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1/28/15 4:12 P

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My daughter pointed out to me this morning that my pain from using the recumbent bike may be because I not only increased the intensity but also extended my workout time. She said making both those changes at once is probably what caused all the pain. Don't know why I didn't think of that!! I will go back to a shorter time with no added intensity and very gradually make changes this time. That gives me hope that I can do this!!!
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Speaking of my daughter, she's sick and is having to miss some of her college classes - I hope she doesn't have the flu. A student at her college died from flu complications in December. I'm really looking forward to spring and the end of cold & flu season!!

Hope everyone on the team is staying well - and warm!!

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1/28/15 4:03 P

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PROFRLJ2, I'm sorry about your new diabetes diagnosis - I can imagine how overwhelming it must be along with your other challenges. It's so great to hear that your blood sugar is normal now without insulin or meds - that's awesome and worth so much!!! What a fantastic victory!!!
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Edited by: MILLERISHEALTHY at: 1/28/2015 (16:04)
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1/28/15 1:20 A

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I am happy to say that although I haven't seen lots of weight loss in the last two weeks; my blood sugar is normal without insulin or meds! I have to say the new diabetes diagnosis was making my depression much worse and the anxiety was terrible too. I don't know how it went from 500 fasting to 101 fasting in three weeks but I am grateful that it did. I felt so overwhelmed adding that to my depression/bipolar, insomnia, asthma, etc mix. I am sleeping a little better too. I am taking one and a half 5 mg melatonin dissolvable tabs which is helping along with an antihistamine that is used sometimes for anxiety and insomnia. I can't take any anti-anxietals because they make me cry out of the blue. I don't even know I am crying until I feel the wetness on my face. Anyway, in general things are better and I am happy to be on SP and part of this team!

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1/27/15 8:43 P

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DEB, I'm glad Micah was well enough to go to school today and that you had time with Hayden. I smiled when I read that you love the feeling of a baby nuzzling in the crook of your neck - it is wonderful, isn't it? Babies are so sweet and they smell so good! :)

I wish I could tell you that I'm back on my bike. Unfortunately, my chronic knee pain is worse than ever and I'm unsure of why. I thought by buying a recumbent bike, I was avoiding all the pain from pressure being put on my knees. I can only surmise that the cartilage may be worn down so much that even the repetitive cycling motion is enough to cause inflammation and swelling. I did increase the resistance my last few sessions, but not by much. At any rate, the pain has lessened a bit today, so perhaps tomorrow I can ride again and try not to push it too hard.

QWESTING, I understand what you mean about the medication roller coaster. I've tried almost everything there is and can never get up to a good therapeutic dosage because of my extreme sensitivity to side effects. I've (almost) gotten to the place where I'm about to give up on trying anything new in the way of meds and just try to do what I can to help myself.


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1/27/15 4:24 P

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Hi QWESTING, I'm glad that you are off the roller coaster too. There is really nothing worse than negative side effects that just compound the problems. Good luck to you finding a job. I think that things are improving marginally nationally when it comes to work, but it is hard times no matter what. Dinner sounds great!! Do you want company for left overs? I'm available. Lol. I'm making a tuna casserole for tonight and that is more comfort food.

Hi MOMMY-RX, I know that when I was raising my two kids and their masses of friends, I used the food bank quite a bit. I made too much money to qualify for food stamps, so the food banks were my best bet. I wish you luck on the employment end too. It's tough times out there. I hope that you did get your problem with the online store fixed. I think that it's awesome that you are so diligent about your exercise. I am revamping my exercise program because I need to change things up. I also need to start charting my exercise again. I've gotten sloppy with my record keeping and I take a hit motivation wise that way. Your determination and your motivation are wonderful qualities.

Hi MILLER, Thanks for the hugs and the well wishing. He went back to school today,so he is feeling much better now. It has been a bad winter for illness. I hope that you are back on the bike these days.

Hi ORANGECREAM2412, Congratulations on the weight loss. That is fabulous! I hope that your side effect from the anti depressant is temporary. Sleepless nights are no fun. As a bipolar I can relate to sleep deprivation and it is a pain. Your exercise plans sound great! I strength train Mon, Wed, and Fri's. I try to do cardio at least 5 days a week, but lately I have fallen off the wagon, hence my exercise reconfiguration.

As stated, I was able to get Micah back to school today and I managed to get three hours of new baby time with Hayden. I love the feeling of a baby nuzzling in the crook of my neck. I so enjoy newborns. I've been walking a lot lately and just started doing my Fit, Firm and Fired Up DVD with weights again, so I am very sore. It's part of my new activity plan. I will rest every other day for awhile to keep the discomfort at a minimum. Sending positive energy and hugs to all that need them. Wishing everyone a productive and happy week. Take care and God bless, Deb emoticon



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1/26/15 5:34 P

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Thanks, Deb. Been through both pdoc and gp in the last year, so sadly, I think the advice I got was pretty thorough, and frankly, it's nice to be off the roller coaster of side effects and false hope.

Mommy Rx, thanks for that welcome! Did some yoga, chatted with a friend and made a lovely (healthy) stew, so lots of soul soothing. And I've just started looking for work, so in a similar boat to you - good luck with the search!

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1/26/15 2:10 P

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1/26/15 1:59 P

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DEB, I hope your grandson gets well soon - this has been a bad winter for illness. Hugs to him.


ORANGECREAM, Congratulations on your weight loss - wow - 7 lbs!!! I'm sorry you're having trouble sleeping - I've had that side effect before and it's hard. I'm glad it doesn't happen often. Hope you have a great day, too!

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Hello everyone. I'm happy to say that I got on the scale this morning and I've lost 7 lbs. emoticon I was going to start back exercising, but I was only able to sleep 2 hours last night. My doctor has me on a anti-depressant and it can cause insomnia. It doesn't happen often, but it's horrible when it does. I haven't been able to exercise because I had hernia surgery last month 12/12/14. Before that I did it off and on, but now I'm ready to workout more. I plan on working out Mon, Wed and Fri in the am and then going to the gym in the afternoon. Thank you all. I hope everyone has a beautiful day. emoticon emoticon

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Deb-Thank you. The family is doing great! (Healthwise anyway.) Still no washing machine. Got our food stamp car today. They only 'awarded' us $12 a month lmbo!!! The irony is ridiculous. That will by 1 gallon of milk per week! I have 2 teens and a diabetic. HOW does one work $12?! All of our income is tied up in utilities and rent.

I am looking for work fervently. And do everything I can to fix a major issue that has occurred in our online store.

I LOVE keeping track of my fitness minutes. Right now I have my tracker set to my weight loss goal but I like to switch it to my fitness minute goal each month. I love seeing myself meet and achieve that goal! Keep doing what your doing!

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Hi QWESTING!! Thank you for the good thoughts regarding my grandson. I'm sure it's just a touch of the flu, so he should be over it soon. This is exactly the place to come to post especially if you like to post daily. I'm sorry to hear that you are medication resistant. Do you have a psychiatrist or are you getting your medication from your general practitioner? Sometimes that makes a difference when prescribing effective meds. However, I do know a lot of people on this team have the same resistance problem. I'm glad that you have gone to trauma counseling and completed it successfully. It sounds as if you've had a pretty rough time of it lately. MOMMY_RX has done a wonderful job of describing your attitude. I'm glad that you are using your activity and diet to help control your depression. They do help in a major way. We appreciate you too and love to learn of your progress so please keep posting. Keep up the superior attitude. You are doing a great job of standing on your own two feet!

Hi MOMMY_RX, it's nice to see you here. Thank you for your comments about my Sparkpoints today. Now all I need to do is begin to chart my exercise again for an accurate count of my fitness minutes. I have gotten sloppy lately and I really can't afford to do so. I hope that all is well with you and your family. You are a powerhouse and have a great spirit.

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1/26/15 9:32 A

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Qwesting- YOU ARE SO STRONG! Your depression may seem like this huge cross to bear, but really its a badge of honor for you! Just LOOK at all your spirit has endured and all you continue to go through! You are a beacon of strength and we are all so BLESSED to know you. What can you do to nurture your soul today? To show yourself that you do matter? To thank yourself for being so strong?

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Hi, Deb,

Sorry to hear about your grandchild - hope he feels better soon.

I'm feeling a little odd. Went for a check up with my gp, after having come off antidepressants that were simply not working. All is good with that, no withdrawal problems, no change in mood, so we have concluded that I really am one of those people with med resistant depression.

But concluding that that's not the way forward has left me at a loose end. Just finished trauma counselling, which is what started the depression in the first place, and last month had to deal with a (benign it turned out) breast lump and having our house burgled with everything valuable taken. Oh, and Christmas. Bit exhausted, and while I'm mostly excited at standing on my own two feet, I'll admit I'm a bit nervous, too.

Hope it's okay to check in here - I've found that exercise and yoga, and better nutrition are really helpful, ad really appreciate this community.

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I don't have much to say today except that I admire the strength, versatility and persistence of this team!

We are STRONG because we have been weak!

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Hi Everyone,

Sassy, reducing your work load and taking a partial disability stance at work sounds like a good idea, since the fibro is so debilitating. I'm glad that you have a good and effective doctor you can rely on. It is important that he/she listen to you and yours obviously does. I hope that you can implement your plan soon and get some relief.

Pag2809, I'm so sorry to hear of all the medical problems your mother and her sister's have had recently. Falls are the worst when it comes to the very elderly. I am so happy to hear that all the sisters are recuperating, especially your Mom who seems to have been hurt the worst. I know all too well about sitting by the phone waiting for news and visiting hospital waiting rooms as your loved one struggles to heal. I'm glad that you have a close family and you are all able to draw strength from one another. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that your Mom's living arrangements will be easy to figure out when the time comes for her to leave rehab. Be careful when you are traveling.

I have a sick grand child today. Micah must have the flu because he threw up all last evening. I wonder if he's picked up a bug at school. It is the flu time of year. It makes me feel so badly for the little ones when these things happen, because they are too young to understand fully what is happening to them. Micah is only three, so throwing up is a big deal. I hope that he is better by later this morning and that this is just a passing thing. I have lots of errands to run today, so I am glad that Micah's Mom is home this morning to take care of him while I get my stuff done. He needs his Mom anyway, if he is still feeling ill. He did sleep through the night, so it's possible that the flu has flown. I doubt if he will go to school today. Sending out positive energy and hugs to those that need them. Take care and God bless, Deb

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Hey Gang, I started to share about this a few days ago, but at that point I was so stressed and overwhelmed that I couldn't even put together the thoughts. Last Sunday morning my 90-yr old mother fell on ice. My brother took her to the local hospital, and they sent her into Philadelphia. She has a skull fracture and she had some bleeding in her brain. We went through a day or two of absolute terror, and then a day or two of being only somewhat less frightened, once they told us that she wasn't bleeding anymore but we were seeing some serious cognitive issues. By Friday she was well enough - and coming back cognitively - to transfer her from the hospital in Philadelphia to a rehab hospital that is closer to her home. They evaluated Saturday and I don't really have a solid idea of what they decided out of that yet. To add to the general freak out, my sister and I put off driving up from Virginia once we knew she wasn't in immediate danger because we just would have been in the way and now winter is hitting, so at this point it may be Wednesday before we can make the drive. Oh, and her 95 yr old sister fell on the 3rd (her birthday, no less) and broke her arm and her 93 yr old sister fell about that time and fractured a patella. The middle on is getting off pretty easy - exercises for now, maybe some pt down the road. The eldest has a big honking cast on her arm, and if all goes well my mom should spend 3-4 weeks in the rehab hospital and we're not sure that she's going to be able to go home to her 3-story 200+ yr old house when she is discharged. This is the first day in a week I haven't talked to my brother at least once, I've talked to one sister every day, and I've exchanged emails with the other sister most days. I've also spoken to the eldest sister 1/2 dozen times, emailed all of my cousins on that side a couple of times, contacted the Quaker Meeting my mother belongs to to let them know what was going on, and posted on Facebook at least once a day so that assorted family members and former neighbors would know what was happening. Thanks, I just needed to vent some stress. I've gotten a couple of walks in, a few errands, and otherwise I've spent a lot of time waiting for the phone to ring...

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1/25/15 9:27 P

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Waiting for more snow. Feeling good today despite the colder weather.

Boog- Hope your grandson feels better

Deb- I hope things go well for my appointment too. I will be talking to my doc about going out on partial disability and her reducing my work hours. My employer is really trying to get me to work more hours than my body can handle with battling fibro and depression.

Have a good one

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1/24/15 6:23 P

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Hi Everyone,

I'm sorry Sassy that you have been having such troubles with your fibro. Hopefully you and your doctor can come up with a viable plan that will help with the Cymbalta dosage.

Hi Boogasnana, I have been helping out with my grandsons too. I'm hopeful that your grandson begins to feel better after his immunizations. Reactions can be so uncomfortable for the little ones. How fun to be able to enjoy your Booga for the entire weekend. It sounds as if you all have a great time when he is with you.

Miller, I'm so very sorry about your ex brother in law. It is so hard to lose someone we have known for so long and who was a member of the family at one time. Please accept my most sincere condolences. Your septic problems sound as if they were very serious. I hope that the problem is solved now and your landscaping is finished. It sounds as if you've had a very challenging week. I hope that this next one is much better.

I've had a fairly good week. I've played with and taken care of all three grandsons at one time or another. The new baby's parents are home on the week end, so Grandma has been occupied only with Micah. His Mom has to work, so he is the only one here. I am getting quite a good dose of love and hugs from all of my grand babies, so I am content and happy. Sending out positive energy and hugs to all that need them. I hope that you all enjoy the coming week. Take care and God bless, Deb





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1/24/15 5:15 P

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Not boring at all - I hope your grandson feels better soon!
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Hello all, I haven't been here in quite some time. Feeling pretty well this weekend, I have my 1 y/o grandson (Booga butt) this weekend and he's not feeling so good after having immunizations on Friday. Getting some me time has been hard this weekend especially with a needy little one, he thinks nana should be holding him or playing with him 24 hrs a day. I even have to sleep with him right now. But I love having him and we have him every weekend, well normally on Saturdays then he goes home on Sunday but this week, we have him Friday, Saturday and Sunday and he's going home on Monday. Just thought I'd check in, sorry this is so long and boring.

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DREAMED, I'm glad you were able to get distracted from the depression - looking for little victories sounds like great advice. DEB, so happy everything is going well with your new grandbaby! SALAM, hope you can get some good rest this weekend. MYAGRAVES, way to go on the self-care! SANDY, I hope your medicine issues get worked out.

My ex-BIL passed away on Tuesday (he was part of my life for 30 yrs.) so much of my week was spent talking to family about that and going to the visitation and funeral. We also had major landscaping done (with workmen coming & going for two days) because having the entire septic system replaced damaged our yard so badly. I haven't ridden my recumbent bike in several days - I need to get back into the "intentional exercise" groove. Hope everyone is having a good weekend.
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Hello all,

It has been an up and down over the past week. I have been sick with a virus and also with fibro flares but God has given me comfort in body, spirit and mind to push forward. I am so sorry to be MIA but it is sometimes hard to report in when I am in fibro fog. I have a doctor appt on Thursday to discuss other options for my fibro. The cymbalta does help with the fibro fog but it rages havoc on my sleep. The Gabapentin has all but alleviated my nerve pain. I miss the Cymbalta though because it does take the edge off my anxiety and frustration. Hopefully, I can work with my doctor to take it at a time where it will not affect my sleep.

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1/23/15 12:27 P

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Hi everyone,

Well, week two and the baby is doing fine. He has managed to weather a big brother with an earache/fever and a Dad who had the flu/fever. So far the baby is well at least. I have been going over and giving Mom a break daily, so that she can shower and eat in peace. He is growing bigger every day.

Thank you for the good wishes SALAM4545. We are very proud of this little man. I hope that things settle down at school for you.

I'm glad to hear that this week has been a productive and better week for most who have posted. It is always nice to hear that depression has been handled successfully or avoided. It is also nice to hear about successful programs. I have Micah, the middle grandson, home with me today. He has no school, so we are going to run some errands, then go to his cousin's house to help out again. Sending positive energy and hugs to all that need them! Take care and God bless, Deb emoticon

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Been feeling well this week. Doing a MUCH better job at self-care, though still far from where I'd like to be, but taking steps in the right direction. Literally! I have been making sure to go outside for walks during the work day, and even started walking to the local Fresh & Easy with my husband after work. So far, NO FAST FOOD this week - yay! Still need to work on planning my meals better and getting more rest, but my blood sugar is getting better and so is my energy level.

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DEBTEVELDAHL congratulations on the new baby! Sounds like Grandma is having a lot of fun!

Mylissa, I'm sending thoughts of healing and strength to both you and your son.

I am tired out by this week. Communication was poorly communicated at school, leaving me to "wing it" and cover both preschool classes. The elementary school kids had a lot (maybe too much) going on this month, and their behavior reflected it. Next week is the schools kindness challenge...and right now, these grumpy, tired kids need to be reminded to be kind! Normally, they are a great group, but lately the tattle-tale bug, the tell-a-whopper bug, and the gossip bug have all been running rampant. You know, all those things that get adults in trouble, too. emoticon

I am tired right down to my bones, and that often is a sign that my depression is coming into cycle again. This time though, I am making the effort to keep my nutrition where it needs to be (my exercise has been a little relaxed though, gotta get back to that!)

What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. Henry David Thoreau


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Today was great! In the afternoon I threatened to go down to depression which my Dr said-don!t go down that track which I didn't!t And then I went about my business. I got distracted and then realized I was no longer depressed. hooray! My Doctor also said to look for little victories and this was one.

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We had the new Grand baby on the 12th. Grandma got to go over and help this morning get him settled into his new room. He is very cute and healthy. Babysitting the older grand kids today while the parents go to the doctor with the new baby. Sending positive energy and hugs to all that need them. Take care and God bless, Deb

Myllssa, sending prayers your way.

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MYLLSSA, sounds like a very difficult situation. I can certainly sympathize with the mental health issues. I will definitely say a prayer for your son. But you are being strong -that's very good.
I had another good day. I was feeling a little wobbly. This afternoon but I went with some others to visit someone in the hospital( they are doing well) and it distracted me and made me feel good to do something for someone else. it's a good lesson. Not only doing some thing for someone but being distracted from my problems. I usually try to escape and be alone but also find when I go out I get distracted and feel better

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Amy, thanks, I’m glad he’s okay, too. I hope things are going well for you.


Dreamed1, your night in NY sounds great.


Mylssa, I’m sorry things are so difficult. It’s hard enough to deal with our own depression & mental issues, but when our kid(s) suffer with the same, it’s agonizing. I’ll say a prayer for you and your son and I hope everything works out for the very best.



Hope everyone has a good week. We’ve been deluged with rain today – there has even been a bit of flooding in some areas. Hugs to all who need them.

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Hello, i have not been on for awhile, but my depression was triggered with my sons unfortunate decisions, now not only do i have to drag myself up, but need to be strong with him, he is only 22 and made a decision he did not want to go on, now i am dealing with the reality of mental health issues, the law, and very scared and sad, they put him in hospital, started meds, but moved him into a 22 hour lock up in the jail, till next hearing because of his choices he could be facing serious time. I keep telling him and myself there is always hope, he has another mental health hearing tomorrow (i only found out because i had to put money on the phone system, nobody is looking out for his interests, so always stay strong, and never give up because now he has to face the awful reality of the serious charges he faces, asking for support and prays, for myself and him, and in time hoping to bounce back and be more positive, thanks to all that read, i had to deal with my exhusbands depression, then one of my sons, (both bipolar) then my own, now out of the blue another son, yes it is an uphill battle but one that can be fought over time, with alot of hope, pray, and grit hugs

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I had a good weekend. I went to New York to see the NY Philharmonic. It was great!
I stayed over night at a friends apartment in the city. But I relaxed my eating restrictions.
I have now over the holidays gained 10lbs! This has to stop. Enough of the party spirit! I'm going to turn over a new leaf starting tomorrow. Along the way I can remember the spirit of seeing the orchestra and keep in mind that those moments are precious but not a part of ordinary life.

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Miller, I'm glad your husband is okay. That must have been scary.

MommyRx, What a great attitude. I'm working on poking my inner tigeress for the same thing. Right now she's still roaring like a kitten, but I'm hoping she'll be a really big tiger soon!

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Thanks, DEB. My husband’s car was totaled - the insurance company confirmed that today. It really is amazing that he didn’t get hurt! Thanks for your thoughts and prayers for my daughter – I really appreciate it. I’ll say a prayer for your DIL and safe delivery of your new grandbaby. I know you all are so excited and really looking forward to the new addition to your family!
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MOMMY_RX – I love your attitude - it’s infectious and inspiring! Even though life keeps throwing punches, we can choose to fight back, be strong, and persevere no matter what!!!
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Hello to everyone else, too, and hugs to those who need them. Hope everyone is hanging in there!
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BEEKAHBUG, I hope that you get your meds refilled and that you can get in touch with your therapist soon. There is nothing worse than being off your meds for whatever reason, then having to play 52 pick up to get back on track. Being without the support of your therapist is also very disheartening. I hope that you hear from the therapist soon.

Miller, I am so sorry to hear of your husband's accident. Thank goodness no one was seriously hurt. I'm sure that it is going to be inconvenient to have the loss of the use of the car. Was the car totaled or is it repairable? I'm glad to hear that your daughter will be graduating in the Spring. She has had a really rough time of it due to those medication side effects. I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers that she makes it through the winter classes so that she can stay on track.

Mommy_rx, Congratulations on the move and congratulations on the superior attitude adjustment. Fighting back is hard to do, but will eventually get you where you want to be. Taking care of your family and kids is paramount and you have made this a priority. You sound as if you are a force to be reckoned with despite your depression. Keep up the good work!

This afternoon I am expecting my five year old grandson. I am watching him while his parents go to the doctor to see if they will induce labor for my daughter in law, rather than wait for the natural birth. She is due on the 11th, so that is still a week away. She has had some blood pressure fluctuation problems, but that is the only complication so far. They seem to have that under control right now though. It will be nice to have Blaine for the afternoon. He will have fun with his cousin Micah when we pick Micah up from school.I never tire of watching my grand kids. They grow up so fast that I have to hold them close while I can. Sending positive energy and hugs to all that need them. Take care and God bless, Deb

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Hi everyone! I just read through the threads but don't really have time to post to everyone individually...I saw word about a car accident. I am glad everyone was ok and sorry about the cars. I saw something about a mom being introspective about past abuse. Kudos for her. I saw some were struggling with meds....some were avoiding going outside cause of the cold....

My heart goes out to all of you! I miss you guys and sorry I haven't written. My move has bee chaotic.

I have been taking life by the horns these days. I have finally ACCEPTED that life is NOT going to stop throwing punches. Mercy isn't coming. I am fighting back. I am done being a victim of circumstance and allowing the chaos and challenges of life to decide who I am!

I just don't like the message that that is sending to my kids. So I am fighting back. Being ME Un-apologetically! I don't care who doesn't like me. I don't care who has a problem with the way I handle things. All I care about is results! Taking care of myself and my family! And fighting for what we deserve! I am definitely done taking the crap end of the stick!

I don't know what provoked my inner tigress. But she is ticked off and clawing her way out! Time to put my stamp on the earth! Time to show up to the game!

Am I still depressed? Am I still frustrated? Am I still getting hammered down daily? You betcha. But WHERE is that going to get me?! Where will I be in a year if I continue to allow life to beat me down? I am not waiting around to find out. I am done being life's punching bag!!!!

Whose with me?

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Hi all. I just wanted to stop by for a few minutes. Last night was very stressful – my husband was in a car accident on his way home from work. Thankfully, no one was badly hurt (one driver went to the hospital just as a precaution). The cars (including my husband’s) were so damaged they couldn’t be driven and had to be towed. It could have been much worse so I’m grateful for that. I ended up stress-eating, but I also exercised in the middle of it all, and that’s something I normally wouldn’t do, so I guess that’s progress.


DEB, thanks for asking about my daughter. She’s doing okay. I hope she can stay well through the spring semester so she can graduate. She still suffers a lot with depression and OCD. She just can’t get up high enough on the antidepressants to really make a difference (side effects). Your Santa Clause collection sounds lovely – what a wonderful tradition!


BEEKAHBUG, I’m sorry you’re struggling so much. I know how hard it is to wait for a call that doesn’t come. Maybe you could try calling again tomorrow and leaving a message to let your therapist know just how rough things are for you right now. I often forget to take my morning meds. I used to have a watch alarm to remind me. I guess I could start using my cell phone alarm instead - that might be a good idea for all of us who forget sometimes. Hang in there!


Hope everyone else is doing okay.

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Hey everyone!

Today is a rough day. I was supposed to see my therapist today, but it was cancelled due to weather. When I tried to reschedule the appt, I can't get in until Jan 20. My meds are completely messed up because I missed my morning doses for a few days over vacation since I was out of routine and completely forgot to take them (I took my night meds every night, though). Then, I ran out of my OCD med and am working on getting a refill to the pharmacy. But, I've been out since Saturday. It is not going well. I have really been thinking about cutting a lot. I called the crisis line last night because of it. Then, today, I looked through a therapy notebook I have, and that helped some. I was hoping that my therapist would call me today, but considering it's 7:00, I doubt he will. I guess I'll just have to manage somehow until the 20th.

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Hi Everyone,

Hi Miller, how is your daughter doing these days? I'm glad to hear that she is back in school and I hope that she is doing really well. Christmas is my favorite time of year, so "putting it away" every year is hard. I have a Santa Clause collection that I keep out all year,so that I have a little bit of Christmas every day. I am carrying on a tradition that my mother started and I have several of her Santa's in my collection. They help keep my mother close to me too, even though I lost her 20 years ago.

Dreamed1, It is good news that you are seeing your doctor today. I hate it when I am stressed out. It makes it hard to put a good spin on anything, let alone keep yourself from becoming discouraged. I hope that you have a good conversation with your doctor and can resolve the issues that are giving you the problems right now. Keep smiling it may help. It's hard to be down when you have a smile on your face. emoticon

Well, this morning I did get Micah off to school. They had a teacher's inservice yesterday that I was unaware of. I'm glad that the kids are back in school, even though I love having them here at home. I do get worn out from chasing a 3 year old and a 5 year old all around the house. We had a good time this Christmas Vacation, now we are anxiously awaiting the arrival of the new grand baby who is due on the 11th of this month! I am so excited. Just a few more days and we will be welcoming baby Hayden. Wishing everyone a productive and good week. Sending positive energy and hugs to all that need them. Take care and God bless, Deb

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Today I had a hard time at dinner but now after keeping my mind on the news I feel better.I felt stressed out and as a result discouraged. How things can change! I'm seeing the doctor tomorrow so I can discuss it with her.

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Hi Deb and thanks! I know what you mean about the decorations. It is a bit sad when they come down each year, but then again it's nice to have things cleaned up. My daughter is 23 and still wants me to keep up the tree (it's artificial, so not shedding) until she goes back to college on Jan. 12th!! I'm kind of embarrassed to leave them up that long, but I usually don't take them down until her classes resume again. I suppose I'll be the very last one in the neighborhood to take down my tree!
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MANDIV27 I hope that your good day has carried over to starting your week out with positivism. Having another good day is my wish for you.

Sandy, thank you for your support. I am trying very hard in 2015 to be a positive influence in every aspect of my life. I'm glad to hear that your new meds are working for you. Being in pain is no fun and it's great that things are improving for you. I hope that they just keep getting better.

Hi Miller!!! Nice to see you. Congratulations on that new recumbent bike! What a fun way to get your exercise.

I got a surprise this morning. I thought that the kids had school today, but when I got to the school it was locked up tighter than a drum. I must have missed a school holiday or a teacher's inservice I guess. That's okay. It gives me one more day to enjoy my grandson, Micah's company. We are finally taking down the Christmas Tree. It always makes me a little sad when we do this every year. It will make me feel better when I can get the mess the tree makes all cleaned up though. It would be nice if the weather would break and I could get out of the house to walk the neighborhood. January is a little rainy and gloomy in this part of the country, but at least it isn't cold outside. I guess that I will have to settle for the treadmill at the gym today. Sending positive energy and hugs to all that need them today. Take care and God bless, Deb


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Hi everyone, just stopping by to say hello. Hope everyone has a great week!!
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Hey all,

Sorry for not posting but between school, work and fibro fog, I have been a little overwhelmed. I am feeling better with the new combo of meds. I am now on Cymbalta and Gabapentin which helps with my depression and nerve pain. I am back to my normal hours of work which is a blessing. I am looking forward to the joys and blessings of the new year.

Mandiv- Hope you are feeling better. Keep your head up and push forward with positive thoughts and mindset and you will get through. You can do this.

Deb- You are an inspiration to me.

Have a great day
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Didn't check in yesterday-really bad day. Today, another story entirely. Nothing but resting and relaxing and preparing for the week ahead! emoticon

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We can be the best we can be in 2015 Dreamed1. Thank you for accompanying me on what can be the journey of a lifetime!

This morning is starting out really well for me. I got lots of sleep last night and started my day off with 30 minutes of walking, then some strength training exercises. Now for a good breakfast and the tone will be set for the day. Sending positive energy and hugs to those that need them. Take care and God bless, Deb

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I feel very good right now. Something that I was worrying about I realized was what the dr said it was- a distraction! I got it off my mind and now I feel good. DEBTEVELDAHL I like your attitude. I'm going to take that attitude too, 2015 is going to be a great year.

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Hi everybody,
I hope that everyone has a happy and healthy New Year! I am starting the new year out right with a positive attitude and am excited to see what this year will hold. I am enjoying the time that I can spend with my grand kids while they are on school vacation. I am sending positive energy and hugs to all that need them. Take care and God bless, Deb

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Hello all

I have been doing well on my meds and I am less frustrated and depressed. It took a while but we are to remain patient in all things. I have been working a lot of hours so I apologize for not posting.

Steffy- Congrats on your weight loss

Dreamed- I have been there. I find that praying for them and writing down my frustration helps alot. Hang in there and do not sweat the small stuff.

Onicam- Take it one day at a time. Will continue to pray for you.

Tweety- Glad that you are finding things that work for you. It is the greatest thing to have happen.

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Hello everyone I want to practice being positive so positive things so far today are I woke up without feeling bloated!! this to me is huge I ate the plan slightly modified to my liking with in SP and I felt great this morning, also through SPcoach learned a neat trick and that is to put a good beat on for your alarm and it does work I woke up feeling ready to take on anything.

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I had a good day in that I survived. There is this woman at the place I,m at who really gets under my skin. By all accounts I should ignore her but she is the straw that breaks the camel,s back. I have all kinds of other problems such as my health and what I,m going to do in the future. But I let her bother me. I ignored her to the best of my ability and hopefully I,lager better at it

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Hello everyone! Jumped on the scale and found that I had lost another 5 pounds!! eating healthy has helped my weight and my mood. Not so much my sleep or tummy. I'll get there. Hope everyone had a great day!

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I have been super busy for a while and even busier. My eating is better, but I am still needing tons of help.

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It's good that your Mom apologized. Some parents wouldn't ever be capable of that kind of introspection and would never say they're sorry. It would have been ideal if she'd had those insights when she was younger, but life and time teach us a lot that we just don't innately know and she may have been doing the best she could at the time. I can easily see the things my parents could have done better. I also look back and see things I wish I'd done differently with my daughter (she's 23 now). Depression runs in my family, too, and that makes everything much harder.

I hope your heartburn gets better soon. Here are some Spark hugs for the post holiday blues...
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I'm just checking in. Kind of have post holiday blues, but it's not too bad. I'm really tired though. I also have tremendous heartburn, making me think I've got to get on track with my food. Overall it was a fun holiday. My mom visited. We had a good talk about how daughters don't care for themselves as you hope you've taught them to care for themselves. Instead they care for themselves the way that they see you care for yourself. Then my mom apologized to me for not teaching me to be confident in myself, or to put myself first.

I think my mom has been doing a lot of introspection, talking to her sister about the abuse in thier past and trying to come to terms with it. I realize now that she was not able to teach me to recognize/walk away from abuse because she didn't know how. I've always known that depression ran in our family, but I'm coming to understand how it has affected us down the generations.

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Well here,s the latest. My sister called me and wished me a merry Christmas but she did say that she was offended.But I was really happy she called. In the meantime I talked to my brother who completely disregarded my side of the story so I told him I think you are treating me disrespectably too! But being male he doesn't,t get it and was not offended. I think you have a valid point about my therapist I have a hard time being assertive with her too.! BUt I am doing my best to change and succeeding.

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@MILLERISHEALTHY - If someone is assertive, it's hard to understand why some people aren't. I think your therapist may be one of those and to TELL you to be more assertive without giving you any direction as to HOW to be more assertive in a way that doesn't upset people would have been a good thing to give you.

At your next scheduled appointment, be more assertive with your therapist by insisting you be given some direction as to how to be more assertive.

I've never had a problem with being assertive, so my visits to my therapist never brought that subject up. I do know that she had absolutely tons of guides and practice exercises on every conceivable subject in the area of mental help.

If your therapist finds it difficult to find something RIGHT THEN, send me a Sparkmail. I'm nearly positive I can come up with something for you within 48 hours. In the meantime, you might try to Google, "How to be assertive". If that doesn't bring up over a thousand articles, I will be shocked. Shocked, I say! emoticon

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I just wanted to say I read the posts on assertiveness and can so relate. It's still a huge issue in my life, maybe it always will be. I am afraid of what people will think if I am truthful and I have a hard time saying how I really feel.

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Feeling sluggish (slow-moving or inactive) today. Just realized these feelings are being caused because I keep forgetting to pick-up my anti-depressant from the pharmacy.

Don't feel sad, just don't have any energy - am picking up my meds tomorrow and will give an update soon.

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"The present is what slips by us while we’re pondering the past and worrying about the future. - Ziggy

"The groundwork of all happiness is health."
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"Comparison is the thief of joy."
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Thank you so much for your responses. Like MommyRX I take things till they mount up but I implode. After you,re responses and talking to a friend II feel much better. mY sister is still not taking my calls but I did leave a message explaining that I was being more assertive which I was glad somebody confirmed was a good thing. I will talk to my therapist again. Thank you again


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12/20/14 10:34 A

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I, too, find it very hard to be assertive. I'm usually passive unless someone (like my sisters) push me and push me and push me (verbally/emotionally) and I can't take it anymore and lash out at them. Being assertive, without being passive or aggressive is hard, and something I wished I'd learned as I was growing up. When growing up, I felt I had to be passive or people wouldn't like me. Now when I'm assertive - people aren't used to it and they don't like it because they're used to me being passive. It bothers me a lot when people are angry with me but the longer I live, the less I care if they're angry - I figure they'll get over it. We're people, too, and we have a right to our own opinions, etc. just as much as anyone else. Probably being so passive fuels our depression so it's healthy to learn to be assertive. MOMMY_RX - I like what you said about "softening- your approach - that's a good way of putting it. DREAMED - I wonder if you could explain to your sister that you're learning to be more assertive - might help her understand the change in you? I don't know - maybe that would be something to talk with your therapist about.

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12/19/14 8:12 A

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Dreamed-I am glad that you found an opportunity to assert yourself. I am passive/aggressive. I tend to let all these things happen to me instead of making things happen. And I let it keep happening to me until I can't take it anymore and then I explode. I see it as being assertive others see it as being just plain nasty. I am learning slowly to soften my approach. A very simple "I appreciate your offering to help but I got this." has become my new approach and it is so much more welcome than my typical methods.

You can't control how people are going to accept your assertiveness. Many who have come to count on you always backing down may get annoyed or downright disgruntled by you suddenly standing up for what you want. Don't let that stop you! BE YOU. Unapologetically. Your sister WILL come around.

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I am having a particularly hard time. It started when my psychotherapist said to assert myself which I find very hard to do. My sister said she got someone to help with something. I thought doesn't she think I can do it myself? Aha I thought a chance to assert myself so I said something to my. Sister and now she is not taking my calls. In the condition. I am in I am finding the rejection very hard to take. I am surviving by telling myself put it off your mind until you see my therapist again. That way I don,t dwell on it and drive myself to despair. Thank you for listening

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Your trip sounds awesome!! Congrats on losing weight while on vacation!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Haven't posted for a while. Thought I would check in. Went on a vacation with the family that included a hike up the inside of an extinct volcano. It was a short hike. But it was very steep. Happy to say we made it up and looked around and down in less than the recommended time :). I am also happy to say that I lost weight on my vacation with even indulging a little. I mean who goes to Hawaii and eats healthy the whole time? Lol. And now I have been back to work. And my mood has actually been high the whole week. Happy almost weekend everyone!

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So glad she was supportive - that's wonderful!
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Thank you all for the wonderful advice and support. I know now that calling the Salvation Army or Red Cross would be our best option. I plan to call them today.

Strangely enough I called my mother back yesterday to apologize for being whiny. And to my surprise for the first time since I was a very small child my mother was angelic in her response. She said words of comfort in a tone that told me she loved me and the best thing she could have said was "Sweety, if you can't whine and complain to your mother. Who can you complain to? I love you and you are going to be ok."



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Thanks so much for the Welcome Back!!
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By the way MILLERISHEALTHY, emoticon emoticon

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Mommy_Rx, I know that this is an incredibly hard, stress filled time, but please know that you do have the strength to get through this. I'm sorry about the conversation with your mother, it must have hurt.

I was in a similar situation a few years ago, and I remember that feeling of wanting to give up. I confided in someone (I am sure God put her in my path just then, because she was the perfect resource) and she told me to call our local street sheet. It's a contact list for charities and resources. If you have a local 211 contact, they can put you in touch with resources as well. Sometimes it's just a one time help, sometimes it's ongoing til you get back on your feet.



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