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8/25/09 7:31 P

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aww I know this is so old but I say just lead by example. And when she brings it up, just say good for you! or something to that effect. Either she really has lost or she's making it up because she needs the attention for some reason. So I say just make her feel good and keep being an example. Hopefully, she'll see your positive attitude and positive changes and be inspired.

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6/9/09 5:13 P

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I am perplexed about a friend who is also trying to lose weight right now. I have had several friends join me in my weight loss journey in the past (and others who have been on their own weight loss journeys at a time different than my own). I've always felt quite supportive of them and given compliments on their progress.

However, this time, although my friend announces her weight loss progress almost every time we meet, I just don't "see" it, and I guess I feel like I'm not giving her the support that she needs.

She reports a loss of 38 pounds (and was smaller than I was to begin with). Frankly, I just can't tell where an ounce of it went. I have a loss of about 15 pounds this time around, and I see more of a change in my own body.

She is seeing a doctor and on a plan. But every time we're together, she seems to pass up eating reasonable portions of healthy foods in order to eat high-calorie, high-fat empty foods (like queso and chips).

From the change in her energy levels, I suspect that she's overexerting herself with TOO much exercise to get her results, and I worry for her.

I try to gently encourage her, letting her know that weight loss doesn't have to be a chore or all about that dirty-D word (diet!), but for lasting results, it has to be a total lifestyle change. I encourage her to use SparkPeople (she said she signed up before).

Am I just jealous of her in a way I haven't been of others in the past? How can I help her and myself through this?

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