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Sounds like a good plan, DUCKTURNIP.
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6/22/16 6:25 P

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Thank you for your responses. I was able to talk with a neutral friend about the situation last night, which gave me some good perspective. I still want to stay friends with the friends who talked about me, and I'm not going to change me just because I'm different. As far as I'm concerned, because they are not psychiatrists, doctors, psychologists, or therapists, they have no right judging my mental health. Since my doctor and therapist say I'm fine, I'm going to go with that. I texted my friend last night to tell her that, and that whatever her opinion is is her opinion, but I believe I am fine. I'm just going to continue being me and if she keeps harping on me then I will reevaluate our friendship.

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I'm sorry your friend hurt your feelings. I think it's good you told her how you feel and I'm glad she apologized to you. Some people will become defensive when faced with their own hurtful actions, so I think her taking responsibility and apologizing shows she cares.

I think you should continue to be yourself and not try to change just for other people. Everyone is different - there are introverts and extroverts and one isn't better than the other - they're just different. If she's been a good friend to you most of the time, then I hope you can both move past this and keep the friendship going since good friends are hard to find. If she's always judgmental or critical, then my answer would be different.

I hope you soon find success in your job search. I've heard it takes most people an average of eight months to secure a position these days.

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Howdy Duckturnip! I totally understand what you meanI I also have Bipolar Disorder. People including friends and family can be very hurtful. They do not understand what they can not see. Only those that were around you before medication and since medication actually have any inkling of an idea what is really going on with us. I will tell you that if your friends were real friends that they would be there for you regardless and not so quick to judge. As long as you are doing what is right for you and your Doctor feels it is right then you have to try to let those comments roll off your sleeve. It is very hard to do and I still have to work at this every day.
God bless you and keep you on your journey. Have a fabulous day!

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I found out something very awful about how several friends think about me. I am searching for a job and haven't gotten one yet, though I have had 7 interviews. My friend thinks that the reason I'm not getting a job is because I'm not engaged enough, whatever that means. I keep telling her that I'm very introverted and quiet normally, and that's why I don't talk a lot when I'm around her or other friends. I'm just more of a listener than a talker. When I interview, though, I talk a lot, tell them what they want to know, etc. My friend feels that I am overmedicated and that this is causing me to be too quiet. I know I'm not overmedicated. I am on 3 different meds for my bipolar/anxiety, but I have to be. It took 2 years of hard work to find the med combination that works. I'm not going through the nightmare of trying all new meds again for years to find some new combo when I don't even think that I'm overmedicated! I don't know how to explain this to her. She just believes what she wants to believe about me and I'm left hurt and wounded. I feel like my friends think I must be so weird. She didn't use that word, but that was the implication. I've talked with her several times and she's apologized but I told her that her best of intentions really hurt and that I wish she had just kept her mouth shut. I don't know how to act around these people anymore now. What do I say? I feel like I have to be an outgoing person now when I'm not. I don't know. Thank you for letting me vent.

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6/20/16 10:02 P

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6/20/16 9:54 P

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I stopped watching the news. Too depressing to see some of it. I get the weather from weather,com and the news from skimming Yahoo or MSN. I can limit how much bad I see while still staying informed enough for my needs and I always end a news session with something more upbeat like an animal video or a favorite YouTuber.

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6/13/16 7:43 A

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Yes, it's sad and disturbing. It's hard to understand how someone could have so much hate in their heart. Probably the best thing is to have the TV off or have it on a channel that shows something other than news 24/7. I'm sure people in many parts of the world are sending positive thoughts and prayers for those affected and that's really all we can do.
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I went on overload yesterday, glued to the tv. I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around how someone could commit such heinous acts against humanity. I won't go into graphic detail as I know that it could easily trigger someone.

I finally had to leave my house to get away from the tv and radio, and I popped in a cd of The Carpenters for some mellow music to distract me. But as soon as I got home, I was back to the tv. I did eventually flip the channel and watched the Tony Awards, though, and that cheered me up. I'm going to keep the tv off for a while.

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6/12/16 5:37 P

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That's good news!
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My sister is a little better, we worked together in yard. Today. I am holding my own.

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6/11/16 7:05 P

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Thank you both, I know that it will get better. My moods do play on others, I am doing my best to stop doing that. You both are encouraging to me. Thanks again.

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I hope things get better for your sister. It is hard when people around you are in bad moods, but your understanding why shes in such a mood is a good thing. Just keep telling yourself that you are not to blame and that you can not fix what is bothering. Remember the best thing you can do for her is to stay on a even ground and not let her mood pull you down. That way, you remain strong and keep yourself in a positive position from which to help her when and if she needs it.

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I hope things get better for your sister and I also hope her mood doesn't cause you depression. I think you're wise to just do what you can. Hope the days ahead are better and brighter.

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Today I have little energy, my sister has been in a bad mood for the last couple of days. I know that it is affecting me. There really is not anyone can do, she is going through a hard time now. I hope that this does not put me into a depression. I will just do the best I can do.

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That's good advice, FOXBAY. Thank you very much!!
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Hello again,
Don't be satisfied with getting up at 4 in the morning. Call the doctor again. I have had trouble with my legs swelling for the last few weeks and I'm trying my 3rd medication.
The doctor doesn't know how you are feeling unless you tell him. I find that If I don't speak up for myself nothing is going to get better. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Thanks very much for the encouragement, FOXBAY. I did call my doctor and he adjusted my medications and added a new one. But now, I wake up at 4 am, then get terribly sleepy and go back to bed around 8 am and sleep until almost 12 noon.

I'm just not used to that. I like to sleep at night and not take any naps during the day. I guess it will take a while to see how my body will adjust to the meds. It's a good thing that I no longer work at a job - there's no way I can keep my eyes open sometimes. It's very frustrating and I cried a lot today because I was so tired this morning and couldn't wake up and that makes me feel so helpless and not-in-control. I guess I'll give it more time.

Thanks again for your support.
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There are days when I feel like that too but you can't let depression get the best of you.
Hang in there. There are better days coming. Give yourself credit for realizing it is the medicine that is not working. Find something to do to distract yourself until you see the doctor
or call the doctor and tell him how you feel. Sending hugs and sunshine and lots of empathy your way. I've been there. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Dealing with lots of depression and sadness today. The new medication the doc gave me says to call if you experience mood changes, sadness, depression, or fear. Since those are things I feel daily, I will wait until I see him on Thursday. The medicine is definitely making things worse instead of better. I'm tired of fighting this battle. It's been 50 years now and I'm worn out.

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Thewarrior4 - I can relate to how you feel. I also suffer from anxiety and depression and brought up two children by myself. I also struggled with new jobs and had trouble doing everything I had to do.

Somebody gave me the following and it helped. Maybe it will help you too. It is about anxiety.

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1) Accept the feeling - it cannot hurt you.
2) Give yourself permission to feel anxious.
3) Breathe slowly through your nose.
4) Calm yourself with positive self-talk.
5) Let go, float and flow.
6) Distract yourself, it is only anxiety.
7) Use your adrenalin in a positive pursuit. emoticon
8) Give yourself credit for how far you've come.
9) Don't let a bad day scare you.
10) Let time pass. IT WILL GO AWAY!

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I can only imagine the stress you must be under as a single mum of 3 with severe panic disorder and depression. I have OCD, GAD, and PTSD so I definitely sympathize with you. A couple of weeks ago, I had two panic attacks that were worse than any I'd had before. I wish I had some words that would really help you, but I can only say that sometimes actually doing a thing we dread turns out to be less stressful than the dreading and putting off of the thing we fear. Sometimes there's more anxiety in not facing our fears than in facing them.

I remember being in bed for several days straight once when I was young. The anxiety was so bad that I felt shaky and disoriented whenever I'd try to get up. I had promised I would work a few days at a department store over the holidays and I told myself I had to get up and go do that job or I would never get out of that bed.

I went and it was so hard. I shook so bad (inside) that I felt like my head was going to shake off my body, but I just did one thing at a time and kept telling myself that if I could just make it through that day, I would be alright - and I was.

I hope you're seeing a doctor for the panic disorder and depression - if so, please contact him or her to get help. It's hard to go it alone.It definitely sounds like you need some help in the form of medication and therapy (both of which I'm still getting myself).

If you decide to try to go in to your job, just focus on doing one thing at a time and tell yourself you're safe and you're going to be alright. It helps.

I wish you peace and calm to get through the days and do what you have to do. God bless you!!
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I am feeling so overwhelmed with life right now. I have started a new job, done with training and was supposed to go in today, I called in. I am a single mum of 3 and suffer with extreme panic disorder/major depression. I was working the graveyard shift at a manufacturing company, there for 10 months, and thought the hours were killing me, so I quit and started a serving job the next day. The thing is, my anxiety is so high and my depression so low, that I can't focus, I am shaking and feel like I am dying. I am worried about making it. I am eating chocolate chips and not working out. Just feel like crawling in my bed and not coming out. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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I'm glad you contacted your doctor and are feeling better.
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Today is Sunday, I did call my Dr. Friday. She will get back to me Tuesday. Today is Sunday and feeling better.

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Thank You It is nice to know someone cares

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I'm sorry you're feeling so sad. Maybe this isn't a good time to lower your meds and/or get off them. Depression disorders are no different from diabetes or other chronic conditions - medication helps us live more happy and fruitful lives.

I wish you all the best and hope tomorrow is better and brighter for you.
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I am very sad. have been for a week. Bad things has not been happening My Meds were lowered I am tying to get off of them.I just hope this feeling will go away fast. I do not like being sad. I do things I know I should not do.

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Depression has a way of making us believe that everyday is a bad day. But we know that good days will come, and our outlook will be different. I hope that you soon have all good days.

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JAZZYGF, I'm sorry you're having a bad day. I hope things turn around. Sometimes a new day can make everything brighter, so hopefully tomorrow will be better. Hugs to you!!!
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Susan, sending you lots of comforting hugs. I hope tomorrow is a better and brighter day.
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I'm having a particularly bad day which is really bothering me. I was so upbeat yesterday (thankfully I am more upbeat these days) and then I stepped on the scale. I'm shocked how fast I plummetted. I wrote a long blog yesterday about my life with depression. - please check it out as I outlined the things that really helped. Now I need to find things that really help when it hits like this out of the blue.

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Thank you, FOXBAY and MRSNORTHWOOD - I appreciate the support and encouragement of you both. I'm glad to say that I do feel better now. It's so good to have a safe place to put our feelings and know that others will understand.

Thanks again for your replies - I hope you both have a good day and a weekend filled with many blessings!!

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Miller, you are entitled to feel what you,re feeling. Sadness is usually temporary , and soon you will change your feeling to one more positive.

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Sounds as if it's time for you to relax, take a deep breath, do some soul searching and decide how to best spend your time. Do something nice for yourself, something that makes you happy.

" Your soul, that inner quiet empty space, is yours to consult. It will always guide you in the right direction." Dr. Wayne Dyer.

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Feeling exhausted and sad. Maybe tomorrow will be better.

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60 Survivor and Dreamed 1: I believe you should accept the past, learn from the past if you can and move on. You can't change the past and it may be impossible to figure out why you did certain things or why certain things happened in the past.
You can change the present by doing something positive today and you can prepare for the future. I work on the things I CAN change !

"We are not our yesterdays and are given the gift of today to change." Kim Malchuk

I think at least 50% of how we feel depends on our attitude. THINK POSITIVE !

I have an appointment on 4-19-16 to talk to an orthopedic surgeon about having hip surgery..I am having difficulty getting around and my exercise is limited. My hip dislocated in March. I refuse to let this get me down and am thankful for the technology and doctors who can help me.

Psychological issues are harder to understand but you can still keep a positive attitude toward them. We all have good days and bad days. When I am "down," I get out my list of my blessings and things I have to be thankful for and read it. This Helps. I also baby myself when I feel down.

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Dreamed One - Therapists who tell you not to go over your past are making a big mistake in my opinion. Your past is what made you who you are today. If you want to change who you are today, you need to change how you view the past. I'm not saying that people should be prisoners of their past, who should blame their past for mistakes they make today. Far from it. What I am saying is that we need to confront our past head on and see it for what it was, resolve our issues with it and move on,

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60Survivor- I know how you feel. My therapist says "don't go down that track" but it is so hard! I find solace in religion. I don't always do that right either but I try to turn it over to a higher powder

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You know, I have a lot of things that make me depressed. A lot. But today, I am depressed because I thought I saw a way out, and I thought I could change the memories of my past/near past. But it is hard. I wish I had people who could be with me. People who could understand me.

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Hello, Foxbay...I got my Brass Knee in January of 2010. I'm so glad I did. That Brass Knee gets me around.

But now I'm having issues with the left knee. I don't know how long I want to wait.

My right knee had been going bad. It would get stuck. I'd be in bed, and if I unthinkingly bent my knee, I'd be unable to straighten my leg without hideous pain. And because my knee was bad I was favoring the leg, which meant it atropied while my left leg had to do double duty. All this threw me off balance, and I got backaches and bursitis in my right hip. I was a mess by the time I got my New Knee.

I hurt at Jazzercise, and I have to be careful how I walk and what I do. I'm thinking that I should talk to the doctor about getting a left Brass Knee sooner rather than later. Now my left leg gets stuck if I bend my knee the wrong way, and the right leg is compensating for the left leg. I don't want to end up with bursitis and backaches and badly unbalanced legs.

Ooooh, and I, too, do my research. Nice Dr. Google and the handy-dandy internet!

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Hi Miller,
I finally got a knee replacement when my right knee became so painful that I could not walk and my knee hurt too much for me to push the gas pedal of the car with my right foot. Although I have had a lot of bad experiences with doctors and side effects from drugs, I think the good outweighs the bad. I wish I had gotten a knee replacement sooner. It is now five years later and my knee is going strong.

I have pre-diabetes also. Before I joined SparkPeople (11-4-15) my A1C was 6.5. Now, after following the diabetic diet here and faithfully exercising, my A1C has dropped to 5.8. My blood sugar still stays a little high most of the time. My primary doctor thinks my positive attitude helps also. I am determined not to let my medical and mental issues get me down but sometimes my depression takes over.

As you say, we have no choice but to go to doctors. Before I see any doctor (and I see 8 of them regularly), I research any issue I have on the internet and by talking to other people with the same or similar issues. I am realistic, think things through, and do not always follow the doctor's advice. You just have to do your best with the cards you are dealt. Good luck and hang in there. emoticon





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Laura, thanks for your reply and for the links. I already have pre-diabetes, so I'm probably going to get diabetes from the injections, as I've had many injections over the last few years. I'm sorry to hear about your cat getting diabetes - that's very sad. I wish doctors would tell all the side effects of medications and just be truthful about drugs and about surgeries and the chances of a good outcome or not.

I don't trust psychiatrists, either, although I've been seeing them since age 19 when I moved away from home and was finally able to see one to try to get help for OCD and depression. I haven't ever gotten much help from them, though - all the medications cause my life-long constipation to get so severe that my bowels completely stop functioning and I can never take enough medication to do me much good because of the side effects.

Even though I don't trust doctors, I still go to them because I don't have much choice. I'm just so heartsick that I went through the surgery and six weeks of rehab only to be the same or worse than before. I blame the physical therapist - he admitted to his supervisor that his communication with me could have been better. I think the extreme exercises he had me do at 5 to 6 weeks (when I wasn't ready for those) damaged something, but the x-rays don't show bone damage and I guess I'd have to get another MRI to know about possible damage to soft tissues.

Anyway, I'll just have to put up with the pain until I think I can handle knee replacement. Thanks again for your concern and for sharing your experiences and knowledge with me.

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Hello, Miller...well! It sounds to me as if you've had the kinds of bad experiences with doctors that I've had with psychiatrists. It sounds as if you don't trust a doctor any more than I can trust a shrink. :-)

That being the case I won't suggest a doctor, just as I don't like it when someone suggests that if I just see a shrink and get some medication my depression will get better. Baloney! There are some lousy doctors out there and plenty of lousy shrinks.

It sounds to me as if you're getting the same kind of treatment that I got. Yes, I had the arthroscopic surgery for the meniscus and smoothing down of arthritis. Had it twice, two years apart. The first operation bought me less than two years. The second one did last longer, but I have to say I had a hard time for quite some time before getting the Brass Knee.

And I, too, had steroid injections. Cortisone. Bad, bad decision. Not only didn't the cortisone not do all that much, I broke out pre-diabetic.

Veterinarians know better about this than people doctors do, although I believe there are some ignorant vets as well.

Our dog got cortisone for her horrible allergies. Eventually she broke out permanently diabetic. The vet said that cortisone raises blood sugar, and some times the blood sugar no longer comes back down. At that point it's permanent diabetes.

Our dear dog is long gone now, that was some years ago. But our pussy cat was having her usual allergies, and back in December the allergies were particularly horrible. She'd chewed the underside of her tail all bloody and raw because of unbearable itching.

She'd had cortisone before. Two years earlier, and the vet and I discussed the risk. Since it had been two years since the last shot we decided to gamble. The miserable cat was really suffering, and the only alternative would have been to torture the poor beast by putting one of those awful Elizabethan Collars on her so that she couldn't chew the itchy place - and that would mean unbearable misery for her.

We gambled and lost. I now have a diabetic cat. I'm hemorrhaging money for diabetes treatment and I have to shoot her up with insulin twice a day.

And I did go pre-diabetic from my cortisone shots.

My orthopedic doc doesn't believe it. He is unfamiliar with steroid-induced diabetes. I haven't been able to convince him. Now he wants to start those cortisone injections in the left knee, and I say NO. I beat pre-diabetes, and there's no way I'm going to take the risk of inducing diabetes again. I was able to get out of pre-diabetes, but if it happens a second time I may not be so lucky. I might progress to full-blown diabetes. No no no!

My primary doc, OTOH, is familiar with this problem. He agrees with me. Sure, cortisone will be okay for many people, but people with risk factors for diabetes should try to avoid steroids. I have risk factors and I got caught. But as I said, I did lose weight and exercise and I did lower my A1c level.

I remember Coach Rose hustling me up the training mountain, and I'm going "Beat diabetes! Beat diabetes! Beat diabetes!" with every step as I huffed and puffed and struggled, because I really really don't want diabetes.

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Oh, Miller! I do so identify with you! Been there! Done that! Had the bad knee and the pain! While I don't reject the doctors quite as much as you do, I do say NO and I do refuse things I think are wrong.

I sure hope you can find a satisfactory solution to this knee pain problem. I can agree and know from experience how miserable it is.
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Laura, thanks for sharing your experiences with your knee and your story of success. Doing the Hyner is simply amazing - well done!!! I can't even imagine doing something like that - you should be very proud of your accomplishments!!!
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I suppose surgeries can be and are successful, but I don't trust doctors because they've made so many mistakes on those I love (and on me) over the last 61 years. I had arthrosopic surgery to cut away a torn meniscus and the surgeon also smoothed some arthritis down. The reason I think it has failed is because the doctor said if it didn't get well after this steroid injection, then I would need to consider knee replacement. Well, the steroid injection helped for about a week and that's it. Things are back like they were before the surgery and even worse in some ways. I may consider having knee replacement in the future, but for now I'm going to live off Advil (as I have for years) and reduce my activities (as I have for years). There's no way I'm letting those idiot doctors near me again right now. I just can't take it. The arthroscopic surgery was supposed to "buy" me a few years before having total knee replacement and was supposed to let me be more active with less pain. I feel like they lied to me about the chances of success.


Thanks again for sharing your experiences with me and for your kind and encouraging reply. I really am grateful to have your input and concern. And I am in awe that you could do so much with your "brass knee." It really is amazing.

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Miller! Miller! Now, what is it that has failed?

Just what operation is it that isn't working? Was it to repair your meniscus (or whatever they call that cartilage in our knees)? How long ago was the surgery? Did the doctor say the operation was a bust? And why? Was it a reasonable failure (sometimes things go wrong and it's nobody's fault), or did some stupid doctor make a mess?

Here's why I'm asking all this:

I had knee surgery in early summer of 1999. Arthroscopic, with lasers, to repair a tear in the meniscus. It hurt for some time but eventually I felt back to normal.

And then on March 6th of 2001 - hey, that's fifteen years and six days ago I had to have a second operation on that knee. The meniscus was deteriorating again. Okay.

So time passed and after seven or eight years or so things were deteriorating again. I really HURT. That right knee was a mess. The doctor gave me cortisone several times (and I got steroid-induced pre-diabetes from that nasty steroid). When that failed we tried that synthetic knee fluid stuff. That didn't do diddly-squat. We spent time trying these treatments, a couple of years, and I only got worse. Because my right knee was so bad my left leg had to do double duty which was throwing my balance and everything off. My right leg atrophied and I got bursitis in the right hip joint. And I had back aches because my legs were all cockeyed.

I was a mess and the doctor and I decided it was time for a knee replacement.

I had a customer at the little dairy store where I worked. She said I should talk with her husband who had had both knees replaced at once. He came in and told me that he'd been in so much pain he could hardly function. Then he got his knees replaced and now he's getting around just fine and is back riding the motorcycle with his wife and having a wonderful time. A couple of other people said positive things about getting knee replacements.

Well, great! I couldn't go on with that nasty messed-up right knee.

I got my Brass Knee (which is what I like to call it) on January 10th of 2010.

Yes, it did hurt. This wasn't an easy, painless procedure. I had to work on rehabilitation and go to physical therapy and do my exercises. I'm not going to pretend it was a piece of cake. It took time and effort. And it took time to get used to the thing. I had numbness along and just below the right side of the knee which lasted for, uh, a couple of years. (Some nerves get severed during this operation and it takes a long time for nerves to regenerate.)

Am I glad to have my Brass Knee? You bet I am!

Let me tell you what the Brass Knee did!

See, I'm a Natural Born Couch Potato. I love to drop my butt into a comfy chair. I was way out of shape, overweight, and was pre-diabetic (thanks to the cortisone shots). I went to Curves (I have Silver Sneakers which pays for it for me) and had the good fortune to get a super-duper coach.

This woman is so different from me. There could not be two people who are so unlike each other.

Coach Rose got this aging lazy couch potato with a Brass Knee to do the impossible.

Was I out of my mind? Me? Do this? At my age? Are you kidding? Just look at this:

www.hikerun.com/

The Hyner Challenge is a heavy-duty industrial-strength race over three horrible mountains, 25 kilometers-16+ miles. The Hyner?? [gasp!] Just look at that picture on the homepage! See that guy running around the edge of the mountain on that scary narrow trail, with the Hyner View behind him. Oh come on already! Who can do this race? Only strong young people, I'd think.

But somehow Coach Rose persuaded me to race in the Hyner Challenge. Was I nuts?

And especially being *71* when I started training! And how much training? Um...I trained for only seven months...I had lost weight and was exercising at Curves, but hey! most of the people racing are strong young people who can run like the dickens, not recovering couch potato old ladies who are trying to catch up.

Coach Rose urged me along. There are mountains around here - not as big as the mountains around Hyner PA, but Rose ran my butt up and down those mountains, I was huffin' and puffin' and hustling along.

I must have been nuts. But I'm glad I was!

Rose raced with me. See that picture again on the homepage? I was walking rather than running, and I used hiking poles to keep steady. But I came around that same spot, on that same trail. Rose was taking pictures all along the race, including that place. Yup, I was there, and I was there with my Brass Knee!

I was the oldest old lady at age 71 to race in the Hyner that year. I crossed the finish line and despite being the oldest old lady I was not the last one across the line - there was a woman in her 40's behind Rose and me, and there were two more women much younger than me who could not finish the race and had to be brought in off the mountains.

The Brass Knee did it.

Two days later I got the good news: I beat pre-diabetes! With weight loss and exercise I'd brought my A1c level down out of the pre-diabetic range!

That was three years ago. Sorry to say I'm not in good shape right now. I'm a caregiver in a severely stressful situation. It sometimes/often/whatever happens that the caregiver dies of stress-induced ill health before the patient she/he cares for does. Caregiver stress has damaged my health and gotten me way out of condition. Too much compulsive stress eating has me overweight again.

(And eventually that left knee is going to need to be replaced...)

But I'm working on losing the weight now, and spring is coming and I'm going to work on exercising and walking and getting my strength back (as soon as this severe chest cold is gone - cough cough). I'm not done yet.

Now, how are you doing, Miller? You write, "... I'll need to have knee replacement and who knows? that might be a failure, too."

Well, uh, yes...sometimes there's a failure. It doesn't always work, that's true. Yes, things can go wrong.

And it hurts. I won't lie to you. Recovery takes time, ti-i-i-me. This is a major operation and it takes time to get past a recovery that includes discomfort and pain.

But what if it succeeds? Wouldn't that be great if you got your knee working again? What if you got a new lease on life? It would be so terrific if you could get around again, get mobility back, be able to hike and dance and, well, walk up and down stairs without howling, live a normal life without always hobbling and favoring the knee. The only thing I can't do is high impact. No jumping or hopping or running that involves both feet off the ground at the same time. But before my health deteriorated again I was able to run/jog low impact up a steep hill in this town. I want to get my health back this year and jog/run up that hill again.

Please don't give up yet, Miller! Please investigate knee replacement further and learn more about failure and success and get a more realistic view of the various things that can happen. Please learn more about how good it is when things succeed. Please consider that something really good might happen that restores your life.
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Just here to vent a little because I have no one else to talk to. It looks like my knee surgery is a failure. That means if I ever want to have even a chance at getting rid of pain, I'll need to have knee replacement and who knows? that might be a failure, too. I thought the arthroscopic was going to get rid of the pain and now I'm looking at more surgery? No - just no. I would say what I think of doctors, but I shouldn't use that kind of language on SP.
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Good good good on you for getting those last steps in! It does help, doesn't it, to have things like streaks and fitbits and pedometers. I agree with Miller that exercise does help with depression. For me it isn't a cure, but it can take the edge off.

And I can identify with the chocolate. Chocolate and major stress eating. Now I'm thankfully in remission from the compulsive eating, and I hope to get this weight off. Being fat doesn't help any.

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MAYIE53, give yourself a great big pat on the back for getting out and getting in your steps in spite of feeling so down - that's amazing!! I read this morning that exercise can be just as effective for depression as medication, so you did something really good for yourself!!

I'm sorry things are looking so bleak just now. I hope your troubles lighten up soon and that things begin to look better and brighter.

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I have been in a not-so-good space lately and yesterday was one where optimism seemed not within my reach. Even reading was not working at keeping my mind off my troubles. I couldn't push myself to be active and just wanted to escape to my bed. No appetite for real food so ate large amounts of chocolate. By 10:30 pm I still needed 3,000 steps to reach my daily goal. I almost gave up and didn't bother but the thought of losing my streak was enough to push me out the door. Thanks to FitBit and the push it provided I reached my daily step goal and ended the day on a positive note. Continuing to search for optimism today.

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Foxbay, who was rude to you at Church? Was is your family members? Or was it members of the church? Is it possible for you to meet with your pastor for counseling and support?

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FOXYBAY, I would not take a medication that made my mouth that dry. I think I mentioned in an earlier post that I was on a medication that made my mouth so dry that I couldn't sleep. It was for urine leakage. I felt so desperate when taking it and told my doctor how horrible it was to wake up all night long with a mouth that felt like the Sahara desert. He was unsympathetic, so I stopped the medication. Doctors do not understand how bad the dryness is unless they try it themselves and, of course, none of them do. Tell them you can't stand the dryness anymore - that you have no quality of life when you can't sleep or talk or swallow. There's no reason on earth you should have to suffer so much. I hope you find a doctor who will listen, care, and actually help you. Perhaps there is a nurse practitioner in the doctor's office. Sometimes a nurse can and will help more than a doctor, and sometimes they don't, but it might be worth a try. My heart goes out to you and I will say a prayer for you.
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Good morning-

I'm sorry to hear yesterday didn't go very well. It sounds as though you have a lot of anxiety about your life. By chance - is this something you are working on in therapy?

I would suggest several things for you to do today.

1. Call your therapist back up and reschedule.
2. Call your Case Manager & let them know you are overwhelmed.

These are the two people who will help you reorganize and reduce your anxiety.

Then - find a support place. With your children - they don't sound they are the ones to provide this. A supportive place could be a support group, it could be a Senior Center. Obviously I don't know what is available to you, but you can find supports in the community.

A very good therapist told me years ago, "you can ask for what you need - but it doesn't mean you're going to get it."

Those very words helped me lower my expectations on the people I thought would be there and helped me form new ideas of how to get help for myself. It worked.

Do keep on trying. There are many ways to drive to a location as long as you leave the GPS on.

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I will be 74 on Tuesday and find it difficult to get around. It is hard to explain. A few things go wrong and I go down. I can't handle anything. I can't think straight. I don't do want to do anything. I don't want to be with people. I feel that I am a burden to everyone, including my family. I have a son whom I have not seen or heard from in over two years. He thinks I am too much trouble.
I have a daughter who bosses me around. She is too busy with her own family to be concerned about me. On Sunday things reached a crises. I asked for help from two different for two different things.and both of them snapped at me. One of them turned me down outright and the other didn't even want to talk to me. I don't want to ask for help ever again, no matter how much I need it. This happened at church and that is the one place I feel safe. I have been going to church all of my life and I don't want to go back there again.

I have dry mouth from the medications I take and this makes it difficult for me to speak, eat and swallow. The Dr. says I have tried different brands of most of those medications and they all cause me to have dry mouth, among other things. Dry mouth makes my mouth throat dry and sore, particularly at night. It keeps waking me up at night. I can't get enough sleep at night and I have never been able to nap during the day. I get about 3 - 5 hours of sleep a night. The Dr. says I need to be on all of these medications. I have gone to this clinic for over 50 years and trust the doctors I see there.

I have no one to really talk to. I try to get things out but I can't. I have a therapist I see but two weeks ago I was feeling so well I told her I thought I could handle things on my own and didn't need to see her any more. I have a case manager and should call her but I can't get myself to do that. I am afraid I will end up in the hospital again. Thank you for caring.

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Foxbay! I want to help, but all I can do is try to be supportive. I don't know that I have a solution.

I, too, absolutely hate to ask for help.

How old is old? I say I'm old because I'm 74, and I, too, have a disability, yet I'm expected to be the caregiver to a man of 64.

My upper lip is entirely too stiff!

Talk to us! What is going on?

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Today (Sunday-February 28) has been a very bad day for me. I am the kind of person who keeps thinking about things, like what someone said or what someone did, until those things are magnified way out of proportion and I become overwhelmed. I am also not very good at talking about myself, even when I need help. I tend to keep a "stiff upper lip." To say it another way, I grin and bear it.

All of last week was bad but today was the last straw. I asked two different people for help with two different things and they both snapped at me and said no (I don't ask for help for unless I absolutely need it). I am feeling that because of my mental and physical disabilities, and because I am old, I am a burden to everyone and life doesn't seem worth it. I can't stop crying. Please help.

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Thanks, Foxbay, for replying. As for respite care, here in Pennsylvania it depends upon the county you're in. You can be just a two minute walk from the border, but if you're in the wrong place, tough luck. And we're in the wrong place.

As for light, when I moved into this house I said, "This kitchen door is a problem." Okay, the main door stays, but that tacky aluminum storm door with the little window above was not okay. I went to Lowe's and ordered an all glass/all screen door that looks open from top to bottom and had that put in. I can open the main door and have that glass storm door in place and I can SEE OUT. I can see out and I don't feel trapped inside. Seeing out is so essential for me!

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FUTURELOSER849, it sounds like you're overwhelmed and it's no wonder, as you have a lot going on with work, school and mothering. And added to that, you don't have your husband there for support. Is there any way you can simplify any part of your life? Even if it's just letting housework or other chores go undone for longer periods of time. Taking shortcuts like eating off paper plates so you won't have dishes to wash, wearing clothes longer than you normally would (sometimes we tend to wash clothes before they're even dirty). The only other thing I can think of is to maybe drop a class if you're taking more than one.

And above all, try to get enough sleep (I know that seems impossible with your schedule), but a lot of times when we find ourselves feeling tearful frequently, it's because we're physically tired. And as MRSNORTHWOOD said, please come here for support anytime you need it, as it helps just to be able to share feelings and struggles with each other.

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That must be a difficult situation for you right now. It,s good that you are sharing your feelings here, as many of us can relate to the outpouring of emotions.Maybe you can share more of your struggles with your cousin or another family member. If not, please be kind to yourself, and come here for support and make new friends here. I will friend you and we can chat anytime, take care.

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Been having a hard time the past couple of weeks. I start crying for no reason. To give a little background, my husband is in a rehab facility. He's been there since November and won't be home until April. I work full time, I go to school part time, and I have a 1 year old son that I take care of. I can't afford daycare, so thankfully, I finagled my cousin into moving in with me to help take care of my son while I work midnights. Last week, she had a friend from home come stay with us for a week and she's starting to make friends here, which means she's going out a lot more, and it made me realize how lonely I am. I miss my husband. Add that to my depression and I just cry all the time now. I cry at commercials or if there is a sad part in a movie, but not because it's sad, because it reminds me of something going on in my life and the water works just don't stop. I'm just having a really rough time right now.

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Onicam:
Is not wanting food normal for you? Do you not want it, or are you repulsed by it? Have you ever sought help for an eating disorder? I don't want to say you have one, but what you're saying are some clear warning signs.

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FOXBAY, MILLER and LAURENCE: I don't check in very often but it warms my heart to see how kind and supportive you are to one another. Makes me feel that this would be a safe place to share if I was in the mood. Thanks ladies. Hope you all have a wonderfully sunny day.

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Laurance - I have SAD also. I use a "Sun Lite" 20 minutes a day and that helps. A friend of mine is a Care Giver, like you. In Wisconsin we have a program, with volunteers, who will go to your home and take over for you. This gives the Care Giver a much needed break. I know church groups which do the same thing. When my Mother was near death (she had kidney disease so it was slow) I found that I had to take a break sometimes or I wasn't much help to her. I wrote down things I had to look forward to and would look at that list when the going got tough. Hang in there. emoticon emoticon The sun will come out and Spring emoticon is coming. emoticon . emoticon .

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Hoping for better days and a better weekend ahead.
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Hello, Miller! Great to see you again! Yes, I was trying to get Allan into our local nursing home. Forget about it! It just didn't happen and probably won't happen either for a long long time, or at all...so I'm still in the same ol' situation which has become even more stressful.

The depression is severe and grinding. I have better days and worse days. Yesterday was a strongly worse day. Today is shaping up to be a better day.

I know that this depression comes from a combination of things. I know that having ADD/ADHD is a huge and significant factor. I know that having my life structured and simplified is essential. I know what I need. Problem is, I can't get that need met at this time. If I didn't have this caregiving obligation I could get that structure by finding work outside the house. Now that I'm old I don't see a paying job as much of an option, but there is volunteer work. The Faith Center in this little town has a thrift shop and a food bank and does Good Works. I would head there and offer to volunteer. When I lived in NY State I volunteered at our thrift shop and soup kitchen. But with needing to be able to take Allan to the doctor and to change his bandages and be there to give him his medicine, I can't be able to be reliable on a job.

Today is a better day because I have things to do that take me out and get me to seeing people. And my daughter will be coming over after work to help me do some cleaning, and to have dinner. I'm looking forward to stuffed cabbage.

Even though it's cloudy today and yesterday was sunny, today is still better.

SAD has been a problem this year. Cloudy days, unless there's something going on, have been dreadful, and sunshine has helped. I also know that feelings rise and fall, and when I have a particularly horrendous day, I know that the next day will probably be somewhat better.

Let's both have a better day today!
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Hi LAURANCE, it's good to hear from you. (It's great that the leakage went away on it's own - I wish I could say the same about mine.)

Last time you posted here, I seem to remember that you were trying to get your loved one into some sort of long-term nursing care, but were having a hard time getting help? (I may be remembering that wrong.)

You really have been in the role of caregiver for a very long time! My heart goes out to you - it must be so hard and I just don't know how you do it.

Sending you hugs and all my hopes for strength for each day and better and brighter times ahead.

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Oh Miller...a blast from the past...back in the late '80's I took medication for urinary leakage, and it dried me up from mouth to butt! Ugh! I could hardly eat, my mouth was so dry. There I was with my daughter at a nice restaurant with that nice food, and I could hardly get anything down. I kept taking water with the food to get it down.

I gave up on the medicine since the side effects were so horrible - and it didn't stop me from leaking even so. I just wore sanitary napkins, that's all I could do.

Eventually the leakage went away on its own...

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I've been away from this team for quite some time. I've been hanging out on the Caregivers' Support Team.

I'm disabled myself with ADD/ADHD, and I have to do an impossible caregiving job. I can't win for losing, and my depression is now through the roof. So I'm checking in again with this team.

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FOXBAY99, I took a medication for urinary difficulties one time and it made my mouth ridiculously dry. I had been used to dry mouth from a medication for depression, but the medication for urinary leakage was so much worse. One of the leaders of this team told me about glycerin swab sticks that you can buy at the drugstore that will moisten the inside of your mouth. You could ask your pharmacist about it, but I'll see if I can find a link to something online. If so, I'll come back and post it here.

Okay, I found them on Amazon. The glycerin swab sticks come in lemon flavor. You might be able to get them at Walmart, too. The package says for Professional and Hospital use, so please ask your doctor or pharmacist about using them before you buy them. I'm not in the medical profession at all. But I do know how hard it is to suffer with severely dry mouth.

You could also ask your doctor if there's another medication you could take that helps you as much, but without such severe side effects.

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Not a good week. I wound up in the Emergency Room on Friday due to the side effects of the medications I take. The Dr. says I need them and I have already tried several kinds of the different medications. Only one medication is for Depression. Emotionally I am doing OK but physically I am a mess but still hanging in there. One side effect is dry mouth to the extent that it is difficult for me to eat and speak. At night my mouth gets bone dry and keeps waking me up so I can't get enough sleep. One thing leads to another. emoticon

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OMNICAM - Some days (on the weekend) I give myself credit for just getting up. If you made it to work, I'd call that a huge success that required a lot of effort. Give yourself credit for every little thing you do. Then you can look back on the day and see that you made progress. emoticon

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I went from not wanting food, are normally and had water, then I am back to binging again.

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I agree Miller.. I say fake it till you make it some days.. I set little goals to get me through some days or even some hours...

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ONICAM, I'm sorry you're having a hard day. I hope you're able to consume something to eat and drink (even a little) and then once you get to work, you may find that just getting out and about will lift your mood. Sometimes just getting out into the sunshine helps me feel better. Other times doing something constructive (even if it's just a small chore) also helps. Hugs to you.
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I woke up not wanting to do things at all. I have to go to work, but I rather be in bed all day. My body didn't want any food at all or water. Even though I did stuff I am not able to cheer up on my own right now. I do not know what to do to help myself.

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Ouch, I'm sorry to hear about the pain. Hopefully, they gave you some medicine for it or maybe you can take Tylenol or Advil? When you feel better, you can delete the food you put into the tracker, even if you're past that day.

I hope you feel better soon. Rest well and take care.
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