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Obviously like everyone else, I'm in a LDR. My boyfriend, Kyle, and I started dating in April even though I knew I was moving across the state with my family at the end of May. I figured we'd just fool around until I left, but he told me just a few weeks before I moved that he didn't want to give me up, and he'd do whatever it took to stay with me. It's been rough being away from him, but we're making it work. We try to visit once a month, and he'll be here at the beginning of September to run a 5k with me. If that's not motivation to get in shape, I don't know what is!

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How's everyone doing? My LDR ended in May, but as of yesterday we're back together. It's kind of a funny story. While we were broken up absolutely nothing changed except how we said good night and how often we said that we missed each other. We were still seeing each other on a semi regular basis, being intimate when we were together, and our families were still encouraging us to patch things up. Things ended because he got scared and then after one bad date and talking with his dad realized what a good thing he had with me. Idk if things will last forever, but I'm enjoying what we have. We haven't seen each other since the end of August, but we're hoping that the weekend of the 14th I'll be able to come visit. After that who knows what'll happen because he's in school and I'm going back to school starting the 17th of this month.

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Things are better here, he's coming to Canada in September for 6 months. He's doing a project here that will go toward his PhD.

I understand feeling self conscious about your weight, I've been there! But after all this time he must be attached to you enough to not judge you that way. Think about it!

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Magnolia - how are things going now? I'd be interested in an update :)

I'm currently in a LDR too, except our distance is shorter - about 2.5 hours. We've been together about 5 years, if you count chatting every day on the phone and texting. We haven't met yet except for webcam, etc. primarily because I'm so conscious about my weight and everything. I'd like to lose about half of my goal before we go. I'll just be much more comfortable and able to be myself - which I haven't in general in a LONG time. I've been too unhappy for too long, but I love him to pieces and so does he.

How are things going for everyone else?

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Hi! It's not nice being apart. Because of the 6-hour time difference we don't get to talk much during the week. He's coming here in September for a few months. We'll see each other a bit in the summer, just a week or 2. le sniff

Drag about getting broken into!

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Yes! Skype and all types of video chat are great. His place got broken into and his computer stolen (amongst other things) early on, and I bought "us" a netbook so I could still see his face! The video wasn't great, but he got enough from his renter's insurance to buy a sweet new macbook pro which he just got, and it's so much better. He doesn't have too much time to video chat, but it definitely makes me feel better (and sometimes sadder!) to see his face. And dog :)

How are you dealing with coming home after 2.5 months? That sounds crazy but I bet the time over there was a blast.

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That sounds tough! I hate that money/jobs is really what it comes down to for either person moving. That's what it is for us too! Do you have video Skype? It helps a little.

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Hi all! I just joined and caught up on this thread. I guess I don't have it so bad - I'm only a 3.5 hour drive away from my boy, but he works way too many hours (probably over 70 a week) and so a lot of weekends I don't get to see him because he has to work all weekend and I'd feel bad if I came to see him and he didn't get enough done.

We've been long distance for about 9 months and were only together 4 months before he moved away (for the job). He hates working so much for so little and I think is willing to move back here once he has earned enough experience from his job so that it's useful on his resume. I've started finding jobs for him to apply to but he's so busy I don't even know if he'll get around to it. I keep trying to mention the jobs but don't want to come across as pushy or sound like I'm forcing him to move back up here.

I do look now and then for jobs for me where he is, but there really isn't anything, and I really like my job here.

So there's my rant. It's always nice to know other people are going through similar (and far worse!) things. I know I am pretty lucky - he makes time to call me every night and I get a text or two during the day.

Anyway, hi ;) I'm trying to get more active in the communities/teams around here to get myself back on the weight-loss wagon! The boyfriend has actually gained a lot of weight from this job (stress/long hours) so now I have him to lean on and support as we both try to lose weight.

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hrmmmm home in Toronto now, after spending 2.5 months in Stockholm with my guy. Hard to go back to long disance relationship after such a long visit

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:-( that is a long time! I was once apart from my guy for 6 months. If you will be able to use Skype when you travel, that will help a little! Sometimes seeing my guy on video Skype makes me a bit lonelier though. I see him looking cute and cuddly, see him sleepy, whatever, makes me want to be there.

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Right now I live only about an hour away and I can see my boyfriend once a week (usually!), but in about a month I will be going overseas for 5 months, and while he may come and visit, it's going to feel like a looong time...

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Skype is so great! Hopefully some day soon they will come up with a way to give hugs over Skype. I miss the affection, too. I went for a massage last night but it's not the same.

I'm going to see my guy next Wednesday, we're meeting up for 3.5 days in NYC after not seeing each other for 4 months. Excited!



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I've been in my LDR almost three months. Like many on here I met my guy online. He's a great guy and I'm falling in love with him, but the distance combined with our schedules makes things difficult. He lives in Bend, OR and I live in Vancouver, WA. Its only about 3 hours apart, but he works 3 days a week and goes to school the other 4. It wouldn't be that big of a deal for me to visit him, but he lives with his parents so we have to go based on if they're up for me visiting. I saw him last week which was nice, but it ends up being a month or more between visits which as you all know is hard. Skyping every day helps but I'm very affectionate so not having that physical contact makes things harder.

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Have you seen Going the Distance? It's a cute rom-com about a long distance relationship.

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lol my boyfriend has an eating-out fettish I can't keep up with. It gets expensive, plus he LOVES chinese buffets...always greasy =\

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my baby's gone n' left me!

The only good thing about him being gone is that I can get back to healthier eating. He likes carbs! And I can't always resist.

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Yay for the cutest romance! Nicer to hear from another LDR Sparker!

My guy is here now, leaving tomorrow and it will be a few months before we can get another visit in ... making the most of today! He's fast asleep though, it's only 7am

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My sweetheart and I met over a year ago through a lovely online game that drives us both insane. Over the first few months we became really good friends...I didn't even think twice about it. Then last August he dropped the sweetest line from Casablanca on me and finally revealed how he was feeling. Over the next month I realized the same thing!

We've been dating since September of 2009 and it's been the cutest romance I've ever been a part of! I miss him so much. He lives in Virginia and I'm here in 'sunny' Seattle, Wa. I've met his family, he's met mine. He's begging me to move there by November...and I'm super tempted!!

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Gotta love family for asking when you're gonna get married...thankfully I'm the babby of the family so they don't want to see me get married soon. Glad you're havinf fun with your guy

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We’re having fun! We left Toronto for a few days because of the crazy G20, plus my cousin was getting married and it was my Dad’s birthday. Awesome that he was here so I had a date for the wedding ….. but pretty much everyone we chatted with said something like “so you’re next” or “when are YOU getting married?”

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Congrats. Have fun

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My guy is here and we're going on a road trip this afternoon, so excited!

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I best friend and I joke we need to have telaportation powers

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What we need is a fleet of teleporters so we can have frequent visits while keeping our jobs!

Glad this thread is re-activated! Long distance lovers need to chat.

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I do have a job, and he knows I do. He mostly says in jest but I know he means it too. I think it's mostly just his way of reminding me he misses me and wants me to be there with him...we tend to bicker for fun so I think we'll find something to bicker about no matter what.

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My boyfriend is a sailor and he is going out to sea in a few days. We will have very little contact accept occassional phone calls and possible email. I am horribly upset but I've known this since we saterted dating. I am so gald that I found this thread!

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Patience is tough, tell him absence makes the heart grow fonder! ha ha. You probably have a summer job where you are and need to save money for school so you can't rush over there, much as you'd like to.

I went grocery shopping last night to get food for his visit and I realized I don't know many foods that he likes! That's one of the problems with LDRs. It's also hard to buy him presents sometimes because I'm not around him enough to know things he needs or already has. le sigh!

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over all I'm good. The LDR is kinda hard sometimes cause he's a bit older then me so sometimes he thinks I should be able to cut ties and move up there sooner, I'm 20 and living at home till school starts up for me in Aug, which is actually why I'm moving. But over all it's good.

That's really exciting that you're guy's coming tomorrow, hopefully any decisions you guys meet will be for the best, and it won't be LDR too much longer either.

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Welcome to the LDR club! My guy is coming here tomorrow, I'm well fed up with the distance, we'll see what happens when he's here re: decisions.

That's exciting that you are moving to where your guy is! So being long distance is just temporary. Still tough though, how are you doing?


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Hi, just joined Sp and this team and saw this and just had to post I'm in a LDR too. granted we've known eachother since like Feb/March but still I understand. Like so many people today I met my guy on line, actually we meet threw Cregslist cause I'm gonna be moving to montana and wanted to see what advice people could give, and we just got along really really well. We meet up in April and just had a blast together and have been talking daily since. I defenetly have it easy I'm moving with in 3hrs of him in Aug..actually 64 days but who's counting....

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Hi! I'm back from my trip, and my Swedish love will be here next month, so this time it's not too long (for us) between visits.

How are you long distance lovers doing?

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I'm fed up with the distance! But tomorrow I go to Sweden, if the volcanic ash permits.


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It is really hard! But he's really sweet and emotional, we talk every day, and on the weekends sometimes we have 12 hour phonecalls, so we still feel close. We have so much fun! We watch the same movies while on the phone, we cook the same recipes, we play online Scrabble, etc etc, we really make the most of technology to feel like we're part of each other's lives. I'd much rather see him though, and the 6-hour time difference is a drag.

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Yeah cell phones will be our way of communication. I can't imagine him living in a another country I feel like that would be so hard! God for you for sticking to it!

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I don't see my guy much, I live in Canada and he lives in Europe. Keeping in touch really helps get through long periods of time apart. If you're not much for chatting, you can send short text messages (if you both have cell phones). "good morning" "hi cutie" "good night" .... just so you still feel like you're part of his life.

You'll find ways to keep connected!

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We are just going to try and take it one day at a time and hopefully I will get opportunities to go and visit him since he has made it clear he is only coming home like once a month

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When my relationship was a long distance one, we never used Skype. We used the video chat on AIM...lots faster and simpler.


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Ok! Skype is free but you have to have high speed Internet, which isn't free.

My guy has a really cheap long distance phone plan, and I have unlimited incoming calls on my cell, so we have looooong chats sometimes.

This will be something new for you two! Relating on the phone is so different from hanging out together in person!


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I know about Skype but we don't have it and neither of us can get it...We are going to try and see ach other a couple times a month but its a big change for us because we don;t really talk on the phone ever since he pretty much lives at my house.

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Ha, yes I think it will be good for weight loss! When my guy's in town, I eat like him (chips, pizza, candy) and don't exercise much.

But sorry he has to go away. You know about Skype, right? Essential tool for LDRs!

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Hey there girls....I am new to LDR We are about to start in a few weeks. My boyfriend is moving away for a job. I know a couple hours isnt too far away but still its farther than what we do now so I am dreading it. I know it will be easier for my weight loss I believe. But I am so glad there is a topic here for LDR

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That's awesome news! Congrats!!!

And yeah, I hope - for your sake, at least - that the crazy mountain simmers down, lol.

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FEAEATS!!!

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Wheeeee! So happy for you!

I'm going to see my man in Sweden in May, assuming this volcano plume settles down and flights to Europe resume.

TGIF!

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Amen! It sure does! I just got back from a mid-week adventure to go see him. My job has weird hours (definitely not a Monday-Friday gig), so I have random days off. I took full advantage and went to see my honey. :)

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So happy for you! 3.5 hours makes a weekend trip so much easier!

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My boyfriend moved from Connecticut to Virginia in January because the military relocated him to a different base. I love it - he's only 3 1/2 hours from me, where he used to be 10 1/2 hours away!

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Wheeeee..... finally yesterday my vacation request for May got approved, so I booked my next flight to see my Swedish love. I love being able to count the next visit in days not weeks or months!

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Wishes a happy Valentine's Day to all the long distance lovers!

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Wow, it must be a big change after being in the same city for 2 years! My guy never lived in the same city as me, he was only here for a week for a conference when we met and accidentally hit it off.

Agreed on the money thing! Money is one of my main anxieties about this relationship because before I met him, I was trying to get out of debt and build savings, now I'm spending so much on travel, and still only get to see him every few months. grrr!

But Christmas is coming ... he'll be here for 10 days!

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after almost two years, my boyfriend moved away for his job (@magnolia same as with you: sweden ^^"). Its 1500 km. its over a year since he's gone, but we're skyping almost daily and fly as often to see eacht other as possible (need-more-money!!).
It sucks -.-
But I look forward, when we'll be really together again. just have to finish my studies *kicking stupid university*
At sylvester - we'll have our 3rd anniversary : )

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A happy ending! I'm so glad your guy was able to move.

You're right, the time difference makes it really tough. For us it's 6 hours. Thank goodness for Skype and email!

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Hi,
I totally know what you're going through. The last year, my boyfriend was in Idaho, while I was in the UK, where I live. Not only was there distance, there was three-plane-ride wide distance, amd a -7 hour time difference! If he'd had a normal 9 to 5 job it would never have worked. Recently we applied for the UK visa for him to live over here, and cue three whole months of waiting, stress, tears and longing. But, it's over now. He got the a-ok in August and, despite worries about how it would all turn out, we're doing fine.
I think what was most improtant to us was time. We had to be ready to talk to the other online the same time every day. And I kept real busy - I've never been so fit as whenever I missed him I would go to the gym! Now, of course, there's the several pound pile on of relationship happy :)
The important thing is to share your frustrations, I feel. We sounded like broken records but it brought us so close together to know that we were missing the other. Surprises are important too!
Hope this helps, you are not alone,
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Thanks, RedsHaveMoreFun. It's tough, I am grateful for his love and loyalty, but .... I'm really tired of being date-less so much.

So I went to meet him in California for 4.5 days, which cost $1100! Yowza! Flight, hotel, car rental, etc. It was really nice though. And I guess it's not "so long" til he's here at Christmas, but then there are already Christmas party invitations and of course I won't have him here to party with again this year. le sigh!

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Hey there. I totally understand - I was in a LDR for over 3 1/2 years. It can be so hard, because you don't get to share that contact that you see all around you and sadly, the phone isn't a substitute. At least he is willing to make plans with you and you are able to see each other every few months. Take care, and best wishes!

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I feel like time is being wasted, being in love but only seeing each other for a week every few months. I do a lot of fun things, and so does he, but we don't get to share them with each other. So we don't have a "history" together the way other couples do.

We make the best of phonecalls and do fun things like watch the same movie, cook the same recipe, do the same crossword puzzle, but....it's different than going out in the city together or being in the same room. It just kills me to see other couples snuggling on the subway and laughing or resting or whatever.

Need teleporter!

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You are over halfway to your goal now! Only 9 pounds to go! I bet you'll be pretty close when you go see him!

It's always nice when they say that, but we know what we need to be happy and healthy! :)

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Yes...36 days til I see him next, and it's been 32 since I left him last time. He really doesn't think I need to lose any weight, but I would feel better if I'm closer to my goal when I see him. Or even if I'm toned up more! So here we go!

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Well at least it gives you something to look forward to and you don't have to wait until Christmas! I mean you may be alone, but yet your not alone, you know? I'm really glad you got everything situated!

Oh and I forgot to add: Just think, that's almost next month! So you better get your booty moving girl! emoticon

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Thanks Bethie! He actually got out of his concert before I had to leave so we were able to coordinate! I've booked my flight to meet him in California for a few days in November! So I have a goal to get in shape before Nov 4. Still a ways off and lots of lonely nights til then, but for now I'm excited!

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No, I can't blame you at all! I can imagaine how annoying that is. I mean, when you want something done, you want it done, right? I'm so sorry! *HUGS!* I know that whole time difference sucks too! Ugh, I wish I had something better to say, all I can say is keep your chin up!

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Thanks SparkSisters! I hate it hate it hate it! The time difference makes it extra tough, we're both active and busy. Today, I should be happy because we're going to meet in California in November!! He's going for a conference, booked his flight yesterday. I was about to book mine just now then I realized there are a few airports considered Los Angeles, and I don't know which one he's flying out of and he's at a concert so has his phone turned off. I want to leave about the same time from the same airport of course. It probably doesn't seem like a big deal, I can book tomorrow...but *so often* things like this happen. Even in the age of cheap long distance calls and cell phones, I can't talk to him when I want to, because of the time difference. And wahhhhhh.....6pm my time is midnight his time, so I hardly ever get to talk to him after 6pm, which makes the evenings lonely sometimes. And I had to cut down on going out because I'm always saving for my next trip to see him....so that means I'm bored and lonely more nights than before, when I used to see bands and/or movies every week. blah blah blah! I'm ready for a winning lotto ticket now.




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I ditto what Bethie said! I understand the ache of distance...please talk to me if you ever need a friend!

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I am so so so sorry. I can imagine that is very frustrating. Just remember that we are all here for you, and if you need anything, just Sparkmail me! *HUGS*

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I'm down in the dumps about my LDR right now. We've been together just over a year but are no closer to living together. I can't move there because of the language (taking Swedish lessons but it takes so long to learn!), and he's not coming here til he finishes his PhD. So....why bother? I go out a lot and I'm so fed up with being solo all the time, and seeing my friends with their lovely boyfriends.

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We've been together for a few months now. The distance is really, really hard, as I'm sure you've picked up with your overseas relationship! Yes, we've always lived in separate cities. We met over the internet when it first became so popular. That was just over 11 years ago...we remained great friends, but our relationship went to the next level this year. I'm happier than I've ever been, and soon we'll be closer. Teleporters would be nice though! :D

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An hour away is still far, but compared to Conn-NC, that's pretty good! How long have you been together? Did you always live in separate cities?

Beach weekend sounds nice! My guy is too far away for a weekend visit, until we get teleporters!

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I'm in an LDR myself...my boyfriend lives in Connecticut, and I'm in North Carolina. We just went on a long weekend trip together at the beach, and that was just heavenly. It's hard being so far away from each other, but soon he'll be moved to a Navy base within a few hours' driving distance from where I live. That ought to help things significantly. I hate not being close to him.

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I can see that happening! I would be the same way! :D

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ha, I agree,it's a great topic! But I may be biased.

Sometimes the LDR affects my motivation to get fit. I sometimes slack off on diet and exercise just after a visit, and then get serious in the couple weeks leading up to a visit!

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I'm not on a LDR but wanted to bump the topic because it's a great one! :D

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Hi! I live in Canada and my guy lives in Sweden. We've been together just over a year. I met him here, it started out innocently, didn't expect much but I really liked him, and with email and Skype it was so easy to keep in touch and get to know each other.

It's tough! I'd love to hear from other people in LDRs!


edited to add: I meant with email and Skype, it was easy to get attached to him, even though I didn't want to, because of the distance!

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