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11/23/14 7:29 P

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LUPE, Thank God you're alright. We have hurricanes on the East coast. I much prefer them to earthquakes. We have several days to get out of the way. We've had a few very mild quakes in New England. That's unsettling enough. Stay safe out there!
Did the complex have their Thanksgiving Dinner. I think you told us you were all making decorations for that.


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11/23/14 5:53 P

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Went to Mass and it was a beautiful morning.

Last night around 9:00pm we were watching TV in living room and all of a sudden our floor starting shaking and our mirror on the wall moved. Wel;, there was an earthquake in Irving, TX, which is not too far from where we live. Ten o'clock news said it was an earthquake 3.7 magnitude. Irving has had 3 of these in November, but this is the first one we have felt that strong. Luckily no damage occurred. I can deal with rain, storms, etc. but an earthquake is something else.

The temps here are in the 60's for this week. Should be nice weather for Thanksgiving and our Dallas Cowboys game.

I need to do my nutrition, tracking, etc. but things have changed since last time I was on SP so I have to figure all that out.

My mom and dad had no formal education but they were the smartest people I knew. I did graduate from High School but never went to college. When I worked all Regional Directors had college degrees but they would call me to help them figure out things that they were suppose to know.

Have a very blessed evening.

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11/23/14 4:33 P

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Hi Sparkfriends!!
Ellen, I also watched church service online this morning. I enjoyed it and it started my day off well.
It has rained here all day but the temp is in the 50's so it's not too bad. You know Grace you are probably on the money about the appliances in the garage. My fridge is a new model but the chest freezer is not. I will have to keep an eye on my energy usage this summer. Maybe I can work on emptying out the freezer by summertime.
Got my steps in so am thankful. My nighttime snacking is killing me. I gotta get a grip!!
Everyone have a blessed evening.

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Good afternoon team! Today, I took a 2 mile walk. For some reason my walking app has synchronized itself to Sparkpeople, without my consent. The only problem is it is calling my walks “runs” and I can assure you I am NOT running.

I just came in from transplanting my tomatoes into bigger pots. I know that nobody wants to hear this, but it’s in the 80s out there.

ELLEN, I’m sorry that your DH is suffering from the stomach bug and hope he’s feel better ASAP! Tell him to make sure to force fluids so he doesn’t get dehydrated.
I also didn’t lose any weight this month(I don’t think). I eat what ever I want so I can’t expect to lose weight. And what you said about not counting on exercise, alone, to make you lose weight is so true. When I walk 2 miles, I only burn off 150 calories.
About education – I only have an associates degree however, I like to think that I’m working on advanced degrees at U.G. (the ”University of Google”. (smile) I was luck to get the amount of formal education that I did because my family didn’t believe on “wasting money” to educate women, who usually ended up being “nothing but housewives and mothers”. Educating the boys was much more important because they were going to be the “breadwinners”.

SHIRLEY, You must be so proud of your son for volunteering his time to help disabled Marines. It must be difficult to deal with some of their issues.
About second refrigerators – I thought I would love to have one, but I recently read that it’s one of the biggest energy hogs in the house because it’s usually the old frig that gets put in the garage. Because it’s old it doesn’t have the energy saving features the new ones do, plus when it’s put in a garage, the motor has to work harder in the summer because garages usually are not air conditioned.
About your Father not having a “formal” education – Some of the smartest, most “levelheaded” people I’ve known were not “book smart” and some of the most “educated” people I know are “Airheads” who don’t have a lick of common sense.

MARY, It’s good to hear from you. I’m used to keeping up with you on the Friend’s Feed. I bought a mandolin and used it a couple of times before I also cut my finger badly, when I took the guard off to get one more slice out of what ever I was cutting. It wasn’t worth it and I haven’t used the thing since. I do use my “Vadalia Dicer” all the time. I’ve got one in CT and one in FL. It comes in handy when I make soup. I just made another batch of Vegetarian Italian Veg soup that I got from Allrecipes.com. I think I’ll switch to chicken or TURKEY next time.(smile)

IRENE, That’s good news that you got a goodnight’s sleep! What ever you did to cause that to happen – Do the same thing again tonight!
The second good news is that you got M. to take a walk with you. I think he likes to feel that he’s still needed.

CECILE, I’m glad that you and Val are feeling better now. About your Christmas spirit- don’t push it on yourself. You’ll get the spirit back when the time is right for you. It may be next year or the year after that, but it will return. ((HUGS))

ALLIE, When my kids were little, we used to watch for the Sears Christmas catalog and they would put their initials on stuff they wanted. But of course they wanted EVERYthing!

MARLENE, Good for you for doing the planks. I’m trying to increase the duration and amount every day. But I over did it yesterday and my back is very unhappy today. It’s my own fault – I tried to do a “reverse plank”. I could barely get my butt off the floor, even a half an inch, but I kept trying 3 or 4 times for 8 seconds each. I don’t think I’ll be doing any more of the reverse planks, just the side and forward facing ones.

I'm sorry I've missed a few of you. I'll try to do better next time.

Have a good evening!

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Good afternoon everyone!

I guess the sun is not due back here yet. Still absent!

Val went out for supper last evening. It was at her father`s house. She said it went well. She was on call today at the store and when she called, the manager said she was not needed. She was kind of happy but not me. Anytime she doesn`t go in means less pay.

Joe - I am remiss in welcoming you. It is nice to have a man on the team. It gives us a different perspective on things. - I plan on visiting the web sites for the quilts for children and vets. That is one talent I do not have as my mom stopped quilting after she got married. My father`s sisters quilted but it never dawned on me to learn.

Sue B -Thank you for explaining about War Eagle. It must be awesome to watch that majestic bird fly about the stadium and to land on the 50 yard line. I wonder if it took a long time to train the bird to do this.

Irene - I do not have the Christmas spirit this year and I didn`t have it last year. As you might remember, André was in the hospital for both Christmas and New Year. This year, Val wants to decorate. She said it was too depressing last year with nothing of the Season in the living room. We shall see what mood I`m in.

Mary - It was a good scare your friend gave you but it is lucky it was only his ear. - Regarding Marcus`crawling, as you said it is much faster than walking when they start. One day, he will decide to stop crawling and just walk. Then he will forget to walk again when he discovers running.

Shirley - I did not get to go to mass yesterday as I was still feeling nauseous. I still have a bit of that feeling again today. I know it will leave but am really anxious to get rid of this unwanted guest. - As I said I took the time to look at the name on the cheque and when I saw the mistake, I called my insurance advisor right away. I left a message on his machine and he has not called me back yet. He is in Gatineau only from Monday to Thursday. He lives out of town and Thursday evening he goes home to his family. If on Tuesday, he has not called me back, I will call him again. - My ex-daughter-in-law takes her tree down the day after Christmas. Donald told me he found it so depressing but stubborn as she was and with no regards to other people`s feelings, she always did as she pleased.

By for now. God bless and keep us safe. May His angels watch over us. emoticon



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11/23/14 2:47 P

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Good afternoon team:

I am not going to write to much right now. I just read all the posts for today and loved all of them. As I said before my town reminds me of Mayberry. I picked all the people on this team sitting around with "Aunt Bee: discussing the ways of the world. I have to add no offense taken to the age of the people on this team that do not apply to Aunt Bees buddies.

You all have a good day and a good evening. Time for my walk.

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I just watched my church's sermon on line. Our senior pastor had a guest speaker, Philip Yancey. I almost did not tune in because since Phillip Yancey is a writer, I figured he would not be a good speaker. Was I ever wrong!!! If you can ever go hear him speak, please do. He is so inspiring as well as entertaining. Then I started to close it down after he spoke. If I had, I would have missed out on such beautiful music! This morning just enforced one of my 2014 goals "Don't miss opportunities!"

Speaking of stomach problems, the reason we did not drive to church was because my DH felt ill. Then he threw up. I am not sure if it was all the medication for pain or something else. He does seem to have a lot of problems.

Another month is almost over and my weight is the same as when the month started. I guess that is all not bad. I cleaned house yesterday, did 30 minutes of biking, and then went to the Mall to do birthday shopping for my son.

Oh, my goodness, the Mall was crowded!!! I guess no one told people that Black Friday is Next week-end! We only walked half of it, plus a long way to our car and then I walked all over Barnes and Noble while my DH was browsing through investment books. I was looking for a photograph book for my DH's Christmas, but they did not have it.

But I lost zero weight with all that exercise, which proves what we all know on this site- exercise firms you, keeps you healthy, but really no one loses a lot of weight unless they are a marathon runner.

Shirley - thanks for encouraging me to become a Master Gardener. They interview people in early June. I may really consider it this year.

Bonnie - College - I took a couple of classes out of high school and then worked and put my ex-husband through 4 years of college. After he went to work, I stayed home with our son but took a few classes at night. I did not get serious about a degree until after my divorce and I knew I had to depend on no one but myself. Fortunately, my company would reimburse me for my tuition and books if I made above a C. But before I got a degree, my ex's friends thought I had a college degree because I was so well read. I think reading broadly, watching educational TV and listening to NPR will make you well educated. Of course, if you want to do what Slimmer is doing, you need to go to college.

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Good morning - short post to say hello as we are getting ready to go to Mass. Will check back in later.

Have a very blessed and safe day.

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Happy Sunday Everyone -

Mary - good to see your post. Our littlest grandson (7) had a birthday the week before Marcus. Toddlers are lots of work, but they will never be cuter than they are now. * Sorry about your finger. There is Nothing that would get me out of washing dishes. I put on a protective glove and keep going - smile. Those cuts really hurt for a long time, don't they? * Glad to hear your friend is okay. What a scare, not to mention the disruption in Sunday services. We had a church member that sung in the choir; one day he went into diabetic seizure. Thankfully it was before service, and also thankfully our priest's wife is an RN and knew how to diagnose what was happening with him and what to do. I was the one scurrying around the church that time trying to find help for him. The man's wife was furious with him as it seems that he would skip meals and then get into trouble.

Irene - I know it is a ploy to get people to buy more, but I so wish they would at least wait until Advent before putting up trees and the like. I can't speak for England, of course, but here once Christmas Day is over many (if not most) people seem to think that Christmas is over, not just beginning. It is such a short Church Season. I've told this story before, but it is worth sharing again. A priest I once had said one of the saddest sights he had seen was when he was walking home after Christmas Day services, and he passed a Christmas tree on the curb for trash pickup. * So happy you got a good night's sleep. I can't remember the last time I slept through the night. * So I understand painting is good for someone like Maurice, as long as it doesn't frustrate him too badly not being able to control his brush. For folks with problems it is the act of doing that is important, not the finished work. This probably bothers you more than him, since you know what kind of work he was capable of doing.

Yvonne - thank you for your post on the Master Gardener program. It is most enlightening, and I found it most interesting as well.

Sue - I don't think you have to go to a college or live in a town to be a fan of its football team or other sports teams. The priest at the church where my membership is was so excited to accept the calling to our church many years back, as outside of what he learned about our church, he and his wife are Big fans of our sports teams, especially the baseball Cardinals. They are big Notre Dame fans (I think she is from Indiana) but to the best of my memory, I think he grew up in Michigan, and neither attended that University. My brother is the biggest University of Georgia fan I've ever seen. He has their memorabilia all over his house, and as said he went to no college - smile * As you know I love birds, and your description of how Auburn begins their games sounded awesome.

Joe - I don't think we can give enough credit to groups like you mention. My son is an inactive/discharged Marine, he became involved with a group locally that helps disabled Marines physically and mentally. I gather it is like a camp or retreat where they go for a period of time. My son has recently become a correctional officer, so I'm not sure how his work schedule will impact his volunteer work. I must remember to ask him the next time we have some "just us" time to talk.

Cecile - it is good to know that you and Val are feeling better. Something definitely is going around as several on the team aren't feeling well including me. A few days before Thanksgiving is definitely not a good time to be not feeling well. * I know it wasn't funny at the time, but that was a funny story about when your delivered your daughter. I would have been most happy to have had my husband out of the room too - smile. I have no doubt he was concerned for what you were going through and trying to let you know he understood, but.... * Second, refrigerators - I don't know what I'd do without mine. I'm no longer entertaining and cooking a lot before guests arrive, which is the reason I had need of a second fridge in the first place. But it is so nice to have a place to store my son's beer for when he drops by, extra wine, extra refrigerated items that we go through often. By having such it does help a bit having to go to the store as often. * I hope that you were able to get to the mass for André. * Since you've explained to the insurance company about your name, why on earth can't they issue those checks correctly? I know a clerk most likely wouldn't have the authority to change this, but someone higher up certainly should be able to correct this.

Bonnie - Glad to hear that your thumb is feeling better. * Advanced Education - I am definitely one who believes in getting as much as one can; however... not all humans are scholars - like I've been writing in my posts, we all have gifts some have academic gifts others in the arts or the trades, and have no interest in sitting in a classroom to learn. My older grandson would be a full time student if he could. My son is more physical, a very good athlete, and I haven't see him try a sport that he couldn't do well. He loves physical labor as opposed to a desk job. The grandson I mentioned is just the opposite. I have very little patience with intellectual snobs. Just because you don't have a degree doesn't mean that you aren't smarter than some who do. I mentioned my dad in another post as an example. When I worked for the Gifted Program, there were some of the parents that we called "gifted parents," meaning that they had hitched their worth to whether or not their child made it into the program, and they could brag. Don't get me wrong, having a child that is intellectually gifted is something to be proud of and gives one a right to brag a bit. And at the time I worked there standards were very high to get in because the area where it was located was loaded with very smart kids that had traveled abroad and had had life experiences at an early age that many of us don't experience in a lifetime. We could only accept so many children, so the competition was fierce. Many very smart kids had to be turned away - not because they weren't gifted, but there were so many others that scored higher on IQ tests and other testing.

Have a good day everyone -
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Good Morning all. Sorry I haven't been posting. I've been checking in every day and reading a bit, so have a vague idea of what everyone is up to.
I think the last I posted was Remembrance Sunday. The service was nice until the sermon...lol. About 5 minutes a couple of people at the back were yelling for my husband...turned around and an older friend of his was slumped over in the pew. Lorne gave first aid while we waited for he ambulance, then I took his wife to the hospital and sat with her for a couple of hours. Turns out it was just an inner ear problem, but he gave us a good scare!
We had Markus's first birthday party on the 14th, then he started walking the next day...but now he's back to crawling. I guess it's faster :)
We had our Christmas bazaar and lunch yesterday. It went well, and we made a little more $$ than usual, so I guess my first effort at organising was a success. I sliced a good chunk off my right pinky yesterday morning, so that has slowed me down a bit. I was slicing cucumbers with my mandolin, without the guard. I know better, of course. At least I won't have to do dishes for a day or two :)
Have a great day everyone!

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Hello on Sunday, I am ahoy and thankful bunny today,I couldn't believe I slept through the night till 5 30 am. I do not mind waking early at all if I have slept well,
Yes the bathroom needs affects us all I think now , and must affect out sleep pattern ,
The town Christas tree is up and decorated now, I can't say I feel very festive yet, the big light up ceremony is on Friday with carol singing . Maybe I will feel more festive then. I do agree with your views Shirley , we will leave others to celebrate their own special times if they leave us alone to celebrate ours in peace ,
Yesterday I got Maurive to walk with me for w few groceries saying I needed his help to carry bags, all he wants to do is sleep. Anyway he was ok walking there , I met a church friend of my dil in the supermarket She greeted ue both M had forgotten her but out of the blue he told her he used to be a good artist, right away she assured him she knew that and also he still was a good artis. it was a perfect thing to say to him. She is a caring person and made sure I had her phone number to call her any time I help when family are away. How kind.
M was q good artist not professional, he is struggling now on painting, Ihave suggested he does pencil drawing as he can control a pencil better than a paint brush. I am trying to get him to do something other than sleep or watch tv .
Have a peaceful Sunday , Irene


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SHIRLEY - I'm taking the Master Gardener class entirely on the computer. Apparently, last year the class met at an extension classroom here in Warrenton, which I would have enjoyed a lot more (the education of many together, as we've discussed). I don't think Warren County is as active as some of the other counties, but I'm not sure how the meetings will work once I start in the "volunteer" side of the program. The whole purpose of the Master Gardener program is to educate the public. It started years ago from the Extension Agency of each state providing a place for education of farmers for the good of the produce they provided.

When we became more of an urban country, the Extension Agency in Washington state started something they called Master Gardening program to provide education and services to residential and vegetable gardeners. Once other states saw the effectiveness of the Washington program, they adopted it as well. The rules for being allowed "out in public" are stringent, so they can be sure the information being handed out is based on actual research, not anecdotal information. Thus... my prejudice in favor of organic gardening would have to be limited to the extent of researched information. Luckily, organic gardening is becoming more and more accepted.

Well, time for me to go to bed. Still have my bath to take and it's already past the time I like to get to bed.

Night, all.... thank you for being here.

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Hey Cecile!! War Eagle is the battle cry for Auburn University in Auburn Alabama. Hubby are I are huge fans although neither of us is an alumni. We are the Auburn Tigers but as I say the battle cry is War Eagle. Before each game we release an eagle which flies the perimeter of the stadium then lands on the 50 yard line. It is breathtaking.

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Shirley...Thanks for your kind comments. Actually, I didn't give enough credit to those friends of mine that make the quilts. They are a part of a National organization called Quilts for Kids and another is Quilts for Vets. If you google the Quilts for Kids, the slide show alone will warm your heart....they are pictures of hospitalized children wrapped in quilts that ladies from all over the United States have made with love and caring, and have sent to these children, I really respect their efforts. They do the same for wounded Vets.


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Good afternoon everyone!

It is not snowing right now but I guess the sun took the day off. It will come back but date unknown.

Val and I are doing much, much better today. I guess the flu has gone. We are pretty happy about it.

Joe - Happy your surgery went well.

Marlene - Reading your story about your hubby being absent from your side during labour, brought to mind my experience. When I had my daughter, they let my hubby in the room. He sat on the chair and would say: Does it really hurt that much? They say it really hurts. When the nurse asked him to leave so she could give me a sponge bath I was very happy. She told me she would go and get him, I told her not to do it and told her why. She agreed to leave him in the waiting room.

Sue B - Your day sounds like fun. I kind of do that every once in a while. - You keep mentioning War Eagle. What do you mean by that?

Yvonne - Thank you for the angels. I do need them lately.

Irene - Congrats on your win. Isn`t it nice to have such a surprise? You do deserve it. - I am getting rid of an old refrigerator that is in the basement. Hydro Quebec comes to pick it up at no charge. The program ends at the end of December 2014. I am getting help this week from my helper Guy to come and get it ready for pick-up. Then I`m planning on Maybe getting another for the basement as it is very convenient when the one upstairs is full.

Allie - What a splendid idea about getting your grandsons to cut out pictures of what they want for Christmas. That must have kept them busy for a while. - A few people I know have had cataract surgery and they say it is a very easy surgery. Good luck and keep us in the loop. I need to go for mine next year around April and I would like to know how it went.

Shirley - As I mentioned above the flu seems to have left the building. I am not at all sorry. -There is a mass at church today at 4 for André and I had made arrangements with my neighbour to go to mass together. Last evening I was still pretty dizzy so I called her and cancelled. This morning I am fine. Maybe I`ll get Val to drive me. I would hate to miss it. - Since the life insurance has come in I do feel much better about the finances. I told Val I am NOT spending a penny until all back expenses have been paid. - I received another cheque from my life insurance. This time I took the time to look at the front. Again, they wrote the cheque out to my married name. I have contacted the agent and left a message on his machine.

Bonnie - I left school in the middle of my 11th grade. I was not good in school as I did not have much retention. I would study at night and know everything by heart. I would get to school and have forgotten everything I learned. Very stressful.

By for now. May God bless and keep us safe. May His angels watch over us. emoticon

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Good Morning, Team.

It is 36 degrees out and will be in the 40's. DH & I are going to our local garden center today to pick up some Ornamental Cabbage and Kale. The frost "did in" all of my flowers now and I always fill in with Cabbage & Kale. Last year our repeated snow falls took a toll on them but most years they last until early Spring.

My thumb hasn't hurt today *knock on wood* but it was giving me a fit off and on yesterday.

@Joe, good luck with your carpal tunnel surgery recovery. I broke my right wrist about 20 years ago and after dealing with that my doctor decided I needed carpal tunnel surgery since my fingers were all numb. I did well through it but since my occupation was medical transcriptionist, I couldn't stop typing. So after a couple years the carpal tunnel pain came back. I now have it in both wrists but it comes and goes so I can deal with it. I sleep with a brace on whichever wrist is giving me the most trouble.

@Yvonne - A group of Master Gardeners set up a booth at our farmer's market every Sunday. I never really knew what their expertise was. Thanks for explaining.

About our family focus. Both of my parents had college degrees. My mother had a Master's degree. Both my sister and I knew we were expected to go to college. Unfortunately, I dropped the ball and only could make it into Junior College. I don't know if my parents were disappointed in me but they never made me feel that they were. My sister went on to a 4 year college out of state. I did go to the same Junior College where my mother was the head librarian so, since she died relatively young at 57, I cherish the times we had when we carpooled to college together and I would spend time with her in the library between classes. My mother's sister was very interested in being educated and going to a "good" college. She always had many words of praise for my sister and was always telling her friends about her niece in college. She never seemed to know what to say about me. When I went to visit her in Florida she would take me to gatherings of her friends and they would all sit around and talk about what prestigious schools their children and grandchildren were affiliated with. I felt "very" out of place. I'm afraid I didn't act as "impressed" as they thought I should be.

I hope everyone has a wonderful day.
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Good Morning Everyone -

Allie - how clever you are! I'll bet your boys loved cutting out pictures and making a picture list of things they want for Christmas. I would have loved doing something like that as a child, and I can see my grandson liking that activity too. * Jumping right into Christmas - why not? It seems this is the way things are done now days. Christmas displays are being put up before Halloween and then after Halloween begins the Christmas push. I don't like it, but there is nothing we can do about it. But you know what, I ran into this way back in the mid-50s, I went into a dime store and wanted to buy Thanksgiving decorations for my apartment, and was told they didn't sell such, just Christmas. Society in general seems to want to abolish Christianity and all symbols of Christmas, but not the partying and gift giving, and the stores can't wait to make big profits on this Holiday. Such really, Really annoys me no end. Believe what you wish, that is your right, but don't try to abolish something that is meaningful to the rest of us. If the sight of Christian symbols bothers you that much then move to a non-Christian country or try and ignore them. I don't like the way so many women dress now days, and people jumping in bed with each other just for the fun of it, and this is in my face all the time, but you don't hear an outcry about this. Yes, I do think we should give more attention to Thanksgiving, and I always have. Sorry for the rant. These feelings must have been closer to the surface than I thought. * I'm glad you've found a doctor you can trust and are having the cataract surgery done. Yes, it is a common procedure, and it seems that those who have it done are most happy with the outcome.

Irene - many have asked why I feel so lethargic all the time. Sleep deprivation is the main cause, I'm sure. Sleeping only 1-2 hours before waking up and using the bathroom all through the night, has got to take its toll. My husband's sleep problems are more like yours, he sleeps for longer intervals, but spends hours each night either reading or sleeping in his recliner. * I need your granddaughter, Megan, to come and help me rid this house of so much unused "stuff." * I hope you and I both can catch a nap today.

Sue - I know about moving from more space into less. In my previous house where I lived for 30 years, I had a place for everything. This house has good cabinet and closet space, but I've still got boxes and boxes in the basement unpacked. As I said to Irene, I need her Megan to come and help me rid myself of 75% of it at least. Glad you got your cabinets done. I do love wood cabinets like the cherry ones you had before.

Marlene - I am impressed that you too can do "the plank." They aren't easy to do. Congratulations on an "on-track" week with your eating and getting in all of those exercise minutes. * I had a like experience with my first child, but I was so concerned about what I was going to be going through and was kept so busy that I didn't have time to be lonely. Although my water had broken before I left home, it was four hours after I got to the hospital that my daughter was born.

Joe - how good of you to check in with your hand problem. From your post you are doing very well as a one hand typist - smile. * I so agree with what you wrote Slimmer. I worked for 5 years as a secretary for our school district's Gifted Education Program. Secretary is a relative term, as I think most know. I was liaison between the parents and staff, managed the office, did janitorial jobs and anything else that needed to be done. At any rate, we told the parents that children develop at different stages just like plants, and that they are all gifted in different ways - some academically gifted, some athletically gifted, then there are the artists, musicians, etc. What you have written tells me that you have been blessed with a number of gifts. How wonderful the work your friend does for cancer patients and disabled vets. A very special person indeed. * I do hope your wrist heals well and quickly.

Cecile - you have good reason to be scatterbrained right now. I go through that and I have no good reason - smile. * So sorry you and Val have stomach flu. I hope it won't last long. Glad also she didn't have to go into work. If she has stomach flu, I'll bet they are glad she isn't there too - smile. * I think you are doing Very Well. I hope I do as well as you when my time comes, as my husband handles most of the finances, taxes, etc. Just give yourself time and don't rush. You will have your moments when you will get down, but over time things will get much better, but you know this. *I hope you and Val will be feeling well soon.

Yvonne - do you have to go all the way into the botanical gardens for your Master Gardener classes, meetings or whatever? That is where a friend I had long ago went. Thanks for explaining a bit more about the program. * Gardening with bad knees isn't an easy task. My legs and knees are so bad now that I just can't get on the floor/ground and back up, or on my knees. Plus I can't bend over for very long at all either, so gardening is no longer something I can do. * Are you talking about the book "Drawing on The Right Side of the Brain?" I can't remember the name of the author now, and the book is in the library in the basement. I was allowed to audit an in-service class for teachers when I worked for the school district, since they were aware that I could draw. I loved the course and the book. I tend to be neither left or right brain dominant since I'm about as good at math and analytical thinking as I am with drawing and painting. My older grandson is the same - he graduated with a degree in fine art and a degree in math. The book was a real eye opener. Yes, this is a very interesting subject and I found that exercise you described Very interesting too. * As for my parents, they stressed hard work over education. In fact if my dad said a woman was very smart, he was usually referring to her being a hard worker, not to her intellect. Education/going to school - for them both was a privilege not a necessity. As I've written here before, my dad is the most intelligent person I've ever know. He had only a 7th grade education in a one room school house - I gather from hearing his brothers talk; had a number of jobs - construction, sales, learned to fly, and would take people up for airplane rides on the weekend before World War II. Joined a special division of the Army as a pilot for four years until the war ended and was discharged with the rank of Captain. Bought an airport, and built two businesses before he finally retired in his late 70s. I've often wondered how well in these times, when it is thought you have to have formal education - a degree - to be prosperous, he would do.

Ellen - it is good that your son has recovered enough to go home. I know he appreciates all you did, but let's face it "there's no place like home." - smile. * About the book "Artists Way" - I understand that it isn't just for writers. What I was saying to Sue, that by journaling she may find she has a gift for writing, since she was looking for how to identify/recognize her talents. * I encourage you to consider Master Gardening. Although your knees are bad, it hasn't seemed to stop you from yard work, and you definitely seem to have an interest in such. * I so admire you for getting your college education. My parents unfortunately didn't feel as your parents did. My mother told me if they could send either me or my brother to college it would be my brother as he would be the bread winner, and I would marry. Such faulty thinking. My brother dropped out of high school his senior year. They did send me to college for a year, where I earned a certificate in "Secretarial Science." I know I hadn't heard of such then and certainly not since. I have a strong gift for art, teaching and managing, but for some reason my mother had in her head that I needed to learn secretarial skills. I do better with bookkeeping than typing and shorthand. These certainly aren't where my talents lie, especially shorthand. Had I known what I learned much later, too late - I could have gotten scholarships to have helped me work my way through college, and I could have done it on my own. In the 50s a woman couldn't get a loan without a male to cosign it. As they say about women - "we've come a long way baby."

Bonnie - so sorry to hear about your father-in-law. I do so hope all will be well for him. Keep us posted. * My loss of interest in reading - I have no idea what caused it, but I sure wish I could get it back. I've tried, but so far no luck. Where my favorite reading is mystery, political intrigue and suspense novels, I also enjoy religious books both fiction and factual, history, and the list goes on. I used to read lots of fact based books - religious, nutrition, diets, gardening, and so on as well as fiction. So my interest in reading is very varied. I'm not big on poetry although I do appreciate it. Like you sci-fi and horror stories hold no interest for me whatsoever. In short when I read I like to learn things while I'm being entertained. And when I find an author that researches his/her topics well and sprinkles their stories with a lot of fact, they hook me very quickly - or at least they once did - smile. * I hope your thumb is feeling better today.

Wishing everyone a good day and a good weekend.
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11/22/14 9:27 A

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Hi Sparkfriends!
Allie-what a great idea to have your GS'S pick out pictures of things they would like. That must have been a lot of fun. Glad you are comfortable now with the plan for cataract surgery-that is a real blessing.
I have had a freezer for many years-actually at the last house I had a huge upright and a small chest. Now I have the small chest one and a extra refrigerator in the garage. It sounds like a lot but it is great for the four of us and I can stock up on sales. There are things I refuse to pay full price for.
Sure am looking forward to Thanksgiving and having my youngest stepson and his family here. I guess we will have about 9-10 here. My middle stepson never comes or calls-even his brothers. He is pretty much a loner. I always remember him at Christmas and his birthday (which was Thursday). Don't ever want him to think that he is not loved because he is. Makes me sad.
Everyone is going to pile in the car and we are going to make a run to Wally World. Whoopee!!!!! Todays menu is crockpot potato soup which the family loves. Me too-cause it is super easy.
Beautiful day here in Alabama. I am really feeling for all those folks in Buffalo-I see the pictures and it brings back memories. I am having a nursing school reunion in 2017 (50 years) and I am looking forward to going back one last time. I want to swing back through Pennsylvania so we can see my son's aunts and uncles as well. Really praying everyones health holds out so we can go.
My team does not play until this evening. We will not make the playoff this year but War Eagle anyway!!!!
Everyone have a wonderful, peaceful and productive day.


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11/22/14 5:17 A

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From one insomniac to another, good morning Cecile. I think it is exciting when someone gets a new appliance. I don't think I ever had a freezer. I am sure it will come in handy.

I have my grandsons with me. They are sleeping peacefully, all tucked in their beds. They are probably dreaming about sugarplums. When their Mom dropped them off last night, I had some sale flyers waiting for them. They poured through the flyers and picked out things they wanted for Christmas. They cut out what they wanted then they taped everything on a piece of paper to show any interested gift givers.

I made an ornament for our Christmas tree. Every year I get a small live Christmas tree and the boys and I decorate it.If it isn't too cold out I am going to have the boys help me put some Christmas decorations outside. As you can see I have bypassed Thanksgiving and have gone straight to Christmas.

I got a second opinion regarding cataract surgery. I researched both specialists and picked the best one for me.

I am going to try to get to the pool.The doctor said I have to wear my goggles all the time now.

I have cornea abrasion on my eyes too so I just have to be more careful in the pool. Cornea abrasion in itself isn't really that bad, but when you add in the cataracts it can get a little dicey. I am looking forward to getting the surgery now. I have decided it needs to be done and it is a very common procedure.

I hope everyone has a good weekend. Allie emoticon


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Saturday morning, what a lot of chatty Mail to read, I am not Complaining! Just thinking I should read it daily !
Held back by my enemy of insomnia again.i am losing three hours or so each night so feel listless and grumpy by day,
But itry to stay positive, dhd Megan did come here on Thursday and sort out some kitchen cabinets which i can't get at easily, she was ruthless too. She would show me an item, if I hesitated she would say outit goes then, she found things I had long forgotten so it seems I dont need them now.
No new freezer yet but it's on its way. Somehere in the system
I won a small prize yeterday , itcame by mail, a very pretty scarf plus some knitting yarn, it is from an online knitting group where we make things for charity A new team name was wanted. Mysuggestion received most votes, I was pleased my old brain still functions , in that group I am knitting mini Christmas stockings for a Home ,one for each resident, .ihope to do some today, can't see me being very energetic in other ways till I catch up in sleep. Often I have a run of bad nights then a few good ones. Enjoy your weekend . Irene

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CECILE, may His angels keep YOU safe and bring you peace. Love your nightly blessings.

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Hi Sparkfriends!
It has been a wonderful day! Got my 20,000 steps in.
Watching Auburn play Louisiana Lafayette-basketball now. War Eagle!
Joe- glad all went well. I think you have it all together!
Shirley-yes I know he artistic part was referring to artwork but I thought it was kind of funny that I got the urge to do the cabinets. I had solid cherry cabinets in my last house but when I built this one I wanted a white kitchen. I have really enjoyed it . The smaller space has been a blessing as far as keeping it clean and in order but I have to be diligent as far as maintaining things and keeping clutter at bay.
Tomorrow is a do what I want to day. There is nothing to stress about so if I feel like working I will, if not I won't.
God bless all my precious Sparkfriends!!!

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Hello Team Mates. I've had a pretty good week, have cut back on my eating and got to the gym three times, 270 mins. Grace I recently started doing "planks". They do work the core.

Tomorrow AM I am going to a Christmas craft tour with three other women. It is in a small community near us several churches, shops, schools will be selling many handmade crafts, baked goods and other foods. It should be fun. We all are about the same age and condition physically and not planning on visiting all of the sites.

Bonnie, hope your thumbs are improving. I noticed recently that my hands are hurting and stiff. I consider myself lucky since my older family members had joint, back and knee problems at much younger ages. I soon have a birthday coming and what bothers me most is that mentally I don't feel 80. I realize I can no longer climb mountains or hike the Alps but I still want to take hikes in the parks and really clean my house like I used to.

Yvonne, it is wonderful that you can have "hands on" experiences with your DD as she progresses along with her pregnancy. Things have changed since we had our babies. When we got to the hospital for our first daughter they put me in a wheel chair my husband kissed me and I didn't see him again until after she was born, 17 hours. I don't think I ever felt so alone.

Everyone have a great weekend. emoticon

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Hi Everyone
I went in yesterday for Carpel Tunnel surgery, and I normally type bad enough with two hands, but right now I am using 1 and 1/2...Sue B thanks for your prayers.

Slimmer...What that teacher said to you...angers me.....I believe this attitude is around more than most think. And I also believe that artistry is a relative term and we all have our talents than satisfy that artistic urge....for me I write songs and music...are they good? who cares... it pleases me. And another is my gardens which is made up of walkways, waterfalls and structures I have built...to me it's like designing a garden like a painting you can walk into....Slimmer I think you are incredible and your passion for your art, is what makes it special.

I have a friend who is a member of a group that makes quilts and donates them to children with cancer, and to disabled vets.....their art has got to be satisfying....

Ivonne....your post was fascinating....I am looking into this book...

Bonnie....I am so sorry you are in pain....


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Good afternoon everyone.

I am so used to posting at night that I started to type good evening. As I said before, I am a bit scatterbrained lately.

Last evening I was not feeling too good. Started to feel nauseous shortly after supper. I thought it was something I ate but it turned out to be the stomach flu. This morning Val told me that a girl`s boyfriend had that last week and she had it this week. It is most probable that Val brought the germ home. At the moment Val is not feeling too good. The good news is that she was to go to work but the manager called to say to stay home as there was no one in the store. She is sleeping at the moment.

I am feeling a bit happier at the moment. I find that I am in a better place emotionally. Some of the stuff between Val and I is my doing. I don`t stop to think but start yelling at her. It`s not fair to her. I am trying to be a better person.

Things seem to be falling into place. It`s about time. I need to open a new bank account and transfer money into it to pay the municipal and school taxes. It dawned on me two nights ago that now it`s my responsibility. That was a waker upper.

Later.... God bless and keep us safe. May His angels keep us safe. emoticon

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ELLEN, I will look up that book Wishcraft. The title sound familiar, so I think I've seen it somewhere.

On Master Gardening: I'm 71 and have bad knees as well. As I said in a previous post, half the Herb Club were Master Gardeners and they really inspired me. The oldest just turned 80 before we moved, and she was still very active in the club. The period of volunteering changes from state to state. In Texas it was 75 hours of volunteer work. Here it is (I think) 30 hours. It may be affected by the number of opportunities for volunteer work. There's a small group here in my small town that maintains one of the historic gardens. Every hour done there qualifies. A group in Texas would go to special weekend functions at big grocery stores like Whole Foods, and man a table to dispense gardening advice. That would qualify as well. Others speak for groups.... so there's many ways of working off your volunteer requirements. I've been very happy with the information I'm getting from this program. It's fun! Go for it!

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My son decided he wanted to go home yesterday afternoon, so I took him home. We stopped at a grocery store on the way so he would not have to get out again. He seemed so relaxed and rested. We had so much fun talking while he was here. However, this morning, he posted on Facebook that he found a bat in his upstairs bedroom, so he had to deal with that! This is the third bat he has found in his home! What is up with that!!!

When I returned home, I started catching up. I stripped the guest bed he used and washed everything. I had to pre-soak where the blood had dripped from his incisions. I am glad I did not see this that morning or I really would have panicked. I still find it strange. But it stopped and the surgeon's office said that does happen. I am not use to them using glue and tiny bandages.

Today I am doing laundry and catching up on email. I did write my three pages this morning for The Artist Way book I am trying to use.

Shirley - the book is not for just writers. It is to help everyone become more creative including lawyers, painters, teachers, etc. I am thinking it may even help if I pursue quilting more.

Yvonne - there is a wonderful book called "WishCraft" that suggested if you are trying to achieve something, get a group of friends or even strangers to met with you and brainstorm. You tell them what your dream is and it is amazing the resources or suggestions others gave you to achieve that dream. I am still thinking about becoming a Master Gardener. I feel like I may be too old (69) and I know I need knee replacements. In our county, you actually have to volunteer a lot to keep your certification. But....you and Slimmer so inspire me!

SueB - our kitchen cabinets are a beautiful wood. I sometimes love the painted look, but I know if I ever paint them, it would impossible to return them to the natural state. But my talented niece in Texas did some great "fake" wood painting in her home. I do need to paint my pantry, study, and guest bedroom. I must get those knees replaced!

On family values- mine valued education. Even though neither of my parents had a college education and they could not help us, it was just assumed we would go to college. It took me twenty years - 1963 to 1983, but I did it.

Ellen

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Sue - you did good. That recipe sounded so good. My husband doesn't like dumplings, but I sure do. Thanks for sharing that recipe. You will find lots of good recipes in that Recipe Forum.

About my suggestion to trying painting, I was talking pictures not walls and cabinets - smile. However, that being said, not everyone can paint walls and cabinets well, so yes I would call that a gift too.

Shirley

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Ok! I think I found where to post the recipe-will do so under "meat".

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Hi Sparkfriends!
Bonnie-sure hope you can get your pain under control-we use our thumbs for everything!
Krys-so exciting about the twins! I know they will be a joy to your whole family. I am praying that everything goes smoothly for your daughter.
Shirley-we sure do have a wonderful highly talented group on this board. Yes-sometimes I think I have been left behind in the talent category. But you know actually this morning I tried my hand at painting and did rather well. LOL!!! I repainted most of my kitchen cabinets and the one in the hall bath. They were a little tired looking so now they look mahvelous!!! Good for me.
Yesterday I made a fantastic and ridiculously easy ripe for chicken and dumplings in the crockpot. I wanted to post it but was not sure where to do so. The family really liked it. So HELP Shirley!!!!
Took stepson swimming after dropping son out at the mall. I did 50 minutes on the treadmill so had a good start to the day.
Everyone have a blessed day.

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About older students: I was 35 when I went back to college, which was "old" to the mostly 20 year olds in my class, but not considered an anomaly.

When I went to college right out of high school, San Diego State, we had an older student at the college that was sort of a pet of the whole school. [I think she was in her 70s. LOL!] She dressed in plaid shirts and overalls and was very popular with the creative groups, always surrounded by them. Now, I'm so curious about what classes she took, but I never took the time to know her. The last time I took a class I was in my 50s and it was a computer class. I vowed to get the highest grade in class and I did. There were three other adult students in the class and we sort of hung out together, but all of us were busy mothers. My trick for the highest grade was a book by Tony Duzan, about using both sides of the brain to learn. I did the exercises and my final test was 20 pts. higher than the next grade, and for the semester was 40 pts. above the next student.

The learning tool was to draw out, using as many colors as possible, notes from the class in a mind map design. In a computer class, based on facts and linear thinking, this was difficult for my "right brained" way of thinking. It took two 17 x 17 sheets of paper to do it. Of course, making this diagram made my freewheeling brain have to organize and thoroughly understand the material. Then, for the final, I listened to Vivaldi and studied my diagrams for 20 minutes a night. Vivaldi and other music of that era puts your brain into an alpha state, where it absorbs information easier. Mind mapping is a excellent tool for taking notes as well.

You basically draw a circle in the middle containing the main idea, then start a spiderweb of ideas going out from it, connecting words to the main ideas as the web progresses out. Doing it in color connects to the right side of your brain.

Sorry for this long description, but that period of time was definitely a breakthrough for me. To do well in a class that was not a natural fit for me was a very heady experience.

Families have a main value, it seems to me. My husband's family valued hard work the most; mine valued education. My mother only had one year of college, but wanted a college education for all of us, which we eventually accomplished. Here's a question for all of you.... what do you think your family's main focus was? It's an interesting subject.

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Good Early Afternoon, Team.

It is a sunny 32 degrees outside. Brrr. There is a breeze so I put some sheets on the line. They probably will have to take a turn in the dryer before they get dry.

Last night I kept icing my thumb and took a Meloxicam pain reliever prescribed by my doctor. It is supposed to be a strong pain reliever but frankly doesn't seem to do much for me. I didn't have any pain all night but when I woke up it started up again. It comes and goes. @Grace - I don't remember how long a thumb injection lasts but it's longer than the ones I got in my shoulder. I've had them in both thumbs.

My FIL had another "attack" of pain in his legs and inability to walk. I'm hearing from the family now that it is due to small strokes. Instead of taking him to the hospital or even calling his doctor, my SIL was called to come up from Richmond, VA. I think the family puts way too much faith in her nursing abilities. She is a registered nurse but hasn't worked at that job in many many years. She is more of a "wait and see" person and when you are dealing with a 91 year old man, I'm not so sure that is a good thing to do. The 1st anniversary of Mom's death is coming up soon in Dec. and I hope Dad isn't following her.

Sorry to hear of Mike Nichols's passing. He was a very prominent Arabian horse breeder, aside from his acting and directing accomplishments. None of the obits I've read so far even mention his horses.

I won another GoodReads book. That is #12 wins.

@Shirley - Do you think your loss of enthusiasm in reading is because you keep trying to read the same genre of books??? I love to read a novel that will "take me away" to some other place or time. With the GoodReads giveaway, I try to pick "different" genre's of books to see if I like them--without having to buy them. So far I still love a good fiction novel. I don't even try to get into a book about zombies or fictional "other worlds" (don't know what they are called) because I KNOW I wouldn't care for them.

I hope everyone has a wonderful day.
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Good Morning Everyone -

Krys - what fun you are having sharing your daughter's pregnancy with her. I hope the little boy turns himself around. Why is it males have to be so contrary - smile. * It is nice you have your mom with you.

Grace - my goodness you did have a busy (and productive) day yesterday. * I haven't done "the plank" since yoga days. That is an excellent exercise, but it does take balance and strength. Good for you being able to do 3 reps. * As for leading an exciting life I'll bet I have you beat! LOL Why do you think I don't write more about how I spend my days - smile. * Oh my, but I have the same feeling as you responded to Bonnie. As you know from my posts I'm not happy with doctors' fees, how they do things (most of the time), and pharmaceutical costs. As I've told many - when they talk about us being in our Golden Years, they are referring to all the gold we are generating for doctors, the glasses industry, and dentist. * I agree with what you wrote Slimmer and Joe too about their experiences trying to take classes. When it comes to older workers holding jobs selfishly - it is the companies that want to get rid of them because they are drawing much larger salaries than if they hire someone younger to replace them. People are willing to hire older workers for minimum pay jobs and take advantage of their work ethic, experience and skills. They are Very Happy to have these same people to volunteer their time and pay them nothing too. Don't get me wrong I applaud volunteers, but when you are using volunteers because you don't have to pay them - that's not right either. * Thank you, we are Very proud of her daughter. She married young - 19. She turned down my offer to work and pay her way through nursing school. Has worked for the same hospital since she was 19 - starting out as a nurse's aide (the term used then) and is now a Director of nursing (she has a title that I can never remember) with a number of other departments under her management. She put herself through nursing school with the aid of scholarships, and then got her Bachelor's once her children got older. Once she'd gotten both children through college - one with 2 full degrees, and the other with a Masters, she got her Masters online. She had to do it this way because she works such long hours and sometimes weekends, she didn't have the time to attend regular classes. Yes, we are Very proud of her.

Bonnie - so sorry to hear about your thumb and the pain. Something always hurting is no fun - At All! I do hope that painful injection takes the pain away. How long do those injections last?

Yvonne - as I started reading your response to Slimmer, I was going to respond to you just what you wrote in the conclusion. When I've taught at church, especially adult groups, I do so through discussion and not lecture. I too have learned that you learn so much by this method, plus people get to know one another (one of the main components of Bible Study groups). I've also learned that by teaching and preparing to teach, I learn much more than if I'm just the student. * What a lovely day you had with your daughter. I've always longed for such with mine, but that wasn't to be. She moved to Texas when she was 18. Her best friend had married and moved there. She has lived there ever since. When the grandchildren were growing up we saw each other several times a year, we eventually stopped traveling, and now we see she and her husband once a year sometimes twice. Now that she has a grandbaby, holidays of course they all want to stay home, and I can't blame them.

Slimmer - yes people like your professor really tick me off. And yes, I wasn't a happy camper at all about that college's attitude about disregarding my daughter's grades, but so proud of my daughter for speaking up. What she said (from my perspective) was right on target, and needed to be said. It probably did no good, but at least someone spoke up.

Sue - when Slimmer started out she had no idea she had a talent for painting/art. She thought she would like to try it; did it; and you see where it has lead her. God has given us all gifts. Bonnie's love of animals and especially horses; Yvonne sings, quilts, gardens and has a multitude of gifts; there are several of us that are painters, I could keep going with people's gifts that are on the team, but you've been on the team long enough I'm sure you've recognized them. If you think you would like to paint, give it a try. Everyone can paint, and you may just be surprised how well you do. Not everyone can draw, but I've never found anyone who couldn't paint, and painting can be such a stress reliever. Yvonne and Slimmer have been talking about "Artists Way" - you may find you have a gift for writing. Before someone corrects me - as I understand it Artist Way is journaling not creative writing, and I realize they are two different thing. As I see it, if you have no other gift (which I'm sure that you do) you have a real gift and compassion for taking care of others. Not everyone has that. You are a nurse (I'm assuming an RN) for that you need a gift for sciences among other things. Not everyone is cut out for the medical profession.

Make today a healthy and happy one -
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11/21/14 8:57 A

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Good morning!
Got caught up on reading all your posts since the last time I posted! so interesting seeing what everyone is up to!
Had a busy day yesterday, my daughter had her doc appt. and the twins are doing great. the boy is 1#7oz and the girl is 1#4oz. but the boy is breech right now and the doc said he still has time to change position but if he doesn't have enough room to as they grow bigger she will probably have to have a C-section, so will find out more at her next appt. they tried to do the 3D ultrasound picture of their faces but both babies had their little fists in front of their faces!
then we went [her best friend went with us] and she registered for her baby shower, had so much fun that we only got thru one store, she wants to do one more store so we are doing that today but that won't be till mid afternoon because I have to bring my niece to the hospital and then home again after her 3 hour appt. she can't drive after her procedure.
celebrated my moms birthday yesterday too- she is 82. it is so nice having her live with me now. she makes quilts for all the grandchildren and great grandchildren and now that she knows it is a boy and girl she is busy with that!
God Bless you all and have a great weekend.
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11/20/14 10:42 P

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Good evening team! Today was a pretty good day for me. I did my 43 minute walk and worked in the yard a little, shifting potting mix so I can use it to plant seeds and transplanting 6 of my tomato plants into bigger pots.
I started doing a new exercise I thought I’d never be able to do and that is “planks” I’m up to 3 reps -30 second each. When I was going through my physical therapy, they had me doing them.
I DO lead an exciting life, don’t I? emoticon

BONNIE, That thumb problem sounds so painful. It’s a small joint but the pain can drive you crazy. I know because I’ve had throbbing pain in my toes a few times. I hope the injection works for you. I think the reason your doctor likes to inject is because he may collect a lot of money for doing one. I had about 6 injections in my cervical spine, several years ago and each one was over $1000. Luckily, they were covered by insurance. There must have been pure gold and diamonds in those shots! Please let us know the outcome.

YVONNE, That is wonderful that you now live so close to your DD that you can have days like today with her. You will have a great Christmas this year.

SLIMMER & JOE, That “old song” about senior students taking up space that’s meant for younger students sounds just like the similar song about older workers who won’t retire are keeping the jobs that younger people should have.

SUE, What are the temperatures like when you’re doing your walking? I like to wait until it’s in the upper 60s. I just remembered that you have told us that you’re a mall walker. Do you ever walk outside?

SHIRLEY, Your DD is sure one to be VERY proud of. I love the story about her standing up for herself to the Dean about not getting the Summa listing that she had every right to.
You’re so right about people not genuinely caring about others. When they say,”How are you? “ they really don’t want to know. Sometimes I think, just for the “fun” of it, I’m going to tell them. That will get rid of them quick.
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ALLIE, Congratulations on your good night’s sleep! Maybe it’s because you don’t have to worry about your eye appointment, now that your son is “on board”. The peace of mind allows you to sleep without stress.

IRENE, I’m sorry you didn’t have as much luck in the sleep department. I hope tonight is better for you.

JOE, It’s good to see you posting. I realize that the amount of “chatter” on this thread can be overwhelming sometimes. I’m glad it didn’t scare you off.

It’s almost 10:45 p.m. so I’ll close for now. Good night! emoticon



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Good Evening, Team.

I was hoping to go see my rheumatologist today and tell him that I wasn't feeling pain ANYWHERE! Well, that didn't happen. When I went to bed last night my left thumb started hurting really bad and kept me up off and on all night. I have arthritis in all my fingers but have had problems with my left thumb and have had it injected once (or twice) already. I put some medicated lotion on it this AM and the pain subsided somewhat but not completely. As I've said before, my doctor LOVES to inject. So, before I even had all of my explanation out of my mouth, he said "we'll inject". He showed me on the sonogram what was arthritis in my thumb and it looked like a craggy mountain range. He had a lady doctor come in to watch the injection. I think she is probably new to the practice as I'd never seen her before. It hurt like crazy when the solution was going in. Then my thumb felt fine for about a half hour before the pain was back. I put ice on it, as instructed, and took a pain pill. The doctor said it would take 2-3 days before I was pain free. I told him about the bone density scan I was supposed to have but he said I didn't need one until next year. They have a new computer system and I guess it scheduled everyone for bone density scans!!

@Slimmer - I can't believe that the instructor didn't know that you are going to be FAMOUS!! All of us on this team certainly know it.

@Cecile - Nice to hear from you again. I'm glad you are doing okay.

@Joe - Nice to see you back. Life can be rough, even when you are just trying to improve yourself.

I hope everyone had a wonderful day.
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More on Artist's Way - I think you get whatever you want to out of it, and I do think the morning pages are the key. I used it to work through problems with having teenagers in the house, and my own struggle with changing my parenting style from my parents' and not quite knowing how to do it.

Slimmer, the break-throughs in your class have a lot to do, I think, with the Master Mind aspect of a class like that. If you've ever read anything by Napoleon Hill, that was one of his proposals: to get 2 or 3 people who think like you do and get together with them to discuss ideas and goals. We've all seen what happens in a class where you learn as much from the discussions and the different approaches as you ever could from a prof or the reading material alone. That continues to happen to me in the Bible classes I go to... learn so much from some magic in the atmosphere that makes the group bigger than its parts.

I'm so looking forward to meeting the other Master Gardeners for that very reason. So far, it's just been me and my computer. There is a discussion group, but it's not exactly "back and forth" discussion.

This morning dear daughter came for breakfast, and Jay did most of the cooking. DD then stayed longer to work on Christmas presents for her kids. They're big now, and she can no longer do it after they go to bed! She stayed long enough to have lunch with us, too. Love that girl!

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Hi All, 1.5 hrs until weaving... uck

Sorry Joe... I could have sworn that the very first post I saw a JO and that was why I thought you were a lady...

Shirley... yeah I was a bit muffed when that teacher said that, but I think his main idea was that ..I did not have a particular idea what I wanted to do with my art and if I didn't know that then I was wasting the space... He just didn't realize I am going to become Famous! Shirley I would have been fuming if I was your daughter... I'm upset now over that!!!

As to the Artist Way... it can be done on your own... but it is hard to make yourself do the tasks and keep up the writing... So much more fun if you can find a group of say 12 to talk out each weeks chapter... look around you may have groups meeting in your area... I paid $90 that included the book and workbook but that was because it was in an art gallery and they take money for the gallery but could or should be free otherwise

You can find a used book... plenty of them on Amazon.com I just bought the next book it was $1.07 and $3.99 for shipping any book you can write in.. full size pages will work.. make it a pretty one and you might feel better about writing.

I actually wrote my 3 pages today!.. it is a start... you just Ramble on about things you are thinking on anyway.

Yes, I do think it is making me do more and be more creative... Toot your own horn and OWN what you know you can do and add to that feeling... this time in my life I am getting the attitude that.. It Is All About Me!!!!!!!!!!! ..that is just the way it is going to be now

Sue B ... you work work work and go go go ..too... so everything we do is Creating... it is just that surely there is something you do you want to do more than other things. like cooking... 1 lady in last group created her own cookbook!!!!! .. got a publisher and printed up 800 copies and has sold over 700 so far.. it is beautiful.. she would cook meals and invite her Tribe to come over and tell her what they thought!!!

..in my group another girl is also working on a cookbook
..another writes like Erma Bombeck and write funny Cow storeys and she is the one I got to be published in the mag.. I wrote for.. so she can then say She Is Published
..the fellow in my group is NOW in LA filming a movie!!! and just signed to Direct for Hallmark!!!.. he is Unstuck.. He also just finished writing a movie!!!
..another lady paints 5 hrs a day and rents a studio space and sells her paintings
..one girl decided to become a lawyer now
..another just got her PHD and has great plans for a new idea
..another published writer just decided to go back to college to become a minister I think she said
..the old man in our group was stuck on what his parents held him back he always wanted to write and now he is giving out Artist Way books to men with big problems. ..and he now is writing daily in a journal which he Never could do
..one lady Loudly said I have found my voice... it It Is Going To Be Heard... she is moving on!
..one lady just got a photo published in a magazine
..another lady is starting to Teach more Art Classes
..one lady finally found the strength to ..give away her parents things which have been cluttering up her house and how she wants to live


The book CAN Open up what has been blocking or stopping you from doing what you want to do... ... an Artist... is One Who Does one in the Artist Way ..is One Who Is Doing The Work.. which is writing the pages, doing something each week for and by yourself, and trying to do the Tasks

..it is like build it and it will come... This is do the work and it will happen...

syn cra nis ity... is what happens when you are open to finding your way... so many FREE things have been coming my way and opening up to me... like the Director saying he would put a painting in one of his movies, or the restraint downtown putting in my paintings for free, or me getting the 120 Free Listings for Etsy... and so many more things big and small... You will find they just start coming to you....

Artist Way... Its a Good Thing...
..I do rattle on don't I

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Hi Sparkfriends!
Wow-I had no idea that senior adults taking classes could face such a difficult time. I would think educated persons (such as professors) would at least have a clue as to what is a permissible response to seniors seeking to take classes. Shirley your daughter is right-it, like so much more, is all about money.
Goodness I wish I could find out where my talent lies. I am so in admiration of persons like Slimmer and others who are artistically inclined.
Only have 5000 steps in today-better get off here and walk away those pounds!!
Everyone have a blessed day.

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Good Afternoon Everyone -

Cecile - good to see your post. You sound like your spirits may be lifted some, and that is good.

Irene - I hope you can get a nap in today. Although with your granddaughter coming to help with some work, it doesn't sound like that will be the case.

Slimmer - I could not believe what that teacher said to you about taking up space needed by someone younger. Some people seem to have a real problem with older people. And in my book early - mid 60s is not all that old, especially at a time when more and more people live into their 90s. That being said, it wouldn't matter if you were over 100, if you can get to class and do the work, he has no right to say who can and cannot take his class. But you know what, it is for darned sure he one day will be old, and it would be interesting to know how he feels about being discriminated and his abilities challenged just because he is considered old. * As an aside, to spell Jo without the "e" denotes a female.

Joe - good to see your post. And oh how I agree with your opening paragraph. I can't tell you how many times I've been getting ready for a dinner party or had a house full of company and the dishwasher breaks down when it is full of dirty dishes, or the sink stops up. Having a new baby with a washer full of diapers and it or the dryer breaks down. It's one of those Murphy's long things, I guess. * Oh My Goodness! What is wrong with these teachers?!!!! Have you looked into a technical school? When you audit classes they are not-for-credit, and if you want to do something with your "learning" (other than for your own personal use) you would need the credentials, as you know. Perhaps through your adult ed program in your area you could find the classes you want. Could you possibly take the courses you want over the internet? I should have finished reading your post before I had so much to say. I'm happy to hear that you will be able to get the courses you want through the VA. When my daughter got her Bachelor's Degree in Nursing, she had her Associates degree, was an RN and had been nursing for a number of years, so she tested out of quite a few of her required classes. I say with humility, but great pride, my daughter is exceptionally smart. When it came time for graduation they listed her as graduating magna cum laude instead of summa cum laude, because she hadn't taken the courses, since she knew the material and thus tested out of those classes they didn't count those grades. She spoke to the Dean about this since she knew her grades qualified her for Summa not Magna. Like your story he wanted to give her the runaround, but she is very much like you and will fight back when she knows she is right. She simply told the Dean, "oh I understand now, it isn't what the student knows that qualifies them for one or the other honor, but how much money they paid the school." I'm thinking her diploma lists her as graduating Summa cum Laude, but they didn't list her in the graduation bulletin as such. You've got to love academia sometimes, don't you? - not smiling as this is no joke

Ellen - thanks for the update on your son. I'm glad the surgery went well and that he is recovering nicely. He is most fortunate to have you looking after him through all of this.

Allie - it pleases me to hear your family is doing for you for a change. You seem to do so very much for them. *An hour and a half walk, WOW! that was a long walk. * About the story you told about your son, does he have medical training? Your post made it sound as if he did.

Yvonne - although I don't read much any longer, perhaps I should get me a copy of "Artists Way." When Slimmer has talked about it I had the idea it was a group not a book. Oh how we can get the wrong meaning from posts sometimes. * Interesting post regarding your aunt and mother. I'm a good listener, and I genuinely care about others, and I give feedback and share when responding, but I learned long ago few people have any real interest in me or how I feel, so I keep my problems - health or otherwise - to myself most of the time. I did have a friend once for a relatively short period of time - she died before her 70th birthday, and I only knew her a few years before that - that was the only person I've ever known that seemed to genuinely care about what was going on in my life. What a blessing to have had her come into my life even for a short period of time. I don't mean for this to sound like a "poor me" as that isn't my intent, I'm just responding to what you said.

Bonnie - thanks for the update on your father-in-law, that's good news. * I wish all tests were as easy as bone density tests. It is good you are getting one. * I can appreciate your concern for Mystery as that would concern me too. * As Yvonne posted, I loved the picture of him and Pluto after the stories you've told about the two of them.

Sue - you seem to be doing well, and that's always good to hear.

Lupe - good getting your walking in. It is like having your own indoor track - smile. * I am a bit confused - are you just setting up for your Thanksgiving pot luck a week early, or are you actually having the event a week early?

Grace - is there something called "adult onset ADD"? If so I think I've developed it - smile. * Thanks for explaining about you spreading that manure. I know how heavy it, top soil, and mulch are. * I hope you got more sleep last night.

Marlene - you sound as though you had a Very Busy but productive day yesterday. I hope you can rest some today. *
When we used to travel back and forth from NJ to St. Louis I wanted so badly to stop in Hershey, but could never talk my husband into it.

Wishing for us all a very good day and evening -
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11/20/14 10:19 A

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Hello everyone!

I read a few posts this morning. I feel I have missed so much during my absence. I saw that Lupe is back. I was so happy to see her post. Today is laundry so I don`t have the luxury of reading too far back.

This morning I went on Amazon and ordered the season 5 of Downton Abbey. It is coming out only at the end of January and I did not want to miss it. I do so enjoy that program.

I might be back later. God bless and keep us safe. May His angels watch over us. emoticon

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Good morning team:

I got a good nights sleep, which really makes the difference towards having a good day. I am looking at things in a more positive way. Thanks Bonnie for suggesting that.

My son just e-mailed me and he will be here to get me in plenty of time to get to my appointment. I am relieved to finally have someone else take a look at my eyes.

I will keep myself busy until my son comes. I think I will take a walk again and get some fresh air.

I hope everyone has a good day.

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Hello on Thursday morning. I had a dreadful night of sleep so feel awful now., it's myckeanrts morning so in one way that's good as I do not have to do much. She is a new time cleaner and told me she has i where cleaning is concerned , I think that's good for me! But her coming tiday mean is have to move my body get basic things done and tidy round, the have to keep M occupied while she does the living room,, he usually sits watching tv there , we only have the one big tv ,
Then my granddaughter Megan is coming here to help me shunt things round to fit in an extra freezer which I am sure will be useful but this is what the agent caked compact , or small to you and I , the deed is done the freezer is being delivered from Amazon. I use Mr Amazon such a lot now. Enjoy your day, Irene

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Hi All... 30 now and the house is getting cold.

I got the old white sheving emptied and moved and loaded up again... now to build the metal shelving.. which the last one was a bugger to put together by myself

Go Jo!

Hang in there with the school. Here in GA we also have a free senior over age 62 but art has fees of $40 or mostly $100 and books which I buy on Amazon used and most times a 10th of the price so books are not a problem

True only if room but these I take are not for audit.. if doing the work I want it to count.. so brought both degree transcripts here and that makes it easier to get into classes... the Dept head usually has my back and keeps room for me

..if a class is full and she can't get me in.. then I just have to keep checking in every few hours for the next few days hopeing someone drops out which they usually do and I get the class

I also had a teacher when I first called say if I did not know what I was going to do with going to school... that I was ..taking a seat away from a kid who needs to go to school...
...........ohhhhhhh I didn't like that... I have not had a class by him and he is a teacher with an attitude, but I don't know if he said that to me.. but he knows this Senior senior is hanging in there pretty darn good... straight A's in this school... I also repeated since then to the Dept Chair and they asked who said that.. I told them... they never should have said that

I would think after that ..that you would be able to get any of the classes you wanted then ..or to come... Go Jo!

Hope you have lost some more weight! We thought you might be gone but I think you just have this Group not showing on your page.. but are still here. ...we missed you...

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Hi Everyone
I have been very busy lately...everything seems to happen at once...subject to the laws of the universe...What happens on the coldest day of the year...Furnace breaks down.....septic motor breaks....and on and on....Anyway it's just life.....

I have been getting ready to start school again in Jan and the Colleges have fought me along the way. They have something called the Senior Audit Program, where being a Senior, tuition is free and all you pay is books and fees....well the fees are $100 per class and some of the books are over $200. Like I used to tell my Son's: "There's no such thing as a free dog" I am still thankful for it, because I couldn't afford full tuition.

Anyway, I saw a notice at the University of Cincinnati, where they were offering a year program in Web Design, with additional courses in Video Production...this is exactly what I am trying to get. So I signed up for three classes under the Senior Audit Program.

Well these are available on a space available basis to Seniors, and two of the classes were full...at this rate it would take me 5 years to finish. One class had a few seats available and I went into the class and told the Professor who I was and what I was there for...he told me (Now get this) that these classes were not available to Seniors, or people under the Senior Audit program...He said these courses were very technical and he didn't have time to hold someone's hand

The next morning I called the University and talked with the original counselor and she kept apologizing, and about five minutes later the Program Chair called me and I told him that last night I was denied access to one of his classes because of my age and I told him what was said he apologized and offered to do whatever to make it right.....now I am not stupid enough to think they are sorry, they just got caught with someone ready to fight back, and they smelled law suit.
About three hours later I got a full page letter of apology from the arrogant Professor that started out "I want to apologize for my behavior" Like I said, the same holds true for him....he wasn't sorry, he got caught and got his butt scalded.
I sayn all this because I want Seniors to know what happens under the sugary coating of so called Senior Programs.
Well actually there is a silver lining...A VA counselor put me in for a program offered to Vets with disabilities, and I got approved...and they are going to help me with school


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Hi Al .. 39 out and no wind... should start warming up now.

Just got back from Home Depot... everything on my list they didn't have the exact what I wanted... but I went to buy ANOTHER 5 shelf metal shelving... I got it... I found it on line 5 dollars cheaper at another GA store... they did not know why but was in same group so they gave it to me at the lower price... now I know to always check prices before I go on bigger items.

I am going to take all off my small plastic white shelves and move it next to the other metal stand I put up some weeks back.. it will just fit.

Then put the new 36 in shelves by the door... I should now have lots of room to put things and get more off the floor... it will be a bit of work changing it out but I am almost there!

Yvonne and Ellen... I am now starting over on the Artist Way... now after this group class it is meaning so much more to me when I read now... I have 40 pgs done after 2 days... It is all so clear what and how to think

As to the pages I did it good for 6 wks or almost half the workbook... my goal is to finish filling in this whole workbook... they sell more for 30 cents plus 3.99 mailing on Amazon if I want another..

yes... the writing for that long... in the morning... makes the difference I didn't want to write but as I kept going things kept opening up and I saw myself saying and understanding what it meant to me... it is worth doing

I also now as trying to really work through the TASKS... most all are simple and again things become clear when you just try ...

did not do the 1 day painting today... I need to get to doing Nothing!... I have to get through this weaving... one more project I don't want to do... another scarf??? I think I will change my mind.. maybe I could make armchair pieces... my chair is pulling apart in that area... and something woven there would work right now.... I am soooo over this teacher don't think I will take another weaving for a LONG Time!!!

not slowing on eating ..actually not so many meals more like 1 a day which is not good but having quanity... my sugar is like 20 pts over where I want it now

things are moving too fast... getting stressed-er

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QUICK POST - Since I just got home and have been gone since 11:15 this morning with doc appointment, gym and shopping.
I have to agree with you about how great sons can be. I have to fly home, in January, to see Melvin (special 81 year old brother) My son is picking me up at the airport and loaning me a car for my time up there (about 4 days). He will probably take me back to the airport, but we didn't get that far in the planning. I'm not JUST going to visit with Melvin, but I wouldn't be flying up there if it weren't for him. My 2 kids that live in CT have pretty busy lives so don't need their Mommy to fly up to see them. Melvin is a different story. I'll touch base with everybody. My step DD is providing me with "housing".

I'll be back to check in later.

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I am still enjoying my son's visit with us while he is recovering. He is doing fine now, just still sore from the surgery. He is single and I think he is liking the company instead of being in his empty house.

Yvonne - I have not done my 3 pages for the past three mornings, but I plan to get back with the program. I was told I was creative as a child, but I fell into a career that was very analytical so I used my creativity in problem solving on systems and budgets. Now that I am retired I would like to see if I really could be more creative in writing and other things.

Allie - sons can be wonderful!

Cecile - I hope the whole financial situation straightens out quickly. This has to be very stressful.

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Good afternoon:

My son is taking me to the doctor tomorrow. I have decided to go back to the specialist I started out with about 2 years ago. Right now I am on hold as far as the cataract surgery goes. I want to make sure I am getting the best medical care and advice as possible.

Luckily for me my son has the type of profession that he can arrange his schedule accordingly if he needs to.

I had such a good sleep earlier. I just finished walking for 90 minutes outside. It is such a relief to know I am not going through all this alone and my son is stepping up to help me.

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BONNIE, I enjoyed your horse pictures on FaceBook.

SLIMMER, I had the same experience with my “daily pages.” It seems the third page always brought the insight. I loved this exercise and did it for almost 6 years. I quit because my mornings were getting too crowded with all the “first thing of the day” items that were on my to-do list. Have you found that it helps your creativity?

I gave the Artists Way to a young woman shortly after I started using it. She was struggling with her life at the time, but I knew she was basically a creative person. After she read the book, she went to Michigan, enrolled in an “Outward Bound” program and came back healthy and glowing with energy. We are still as close as the huge age difference and space difference will allow. She lives in Washington state, is a successful interior designer and her demons are almost completely in her past. That book is a remarkable one. [As I was writing this, I had the feeling I’d already told you this… so forgive me if I have]

GRACE, I miss walking, which has become impossible here because of the temperatures. I have decided to take advantage when the sun is shining, though, to go outside for just 15 minutes so I don’t start feeling housebound. You’ve always been so good about your walking; you set a good example for all of us.

SHIRLEY, my aunt and mother used to talk on the phone at least once a week, and the conversations often turned to health, My aunt was 13 years younger, and she said whatever my mother was dealing with would come to her, too, eventually. They called these conversations “organ recitals.” LOL! I love talking to peers and finding ways to stay healthy, but when I’m talking to younger people, it doesn’t enter the conversation. What’s relevant to you and me seems impossible in their futures.


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Good Morning, Team.

It is 29 degrees out and is supposed to gradually warm up through the week. Monday it is supposed to be in the 70's!! YES!!

I got a call from my rheumatologist's office this AM about my appointment tomorrow. The girl said "You are scheduled for a bone density scan right after your appointment". That was news to me. My doctor never mentioned it the last time. At least there isn't any preparation for it.

One of my BILs called last night & I asked how Dad was. He said some of the family members took him to an oyster roast last week-end and he only had to use a cane. That was very good news. I'm so glad he is able to get out and move around.

DH was gone all day yesterday with a couple friends. I hoped to get more done around the house with him gone but only "scratched the surface" of my list.

@Ellen - I'm glad your son's operation went well.

@Allie - I am going to need cataract surgery some time in the future. It's scary but with all of the success stories, you needn't be so afraid. Try to stay positive.

@Cecile - Glad to see you back on here. Sorry you are going through all that paper work and the waiting for results. Insurance companies love to take our money but try very hard to hold onto it. I'm sure it will all work itself out soon.

My "good mother/bad mother" stress is starting to kick in. As long as the sun is shining, horses trap the heat into their long coats and that keeps them warm at night. The high today is going to be 35 and Mystery probably doesn't need his blanket but then the temps are going down to 20 (maybe less) tonight. Tomorrow's high is to be in the low 40's, but with my doctor's appt. I won't be able to get to the Farm until probably 2PM. I'll be so glad when Dec. comes and I can turn the blanket responsibility over to the Farm manager.

I hope everyone has a wonderful day.
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Hi Sparkfriends!
Allie-I never did get caught up on my sleep-hope you can. I'm glad your son is so diligent concerning the care of his loved ones. It really helps give you the confidence to do what you need to do.
Very quiet here today. Got all my work done yesterday so very little to do. I am going to take a friend to the doctor this afternoon but that's all I have on my plate. There are even leftovers in the fridge for supper so no stress there.
Everyone have a blessed day!

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Good morning to all - just finished my walking and walked a little faster than I normally do. It felt so good.

Grace - I do my walking inside the complex. It is built so that all four buildings connect and I can do all my walking inside. We have all amenities inside, even our mailboxes are inside. Only thing outside is the pool. Once around all buildings is a little more than 1/4 mile and walk around it about 6-8 times, so I get in about two miles of walking a day.

Short post as we are getting ready to set up our Community Room for our Thanksgiving potluck. Have a great day and be safe and warm.

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Good morning team:

I can't sleep.

I wrote my son and told him I need his help He is very intelligent and is very helpful when it comes to surgeries, etc. When his wife had her first child, she had a c-section. My son was by her side and counted all the instruments they used to operate. He wanted to make sure they didn't forget anything. He also wanted to make sure there weren't any mishaps. So, I know from experience he isn't squeamish about this stuff. At least that makes one of us. I will keep you all posted and I appreciate all your comments, advice and concern.

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Oh Ellen-I'm sorry!! Thought also that your husband was having problems. Anyway hoping for a quick recovery for your son. Get some rest dear lady!

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Good evening team! I finally got a break from my walking "streak". It was too cold all day.

SUE, I’ll bet you’re glad you’re not in Buffalo tonight! They’re expecting 90” of snow there. I don’t know how anybody can stand living in those conditions.
I got a kick out of your story about getting off track with hanging up the pictures and ending up rearranging the bedroom instead. That kind of situation happens to me all the time. I think I have A.D.D. My mind gets derailed just going from one room to another and I end up doing something totally different from what I set out to do.

MARLENE, You’re sure keeping busy. It’s too bad you have to wait until March to come to FL. January, February and March would be nice.

CECILE, I think your feeling of “not knowing where your head and brains are” is to be expected after what you’ve been going through. I hope the pension and life insurance people do the right thing by you. It’s pretty cruel and heartless to drag things out and try to make things difficult for you. Please don’t give my birthday another thought! You certainly have enough on your mind without worrying about stuff like that.

ELLEN, Your DS is in my prayers. I was confused the other day and thought it was your husband who was having the surgery. That’s why I asked you if it would help his sciatica. I better pay more attention when I read the posts.

LUPE, Where do you do your walking? Sue walks in a mall. I walk outside (because it’s usually warm enough here)
Have a good time at the pot luck supper.

SHIRLEY, I guess it’s only natural for older people to talk about their health. It’s a major part of our lives. What amazes me is that my kids are all talking about THEIR health issues. I don’t remember doing that when I was their age.
About my “manure spreading” project - Don helped me dump it into a cart and I was able to pull the cart right up to my raised beds

IRENE, I love reading that you’re able to get out and enjoy yourself once in a while.
Fish & Chips dinners our very popular fund raisers, at the churches, on Friday nights during Lent.

ALLIE, I’m sure you will go through your double cataract surgeries with no issues at all. Keep us posted when the date gets closer.

KRYS, That’s an interesting story about raking the roof. I learn something every day on here! But I wouldn’t want to be out there in 2 degree weather! Not even 40 degree weather!

SLIMMER, That's great that you have people that have offered to help you out during your eye surgery.

It’s after 10 p.m. so I need to go to bed. I was awake from midnight till about 3 a.m. last night. Don’t know why. And, then at 6 a.m. there was a box truck in front of our house, backing up, which meant his “backup alarm” was going off. I don’t know what THAT was all about.



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Burrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
rrrrrrrrrrrrr!

It was 21 last night and going to 19 tonight.. already at 21 here... Last night around 2AM the wind chill said 7 degrees and the wind was Horrible the house was creaking and I swear it was leaning at times...

I just got out of school and forgot to put on my gloves... big mistake... within minutes my nails were stinging soooooo bad... just freezing

Today I had to go into school at 3 to do chemicals on scarf... guess what... Of Course the teacher said she did not have the chemicals and ...just... ordered them... like dawwwwww we have been doing the scarfs for well over 6 weeks... She is soooooooo unorganized... so in a couple of weeks I have to go in again!!!

Tonight in class had to be the Longest... she taught us the same thing she taught on wk 1 and 2 and none of the other girls spoke either... just let her go on... At the end she asked for questions after 1.5 hrs... I said no but it seemed like Friday... a couple others agreed... long and boring................aughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
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Did I tell you about last class of Art Way... well we will keep going now once a month... I told them I can't come ..one because to drive that far in bad weather snow ice etc... and the main reason... I am having big trouble seeing driving at night... I do good with one eye...

I have to get that cateract taken care of... they all said they would get me to the Dr and back and meds or stay at their house to take care of me... so I now have people to help me. They are a group kind of like you all are... I now can work toward getting this done...

Also they talked about us all creating a book of our art...whatever that is. The first Artist Way group make a book and they actually sell it in the gift shop.... it looks really good.. I hope we do.

Then another big items is to have our own art exhibit at the Quinlin... now that would be a big deal... I bet they can make it happen... 2 ladies in our Tribe work there as teacher and the bookkeeper

The Tribes beliefs are to support the groups artists... and they get to start with my art show next month... a handful are planning to drive all that way to come to the opening!

Ellen... start or keep reading the Artist Way... slowly and you HAVE to write 3 pages each day... you find your Truths in that last page usually... the last chapter said to re-read the book which I am doing now ... and it makes so much more sense to me now

I will put on my last project in weaving done on the lap loom which you all can build and do too!

I'm cold,
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Hi Sparkfriends.
I have enjoyed catching up on all the posts.
I saw on the news that there is 4 feet of snow in my old hometown of Buffalo and the snow is still falling. Oh....for the good old days....not!!! It was down in the 20's here this morning and will be tomorrow as well. The wind is not blowing so it is tolerable.
Cecile-you are right about the money thing. I am praying that things get settled for you in that area in a more timely way. No one seems to be in a hurry anymore except the collectors.
Ellen-I hope you hubby continues to do well and the worst is behind him.
Irene-its wonderful you got out for a while and even more so that you could enjoy the fish and chips.
Well today I opened Pandora's box. I got out a couple family pictures to hang in the bedroom and ended up rearranging all the furniture !! Hubby was not home so I took my time and got my son to help me with the heaviest things. Hubby was so happy with the rearrangement and so was I. However I never did get the pictures hung!!
Everyone have a blessed day.

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Hello Team Sisters. Brrrr it is cold and very windy; we are staying in the house. Nothing new going on here. Sunday we drove up to Hershey Chocolate World to get candy to send to the grandchildren. I know Hershey products are sold all over, but it is fresher and there is something special about getting it from Chocolate World.

Today I'm playing catch up with clearing things out of the garage and gathering some things for the Salvation Army. Now I am going to make my zucchini bread and fruit cakes. I always send on to our DGD in AZ as that is one of her favorites. I probably will still be baking after we eat dinner. ........... I also made an appointment to have the carpet cleaner come to do all our carpets next Wed. since we don't do dinner on Thanksgiving it won't interfere. We will go out for dinner.

Krys, we too have a roof rake to remove heavy snow from our sunroom roof. We had about an inch of snow last Thursday.

I hope Cecile is okay. I know she is going through a sad time.

Grace, glad your travel to Florida is completed. Have a nice relaxing winter. Hopefully, we will make it in March.

I agree with Shirley about moving. I would love to move to a one story house with less outside work but, would dread packing and down sizing. Clearwater is a nice area in Florida we've been there a couple times. Will be in Bradenton just north of Sarasota.

I had better get to my baking.

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Good afternoon everyone.

Boy, have I been missing in action lately. I do not know where my head and brains are half the time. Of all the applications for either life insurance or pensions that I mailed, no one has answered. The only ones I hear from are the ones I owe money to. Isn`t that the way? I am tired of waiting but there is not much I can do.

One life insurance did pay up. The man came last week to change the beneficiary on my personal policy and at the same time brought the cheque. I never noticed the name on the front. It was made out to my married name. Legally I go by my maiden name. An officer from the bank called yesterday to tell me. The cheque had been returned. She told me that if I went yesterday and signed the cheque again it would be valid. If I didn`t do that, they were going to take the money out of my account. I`ve already paid a big invoice. I would have looked cute eh? Guess who was not happy about the situation. If you guessed Valerie, you would be right.

Whenever I think of the money situation, I could cry. I do have a bit (and I mean a little bit) of money stashed that I can use but it would only cover one month. And as for Christmas, forget that. No presents this year.

With all this I forgot Grace`s birthday on November the 2nd. I am so sorry Grace! I hope you had a good day.

Later. God bless and keep us safe. May His angels watch over us. emoticon

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My DS had his surgery yesterday. It turned out to be exactly what his hernia surgeon thought it was. Scar tissue growing from the mess they used had attached itself to the abdominal wall. He spent the night with us and I think will probably stay another day. He is still having blood drainage a little at the places where they inserted the instruments and camera. He called the doctor's office and they said that did happen sometimes and it should stop today. But it really did worry me last night.

So, I am just focusing on him today, so this will be a quick note.

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Hello - it seems that my post was also lost in space and puff it was gone.lol will check back later.

Now the post shows up!!!!

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Good morning - Got my walking done early and now I am energized. Going to the grocery store later to get some stuff I need to make the food for our Thanksgiving potluck tomorrow. It should be very nice.

Shirley, hope you are having a good day and that all is well in your household.

Irene - Glad your meeting went well and sorry you had stomach problems after eating fish n chips. There is a very good seafood restaurant in Rowlett that has very good Fish n Chips. They also have some of the best bread pudding I have ever eaten.

Allie - Everyone that I know that has had cataract surgery have had a good experience with this procedure. You are lucky to have someone take and not rush you.

Sue - Sorry you did not get much sleep last night. I hate when that happens to me. It doesn's happen too often but it is so frustrating when it does happen. Next day around noon I am ready for a good rest. My Dr. told me last year that even if I don't go sleep to try and rest for at least 30-40 minutes. I have taken his advice to heart.




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Good Morning Everyone -

Irene - you are so right. I remember my parents and others talking about all old people could talk about was their health. Being old now and remembering that I try not to do that unless I've really got a problem or if that happens to be the topic of conversation. But I find more and more I do little of interest to anyone. You on the other hand seem to be doing very well with your various groups as well as looking after a husband with big health problems. You are definitely to be commended. * We have fish and chips here too. I'm sure the idea was copied from your country. We don't eat this often, but we do on occasion and very much enjoy it. I like fries, but can do without those and usually do. And although I like my fish grilled or baked best, I do enjoy the "heavy calorie" version very much from time to time too. You are right not the healthiest thing to eat, but... * Thanks for your input on Maurice and cataract surgery. I know that is facing me, and like M I really don't like even the thought of it.

Allie - thanks for the update on your blood test and on your eye appointment. I know you will be most happy when all of this is over. As for your blood test - so happy to hear you don't have diabetes. The nurse said my cholesterol was a little high this time too, and I'm not sure why. Your neighbor that drove you to your eye appointment sounds like a very nice and patient person.

Sue - I don't know a lot about Florida and have only vacationed there a few times, but I do know that I really liked that Clearwater area, and my dad who used to do a lot of business in Florida did too. Oh how I understand your thinking about moving. That's me too. I would love it if we were living in a Senior Complex with less responsibilities, but I can't deal with what it would entail to do so. * Good going on your walking.

Krys - interesting story about raking your roof. We don't get the snow that you do in Minnesota, but we can get quite a bit. Our problem when we get heavy wet snows is that it messes up our satellite and we don't have TV which is a biggie for us. Yep, we are a bit spoiled. My husband and I can't understand why with today's technology that they can't fit those satellites with a small heater or some type of device or protection to keep this from happening. Our satellite is on our roof and there is no way to get the snow off short of climbing on the roof and cleaning it off with our hands. Of course we can't do that. * Driving in the snow and ice - I won't do so any longer either. It isn't just the driving, but the risk of falling while walking. Like your area, they do a really good job clearing the streets, and most parking lots are pretty well cleared. We pay some kid to shovel our drive and walkway.

Wishing everyone a healthy and happy day -
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Hi on Tuesday morning. As we get older medical issues and problems became out main topic of conversation at times.
Briefky I am ok just tired as yet again I had a bad night. But was self inflicted, I went out in the evening to my women's group, W,I , it was annual general meeting, never a popular event choosing a new committee and no one wants to volunteer. So the attraction was a fish and chip supper , some of you will know of English fish and chips.? If not its fries and white fish fillet done in batter and deep fried, yes I know! But it is tasty. It was pre ordered and we all requested half portions. No problem with a new committee the old one are doing another year, then up was social chat and fish and chips. Very nice too , I enjoyed my occasional night out with chat and laughs . My husband is ok watching tv for a while and was happy. . But in the night I had cramp and indegestion. Was it worth it? Probably ,
Allie my husband had cataract removal ops and was terrified yet hardly noticed it being done. Everyone I know who have had this done all had good experiences. Good luck , Irene

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11/17/14 8:14 P

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Good evening team:

I am going to make myself lie down shortly but I wanted to give an update on my eyes. The doctors; office was really busy and some of the patients were not happy campers. I told the staff I was just glad to be there in the office and they could do what they wanted. The woman that drove me was so sweet and did not try to hurry me in any way. I was so relieved I did not have to drive myself.

I made an appointment to see the eye doctor next week. If all goes well, I get all my questions answered and we figure out the financial part of it. I will have surgery on both eyes for my cataracts.They will do the worse eye first, wait two weeks and then do the other eye.
I am going to watch a DVD that shows my eye doctor doing the cataract surgery. Boy, I can't wait, I can't even stand the sight of blood, especially mine.

Baybee: I hope you get caught up on your sleep.

I hope everyone had a good day and you all have a good evening.

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Hi Sparkfriends!!
Wow- did not go to sleep until after 2 a.m. The rain kept me awake. Do you think I could take a nap?? Nope.
Hubby has a daughter in Clearwater and we were discussing the possibility of moving down there. I don't know if I can go through moving and changing doctors again-lol. Old folks have funny ideas sometimes!!
Feeling good-15,000 steps in and gonna do 5,000 more later.
Everyone have a blessed day.

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11/17/14 12:44 P

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Good afternoon team:

Raining cats and dogs. It will help me sleep.

I just received my blood test results. Wow, that was fast. I guess I picked a good doctor. My cholesterol is high and the dr. told me to watch the fatty foods I am eating. I do not have diabetes which is great too. Now on to the eye doctor. Someone from church is taking me. I want the eye doctor to do as much as they can while I am in the office.


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Good morning!
Had a busy day yesterday, after a nice Sunday morning, watched my football team lose!!! then I went outside and raked the roof! for those of you who don't live in Minnesota-when it snows, it piles up on the roof and it forms ice dams on the edge of the roof which can lead to water seeping into house or attic or inside the siding so they have this long handled "rake" that you can stand on the ground and reach the roof and pull down the 2 to 3 feet of snow that is on the edge so about 3 feet of the edge of the roof is clear of snow and the ice doesn't form. not everyone does it but I had water leaking down the inside of my family room a few years ago so I do it every year now and it hasn't happened again. the only downside is you have to do it every time you get an inch or 2 of fresh snowfall. it took me about an hour to do it yesterday. it was 2 degrees outside to but I still worked up a sweat!!
@ Shirley, thank you for all your kind comments and everyone else too! you are all so kind and friendly. I only do the general chat but I am sure the other areas are good too.
@ Grace-the due date is march 13th but the doctor said they will probably come early-twins usually do, they are watching her closely and will decide later if it will be c section or not, but doctor said it most likely will be in feb.
@ Sue B-thanks for your comment and I am trying to stay safe and warm when I am out driving. Saturday morning it was beautiful out, the trees were all covered in a thick coating of ice and it just glistened in the sunlight.
@ Ellen-I don't go out much in the bad weather , getting so I don't like to drive in the snow and ice, but they keep the roads cleared pretty good in my town so I can at least get to the store.
there is a few snowflakes coming down now but not amounting to much- thank goodness- we have enough snow for now.
bye for now
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11/17/14 8:52 A

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Good Morning Everyone -

Irene - so sorry you lost your post. That does happen from time to time (it is my guess) to all of us. I know it does to me, and I take all kinds of precautions to keep it from happening. But... it is never easy when it does happen. * It is good to hear that Ian and family enjoy our country, and it is also good to hear that they are having a good time. I have never been to Utah, but understand it is a beautiful state. * I must get started with Christmas and just can't seem to get myself moving to do so.

Grace - thanks for sending Cecile a note. I've been giving her her space, as I know she will return when she is ready. I knew Cecile when her son died suddenly 7.5 years ago. It took her a long time to work through that.

Grace - back surgery like knee surgery doesn't always end our problems. I have heard both pros and cons about both. But yes, I never had back problems until we made a road trip to California when our son was in the Marines - over 30 years ago. I have a close friend whose back got so bad she had to have surgery, but is still having problems. She and her husband make long road trips numerous times a year. They have a daughter and family that live in the St. Pete area somewhere and will travel down there once or twice a year. I have no idea how she does it. Stopping often and walking helps, as when we traveled I had to do this because of my legs. * If you are dragging a big bag of manure around your yard I know why your back is hurting. Hopefully you have a wagon and a flat yard. I've tried to find a miniature hoe and shovel, but couldn't. I finally found something with a retractable handle like a little yard broom/rake with a little hoe like head on one side. It works okay, but something like you found would work better. I too have one of those little shovels and that is all I can manage now days. I've had it for years and it is a favorite yard tool. I'm doing little gardening any longer. * Thank you very much for inviting me to your 70 degree mornings - smile - but I'm very happy with the cold. I could do without the ice or the sub-freezing temps. Nice 50 or 60 degree days would be nice - smile.
Slimmer - emoticon Hi!

Have a good day and a good week everyone -
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Hello on Monday, I did along mail to you yesterday ,near the end my I pad froze up, it does occasionally and I lost everything as have to switch off and ion. So thinking o may change to doing a few shorter chats as things happen.
Had a quiet weekend as Ian and family are I. .usa. Been Arizona now finishing in their second hime a town of St Geoges in Utah, they live ut there and rent an apartment and go when ever they can ,
I hooe I hear of Maurices test results today , he's ok not I'll but just sits and does nothing , I put
Google Earth on his i pad yesterday he loves maps so I hope can play with that on his own, it involved me too yesterday, but I did make a start in writing .christmas cards and letters,
Back asap Irene

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11/16/14 10:29 P

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P.S. I just checked on Cecile and it looks like she hasn't posted since 11/05. I sent her a note asking her if she's ok.
NOW, I'm really going to bed!


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Good evening team. My back seems to be calming down, so maybe the problem I was having last week was from all the sitting in the car(for 3 days) and sitting while visiting relatives. I still have to decide if I’m going to have back surgery. My pain level isn’t quite bad enough right now to consider it.

BONNIE, I also have a “pet” geranium. It makes the trip back and forth between CT and FL every year. It’s about 5 years old now. I don’t know how much longer it will survive. I always have to give a good haircut so it will fit in the car and it usually takes a couple of months to recuperate.

KRYS, You’re very brave to drive in the snow! I haven’t done it in YEARS. But, I’m making a trip back to CT in January to visit my special brother. He usually comes to FL in January but he’s too frail to do that and my back can’t handle the “caregiving” he requires. At any rate I hope it doesn’t snow while I’m up there.
You’re also very brave to go to a parties with 12 seven year old girls! Did you need earplugs to survive the day?
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When is your DD’s due date? I know you probably told us but I forgot. I’ll bet you had fun picking out gifts for the registry.

ELLEN, I don’t envy you having to leave your house at 6 a.m. I’ll bet you’re very glad it doesn’t happen very often. Please let us know how your DH’s surgery goes. Is this going to relieve his sciatica at all?

SHIRLEY, Thank you for your concern about my back. There were certain jobs that had to be done but I’m pretty much finished with that. This afternoon I was spreading a bag of cow manure on my raised garden bed. I used the tiniest shovel I could find in the shed. I think it’s called a “boy scout” shovel. I found that it’s easier for me if I use the smallest garden tools I can so I’ve got a couple of miniature rakes and a hoe that’s also very small.

It's 10 p.m. and I need to go to bed. I have to get up early to go walking, since it's suppose to be 70 degrees by 7 a.m. I really wish all of you could be enjoying this warm weather. I know some of you have said you really like the snow and cold.You're a tough bunch! I've been spending my winters in FL since 1993 and I'm not looking forward to my trip north in January and another one in March. I've only been back north once a few years ago when my sister passed away.

I hope everyone has a good sleep tonight! emoticon I'm going to go look for Cecile before I go to bed. I hope she's alright.



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11/16/14 6:51 P

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Grace... now I see that I was looking at the Goodies wrong... I saw the Gold Medal that Shirley gave me and I thought those that followed it were from back then too... yes I remember getting your Goodies.

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Happy Sunday Everyone -

Grace - about your husband - I would say part of his problem is just being male, but also age related. Although I'm sure that his accident didn't help things. My husband most of the time does things like you mentioned pretty well, but he too gets angry or really put out if I remind him of something. And I've tried many, many ways of approaching this and weighing my words carefully. I don't nag, because I don't want to be nagged, so realize other people don't want to be either - so something has had to have been going on for awhile before I say anything about it. But like you it just isn't worth an attitude or fight so I don't say anything most of the time. Irene's situation is much different from ours. * Loss of energy has been coming on very slowly for many years. My present doctor doesn't seem to have a clue. This last visit he said that not exercising causes us to have less energy and less energy causes us not to want to exercise. We all know that. I don't consider such medical expertise. So he didn't have to tell me that of course. But obviously he doesn't understand my problem either. I have a fasting blood test every 6 months, and I'm sure if I were anemic he would have found it, but that was a good thought. It had crossed my mind too. Walking takes a bit of effort, and I'm sure that doesn't help anything. Some days I know the lethargy is made worse by me simply not feeling well for one reason or the other. * Women vs men when it comes to mechanics and other repair people. I think the advantage that men have over women is that other men assume that another man knows more than does a woman, and thus won't try to pull a fast one. However, many times I know more about whatever than does my husband, because if someone says something to me that doesn't make sense or I don't understand it doesn't bother me to ask them to explain, or to speak up if I disagree. My husband would probably try to bluff his way because he wouldn't want to admit he didn't know something. As for pumping gas, my husband seldom fills the car with gas. I do that. * Your response to Sue about your walking is good. It concerns me sometimes that you are doing yard work when your back is bothering you or doing too much walking. * Senior complexes - I'm not going to repeat what I've already said in other posts, but I will share this for your information. There is a Senior complex near my son. If a person is looking for independent living - they have both villas and apartments. The villas come with 1 or 2 car garages, plus a basement if you want one. Or you can get one without a basement. I haven't looked at the complex (just checked it out online) but my son says it is nice. I know you have lots of family in Connecticut, so I'm not sure where you'd want to live permanently there or in Florida. But... I would think that Florida would have even more choices in Senior Communities than here or in Connecticut. I could do without a 2 car garage (one would be just fine) or a basement, but we sure would need 3 bedrooms or 2 and a den or whatever other kind of extra room, and these here seem to have only 2 bedrooms. * I have trouble with night driving too. You can get an anti-glare coating on your glasses, which I do. However, having said this I'm not sure how much good it does. * Your lanai furniture - have you ever thought of buying plastic covers for it instead of moving it and having to wash it down every year? * Thanks for the update on Joe. That's interesting.

Allie - a good post. I'm not one to complain. I will join in a conversation and share if it comes up. But my mom was like yours. My husband used to say she enjoyed bad health. She never talked about dying - that was my mother-in-law, but I would call Mother and we'd talk for a couple of hours. She seemed disinterested in what my husband or I or the children were doing or how we were, we only talked about her bad health. When I'd get off the phone I'd be depressed and wonder why I'd bothered to call her. Now you know how it is I can understand some of your problems with your sister. Very different situations, but similar enough.

Krys - glad you made it home safely from your sons. I don't go out (or very seldom do) after dark any longer for a number of reasons - driving is one of them. It's not that I can't drive after dark, but I don't see as well as I would like, so I'm uncomfortable doing so. I see well enough to drive safely or I wouldn't do it. Thought I needed to clarify that, but... It sounded like a fun party for your granddaughter. It started snowing here yesterday afternoon and it is still coming down. Thank goodness the ground and pavement is relatively warm as we have no accumulation and it is 31 degrees so all we have is a lot of wet. In the morning I'm afraid everything is going to be a sheet of ice. The snow's not too bad but the ice sure is.

Bonnie - filling the car with gas, I don't like for the car to drop past half full. It does sometimes, but I try to stay on top of it and not let that happen. As you've probably guessed I do more driving than does my husband.

Slimmer - good to see your post. We haven't heard from you in awhile

Sue - I hope you enjoy your rest day today. It seems like you are always looking after someone else. Glad you are giving yourself some "me" time.

Ellen - I'm with you - when the roads are bad ice or snow, I stay put.
Cecile - emoticon Just wanted you to know we are thinking of you.

Have a good day everyone -
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Edited by: ARTY1934 at: 11/16/2014 (14:36)
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Posting early before I get involved with something else.

It is so COLD here!! The sun is shining, but the wind is blowing. We had a dusting of snow last night, but not enough to talk about. I am glad because tomorrow morning, I have to leave the house at 6:00 am to take my DS for an out patient surgery. The surgeon thinks scar tissue from his hernia operation two years ago has attached itself to his abdomen wall. They will go back in and snip it away. It makes it hard for him to sit and as an IT engineer, he does need to sit.

Slimmer - I think there is a place at the bottom of your Sparkpage that you can click to see more goodies. Stress can really cause weight gain. I was concerned about something yesterday and my first impulse was to grab something to bit on.

Krsy- when there is 12 inches of snow on the ground, I do not want to go anywhere. I admire you for going out.

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SLIMMER, That's weird about the Goodies. I just went to your Sparkpage and found that I sent you "Relaxation Music" on 11/7/14, Happy Face-8/7/14, Sunshine-4/20/14, High Five-4/12/14 and Treadmill -4/6/14. I didn't go back any further than that. You've got lots of Goodies from various members. It's strange that you can't see them. I don't know what's up with that.
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