Bi doesn't have to mean greedy or indecisive, just like being gay, lesbian, or straight doesn't have to mean cliquish, or anything else. I'm bi, and glad that I am because it's how I got to be with my soulmate. Had I liked only men/males, I might not have given her a chance. Had I only liked women/females, I might have had a problem with the fact that she's trans.
Am I still attracted to guys? Yeah. I slobber over pics of Vince Neil all the time.
Am I still attracted to other women? Not as often as before this relationship, but occasionally... I mean, Mila Kunis is really cute.
Does it offend me when people say, "Vince OR Mila, pick ONE."? Big time.
Would I cheat on my fiancee? HELL, NO!
I think of it like a pizza, as messed up as that sounds. Stay with me here, though. Some people like just pepperoni. That's OK. Some people only like chicken and BBQ sauce on theirs. Some of us want the Works or an all meat pie. It's OK!
Now assume that you are unable to eat one of the toppings you really like. For instance, I LOVE pepperoni, but alas, when I order a pizza, the pepperoni contains commercially farmed beef; the antibiotics used in the cows give me an anyphalactic reaction. I can still want pepperoni, and think about it without a trip to the E.R. But I'd be stupid to actually eat it, and just because I can't have pepperoni doesn't mean I don't love my green pepper/ham/mushroom pie.
The analogy in simpler terms: There are a lot of sexy people. We all like something different, and some of us have a wide range of likes while others don't. I can still be attracted to men without cheating on my fiancee. AND, it doesn't mean that I love her any less.
Cheaters are cheaters, mean people are mean, good is good, evil is evil, a spade is a spade, the sky is blue, water is wet, and the world is round. Oh, and bigotry is bigotry.
"Preserving health by too severe a rule is a worrisome malady."
~Francois de La Rochefoucauld~
(1613 - 1680)
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