I just read both posts myself. I love nells "just put it off till tomorrow" What a awesome idea. And chelle...yup we have to decide what we want but the hard part like with an alcholic is admitting first you have a problem. Not many of us want to admitt that to our friends and families.
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I don't know if I am more realistic than anyone else, I have just accepted some limitations. It's not a case of strong vs weak. If I am completely honest with myself, what I want is comfort and pleasure, which food offers quickly and in a socially acceptable way. (Although trying to hide my food consumption meant that I was treating it as socially unacceptable. And fruitless. The butt will tell.) I work best with strict guidelines. The less room I allow myself to make decisions in, the better. I know that some people say that if you forbid yourself something you will crave it, so I just put it off until tomorrow. I can't buy that Reeses Today. Time does go by, and now I can look back and see that I haven't had dessert in months, I haven't been to a fast food outlet in many more months. As long as I am only putting it off for a day, I can do it.
Nell Reston, Virginia
No one ever got up in the morning wishing she'd eaten more the night before.
I can never have a doughnut. I know this, I accept this. Food is not the answer, never was, never will be. I can have fun at a party and not eat anything there. Food did not make the party fun. Food doesn't make xmas better, or thanksgiving better. At some point we have to lose the crutch stop making excuses and focus on ourselves, our demons and decide that life is more than food just like life is more than alcohol for an alcoholic
I know what you mean Joan, I just can't have a lot of my addiction food in the house, they even include cashews I can't have 10 and count them in my points as I can't stop at 10 I am not happy till there gone. Somtimes I really think I am a pig as I like sooooo much different food and there is not much I don't like, I can even over eat with fruit, my husband loves cashews and when he buys them I tell him to hide them as I know I will eat all of them there is quite a lot of food he hides I am like a little kid how sad is that.
But then again I can say I have gone 58 days sugar free (only because I don't have any sugar things in the house) when I go out I am talking to myself all the time telling myself I do not need it, as I do know once I have only a little bit of something I will not stop eating the sugar things.
Love your post Joan, I also love reading Blanche and Michelles post to one thing is we never give up and I am so proud of all of you.
Rosie Perth Australia (living in Saudi Arabia)
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Being real? You mean admitting first that I have a problem!!! but then people will know i'm strong....at least in the food area. That is me. I'm not strong i'm weak around certain foods and to be honest at certain times of the day....evening. I get home, Fix and eat dinner, but wait i'm still hungry...or am I? then comes the moment of truth...when a great OP day can be turned around to a way over my points and back to the drawing board again day. Now so far i've stayed pretty much OP but I have used some weekly points. Those for me are the gray area. Do I eat them or do I just go day to day? there in lies my trouble. I eat way too much of them.
And that's such a good feeling, isn't it , Joan! Good for you!
I am going out for lunch today. Never did learn how to handle that well when faced with so many choices. I'm steeling myself to eat the veggies offered. Maybe supper out, too. Nell says she just doesn't eat out very much. That doesn't fit my lifestyle very well, although I can see where it would be a distinct advantage with weight control.
I'm hoping to hear Nell's experience on how she handles Thanksgiving! Sometimes I think WW friends should hire a hotel room for the holiday....no Thanksgiving food allowed, and hibernate until the holiday is over.
The last post that was made on yesterday's thread was by our sweet lady Blanche, and she made the comment, ''I know why Nell is so successful. She's a realist." When I read that this morning it was as if someone was hitting my forehead with their index finger. Successful people are REALIST. They know exactly what they can eat or drink and how much, and they know that business of, ''oh I can handle one bite of that brownie" is noting but a lie. When we have an addiction, we maybe able to control it from time to time, but just like being overweight, we might get slim, but we are never cured. I hate to admit this, but I still have that mentality of, ''when I get to this weight, I'm going to have__________." I need to get that stuff out of my head, and actually face up to the fact that I am never, ever going to be like my husband Mr. Bob that can eat one piece of candy put the box away for another day. There are times when I see this out of him, I just look on in amazement, its very alien to me, I just don't understand why he is not eating the entire box. His brain tells him one is enough where my brain tells me, ''we have to eat the entire box, NOW, otherwise someone else might get some."
With the Weight Watcher program they tell us, ''there is nothing we can't have, we just have to remember to allow for it, count the points and watch the portions." Now that sounds simple enough....until someone like myself comes alone. There are things out there that I should never ever have, or even have them in the house...I just need to accept this and keep moving on.
I did have another better day yesterday, and for 3 nights now I have gone to bed without that stuffed like the Thanksgiving turkey feeling.
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