Did they talk about checking in with yourself about how you are doing at some point in the day? The lesson materials said we make 225 eating decisions a day. No wonder we are in such a pickle. I like Nell's attitude. If she asks herself if she thinks she can get away with eating something off the plan, the answer is an automatic "NO!" I'm not saying we all have that kind of strength. But most of us have room to make a number of better decisions than we are making each day.
I think we all do this. I look at the really thin, trim, flat mid-rift, flat belly people and just wonder how they did it??? The young people (25-45) are more active, usually and less health problems,sometimes and maybe more time for themselves at the gym,etc. I don't know, but as I got older and retired I had some health problems and other life changing events, which did cause more stress. I think too, taking care of a loved one is not easy. We did this too, with both my parents. All I can say is, Don't ever give up. There is a PLAN for each and every one of us and WE CAN DO IT!! Supporting each other and listening and sharing does help when we vent. We are WINNERS and We are worth it!! hugs, Ei
No matter how smart, strong, skilled, or skinny we are, there will always be someone smarter, stronger, more skilled, and skinnier. Comparing ourselves to other people only leads to misery. I know, because I do it all the time, as much as I try not to. It helps to remind myself not to compare myself to someone else - only to myself. Am I doing better than I was yesterday? Then I am doing well, and should stay the course. Am I doing worse that I was yesterday? Then I need to buck up and make a change. But the only comparison is to me.
Good luck everyone.
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Oh my jealousy, oh how I can relate. I have a step sister whom I dispise....anyhow she lost a lot of weight and I see her now and i'm thinking how unfair it is that she looks like that and I look like this...unfair? Hell if I would do what was expected of me I would be there also. So why do we allow ourselves to be jealous of anyone. We can't blame anyone or anything on our gains but ourselves. I think that is the part im so upset about with myself....each morning I wake up determined to beat the eating monster that lives inside me and each afternoon i'm hateing myself because again the devil perched on my shoulder and I gave in. I had a good on plan day yesterday, I say good because I did eat a bit over my daily points....ok seven points over. but that is better than other days. Headway? Maybe not but it gives me the courage to face one more day.
You can do what Amy did. She sits by you to support you because she knows you are in a hard place and that only you can make the decision to change direction.
I'm glad you faced the scales. I still think the "final straw" day will come, Joan, and you will be back on program. It's just taking longer than you wish this time. You have a lot of other issues on your plate which are distracting you from the weight issue.
I'm also glad you got out for a little socialization. So important when you are a caregiver!
I'm glad I went to my meeting yesterday and I a glad I faced that scale. I don't know what the number was, I had asked the person not to tell me, but I, like many of you, know before we ever get to the meeting place that we have gained. My clothes tell the tell, the way I feel after filling my body with all the wrong stuff, too much sometimes of the right stuff, but we know. I say I am glad I went not only cause that is MY time, its my time to be away from the house for about an hour, all this includes driving and the meeting. I see people that I would only see at these meetings, and all that is good. I also know if I ever make an excuse not to go just one time then there will be another excuse for yet another, and another until my chair would be empty. Am I doing great yet? No, but I am telling myself all the reasons I am giving for not doing what I am suppose to is nothing more than a boat load of excuses. Oh and I found something else out about myself yesterday that I was totally appalled about. I am jealous of the gal in our meeting that has lost 111 pounds. Amy is just the sweetest person anyone would ever want to meet, and she tries to sit by me each week, and since she has lost the 111 pounds, she wears some of the cutest clothes, and yesterday was no exception, and Amy sat next to me at the meeting, and I kept thinking to myself, ''what is it??? Why am i feeling this way??? Wasn't until after I got home that it hit me, ''I'm jealous!!!!!!!!!!!!!" I am jealous that Amy looks great, like I once did, but I have no right to jealous of anyone, I can envy them, but being jealous is just plan stupid due to I could do the very same thing, but I had to ask myself this really hard question.....are you willing to work as hard as Amy has???? I shall continue this tomorrow. Love, Joan
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