I don't have a twin but I have an older sister. She has always been a lot smaller than me in height and weight. A couple of years ago she had a hysterectomy, (I had mine 12 years ago) and began to gain weight. She is now probably 20 pounds heavier than I am even though she is about 6 inches shorter than me.
When she was so small I never, ever said anything to her to try to make her feel bad and I never have said anything to her about being bigger now. The last time I seen her she brought up my weight loss and I told her about this site. Her husband came home later and commented on my weight and the claws came out. She said some hurtful things to me and I just ignored it at the time.
I was hurt not only by what she said but also that she would try to make me feel bad because I have managed to loose weight. She has always wanted to have and be better than me and she always has been. I guess she just feels that now I am doing better than she is, but I do not feel that way. I don't know how to make her see that I am not competing with her, I love her for who she is, not for what she looks like or what she has.
I wonder if it is just some sort of sibling rivalry for you and I, and would like to hear some other people and their relationship with their sisters.
Thanks for posting this message.
Edited by: TERRIFARWELL at: 10/23/2008 (14:34)
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