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Fitness Minutes: (26,402) Posts: 828 8/14/12 3:17 P
My husband used to say we must have 4, minimum, but that was back when we were younger. Now that I'm 33 and we're working on #1, I think 2 would suffice for me, personally. If it was in the cards for 3, then so be it. However, I refuse to have kids into my 40s, so that's really putting a time crunch on things and I fully believe in spacing the kids out at least a couple years for health reasons (for the children.)
Posts: 814 8/14/12 1:10 P
I am 31 years old. Next year when we ttc, I'll be about 32 years of age. Two kids will be enought for me to deal with!!
current weight: 227.0
Fitness Minutes: (33,412) Posts: 1,591 7/2/12 1:26 P
When I was younger, I think I wanted four or five. Now, we want two. Here's why:
1) I think siblings are important for children, so we want more than 1. 2) The world is (or is in danger of being) overpopulated, and we don't want to exacerbate the issue! 3) After over a decade of babysitting, I think managing more than two kids at a time can be pretty dizzying. 4) If we do decide we want more than two children, we'll adopt, preferably a child of a different ethnic background. We may even do this after one biological child! 5) If I love being pregnant but we've already had our two biological children, I'll be a surrogate (preferably for gay parents). 6) Try paying for just one kid to go to college! Now, imagine that times FIVE. Crazy!
So, that's where we stand!
~ Julie - Pittsburgh, PA ~
I gained 25 pounds during my pregnancy (from 140 to 165 by baby's birthday on 5/23/13). Working my way back down and further!
current weight: 140.0
Posts: 720 6/29/12 1:06 A
I grew up in a large family but my husband grew up in a small family. I wanted to have 5 kids and he only wanted one. So we talked about it and decided that two would be okay for us, considering our age. We would like to have at least a boy and a girl so if we end up with two of the same gender, we'll probably try again for a third child.
Our lives can change with every breath we take.
Pounds lost: 9.0
Fitness Minutes: (15,625) Posts: 1,302 5/21/12 8:49 A
He wants 1-2, I want 2-3, so we settled on 2, although he keeps trying to talk me back down to 1. I had 4 kids in my family and he had 3. I don't want my child to be lonely. However, I acknowledge it's in God's hands and we'll be happy with what we get.
In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die, and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility.--Eleanor Roosevelt
Posts: 34 5/17/12 10:46 A
We've been back and forth on this for a while. Our first child is now 3 and we're finally ready but for a long time we were both convinced he'd be our only. He wasn't an easy baby - he didn't sleep through the night till after 3 and had issues with keeping weight on. Now that those issues have finally resolved I wanted a second. We had to talk a lot about it and now hubby is on board and we're about to try. It wasn't the way I wanted to make the decision though and I'll always regret that I couldn't wait till hubby came to the conclusion by himself. The desire for a second child and a fuller family just drove me.
Pounds lost: 11.2
Fitness Minutes: (55) Posts: 10 2/1/12 12:23 P
My husband and I got pregnant before marriage with twins. We were told that we had a high chance of having a multiple pregnancy again because they thought the twins were fraternal. So we used birth control for a few months after having the twins but I did not like taking hormones, was alergic to latex and had gotten pregnant using encare (pill like antispermacide). We took a natural family planning class to avoid getting pregnant. My cycles were not normal, nor were my signs and I could never tell if my cervix was open or closed ever. So we stopped that. Later we found out that we were not likely to have a multiple pregnancy as the twins were a rare type of identical and is unlikely to happen again. We started being open to having more children and nothing happened. I went to 8 different health practitioners who said all sorts of things that I was normal, the my hormones were in the normal range but on the high end of not normal. 2 thought I could have PCOS. I had 1 miscarrage and it took 4 more years to get pregnant. During that time we accepted to be open to the children that God would bless us with, if it was no more or several. Since then we have had 2 girls and 2 boys and 2 miscarriages. We love having a big family. I know when we are older that we will be blessed by a large amount of grandchildren and that is a huge blessing and keeps one young and uplifted:)
Fitness Minutes: (55) Posts: 10 2/1/12 12:14 P
We miscarried in October. It is hard. We had secondary infertility (meaning we had problems getting pregnant after having children) for 7 years. With just 1 miscarriage in those years. It was really tough. Eventually, I just trusted God for his timing. If I was in your position I would just continue to be open to more children if that is what happens. What helped us was a healthy weight, avoiding grains/sugar/high glycemic foods and using an herb called vitex (2 per day for a long time).
Posts: 267 1/26/12 4:45 A
We had always planned on a big family. My husband is one of 5 boys and I am the oldest of 3 but my mom ran/still runs an in home daycare so there were always kids around! Our first child was a big surprise and we are so in love with her. She turns three next week and I've been off birth control and officially trying for 2 years. We did manage to get pregnant in August but miscarried early on. In the last couple months, I've noticed that I feel pretty content with one. I would LOVE more kids but it just isn't happening. I know there's hope but it's starting to take its toll on me :( And I don't want it to take over our lives.
~*It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness*~ Eleanor Roosevelt
current weight: 191.8
Fitness Minutes: (644) Posts: 87 1/20/12 7:18 A
ASA109ZT I know how you feel. My husband's mother had five children and I only had one brother. I have to say that we are not going to only have one because we do not want the child to be alone and not have someone to play with at home so we have decided that we want two children and also close in age. Being a teacher I have dealt with children who are only children and many of them have depression because they do not have anyone at home to interact with except parents. We have also seen in our school that students who are the middle children also show these signs because they feel left out. I try to take into consideration what I see at school with children into our home.
current weight: 228.3
Posts: 1,290 1/18/12 12:28 P
We would like to have two children. I know I don't want just one because I liked having a sibling at home to play with when I was growing up.
Ideally they will be close in age (1.5 - 2 years apart).
Living in the Mitten - Eastern Time Zone
Pounds lost: 3.8
Posts: 37 1/17/12 9:49 P
Personally, I'd love three kids. My partner didn't want any, and we agreed on one, as it makes the most financial and practical sense. Now that I'm a little older and we are going forward, both the medical risks as well as the career impacts has made me agree that one is the right choice for us.
Chris from Omaha
"Cages or wings? Which do you prefer? Ask the birds.
Fear or love, baby? Don't say the answer Actions speak louder than words." --Tick...Tick...BOOM!
current weight: 157.2
Fitness Minutes: (564) Posts: 321 1/12/12 8:29 A
Oh, I want a bunch of kids - I hope we have at least four, and I'd be thrilled if God blessed us with seven. That said, we live on a farm in a very safe area and there is a lot of space and local activities. If we were living in a city I think it would be much more difficult.
current weight: 232.2
Fitness Minutes: (644) Posts: 87 1/11/12 9:09 A
My husband and I have decided that we are going to have two children and will be happy no matter what the sex is of the children. He came from a large family and there was not a lot of parental interaction when he came around because he was the baby and by the time he came he was a late life baby and his parents were tired from the rest of the children. I however came from a family of two children and I have no bad memories from being in a small family. We thought about three but then we decided that we didn't want a middle child who would feel that they are forgotten much of the time because of the older child and younger child getting more attention. I know this may be a crazy way to look at it but I honestly will just be happy with whatever god blesses me with and will work with whatever is put on my plate because god will never give me more than I can handle.
current weight: 228.3
Fitness Minutes: (2,865) Posts: 84 1/10/12 12:08 P
I completely agree... people get mad, but I always say we will have more if we like the first one. Obviously we will love the first one, but it will determine how many additions we decide to have after them. :-) However, based on my fur baby's awesomeness I would like 3 (I hear the real things are a little different though). haha
Pounds lost: 8.0
Fitness Minutes: (10,529) Posts: 198 1/10/12 9:20 A
My husband and i want two to three kids. Since we don't have any yet it is really hard to say what we are actually going to want when the time comes. I feel its something that you just need to feel out as you go along
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Fitness Minutes: (2,865) Posts: 84 1/9/12 10:54 P
Ever since high school my husband and I have discussed having only 1 or 2 children, only because we figured I would be in school longer and we would have to start in our early 30's... luckily I finished a few years early and we both have our dream jobs at a younger age than expected. Now after a year and half of marriage, we have decided that we (if everything goes well) will have 3 kids before we both turn 30. A family of 5 seems to be the perfect number for us.
Pounds lost: 8.0
Posts: 80 1/9/12 4:36 P
When hubby and I were dating, we both agreed, "however many God lets us have!" thinking we'd like a big family. Since then we've done some thinking about logistics, practicality, and finances, and we're now leaning towards 2. :) My paternal grandmother's only advice about kids was, have an even number. She had three boys, and there was always an odd man out. That being said, hubby keeps reminding me that he will still be happy if we aren't able to conceive. He's been super thoughtful and considerate. We're just starting to try, so we'll see what the future yields! Best wishes as you ponder yours!
current weight: 218.0
Posts: 20,892 1/9/12 11:15 A
We still haven't decided. We would like 3 or 4, but I had problems with my first and we're having issues getting pregnant a second time. So we might be done after this second one (if we ever get pregnant).
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current weight: 193.0
Posts: 352 1/9/12 10:46 A
DH and I both would like 2, but he's ok if I decide I only want one after going through pregnancy once since I'm high risk. That said, we're also ok with just us and our fur-babies too if I can't get pregnant. We've been trying for almost 2 years and still no baby.
What didn't kill me made me stronger. I'm a very strong soul.
current weight: 192.2
Fitness Minutes: (69,794) Posts: 1,214 1/9/12 10:12 A
My husband and I tried for about 9 months to have another child. Recently, we have begun to question if it is to be. If we want it to be. If we are content with the wonderful daughter that we already have. How did you decide how many children you wanted, and how did you know it was the right decision for your family? Thanks for your thoughts!
"The only journey is the journey within". Rainer Maria Rilke
"Eat food, not too much, mostly plants." - Michael Pollan
current weight: 140.7
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