I also have not met my goal, but I've been there. Here's a little story about me: I am only slightly bigger than I was when I graduated high school. That summer I got very sick, like "you're dying and we don't know why" sick. over the course of about 2 months I lost almost 40 lbs because I couldn't eat or keep things down and my body wasn't retaining any of the nutrients. That was also the summer I got more compliments on my body than I have the rest of my life combined. Once I started getting better I gained back about 30lbs in just the first month after leaving the hospital. That's when all the compliments stopped. It sucked. People thought I looked great when I was on the verge of death but didn't when I was healthy and recovering. What the whole experience made me realize though, was that being healthy and happy and able to enjoy life was so much better than just being thin; it made me appreciate my body in a way that I never had before. I still want to be that size, but I want to get there by working hard and changing my lifestyle. The point of this story is that we all come to love our bodies in our own way, just the way it is. It may be when you meet your goal, it may be something as simple as a comment from a stranger, or it could be some life altering event. Keep working hard and the confidence and esteem will follow. I promise :)
I haven't lost all my weight yet either, but I also know that over the years I have become more comfortable being ME. I think that is important. If you aren't comfortable with yourself then you won't be happy whether you are fat or thin. But how do we become happy with ourselves? I think its part accomplishments, part carving our personalities into something beautiful, and part being good to others. Thats really vague though right? I guess just find a part of yourself you aren't happy with and make a change. Surrounding yourself with positive people doesn't hurt either.
No, I'm glad that you responded! :) I do need to focus that I'll have my health and be happy with that. I need to remember how I felt when I was 30 pounds heavier, and compare it to now. I'm in a much better place. Thanks for responding and good luck on your journey! :)
I'm definitely not at my goal as you can see from my picture and my weight ticker, but I wanted to throw my two cents in.
While I agree that image is definitely a motivator - I want to look really hot when I lose all of my weight like any other person, but I think we can't focus on that.
For all of us, it has to be about being healthier and living longer. I know that's a hard thing to do when all you want is to look better, but we have to just be happy with how we will be. Even if that's not how exactly we picture ourselves, we have to get past that.
I know that's probably not the answer you wanted or maybe I shouldn't have even responded since you wanted people that have reached their goals, but I just wanted to throw my two cents in.
As much as I want to reach my goal, I'm scared, what do I do next? Maintain yes, and maybe work on strength training more, however, I'm scared that I will still feel unhappy and I might still have image issues. Everyone tells me today that I'm crazy for still feeling ... I don't like the F word... but yes, i still have my days where I feel fat. I don't know how to have more self-esteem and what I have to do.
For anyone who has met their goal, how do you feel now and do you still struggling with being confident?
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