Hi JAYKAE, you have gotten superb advice from Bettie and Lynne which I hope you will follow. I think they make a very good point about noticing the way you portray yourself to others. I don't really have many friends, either. I have social anxiety and don't like to be around people much, even though (paradoxically) I long for friendships where I can just "be myself."
One thing I really believe is that, no matter what our size, if we get "out there" around people and smile and laugh and are full of fun and joy that people will be drawn to us. It won't matter at all how we look. I really believe that. I mean, I know there will always be a few jerks who base their opinions on a person's looks, but you can't do anything about people who are that shallow and who would want them as a friend anyway? People like that only love themselves.
I have depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder, along with the social anxiety. So I've gone around looking sad a lot, and I also have low self-esteem so I've mostly spent my life walking with my head down most of the time, and people pick up on those things. People aren't really drawn to be friends with people who look unhappy like me.
This last year or two, I've done an experiment where I MAKE myself put a smile on my face whenever I have to interact with others. Like in the drive-thru at a restaurant, or at the grocery store, library, or doctors office - anywhere where I have to speak to people. IT HAS MADE THE BIGGEST DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD!!! People treat me completely differently than they did before and all I'm doing is smiling at them and asking them, "Hi, how are you today?" It's amazing how far a smile and a kind word can take you.
Also, I see women on TV all the time who are overweight, but they carry themselves with confidence, zest and enthusiasm and they are loved for being confident and sassy!
I don't really have a good answer to your main question, "How do you all stay motivated when it doesn't seem worth it to lose the weight?" I have a VERY hard time staying motivated, even though I know I need to lose the weight - if not for myself, then at least so I'll be around for my daughter as long as possible. But even that isn't enough to motivate me to make the right choices consistently.
I hope IAMAGEMLOVER reads this and responds - she's one of the Team Leaders and she's lost so much weight and is a true success story - I haven't been successful yet. She will be able to answer much better than I can. Also, go to INDYGIRL's page and read about her weight loss journey. There are also many, many success stories under the Community tab on the toolbar - some of those folks will certainly have ideas about how they kept their motivation when it didn't even seem worth it.
Please don't give up - this is the start of a new year. If you just start using the Nutrition Tracker every day to track what you eat and if you drink 8 cups of water a day and walk for 10 minutes, you'll be a success in my book - baby steps - you can do that and I can too! Let's keep on trying even though it doesn't seem worth it. We may find "down the road" that making these small changes will make an huge impact on the quality of our lives.
Edited by: MPN5621 at: 12/31/2012 (18:06)
"The groundwork of all happiness is health."
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