Wow, my hat's off to you dealing with so many kids!
I'm a single dad of one beautiful 13 year old daughter, so I can't claim I know what it's like with so many. My only credentials are I came from a large-ish family (3 sisters, 1 brother).
I would suggest to (probably obvious) things. 1) does she have friends from school who you can arrange to come out (or she can go visit them?) She sounds like she could use a partner dealing with all those boys! and 2) You could be her playmate. Set aside a little time just for her. Schedule it. Like it or not, you're the only other female nearbye and she needs some girl time.
My kid had to leave her school a couple years ago and as an only child it was really hard for her, it felt like she was losing her life. But I made time for her to spend with her friends as much as possible. As a loving parent, one never feels like they did enough - but even a little time spent with her on her level, or arranging (and chauffering) a girlfriend over to spend time with her, will go a long way I think.
Finally, 10 huh...well pulling away is normal starting around that age. She's your first to get to that point where the outside world begins to be more interesting than home, so a certain amount of that is to be expected. So maybe part of what you;'re feeling is just that inevitable change you see where they're no longer your little baby and growing up before your eyes. Sometimes increasing responsibility (like having her help with the littler boys) may help her feel more needed and important around the house. I agree the eating habits are something to pay attention to.
I hope this helps, and good luck with her. I'm sure there are other with far more experience around here, who can give you some more tips. Hang in there!
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