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8/3/11 2:35 P

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Well said!

I've been there a few times myself, and it's not easy. I wish both of you the best of luck during this hard time... a time to focus on YOU and moving on. Your perfect person will come along... don't let this imperfect person (for you) influence your future.

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8/3/11 1:50 P

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I am also in the middle of a break up of a relationship of a year and a half. I tend to have the same reaction as well.....comfort myself with unhealthy food. After such a hard breakup, I deserve to eat whatever I want and not worry about my weight right now, right?

Wrong. I've found that the only thing this does is make me feel worse about myself. Not only did we decide that leaving would be better and as a result lose someone who has been extremely close to us, but eating the entire fridge will make us lose everything we have been working so hard to acheive.

Maybe, just maybe, we can do it right this time! Instead of placating ourselves with food that will derail only another part of our lives, we can fuel our motivation for better health! When we feel like staying in bed or sitting on the couch eating ice cream and watching Jersey Shore, get up and take the dog for a walk. When a song comes on that reminds us of them, let's get to work! Let's go to the gym, get in an extra cardio session, push extra hard on those weights.

Not only will this keep us on track, but before we know it, we will be ourselves again. A better slimmer version of ourselves at that! I have been through two other heart breaking separations in my life before, and I'm not going to lie and say that I got over them quickly. I can tell you though, that handling it with food or doing nothing sulking all day just prolongs the misery!

Break ups are hard, without us making it worse. So let's get through this together! Let's make a goal to handle this the healthy way! We WILL heal. We WILL be happy again. We WILL get super sexy while doing it!

Good luck! I will pray for you on your journey. We can do it!

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8/3/11 11:14 A

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Went camping this weekend with my (ex?) boyfriend.

We've been in a long distance relationship for nearly a year and a half, and it appears to be nearing the end. He isn't ready to commit to moving down here after all this time, so I've been guarding my heart and not giving him what he needs.

I hate to say good-bye to him because he was the first man who ever PURSUED ME! I was the fat friend who no guy would date for as long as boys have been of romantic interest to me. It's sad, but at 24, he was my FIRST kiss. Even now, he is attracted to me just the way I am. While he supports me in my weight loss goals, he wouldn't be any less attracted to me if I stayed the size I am now.

But in the end, it isn't about just physical attraction.

Our values and expectations are just too different. Try as I might, I don't think I'll ever make him happy. And I don't think he'll be able to make me happy either. Though we have several common interests, we aren't similar enough on the things that really matter.

It is painful to admit when the man has held your heart for the last 2 years.

Needless to say, this makes me want to bury my sorrows in pints of ice cream, chocolate chip cookies and custard pies.

The challenge for me, apart from the very real emotional challenge of moving on, is to deal with this loss and the stress from it in a healthy way.

So if you're the praying type, please pray for me this week . . . and if you're not, positive thoughts are always appreciated.

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