself) is STRESS. What does our weight cause us if we are unhappy with our bodies? STRESS! Taking time to yourself to destress and relax is soooo important in our weight loss journeys as well as our sexual lives.
Take a bath, a massage, meditation, anything relaxing really to have alone time. Slowly start to incorporate your partner into some of your relaxation time (not all though, you DO need YOU time). Take a bubble bath together, let the bubbles and water cover your body and have fun!
Self confidence no matter your size is not just something that is "given to you". It is something you work on and when it grows, you know!
Bombshell in Training
Southern New Hampshire Sparker
255.0 lbs ~ Highest "Unknown" Weight
250.0 lbs ~ Highest "Known" Weight
243.7 lbs ~ Highest Recorded Weight @ the Doctors
220.0 lbs ~ 03/08/2012
210.0 lbs ~
| current weight: 219.0