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Does it count that I got my artificial tree up but never lit it or decorated it? That's all I could do this year besides gift getting and wrapping. I did make Christmas dinner. Since I take care of my parents, I chose to focus on what meant a lot to them. This year it was viewing Christmas lights and being with family who live 90 miles away. That left little time or energy to do much else. The difference for me this year is that I can celebrate that I got the tree up and not feel guilty that nothing else got done with it. That is progress for me!
I have a teen so we do a lot for Christmas. Got a real tree, a nativity scene, ceramic angels and things my husband's late aunt made. My son did most of the tree decorating. He and I put lights and pine roping up outside. We will host Christmas dinner, which I will keep very simple and let others bring dishes if they offer.
You remind me that last Christmas I was very sick and mostly home alone. We planned to visit my mother-in-law 500 miles away. I had bronchitis and asthma so I stayed home and my husband and son went. After being bed-ridden for a week I did leave the house Christmas day to go to dinner with my family. I am thankful to be getting healthy now after another month-long bout of bronchitis. Grateful for the immune-suppressant meds anyway because without them the RA would be unbearable.
Cynthia -- I hope you can have a nice holiday with your daughter and parents. Sorry you have so many emotional as well as physical trials.
I think it is ok that we down-size when it comes to holidays. Way too much emphasis is put on decorations anyway! The true meaning of the season is our gift of salvation, the birth of our Lord, and to remember that compassion for others is and should be our goals. Not just putting up a tree, and hanging lights all over. I have been lucky this year in that my husband and my son like to decorate, so they have done most of mine for several years. And I shop online mostly. Only when I am having a good day, and it is not crowded to venture into the stores. I believe we have to concentrate on our feelings, our emotions, and what we can do, in spite of what we can't do. My 2014 goal is to live a simple life and down size anyway.
Since my son's have left home-I no longer get a tree,but my oldest son & dear DIL have made
a point of giving me some great decorations to take it's place!
"It's not the mountains ahead that wear you out-it's the grain
of sand in your shoe"-unknown
I also don't decorate much... for any season. It is too much work (get soooo tired) to get it all up and down. My husband doesn't care and we don't have children to make it worth our while to really "do" Christmas.
We also don't go out and buy "surprise" gifts. We usually get what we've discussed before. Like the past few years my husband has been into photography so he's picked a lens or camera, or lighting to go with it. Makes it easier AND less stressful.
Private 2nd Class Cyndi Ravenclaw,
NEVER GIVE UP, NEVER SURRENDER!
Striving for VES, Vibrant, Elegant & Sexy
With every year that passes since I got sick with RAD, I decorate less and less. Our big tree has shrunk down to a tiny microfiber tree....and this year..not even that..
I just can't work up any enthusiasm. I know my daughter wants to have something that is Christmassy. up....I told her she can do it if she wants. Part of my worry is that I will end up sick and in the hospital with asthma or pneumonia (which are both common occurrences. ) and then the decorations will be up for months after Christmas. And I hate that.
I'm not doing any baking either...except maybe I will make gingerbread men from a mix. and let my daughter decorate them. Maybe on Christmas Eve if my parents are here I will make spiced hot cider. It makes the house smell amazing....and it tastes good too.
So yes. I'm a Scrooge. I also pretty much know what I'm getting...My family just has no idea how to keep gifts a secret and having the joy of surprising the others. And this year...I'm just in too much pain and too exhausted to even care. I'm hoping my mom will feel good enough to cook or help me cook Christmas dinner....I always called my husband Scrooge. If you can't beat 'em, join 'em.
I find I'm that way about a lot of things. If they take more than a little energy...then they don't matter and won't get done. Fatigue just sucks. And Pain?? we all know about that one. I'm just glad I wasn't sick when my daughter was little...OH wait. Yes I was. I spent about three Christmases in the hospital....for respiratory illnesses. And I was Weak from the steroids....could barely walk across a room and there were years in wheelchairs.....
Yeah. Christmas is only good if I'm at home...and that alone should be enough. but somehow it just isn't.