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Plantago - Hello, great to here from you!

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Kristina - I don't blame you for wanting to climb into bed for a week. I often feel like that. Just to get away from the world for awhile. It must be you and I both that forget to keep taking our medicine I never remember any of it and I've got birth control to remember too! o_o

That is quite the compliment that your MIL said you cook to healthy for her tastes. That makes me chuckle.

That's too bad that your MIL took so much medicine that it messed her up so badly. That is what was one of the reasons that killed my Granny she took too much painkillers and ended up passing away from some rare form of cancer... sucks...

I hope you have a better day tomorrow,

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Kimberlee - Great advice! I should use some of those tips!

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Llama - I'm sorry your observation did not go very well but you never know you could have done better then what you think you did. That usually happens most of the time. I wouldn't stress over it now because it is done and over with I know it's harder said then done especially with anxiety and depression.

I would see your doctor to get a refereral to someone who can prescribe you medication for depression. I know your on it for anxiety but that's for the anxiety. Medication can really help you. When I remember to take my medication it makes me feel better and I remembered it all the time when I was in highschool they really benefited me. My Dad says if I wasn't on meds I might not be here today but I also had lots of therapy.

For your journalling see if you can at least write one positive thing about yourself maybe you like your hair how it looked or maybe there was maybe one good thing in your day.

I hope some of this might help or at least will be of some support,

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Miller - I am sorry you are having a bad day.

I agree with the others that if your daughter has the vaccine for the meningitis she should be fine. I'm almost positive I had it when I was little and I've never been told I have to get another one. I think the anti-bodies just stay within us. Our bodies are wonderful systems. Also, what other have mentioned if she was in the hospital she would have had been pumped with antibiotics and they probably wouldn't have released her if she was still contagious.

One thing I have to say it's OKAY to worry about her she's your daughter the most precious thing in your life and no matter how old she is you will always worry about her she's your baby and always will be.

Don't worry about cussing, I curse like a sailor, emoticon .

Sending lots of positive vibes and prayers for the both of you.

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Linnea - Good for you for doing up a menu for the week. Don't worry you are definitely not alone with disliking grocery shopping just like Miller and you I don't like it much either and especially when I have to do it with someone else. I'd much rather so it by myself.

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Newmen - I'm so sorry that your depression cycle is at the low of lows. I know what you mean about snapping at family because of uncontrollable emotions... I do it a lot...

Getting angry over something like a tablet breaking is understandable even if it was an accident. Those are not cheap.

I hope your three day cycle ends soon it sounds like it is SO SO hard. Sometimes crying your eyes out until you fall asleep can actually help you feel better... I'm sorry I couldn't give you more insight into being bipolar i've never been diagnosed with it but sometimes I wonder.

Take care and remember this cycle will pass.

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Dee - I'm sorry you are feeling low. Viruses make everything worse I find, especially when your already depressed and then being sick makes you feel even worse. I feel like S.A.D is affecting me also lately it sucks and makes everything so much harder.

You sound like a wonderful mother and that you would never reject your daughter you are nothing like you mother. It's such a shame that your mother will not accept you with open arms. She is the one missing out on her daughter.

Good for you to start walking again and freezing grapes sound like a great idea. I just bought some I may have to try it.

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Kristina, wow - I had forgotten about the inoperable brain tumor and the blackouts - using 3 pharmacies and basically abusing allergy meds is really bad. I don't know why she won't let you all do her housekeeping - it seems like she'd rather have you and your daughter in there doing it rather than 3 different strangers on 3 different days - that's weird! You're right, that was a huge compliment when she said you cook too "healthy" for her tastes!

Hope you get a good night's sleep. I took my sleep medicine a while ago, and I feel like I could nod off - I guess I'll quit Sparking for today.

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PLANTAGO, Thank you for the hugs and prayers! I really appreciate your thinking of us. I'm glad you think the vaccine will protect my daughter (I wasn't sure after 6 yrs., but I guess it's a vaccine that you only have to get one time.) I also told my daughter that I was sure the doctors "pumped" the woman full of antibiotics when she was hospitalized, so I believe you're right that she isn't contagious anymore.

Thanks for saying I can cuss as much as I want!!! emoticon I really might be doing more of it now that I've given up sweets and chocolate! I've got to have at least one vice! emoticon

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MIL has an inoperable brain tumor and due to carelessness on her part, she messed up for years taking too many different allergy medications, both over the counter and prescription, that she now suffers from black-out periods. Not as many now since hubby called when we were in Missouri and took care of things with the doctor and the pharmacy. She was using 3 different pharmacies.

Most times, I let what she says slide right off, but this time it involved hubby and I didn't take kindly to that. I also don't take kindly to her not taking care of herself. We have offered to do housecleaning for her and she refuses and would rather pay 3 different people to come in on different days to do the work. I have offered to cook for her and she refuses and says that I cook too healthy for her tastes. (That was a compliment, big time!!)

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Miller-sending hugs and prayers. All will be good. The vaccine protects your daughter and the lady who had meningitis is not contagious anymore after all antibiotics she must have taken--those are the facts.
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Kristina, it kind of sounds like your MIL has dementia symptoms, too. I knew your mother did, but I didn't remember your MIL being so confused. I'm probably just forgetting things you've said about her health before - I know she gets very "vocal" about her displeasure with things, but it really does sounds like dementia when she doesn't know what she ate, forgets Wendy's chili makes her sick, can't cook correctly, and thinks someone else used her bathroom when it was really her. All that stuff sounds like my mother's dementia. Does your MIL have it and I just forgot?

Either way, I don't blame you for wanting to sleep for a week. It would be a nice escape and very refreshing, wouldn't it?

Hang in there,

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For some reason the clock did not want to work with me today. Got up at 9 when I am usually up at 7, breakfast at 10:30 instead of 8:30, lunch at 3:30 instead of 1pm and dinner at 8:30 pm instead of 6:30pm.

MIL called our house this afternoon just really railing about my hubby. She claims he used her bathroom and backed up the toilet sometime this morning. I explained that he overslept like the rest of us (he didn't have to work) and that he's been home all morning as we had a late breakfast and then he & I completed some paperwork for him. He then left at noon for an appointment about his new job. Then she admitted that maybe it was her and not him that did this. I asked hubby when he got back when the last time was he used either one of his mother's bathrooms, his response was a week ago. Told him to take it up with his mother. She forgot what she had for dinner and I had to remind her that every time she gets chili from Wendy's, it always causes problems for her. She's been sick all day because of it. Then this evening, she complaining of a stomach ache and wanted to know how old some grease was in the fridge. I told her that it was only used once and no problem. Seems she went to fry some conch fritters and didn't cook them all the way. Well, out came the meds that the doctor called in and she's one sick puppy right now. I told her I could not clean up any messes and that she needs to use what we left for her. (I am so mean!!)

All I want to do is just crawl into bed and sleep for a week. Seems I keep forgetting my medicine each night again.

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LLAMA, I can't remember if you're on medication or not, but your depression sounds so profound that I think you need some medication right now. Most people benefit most from the dual treatment of medication along with therapy.

I know some people don't like medications, but sometimes they can save our lives. If you're not currently on any meds for the depression, please ask your therapist for a recommendation to a psychiatrist who could prescribe something to help you. There's no reason why you should have to suffer this much and I really think you need help. emoticon

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I find that yoga, meditation or a good quick walk are all helpful when depression weighs on me. Negative self talk does you no good at all. You need to look for and find something about yourself that you can feel good about - big or small. Find it each day and then love that part of yourself all day.

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What do you do when the weight of depression is so heavy that you feel it physically? How do you get rid of it? I hate it so much...

I've been trying to journal but I think it's just making it worse...all that's coming out is self-hate and negativity. Maybe I ought to just sleep it off. But the sooner I go to sleep the sooner I have to wake up to another day. :P

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LLAMA, I'm sorry today didn't go as well as you wished. Hope tomorrow and the rest of the week are better.

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I had another informal observation today. :P I don't feel like it went as well as Friday. I'm really mad at myself for the day not going as well as I wanted it to.

I wish I had the kind of job that I could really leave at work when the day is over. But I think whenever you're working in a job that involves forming relationships with people, it gets to be near impossible to leave it behind when you go home.

I don't like my life right now. I really don't.

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Thanks, Linnea! Here's some for you, too, for being such a good friend!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Pam, thank you very much for your thoughts and prayers! I really appreciate them and you!!!

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Linnea, thanks for the support, encouragement and understanding. You're right, she will always be my baby and I will always worry. You're also right about your mother - the reason you have to call her everyday is because she loves you and worries about you. I'm sure it can get annoying, but It's so hard not to worry about your child.

Believe me, I want my daughter to grow up - I look forward to the day that she is totally independent and doesn't need me at all. Then, I'll know I can finally die in peace and not have to feel guilty that I'm leaving her all alone to fend for herself without being ready. I just want her to have the necessary skills to work and drive and file her taxes and do all the things that an adult is expected to do in this world.

I feel such a huge responsibility - mostly because I love her more than anything on this earth, but also because I didn't just accidentally get pregnant with her. We went to a fertility doctor and I took fertility drugs and we went through all kind of procedures so I could get pregnant. I think I feel a lot more responsible for her being here than most parents because I intentionally and purposefully set out to get pregnant. A lot of times, she wishes she hadn't even been born because of the physical and mental challenges she has. I just want her to have a shot at being healthy and happy, then like I said, I can die in peace. Wow - I'm about to start crying - this is a tearful day at my house!!!

Thanks again Linnea! I needed your encouragement very much. I hope I can return the favor. Love and hugs to you! and good luck with your grocery list! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Miller, I am keeping you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers.

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Miller- She will always be your baby so you will probably always worry about her. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT! Honestly to me you sound like a loving mother. I'd be worried too. I'm not a mother so I can't say if its bad or not. But as a daughter I understand. My mom is always worried about me. Especially since she's not with me everyday. That's why I have to call her everyday. Sometimes that's really annoying, but I know its because she loves me. I understand the worry over her sleep. I think I'd worry too.

Its official I finished my menu. Now to do the grocery list.



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Hey all, I THINK I'm having a bad day - I'm not sure. All I know is that this would be an easy day to start cramming my face with sweets and chocolate again! Okay, so I guess that means I'm definitely having a bad day!

It was going pretty well and then I picked up my daughter from college and she was SO angry! A post-grad student in her last class just came back to school after having meningitis and she told everyone that she still feels "crummy." My daughter cried about the last fourth of the way home - she was driving (it's a miracle!) and I was a little afraid we wouldn't make it home without crashing because I don't know how she was seeing through all those tears!

She was angry that the woman came back to school when she's obviously not well, and she cried because she's afraid she'll catch it and have to miss another semester of college and lose another semester's tuition money.

I called her doctor to see if she'd been vaccinated for Meningitis and she was when she was 15. She's 21 now, so I guess she's still protected - I'm not sure.

Anyway, now she gone to lie down in her bed and she said she doesn't care if I say she's going to fall asleep and mess up her sleep schedule (that we've worked so hard to put in place along with the light box therapy). The sleep doctor told her that if she took a nap during the day, or changed the times she went to bed and got up, she would have to start all over again.

So, obviously, I'm stressed out. I know what ya'll are going to say. She's 21 - stop worrying so much and let her find/make her own way, but she's just got so many physical & mental problems that it's d@mn hard to do that sometimes. Sorry for cursing - I guess if I can't eat chocolate, I'm going to start cussing!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

Miller (say a prayer for us or send a positive vibe this way if you get a chance - thanks! emoticon )

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Linnea, I just now emailed Pam (WORKOUTWITHPAM) about starting a new thread for "Help, I'm Having a Bad Day-Part XV"

I had forgotten to do it earlier, so I'm glad you mentioned it. I wasn't sure whether to email Kris or not, as I think she's gradually Sparking, since her husband's passing, and not back all the time yet.

Hopefully, Pam will get back with me, or she may just go ahead and start a new thread. I'll let you know if I hear anything.

I hate meal planning and grocery shopping, too! You are not alone! I wish I could pay someone to do all that for me, but I'm not rich! emoticon

Hang in there!

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Miller- Thank you. I just remembered that Kris never lets it get this long. I would think one of the other team leaders would have stepped in by now. Its almost like we've been left to our devices.

I'm doing menu planning today. I've actually been working on it for a few days now. I need two more dinners. Its so hard to come up with. And after I find the last two menu items, I need to do my grocery list because I go shopping Wednesday. I hate this.



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Hi Team! I’m going to try to reply to each person in one email and you know how I tend to go on, and on, and on… so I’m going to try really hard to be succinct (at least this once!) emoticon

KRISTINA, glad you got dinner done – the stool idea was smart. And I’m so glad your friend and her family in MD were so pleased – it was a wonderful and generous gift and one I’m sure they’ll always treasure. It does feel good to be able to do something nice for someone!

ANNE, I have OCD and depression, too, along with GAD and obesity. It’s nice to “meet” another team member with OCD, even though it’s sad that we have it. I’m sorry about your other health conditions – they must be very challenging. You’ve been through a lot of pain in past relationships, so I’m happy that you’ve found someone who is not abusive. It also sounds very challenging to have a 15 yr. old with medical issues and a 3 yr. old besides. I’m sorry your day was so bad yesterday and I’m also sorry that you feel they’re not there for you. I wonder if it’s possible that they think giving you food will make you feel better and (in their minds) is somehow “caring” for you? Hang in there and keep in touch! emoticon

LINNEA, I’m sorry your mom keeps bringing desserts over – I wonder if (like I suggested to Anne) somehow your mom thinks giving you food is “caring” for you? One of us could Spark mail one of the leaders and ask them about the 1000 message thing. I’ll do it (if I can remember) and I’ll let you know what they say. It would be a shame if it kept anyone off the thread. Thanks for remembering that.

CANDICE, thanks for the encouragement! I’m trying to do just what you said – one day at a time! I’m glad the MIL and BF have been good – and I’m sure the extra sleep helped you.

DEE, it’s so good to hear from you – I was just thinking of you over the weekend and wondering how you’re doing. I’m sorry you’ve had a virus and the SAD came back, but I’m glad it’s not as bad as other years. Can’t believe your mum is still so steadfast in her anger at you. I don’t know why she would believe you never cared for her and want to cause trouble – I know you well enough from your posts here to know that you’re not that kind of person. I believe you’re right to leave it in God’s hands – he has the power to change hearts and, hopefully, hers will gradually soften and one day she will welcome you with open arms.
I’m grateful that you and your daughter have such a wonderful relationship. I’m sure you’re nothing like your mum and would never reject her! I’ll say a prayer for you and hope that your depression soon lifts. Hugs and blessings!!! emoticon emoticon
PS – I am still eating fruit and it’s working well, as I’ve never eaten enough fruit servings before in my meal plan. I’ve heard frozen grapes are delicious and I imagine orange segments would be, too. Congrats on starting to walk again. That’s great!

NEWMEN2013, My heart goes out to you, as I can hear the pain in your post. I’m sorry the bipolar is so controlling right now – keep posting here to get encouragement and support to help you get through the 3 day cycle. We’re here for you and we care. I think it’s natural to get upset when our child breaks something (especially something expensive) even if it was just an accident – we’re only human and sometimes our emotions get the best of us. My husband is like yours in that sometimes when I’m upset, he just “disengages” and leaves me to “stew in my own juices” when what I’d really like is someone to talk with and help me. Just know that we’re always here and we’ll be happy to listen, give you a shoulder to cry on, and encourage you as best we can. I hope you feel better soon! Blessings & hugs! emoticon emoticon

HUGS emoticon to everyone else – I hope I didn’t forget anybody that I haven’t already replied to. You’re all in my thoughts and I’m wishing you a happy day! emoticon

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I think I hit the bottom of the depression cycle. I tell myself there is nowhere to go but up; I hope that's true because I can't handle going any further down. The worst part is when I snap at my family because my emotions are so out of control. Last night I yelled at both the boys -- first Eric for breaking his brand new Android Tablet which I'm sure was an accident and I was probably more angry with myself because if I had been watching closer it might not have happened, then at William for yelling that it was all his fault even though he was nowhere near because he didn't keep an eye on his brother (I just didn't need to deal with William and having to comfort him when he had nothing to do with the situation! We go through this all the time with him). Then my husband and I started snapping at each other and he wound up just going to bed which honestly annoyed me because I was clearly upset and he didn't care enough to try and talk to me or to try and help.
I know I'm blowing things out of proportion and I know the bipolar is controlling me instead of the other way around. It's just a 3 day cycle generally so if I can just hang on for a couple of days, I know I'll be at the top of the roller coaster and feeling no pain. It's just getting through these few days that seems so hard. Honestly, I'd like to cry my eyes out until I fall asleep and not face the world until this stage passes.
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Hiya team, loads going on here at the moment. Welcome to new team members, you are very welcome here.

Didn't go to church yesterday as been down with a virus. It's affected the way I am feeling and sad has shown its face this weekend and today. Definitely not as bad as other years though.

Rang my mum and she is still really mad at me and said she wouldn't let me in if I visited her house. She is convinced that I have never cared for her and only want to cause trouble. It saddens me a lot but there isn't anything I can do or say to change her mind. I'm leaving it in God's hands as this is something that can easily lead to deep depression.

I'm being so thankful for the home that C. and I have and the love and understanding that we have. I hope I am nothing like my mum and would never reject C. the way that I have been rejected. Feeling low team.

Thinking of you all my friends, you give me comfort knowing you are there, thank you.

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Miller, good for you!! I love chocolate and sweet stuff and would like to control my intake. Are you still eating fruit? I'm planning to substitute fruit for sweets for a while to see how I get on. Maybe even freeze grapes and orange segments. Let me know how you are getting on and I will do the same. PS started walking yesterday and this morning for the first time in quite a few weeks.

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Anne - emoticon to the team. I'm sorry you've had to go through so much. Also, I'm sorry you've had such a bad day. I find depression can distort our way of thinking that we think people don't care about us or that the world is against us but it's really not we just think it is. Trust me I know it's hard to even think of one positive thing on those rough days. I know how you feel about wanting to drink, trying to use it as an escape. You are very right though all our problems will still be there the next day.

Remember anytime you need encouragement or support don't be afraid to post. On this team we are all friends and everyone supports each other.

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Kristina - I'm sorry everything in your body is acting up. That must be really painful.

I'm glad you got enough energy to fix something for dinner and the stool was a great idea. I don't blame you for wanting to do the dishes yourself I'd rather just have them done right in the first place rather then having to wash them all over again before a meal.

That's so great that your friend in MD loved the gift you sent to her she sounded like she was just beside herself.

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Same - I'm glad your neck is feeling better, your chiropractor sounds like he is good.

It's such a same that your selfish boy would sell all your equipment not only did you probably get anything for it but now you have the added expense of having to maintain your driveway...

Hopefully your lady gets out of the hospital soon so you can get some work.

That ham sounds really good and i'm not even much of a meat eater. That's such a waste that your MIL will just toss the ham instead of asking you if you could use it for left overs.

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Luann - I'm sorry you haven't been doing well the last few days. It's terrible when you can't put your finger on what's wrong, I always have that problem...

I hope you feel better.

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Linnea - I'm glad you are doing okay. Much better then not doing okay. It's okay to indulge in some sweets once in awhile. Don't beat yourself up over it.

You make a good point with the the Bad Day thread. I don't know if those with slower modems would have trouble loading this page but I do think it only goes one page at a time. I'm not sure.

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Miller - You have been doing great on your sugar and chocolate cravings! One day at a time. emoticon

The MIL and the BF have been doing good today. I've been mostly keeping quiet anyways, but I also slept most the day after my night of a bottle of wine.

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Anne- I'm so sorry you have had to suffer so. My mother helps in feeding me bad things too. And oddly enough I let her get away with it. I'm not a dessert person but every Saturday she comes with dessert and I eat it.

You guys I was thinking. Doesn't Kris or one of the other Team Leaders start a new Bad Day message when we get to the 1000's? I noticed that we're almost up to the 2000. I wonder how those with slower modems are doing loading this page. I hope its not keeping people off.



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Thank you for the warm welcome, I suffer from depression, OCD, along with heart disease, strokes, cancer and obesity.
I've been married twice number 1 hubby was great until we had our son then became very abusive, he also drank all the time, was with him for 11 yrs, had to move 4hrs away just so he wouldn't have the control over me like he has over his ex wife. Hubby 2 was a alcoholic and a drug addict even thou he was clean for 3 yrs he was very abusive towards me and my son, I feel so alone at times it was a rough breakup resulting in tons of police and courts worst part is he tried to kill me and my son, funny he only lives 30 mins away from me now, but I'm always looking over my shoulder. Now I have this lovely boyfriend who never raises his voice or anything and my 15yr old son who has tons of medical issues himself, and my 3 yr old girl, I am most days inside don't move sad I cry all the time, irratibility has gotten the best of me. Today was a very bad day as I feel my family is fully against me ever getting better, I really just want to drink all my problems away but main fact is they are still there come tomorrow, I'm just a very blunt person that doesnt understand why my family would not be there for me through depression and obesity but they have no problem helping shove food in my face every chance they get.

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Welcome Anne. This is a great group. Feel free to chime in at anytime. We're happy to help.



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Well - what I had for dinner was nothing anyone else could fix. I did get the energy enough to cook but luckily, I put a stool in the kitchen and sat for most of the time. Now, I am resting again before I do the dishes. I would have my mother do them, but I don't feel like washing them again before we use them, and I've done that for 3 days already.

My deaf friend in MD got the box I sent and called me on my VP (video phone) and was in tears. She was so happy and her son was freaking out about his mother crying and laughing at the same time. Her husband got home and took one look at the glasses and freaked out. He had looked online and found something like the ones I sent her and just for a set of 6 they were $500 and I sent her a set of 7. Originally it was 12, but over the years 3 broke. then with our move from Missouri and then 3 years in the garage, 2 more broke. These were antique (over 100 years old) etched crystal wine glasses. They came from my maternal grandparents. My uncle just let me know they were from England, by way of Australia, to the US. This friend and her hubby are just totally speechless that I would send them something like that. She's already thinking of how to have me come for a visit, but knows my family situation too well. Feels good to do something nice for someone.

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Hi Anne! Welcome to this topic/thread. "Help, I'm Having a Bad Day" is a very active thread and a very supportive one, as well. We'll be glad to support and encourage you in any way we can.

You're right - depression does suck!!! And it really helps to have this forum to come to and let others know how you're doing and what you're feeling. Share as little or as much as you like and feel free to post any time. We're very glad to have you here!

Keep in touch - we look forward to getting to know you! emoticon

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Anne - Depression does suck and that's a great way to put it. This is a wonderful group of people who are great at helping each other out. Please join in and join in on all our little discussions. There is a lot going on and we welcome you whole-heartily.

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Hi Everyone I'm not sure if I'm doin this right or if I'm in the wrong place but if I am please just tell me, I'm obviously new, lol , wonder why I even said that. Having depression sucks and I always seem like I'm having bad days guess having a place to voice what I'm going through is definately what I think I need. By the looks of this thread you all are very friendly and that is good.
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emoticon Yea! Linnea - you danced!!! That is so emoticon !!!

You should be really proud of yourself - I am!!! I think it's great!!!

I've got to start remembering that dancing is an option for my exercise - I keep forgetting that! And really it's the most fun thing I can think of doing - that I'm still physically able to do!

Being a colorist for animation would be cool - my daughter has a friend at school who is majoring in art and wants to do something with animation (like my daughter, she's really into anime, so she'd probably love to do something with that).

I don't think being a colorist would be beneath you - but I just thought that you might think my idea of a "coloring book" would be too juvenile for your talent. My coloring book is pretty cool, though. I also got my daughter a Japanese drawings "coloring book" as she loves everything Japanese!

I hope you do get to draw some tomorrow - I might color some more butterflies tonight! emoticon (It sounds funny when I say it, but it is relaxing!)

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Miller- I don't if coloring is beneath my talent or not. I thought about being a colorist for animation at one time. I haven't sat down to draw in a few days so I haven't tried abstracts yet. I did finally after months of not doing so, danced. Just a couple songs worth. But its better than nothing. Maybe I'll try drawing again tomorrow.



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Kristina, I'm really sorry you're having such a bad day. Wow - your symptoms don't sound good. Could your son and daughter help you fix dinner at all? And I know this probably sounds crazy - I can't remember how old he is - but could you tell your son what to put on the work papers and let him fill them out? (I guess it depends on his age and penmanship, but honestly it probably wouldn't matter about the penmanship). My daughter's writing is not very pretty, as she has cartilage tumors on her hands due to the Ollier's. Some have been removed, but some haven't and it's hard for her to write a lot due to pain.

I wish I lived next door - I'd come over and cook your dinner for you. If you've got something frozen that you can "nuke" in the microwave, go that route or just have everyone make sandwiches??? I don't know if that would fit all the different dietary restrictions & requirements your family has or not, though.

I'll be thinking of you and wishing you well! emoticon

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I am having a day that I just have no energy. I am getting cold so easily and I never get cold. I tried to help hubby work on some paperwork for his new job and my carpal tunnel really got bad and not only was my hand gone, but so was my arm, more than usual. I can't stand for more than 5 minutes without my legs burning something fierce. Sitting here in my desk chair and my feet are swelling up big time. My knee has gone out about 5 times today and I am almost too afraid to try and cook dinner. Hubby and son went to buy lunch so I didn't have to cook, but dinner is a different story.

Hubby can't do this paperwork on his own due to his memory issues and brain damage, so I have to do it. Mom has been quietly knitting, napping and doing her laundry. Daughter is in her room and hasn't come out except for lunch which was her breakfast. Son was on my computer, but is now back in his room. Even the animals are kind of lazy today.

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SAME, you and Kim make me want to take my dentists advice and see the chiropractor. I grind my teeth at night and always wake up with painful jaws, neck, and shoulders - they are SO tight all the time. I have a custom-made mouth guard that I'm supposed to wear at night, but I just can't stand it so I don't use it - I should - but a couple of times I woke up hurting worse after wearing it. Anyway, if a chiropractor could help me with the tight muscle tension in my shoulders, neck and jaw, I should go. I don't know if my health insurance would pay anything on it, but it would be worth the money just to be "limbered up" and pain free for a while!

I still can't believe your son sold all that stuff that you need to work on the driveway with. If my sister's son did that, I don't know what we'd do!

The ham sounds really good! I can almost smell it all the way from NC! emoticon Well, at least I can imagine what it smells like - I love ham. I don't blame you for being bothered when they waste food - that's terrible - as hard as you work, it looks like they would think of you and your younger son and ask if you want it before they toss it - that's such a waste!

Hope your lady gets out of the hospital and you can get some works hours soon - I'm sure it's been frustrating since it's "no work - no pay."

Hope you have a good week!

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LUANN, I'm so sorry things are difficult for you the last few days. I know it's a bad feeling, especially when you just can't put your finger on what's wrong. It's probably good that you took the valium. I take valium (well, generic valium - diazepam) to help me sleep, but my psychiatrist has the prescription written such that I can take an extra one every day if I need to. The refills always "time out" instead of "running out" because I hardly ever have to use one in the daytime. Although, now that I think about it, I'm scared ALL the time and "unsettled" (like you said - that's a perfect description of how I feel) so maybe I should take it more often.

I don't have bipolar, but I do have OCD, GAD, and depression. Some days my anxiety is so bad that I feel like something bad is going to happen - but I just try to reassure myself that it's the anxiety and that everything is okay.

Does it help your nervousness if you exercise? I was just wondering if a brisk walk outdoors would help. Don't know where you live, though, and it's starting to get dark at my house. (I don't walk alone at night.)

Hopefully, some of our team members that have bipolar can reply and let you know what helps them with their depression. I hope tomorrow is a better and brighter day for you!!! emoticon

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Hey Linnea! It's good to hear from you! I was thinking about you last night. My husband was trying to "draw" on his Ipad and I was wondering just how detailed and professional a person could make something like that look - his didn't look very good, but he was just playing around. I told him the shaded areas looked good (he was using his index finger), but that if he really wanted to draw, I thought he would need a stylus or something.

I can't remember if I told you, but I bought myself a "coloring book" for Christmas and some colored pencils. Not the kids kind, but the kind they have for teens/adults in Michael's craft store art dept. I remembered that coloring made me feel happy when I was a child, so I thought I'd give it a whirl as an adult! I've started on a page of butterflies and it's fun because there's no pressure. I wonder if just doing something rudimentary like that just for fun would get your "muse" back... I don't know - it's just a thought (I know that "coloring" is beneath your talent), but sometimes I think it's fun to do easy stuff. I used to like to watercolor paint with my daughter when she was little. It was fun, too.

Don't worry about eating the candy - everyone has days like that. emoticon

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CANDICE, I'm sorry you're not feeling well. I used to drink "recreationally" for a few years when I was younger. That was back in the late 60's early 70's (hippies! LOL!) I thought I was one!!! Wine always made me sick - I don't know why (maybe because what we were drinking was cheap wine!), so I can imagine how bad you feel. I don't miss those days at all. I know people who are my age and still drink, but I'm not really supposed to with my medications, plus I just don't care for it. There have been a very few times over the years that I got so depressed and/or angry that I would tell my husband, "I just wish I could get drunk!" I'm sure that's why you drank so much last night - because you were angry with your MIL and BF. It's a way of escaping and trying to feel better, but of course it doesn't last long and then you're left with a hangover. I hope you feel better tomorrow - I was really hoping your MIL & BF would behave this weekend so you could get some peace and have fun instead of stress.

Thanks for having my back with the sugar & chocolate - so far, so good. I've had some times yesterday and today that I REALLY wanted it, but I just had some fruit or coffee instead. I've been such a slave to sugar & chocolate so long that I just want to break the chains and be free of it!!! Thanks for saying you're proud of me - that makes me feel good! emoticon My parents never said stuff like that when I was growing up, emoticon so hearing it makes me happy! emoticon

Well, hopefully your BF and MIL will act a little nicer today and tonight - I hope so!

Take care, emoticon

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Karm - I love my chiropractor... He is a hands on type, no need for x rays and meds and all that stuff... i have been to him when i have literally crawled into his office and walked out on my own steam... do not feel like my bones are grinding together in my neck... and the tension in my shoulders and jaw is gone. My back from shoulders to lower back is still sore, but i think that is due to my inactivity. To much sitting and not moving. Even with the warmer weather it is so messy outside to be out there.

Finally all the snow and ice is gone, but thanks to the thaw i now have no gravel at all except at the edges.. I think i need to have equipment brought in to work on the drive before i even consider laying down gravel.... but who can afford that. Well not this girl. To bad to cause at one time we had dozers and graders, and big farm tractors that coulda been used instead of having to pay someone else to do it.... what a shame. to bad i can't quit thinking about the mess this farm is in thanks to a selfish boy.... i give up...

Not sure if i will get to work tomorrow or not... heard nothing from office .. but did hear from my ladies daughter, i guess she had a minor heart attack and has pnuemonia.... she might get out of the hospital tomorrow... idk..

I fixed a tavern ham today for m.i.l. since their oven is broke, supposedly thanks to my boy. I wasn't there so i don't know. i need to go down and try to get the element out so i can take it in and try to get a replacement for them... then they can do there own cooking again. i don't mind i guess..... and on a good note i did get a big chunk of the ham... i thought that was nice...
week or so ago i fixed a turkey breast for them, they didn't even eat half of it. and instead of offering it to me and they boy they just threw it away... i never seen people more wasteful of food then them.... what a shame.. I probably coulda had 2 or 3 dinners out of what they threw away. will probably be the same with the ham i took down... they will have couple of sandwhiches and toss the rest..... tavern hams are so expensive.... wow... oh well i guess, it shouldn't bother me, but for some reason it does..
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Anyway, i need to give my mom a call, and feed the dog yet... and put the ham away, and fold a load of laundry.... well you get the picture..... lol... so i better get at it..

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I HAVE BI-POLAR AND HAVE BEEN DOING WELL BUT YESTERDAY AND TODAY I AM SO UNSETTLED AND DOWN-I JUST HATE THIS FEELING AND I AM SHORT WITH EVERYONE. I AM SO NERVOUS I COULD FLY AND I JUST TOOK A VALIUM TO CALM MYSELF. I GOTTA GET RID OF THIS DEPRESSION SO I DONT FALL BACKWARDS AFTER DOING SO WELL. EVERYTHING IS GOING OK I JUST CANT PUT MY FINGER ON WHAT IS WRONG. emoticon

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Hello Everyone! I'm just checking in I haven't done so in a day or so. I've been doing alright I guess. My MIL and BF made me really angry last night and I just flipped. That was before a party I went to then I got to the party and ended up drinking a whole bottle of wine. Long story short I ended up getting sick because I am not used to drinking a lot of alcohol. I barely drink. So i'm not feeling so hot today.

Miller - We will have your back with getting over your sugar addiction. I had a thought that maybe since you like sweets there are diabetic candies. I don't know how good they are for you but my Gram used to get them for my Papa. Good job on redirecting your chocolate craving too. I'm so proud of you!

Llama - I'm sorry that your therapy is frustrating you. That's the thing with us humans we want an instant fix but a lot of the time it doesn't work that way.

Same - Glad you went to the chiroprator I hope it helps your neck in the long run.

Plantago - Sorry that your hand is bugging you. It is for the best you get your appointments for your hand as soon as you can you wouldn't want it to get worse. Especially since you can't do hobbies of yours like crafts which you enjoy.

Kimberlee - That is really weird when things happen parelle to each other like your relationship with the BF being on the fritz and then your ex-husband messaging you on facebook. I would maybe see a doctor about your decreased lung function just to make sure it's nothing too serious.

I hope I didn't miss anyone I got reading through all the post from the last day or so and used my memory to try and remember to respond. If I did miss you i'm sorry and I didn't mean too.

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Wow - after 20 years, I wouldn't know what to say, either. I guess it depends on how things were when you parted ways. If it was amicable, then it might be easier.... if you parted on bad terms, then I would really be stumped! (My sister still despises her ex and it's been about 25 years!)

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Miller - I think the message from my ex is 100% coincidental. Only my family knows that things are on the rocks with my boyfriend. And I live 400 miles from them and where my ex and I used to live. I have not chatted with him at all. I don't have a clue what to say

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Kim, I'm sure you're right about chiropractic care getting better over the years. I'm almost 60 and when they first started practicing, they were unregulated and did cause some serious problems. Now, though, it seems that they're helping a lot of people - in fact, my dentist suggested I go to one. I just might do it.

I guess I also have a bit of bad feelings about them, as a friend of mine was going to one for back pain and it turned out that her cancer had returned and was causing her back pain. I know I shouldn't hold the chiropractor responsible, but I can't help feeling that they (the chiropractor) knew her history of cancer and should have told her to also check with her regular physician for blood tests, etc., just to rule out any other problems that could be causing the back pain. Her teenaged daughter finally said, "Mom, I think your cancer is back." Long story short, she died. By the time she discovered the cancer was back, it had spread too much.

I would definitely call your doctor about the lung function problem, if I were you. It seems there is a lot of walking pneumonia going around right now and it wouldn't hurt to get checked out. Of course, if you were able to participate in the dog agility fun run, you sound in good shape, but any decrease in lung function would concern me. (I tend to be hyper-vigilant, though).

I'm sorry things are so tense with your BF - I imagine it's very hard. And that is really something that your ex-husband messaged you on FB. Is he still single? Is it possible he heard that things are "on the rocks" with you and BF and he wants to see you again?

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I know a lot of people are suspicious of chiropractic care and other non traditional methodologies. I get that as it seems they were very unregulated in the early days and caused some problems. I think that has changed tremendously. I see a chiropractor regularly and I have had a ton of relief with him.

It is such an odd time for me. I have been struggling with my lung function ever since I got the flu at Christmas. It does not seem to be full on Bronchitis - but someone suggested that I could have walking pneumonia. I have just put it down to the Lyme Disease whish also makes me so tired. Perhaps I should call my doctor .....

The house is still very tense with the issues with BF - neither of us really know how to navigate this whole situation. It's tense and uncomfortable

And then, I got home from a dog agility fun run this morning to find that my ex-husband who I haven't seen or talked to in nearly 20 years had messaged me on FaceBook. Totally out of the blue. I'm kinda spinning about that one


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SAME, I hope you're feeling better today and that the Chiropractic visit has helped (I confess I'm a little bit afraid of them), but I know lots of people swear by them.

Also, hope the funny noise turns out to be something harmless that doesn't have to be repaired. We have a heat pump and had to have it replaced about 7 years ago - it cost around $6,000!!! I'm always worried that it will break again!

Maybe you should relax today and get yourself time to get well. emoticon

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LLAMA, I wanted to address your questions about therapy and it's purpose, but I didn't trust myself to be able to give an accurate description, so I turned to the internet. I focused on getting descriptions of the purpose of psychotherapy (talk therapy) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This is a lot of info, but it's very informative and may help. I hope so. emoticon

PSYCHOTHERAPY (talk therapy)
The purpose of psychotherapy is not to be fixed or to have someone cure your mental, emotional, or behavioral problem. It is not a passive process where the therapist does all the work and changes you into a happy, healthy person through his or her wisdom and profound abilities to heal. The purpose of psychotherapy is to assist you in resolving your problem by utilizing the therapist’s knowledge and expertise to identify the problem and acquire new skills to be able to resolve it (or cope better with it). Psychotherapy is an active, collaborative experience with the end goal of being able to manage your psychological health without the need of the therapist.

(article entitled “Why See a Therapist When You Can Just Talk to Your Friends?”)

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Article entitled, “5 Tips for Seeing a Psychologist”

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Cognitive-behavioral therapy is an action-oriented form of psychosocial therapy that assumes that maladaptive, or faulty, thinking patterns cause maladaptive behavior and "negative" emotions. (Maladaptive behavior is behavior that is counter-productive or interferes with everyday living.) The treatment focuses on changing an individual's thoughts (cognitive patterns) in order to change his or her behavior and emotional state..

A number of different techniques may be employed in cognitive-behavioral therapy to help patients uncover and examine their thoughts and change their behaviors. They include:
• Behavioral homework assignments.
• Cognitive rehearsal.
• Journal.
• Modeling.
• Conditioning.
• Systematic desensitization.
• Validity testing.

I know how frustrating therapy can be - it's a slow process - CBT is much faster (helps immediately as the patient has "homework") than talk therapy, but I don't know if your therapist is trained in it (most aren't) and if that's what you need or not. I've had both and they each have benefits.

Sorry about the flooding - that would get old real fast!!! They should give you a month of free rent or something for all your trouble.

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LLAMA, I looked up Vyvanse online and found that "fast, irregular, pounding, or racing heartbeat or pulse" is listed as a side effect. "Panic" is also listed as a side effect. The Mayo Clinic is a source of information that is trustworthy. If you'd like to read all the side effects, here's the link - even the "less common" ones at the very bottom of the list may (or may not) be troubling you. I think you should check with the doctor who prescribed Vyvanse and tell him or her the complete list of your physical and mental symptoms, as this medication "could" be causing several of your problems.

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Our apartment has flooded for the 5th time since we got here in August. We share a wall with the laundry room, and something's wrong with the washing machines that they keep claiming they've fixed. Water is seeping through the wall and flooding our kitchen. How ANNOYING to keep having to deal with this!

Today has been a low key day. Some introspecting, and some attempting to distract myself from anxiety and getting myself to relax. After about a hundred funny youtube videos, I can get myself to a place where my chest isn't feeling tight anymore and I am breathing comfortably. After I stop, though, anxiety returns pretty quickly.

I didn't take a vyvanse today, and my pulse, despite feeling that anxiety, hasn't been above 80 all day. Hmmm... I'm not sure if it's because it's Saturday and I didn't do anything, or if it's the lack of vyvanse. I'm starting to wonder if my dose is too high or if I should just not be on it at all.

Is the basic premise of therapy the unearthing of issues, finding the cause of the issues, and then solving them? If that's the case, it makes sense than I'm frustrated with therapy because I want to skip to the solving part. Just something that came up today as I was pondering.

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Well went to the chiropractor today, and i am very sore... i know tomorrow i will feel better. Am glad i did it though. My neck was really really bad. He did alot of manipulating on it. That is why i am so sore.

On the other hand have not gotten much done today because of it. So will end up playing catch up tomorrow if i feel better.

Am sitting here wondering where this funny noise is coming from.... it sounds like a vibration, but is really loud... Never heard that before, so am freaking out.... I hope it is not something that is breaking cause i think my jeep is about to go down. It is having a problem when i am turning real sharp.. the jeep just kinda jerks around... it does it worse in 4WD.. weather is about to turn cold again after tomorrow, but so far not heard anything about snow. So hopefully it holds off. So now trying to figure out what the funky noise is in the house.

I guess i am taking the sleep aid tonight, can't seem to sleep without it. Dang it.

Watching the movie people like us, and it is a tear jerker at the moment... I feel like i could have a good cry but don't want to because the boy is here... But it is a really good movie...

Well might get up and finish the load of laundry, and do the dishes. i can't let it all go. even if i am sore.

Have a great evening..
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LOL Miller, I was going to tell you about how good almonds are, but then remembered that I was "addicted" to them as well!! I will tell you one thing-after three days without sugar plain old apple or a cup of strawberries taste like heaven! It's worth it, believe me LOL
Kristina-I absolutely agree with Miller.
And I really DO HAVE TO see a doctor about my hand. It hurts a lot today after cleaning the house.

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Kristina, that's great that you have control over the "horrible sugar monster" as well. I would love to get to the place where I could have one now and then like you and PLANTAGO, but I think that's a good ways down the "road" for me.

It really doesn't shock me that you've decided to put the whole "weight loss" thing on hold, or on the "back burner" or whatever. I'm kind of glad you're doing that because I've been afraid that you're going to "burn out." I've never told you that, but you have a LOT of stress and pressure on you, Kristina, that most people just don't have and I think you've got way too much going on in your life without adding the stress and worry of "having" to lose weight.

It's like you said, your doctor says you're healthy, you can keep monitoring your blood pressure, and keep a mood chart and if you lose, you lose, and if not - no biggie. You've got so many different dietary needs in your family (including yours with no meat) and then a long, long, list of other responsibilities that are just staggering to me. Just dealing with my mother that has mild dementia (and doesn't even live with me) and mine & my daughter's problems & husband's diabetes is all I can handle and you've got SO much more to handle. I really admire all that you do in spite of all the challenges you face.

As you said, when you get the assistance puppy/dog, you'll be getting more exercise. If this decision will take some of the stress and worry off of you, then I think it's the right decision!!!

Hang in there!

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By the way, I actually WALKED in my neighborhood before I ate my lunch. I haven't truly exercised in weeks - so I think this "getting off sugar" decision is motivating me in more than one way - or maybe it's just because it's sunny & warm outside - I don't know - I'm just glad I did it!!! emoticon

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PLANTAGO, if you can break the sugar addiction, then I have to believe that it's possible for me, as well! It's great that you can eat them in moderation now, but for me that's just impossible. Maybe if I truly stop them completely for a time and lose the addiction, I'll someday be able to have a treat now and then, but I don't know. Thanks for the tip about the sparkling water with lemon. I also posted my plea for help on Emotional Eaters & Managing Diabetes and one of those members said that eating cheese, almonds, and cashews helped her get off sugar.

I had my first "REAL CHOCOLATE CRAVING" about 15 minutes ago. I was posting on Spark, put my laptop down and got up off the sofa and was heading toward the kitchen to get chocolate when I remembered I wasn't going to have it anymore! That's how much the habit is ingrained in me. When I realized I couldn't have it (because it felt like a true physical NEED - like when you're hot and you need water) I almost panicked - but then I remembered that someone said that the first three days are the hardest. I can do this - I know I can - especially when I have all of you to support me!!!

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Oh LLAMA, I love ice cream, too! But I'm cutting that out, as well. The only sugars I plan to allow myself are the ones that are in things that grow like fruits and veggies. Your idea about yogurt is a really good one - and I already have that on hand! I buy my husband Kroger's own brand of low-carb yogurt and he likes it a lot - it tastes good and he uses that for "dessert." Of course, it does have some sugar, but since I don't drink milk and my bones are getting old, the benefits of the low-carb yogurt should outweigh the small amount of sugar in it.

I'm glad your therapist read what you wrote - I KNOW it's discouraging. Therapy is a very slow process. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is much faster, but I don't know if your therapist is trained in that OR if it could be used in your situation. It's used frequently with folks who have OCD (like me and my daughter) but I'm not sure how it would be used in depression - although it seems like it could be. I've forgotten - are you on any medication for your depression? Sometimes just taking something for the short-term is helpful and there are "natural" supplements that may help with depression, too. I apologize for not being able to remember if you're on meds - my memory is not what it used to be!

And yes, we DO care very much about what you have to say and about what your concerns are - I only wish we could help you more. But always know that we're here to listen and send positive thoughts your way!!! emoticon

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Well all - this may come as a bit of a shock - I am finding that I am stressing and worrying too much about weight loss. I have too many other thing to deal with that are much more important. I spoke with my doctor and he says that since my health is extremely good, while he would prefer that I try to lose weight, he understands my decision. I am going to stop working so hard to lose it. I have 92+ pounds to lose. I have been overweight since I was 13 and considered obese or morbidly obese since I was 25. That at least half my life and it's throwing me into a depression when I work hard and nothing shows, or that there is so much going on that I can't do what I need to do. I will keep monitoring my blood pressure and keep a mood chart and such for the doctor and if I lose, I lose, if I don't, I won't stress about it.

I will continue to cook healthy meals for the varied diets in this house. I know I am doing good when I am told that due to what I am doing, my mother's cirrhosis is not progressing as fast as before. I know I am doing something right when my hubby's cardiologist has said he can come off the medicine and is healthier than he was 3 years ago. When I get a new dog/puppy to train for a hearing assistance dog, then son & I will get more walking and exercise.

Here's hoping things look up for now.

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Llama - we do care and I do read all of the posts. I may not comment to them all as I never know what will come out of my head at the time. As you know, we do care and we do listen and support.

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Miller - I have also been able to break off the sweets. I still allow one here and there, but not like before. Also, my sweets tend to be the more natural kind, fruit and things like that.



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Miller-it IS possible to get rid of sugar. I did it, and broke my life long addiction. Now I can enjoy my sweets in moderation. Sparkling water with lemon helped me.

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Miller, I'm a sugar lover too-ice cream is what gets me. One thing that helped me was yogurt. Not sure if that's still too much sugar for you, but it was sweet enough that when I was done, I didn't want ice cream anymore.

My therapist did read what I wrote.

Also, I have to say to everyone, thanks for responding to my posts over the past few weeks. One thing my therapist pointed out to me yesterday was that I often assume no one cares about what I have to say...but the responses here make it seem like someone does. Thanks.

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NEWMEN2013, thanks for responding! The only reason I'm doing the "all or nothing" is because I've tried other ways SO many times and failed. I think it HAS to be this way, for me. I believe you're right about the fruit. I've already had some of a banana today, which was quite ripe, and that seems to have satisfied that sugar craving that I always seem to have. I'm not a big fruit lover (except for melons) but I'm determined to learn to be one!!!

You're right, I do have to believe in myself because my family sure doesn't (and I understand why). Sometimes, just sometimes, when someone tells me I CAN'T do something, it makes me want to prove them wrong. So I'm hoping to use my family's disbelief for motivation.

Thanks again,

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1/12/13 10:57 A

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PLANTANGO--
Glad the thumb stabilizer is helping, but I would encourage you to work in an appointment asap. You don't want to cause further injury by delaying or straining your hand. Can you find another ortho surgeon within the same network that you like more? It's very important that we trust our doctors, and it's hard to trust someone you really don't like.

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1/12/13 10:53 A

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Miller --
I'm not a fan of the "all or nothing" approach, but only you know what will work for you. If that's what you feel like you need to do, than I encourage you to go that direction. YES! WE"VE GOT YOUR BACK!!!
I would recommend finding a replacement food that works with your nutrition plan; I would think fruit would be your best option.
However you decide to do this, I believe you can succeed. Now you just need to believe in yourself.

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1/12/13 10:28 A

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HELP! I had my husband take my fasting blood sugar reading this morning before I even got out of bed. It was in the "pre-diabetic" range. So, I've decided to stop eating & drinking sugar completely - no exceptions. My daughter is skeptical and says she thinks I'll be back to the sweets by 5:30pm today. I know I'm not good at making big changes and sticking with them. I'm not even good at making small changes and sticking with them! And I know I'm addicted to sugar and chocolate, but I really, really, really don't want to get diabetes like my husband did. I've tried "limiting" my chocolate/sugar intake. I've even tried getting individual dark chocolates and freezing them and I just end up eating lots of frozen chocolates! It's either all or nothing for me! I can't be trusted to have sweets/chocolate around at all.

Can you all be here to help me when I feel like I can't handle things without the sugar? Because you know it's inevitable that there are going to be lots of times that I will want to use sweets and chocolate to cope with life and with bad feelings - it would really help me to know that you, my Spark friends, "have my back" so to speak... especially since no one in my family, including me, has much faith in me! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Edited by: MILLERISHEALTHY at: 1/12/2013 (10:44)
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1/12/13 10:23 A

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PLANTAGO, I'm glad you got the thumb stabilizer, but I still hope you can see a doctor soon. I've probably already mentioned this before (my memory is so bad!!!) but my mother's hand was broken one time and it took them forever to figure out that it was broken. They weren't taking the x-rays from the exact right angle to see the break - plus the swelling was so bad that it was hard to see. She ended up having surgery - but I hope it doesn't come to that with you.

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"Comparison is the thief of joy."
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