I agree in most of the cases. But this is not one of those. Everything that was said, I knew. Because the person talked to me before and I know what they think. What killed me was mostly to see who that person was talking to... And I do know that it's really none of my business, it doesn't concern me, it doesn't change that those people love me because we are family...
current weight: 171.0
Fitness Minutes: (39,537) Posts: 24,785 6/21/12 6:58 A
Sometimes when we hear a conversation that causes us to lose heart or faith, it is best to talk with the people who were having the conversation. I know it can be really hard, but if you approached it like "the other day I couldn't help buy hear you mention 'bla bla bla' and I have been really upset since, but now I am wondering if I misunderstood what was said" I know it can be really hard to do - I have been in this position myself, and have tackled it exactly the way I suggest you do. The response I got was really good and I felt heaps better after. It was well worth the awkwardness in the beginning.
I have always said that if there is a problem with another, regardless of how hard it is, it needs to be addressed ASAP so it doesn't escalate and get worse! Just make sure that you keep your voice level and don't increase the volume. If need be make a concentrated effort to slow your speech a little because this helps keep things safe. ALSO ensure that you don't put it in a 'you MADE me do this" or "YOU made me feel like" instead putting it as "when 'such and such' was mentioned I felt .....!"
Thank you for your support. I tried to post a message twice previously and it didn't work. This loss of trust happened about 2 weeks ago and for that time now, it has been up and down, up and down. Thanks again for being there for me. For the first time, I see that I can speak about serious issues to others beside my husband, my sister and my mother. That means a lot to me.
I am so happy that your children keep you attached! It is so vital that we have something to keep us going, especially on the hardest days (and it sounds like this is one of your hardest days). Far be it for me to tell you what to do, but it definitely sounds like being with your children is a great thing to do. There are good people in the world, it just seems like they are in small supply at times. Remember to never give up!
Holiness to the Lord
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Hi. I know how hard it is to trust people after many real or perceived betrayals. The only thing I know how to do is to keep reaching Out like you just did. I have 50lbs to lose, but despair often redirects me to Negative thinking and giving up on myself. Your honesty has helped me feel less Alone, and so more able to take a step in the right Direction. I hope that my response helps you feel connected To someone who hears your pain and who supports you.
I overheard a conversation that sent me spindling down. I know I should not have listened. I know itís all my own fault. I am not laying blame, I am not asking explanation. Actually, I am not talking about it at all with the people that surround me. But Iím at a loss. I do not believe in people anymore. Now, for me, everybody lies. The world revolves around sex and thatís all there is to it. Sometimes Iím ok, but most of the times, Iím not. My kids are the only ones that keep me attached to this world and I truly and really do not know how to deal with it and what to do.
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