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DEBBIERNDDHC
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2/8/11 1:10 P

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THanks 1GRNTHMB, fortunately for me, my priest has gotten the hang of it here lately. I haven't had to choose to speak up or swallow in 3 weeks. it is nice to have that concern addressed.



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2/8/11 9:43 A

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DEBBIERNDDHC, I am often having to remind the priest that I need the gluten free wafers. So do not feel ashamed if you need to remind them.

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2/7/11 6:37 P

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That is absolutely awesome.
Charlene

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2/7/11 1:05 A

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About the communion wafer - here's my tale.

I was so nervous to say anything to our priest about them. But at the alter last week, I paused and said - 'the smallest bit you can manage, please' (he blesses a very large wafer, then breaks it into small sections to distribute). He looked at me and said - "are you off wheat?" When I nodded, he said - "wait here," went to the aumbry beside the alter, took out a small (single serving) wheat-free wafer, blessed it, returned and offered it to me.

After the service he explained that there are two others in the parish who are 'off wheat' and that they kept two wheat-free wafers at the ready in case they were both attending, and that one of them wasn't there that day. He also said that now that they know about me, they'll have one more wafer on stand-by each Sunday. And this week, when I went up he had the wheat-free wafer already blessed, and offered it without a word.

Wow.



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2/6/11 1:36 P

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My MIL served me a great big grapefruit with a candle in it at out joint B-day party. She knows I love grapefruit. I was honored.


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I am severely allergic to peanuts and gluten. I am also a preschool teacher. Those two facts don't go well together. BUT all my parents know about it, so they send almond butter sandwiches instead of peanut butter. Sometimes when parents run out of almond butter, they put a sticky note on the child's food container saying "Marleen, please don't touch, smell or eat. Contains peanuts!" At our school, parents are required to sign up for snack once a month, and a lot of parents bring some kind of GF grain just because they would love for me to eat snack with the kids.
I usually don't say anything about my allergies, unless I really have to explain why I don't (can't) eat something, but whenever I do, people are very understanding and go out of their way to cook something that I can eat as well.


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2/6/11 9:45 A

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It speeds it up since foil is a conductor and holder of heat.
I got this off of the internet. I know that I have read that before as I used to put foil on my rack to do the pizza and the middle and bottom was not done. Try to do it with foil as I have and my pizza came out fine.

Charlene

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2/5/11 6:37 P

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I cannot have seeds. Bummer. Seeds get me in pain for my Diverticular. Which had before my Celiac. I feel like a car that needs a trade in for my poor hubby. Cling, clang, crash bang.
I guess I can omit the seeds.

I bought a G.free Pizza. It was deliso. Not a big one. Enough for me. . Only thing was. It cooked on sides and the top was cooked but the bottom certainly not in the center under the cheese was not cooked. I wonder how I can get it even baked next time on bottom. If it was left in any more in oven. . It would of been burnt crust. Hula.
I used foil on bottom like I did any other pizza's back then.

my treat to-night. I ate it. So if to-night I start rising higher in body or tummy and floating. Then I will say then. Well cooked.


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It is so sweet to see your soft side, Beesuth. This is a sign that you are exploring you G-F feelings; you can summon up the moxie to ask us; I solute your gumption. We have been or will be there at least once in our own efforts to eat what others put before us. Most chefs would sample a taste before placing a new flavor before an eater.
I have fallen in love with a simple but elegant spread that may fit that topping need.
1 t spoon of carob powder
1 t spoon of organic coconut oil
1 t of honey
And 1 t spoon of chia seeds.
Stir to a creamy consistency; it has a sweet smooth texture like a chocolate sauce or frosting, with an added crunch from these tiny seeds. Sometimes the seeds are added later as garnish sprinkled in a pattern on top.

I, too, have food requirements and my no-no’s are many: chocolate is one, cane/beet sugar is another, and nuts are also not edible for me. All of these foods are very common loves by other people’s standards. I often dress an organic plain salt-free rice cake with this spread then place my celebration candle in the middle since yeast and baking powders are included on my no-no list. No cake or bread here!
Pave that trail with kindness and honest G-F facts.


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1/18/11 1:44 A

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A bunch of my friends and I do a monthly potluck dinner/wine tasting. our last was this weekend and the host forgot about my GF and put flour in the dish. I'm not the only person with food limits so it was suggested that we all make a master list of what people can't(or won't) eat. this was after several "tastes" of wine so we'll see if anyone actually follows through....maybe I'll start. emoticon


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1/17/11 8:13 P

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I have been GF for 38 years. Gluten is a poison for my body. Most people have enough on there minds, so I don't expect people to remember that I can't eat gluten. Since gluten is a poison, I have no problem speaking up. There are times when I don't feel like speaking up, then I remember that I am responsible for my health.

When I go to special events, I always arrive early. I look for the head waiter and let them know that I want a gf, vegan meal (yeah, not only am I gf I'm vegan too!). They are ALWAYS accommodating.

For potlucks, I bring my food and leave it in my car in a cooler. If there is food I can eat - great. If not I bring in my own food.

When people offer food that I can't eat, I always say "no thanks, that's too rich for me!" No need to explain why. No need to have people feel bad about offering food. No hurts feelings.



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DEBBIERNDDHC
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1/17/11 10:55 A

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It is awkward when people offer food, that they knew you could eat at the last meeting. At church, even though we have GF wafers for me, in a shot glass in the tray, my pastor has handed me the regular bread twice now. I have had to choose each time, to either just take it and Thank God for the opportunity to worship freely, or say outloud, sorry, wrong one... It is an odd feeling and i get nervous each time i come upon that time. I hope that it will get less needed the more i speak up and all. I hope so anyway. Glad to hear over and over again of people being compassionate and taking care of you all, in surprising ways.



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1/16/11 6:48 P

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Last night we went to a bowling birthday party for a friend at a country club. As usual not knowing what the plan was I packed food inmy purse (peanut butter crackers, organic fruit leather, a homemade larabar) and to my surprise they were having pizza and wings but knew I was GF so offerred me ANYTHING I wanted off the dinner menu!! I was gracious and had a lobster roll minus the bun and some chips (one of the cheaper menu items). It was like a salad on an bed of lettuce. Worked out well that I picked something cold so I could eat whenever everyone else had theirs.

Cindy

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I think you handled it well. Personally I don't like all the attention. I've work at my job for 10 yrs and they have all know about it for the last 5, but still every week sometimes several times a week some offers me food I can't have and then asks why when I say no. I just wish they would realize I'd rather not have to explain it all the time. I even started out by telling them I have allergies to wheat and soy verses gluten, because most people don't know what gluten is, but they know what wheat is. Thankfully people are starting to know more about it, but it's still annoying. Good luck with your future lunches.
Educate yourself, educate your world.

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Thanks, Debbie. It's time for me to speak up.

Karin
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1/14/11 6:37 P

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Debbie well said.
Char

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1GRNTHMB
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1/14/11 11:40 A

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I think you did wonderful. It is great that you spoke up. I always felt so uncomfortable at business lunch when I could not eat anything.

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1/14/11 10:11 A

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I have an entirely different spin on the whole thing. I am a huge proponent of pay it forward. I choose to speak up at each occassion, not because i am being assertive for myself, but because each time i have done this, i have met someone who knows someone or is themselves and needs support/compassion/education/resources. It has been one of the greatest blessings of this diagnosis, to be able to say, yeah, it is not all that great for me, but i have helped others and that feels good! So when you speaking up and being clear about your needs, you are not being forward or pushy, you are paving the way for the next person coming along to have it a bit easier! You are actually being supportive of a person you haven't even met yet! I find that i can't be assertive for myself, I am so passive, but i can be assertive for others. Its weird, and i blame it on my southern belle mom! But being gracious and generous and assertive about your needs means that you could be helping someone else later! So hold your head proud! Look them in the eye and smile and say, Thank you so much for asking and being concerned. It looks wonderful, but i can't eat it. I'll have the steam veggies and some fresh fruit today...." Good luck!



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1/14/11 10:01 A

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I agree that it is important to be diplomatic when making the request, and being appreciative when people try to accommodate our needs. I also think we need to realize that we need to educate as well. People who do not have GI or CD don't know the things we have had to learn over the years. I find any time I disclose the need for GF to a new group of people I have to answer a bunch of questions about it. I get tired of doing this sometimes, but I do, because most people have no idea what it means to be GF.


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1/13/11 11:39 P

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You should ask that person that if you were allergic to peanuts and could not have them, is it a hassle then? Just because you can't eat them does not make it a hassle. Explain to that person that you ARE diagnosed with Celiac and that you have to watch what you eat or you will pay for it in pain and that it damages your organs. There are people that don't eat it and have jumped on the band wagon so to speak but the this is how you have to live the rest of your life.

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I have to laugh (rather than cry)--everyone in my book club knows I'm gluten free, but each and every one of them makes a glutenous cake or pie for their turn at book club. Several have said they were sorry I couldn't eat it, but don't change. One even said she needed to be gluten-free also--to lose weight. Anyway, I always just smile, and try to set a delicious gluten-free spread when it's my turn.

Karin
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Diplomacy is the best way, but sometimes we need a bit of education. I was at a restaurant we've eaten at for years. The guy is a fabulous chef and someone from the kitchen came and asked if potatoes were okay. I smiled, and assured her that plain potatoes really are.
But, I had the most appallingly awful dessert. Because of needing GF, they made the poached pear with no sweetener and unsweetend carob powder. It tasted like soap. My husband and I were splitting it, and he took one bite and chugged about 2 cup of water.
GF shouldn't mean taste-less. Most places we can find something, and our choices will likely be better than if we could eat the gluten. I know I tend to eat a lot of salads when I'm out. And, of course, it nixes most dessert disasters when at restaurants, too.
Kate

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I know exactly how all of you feel; however I feel better about it now. I belong to Women's Club and this restaurant serves us the food and their is food is excellent. I have gotten to know the chef, and in fact, last Monday I went to see him to see what he could do for me for the lunch. The lunch was Chicken Crepes which I know I could not know have as they are flour tortillas.

I talked to him and asked him if he could do corn tortilla and he said he will see what he could do for me.

Well I went first off to give him a "Thank You Card" with money in it as I never got sick last year at all. He thanked me for the card (did not look at it then)

Well at the luncheon, I got the nicest corn tortilla with a wonderful chicken filling (gf) and a big dish of white rice and broccoli. It was absolutely delicious and I made sure he was aware of it.

It so important to let people know how much you appreciate what they do for you.

I wanted to share this with everyone.

Char

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Our work is sending some of us to cooking classes at our local supermarket chain, and I actually blushed and got a little hoarse when I asked the chef about the meal and to set me aside some without gravy...It can be awkward especially when it is just you! We just need to find our assertive sides and speak up!

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Good for you! Don't feel shy about it! Especially as you know they have GF items as well! We were at a surprise b-day party for a friend at this restaurant and their buffet really does nothing for me. Well she asked if I could eat off the buffet when we were there and I said no, not really.

BUT I did not want her to feel bad because she usually goes out of her way. She was like the potatoes and veggies? I told her not to worry, there was plenty on the salad bar.

Personally, the veggies looked really sad and the potatoes were scalloped.. so not taking a chance there!

Speak up! Be heard... emoticon





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I know what you mean, I have been diagnosed for over 5 years but sometimes in situations like that I feel a little awkward too.

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So, we have this thing that we do at work--when a sales person brings in a large account, the whole office gets lunch. Usually, I just skip the food and hang out with everyone. But, today, one of the producers told us they're doing a lunch next week from a restaurant that has lots of GF options. She asked for a head count and I asked her to count me in, and then I asked her to order something GF--I was very diplomatic and told her if it was a hassle, I would order on my own...but now I'm feeling weird about even saying anything...I have lived with Celiac's Disease for nearly a year and usually don't have an issue speaking up for myself about it. I don't know I'm being all shy all of a sudden.



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