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3/27/12 12:04 A

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Congratulations on making your decision and sharing it with your spouse. Your journey begins with this decision so I encourage you to record this decision in a journal or blog so that later when you have a bad day you can look back and remember this decision and how you came to decide that you needed the surgery to be a healthier happier you.
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Cindy - A Co-Leader on Gastric Bypass Sparklers
Proximal Laproscopic RNY 9-10-10
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Surgery Wt: 205 9-10-10
Goal Wt: 135


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3/26/12 11:55 P

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emoticon guys for your support it means so much to me. I just told my husband yesterday afternoon when I came in from singing at an afternoon church service that I was tired of getting out of breathe when I sing. You can't play it off when your leading a song. And someone even asked about my swollen ankles and if I have had them looked at by a doctor. I was so embarrassed. I said, "no" it's coming from my weight. I am counting down the days. I am tired of hurting and the shortness of breathe. I am ready!!!!

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3/25/12 2:41 A

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Laura, I am glad that you are doing well. You may want to see a physical therapist and have them help you develop an exercise program that takes into consideration your medical needs. For me with my arthritis and joint and back problems I do water aerobics to take the stress off my joints while exercising. I love it. Our long term success is dependent upon regular exercise in addition to our food plan.

cindy

Cindy - A Co-Leader on Gastric Bypass Sparklers
Proximal Laproscopic RNY 9-10-10
Start Wt: 228 5-21-10
Surgery Wt: 205 9-10-10
Goal Wt: 135


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3/24/12 10:19 P

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Hi Tahoegirl...

I needed to say something to you. I felt the same way you did about telling people but I did. I had to listen to my mother constantly worrying about my surgery and her not wanting me to have it. I had to listen to family members telling me I was taking the easy way out. My husband was in full support of any decision I made and that was all that mattered to me. I had to think about myself. I had been taken care of everyone else and it was time to take care of me. I could not breathe and I could not walk more than 100 feet at a time without becoming short of breath and in a lot of pain. I had diabetes and COPD and arthritis and I had not been living the last 10years of my life. I was 51 years old and felt like I was 80. I had my surgery on 12/06/10. I turned 52 on 1/2/11. I lost 20lbs prior to my surgery. After my surgery I had to go to physical therapy because the pain in my knees was excruciating. I did not have any problems because of the surgery. I am now 1 yr and 4 months out and have lost 140 lbs so far. I have been a little scared to exercise although i have done a lot of things i could not do before my surgery. I keep my self busy. I breathe 100% better, my diabetes is gone and i have very little pain in my knees only on damp days. I also now go riding on the back of my husbands motorcycle. I had never done it prior to my surgery. Today for the first time I walked a complete mile without a pain and without shortness of breath. My mother is now thrilled that I had the surgery and so are my kids and my grand kids. You do what you have to do for yourself and stop worrying about what others think. I did and i love my life. They will come around.

Laura







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3/24/12 7:50 P

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TahoeGrl,
Put the extra time to good use. Attend the support group meetings and if possible bring your mom so she can see some poeple who have had the surgery and hear from them how thankful they are that they had the surgery. In fact I suggest you bring the whole family to one session and bring your spouse to all the support meetings before your surgery. Then he will be prepared and know what to expect after surgery. At my support group many of the spouses attend with the patient.
The time you spent researching the surgery will prepare you for life after surgery. If you have any difficulties then you will just face them one at a time just like you have come to terms with the surgery delay! If it puts your mind at ease then know this Gastric Bypass can be reversed! It is not easy but it can be done. The other part of the stomach and intestine is still in the body and working to provide you with hormones.

I am glad you are posting again!

cindy

Cindy - A Co-Leader on Gastric Bypass Sparklers
Proximal Laproscopic RNY 9-10-10
Start Wt: 228 5-21-10
Surgery Wt: 205 9-10-10
Goal Wt: 135


 current weight: 176.0 
 
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3/24/12 5:05 P

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Hello my friends! It has been a moment since I have made a post, but I have been reading all the other post messages. I had plans to have my RNY surgery this month, but I had to put things off for a couple of months due to a couple of finanical situations. I had recently came to deal with the fact that I had to put surgery off. It took a long time for me to get to the point where I was ready and excited and the set-back was hard to deal with at first, but I am ok now. May is just around the corner. emoticon That my month to have the surgery.

In the beginning of my journey, I had no intention of telling my children, my mother or my friends and co-workers. My husband was the only one that knew what was going on with me. I wanted my weight lost to be a surprise, but the more I thought about it, I realized that maybe I should at least tell my mother and children.

My daughter was not happy with it but it's my call. My son tells me that you have to do what you need to do. My mother on the other hand is afraid of the whole idea. She doesn't realize how my weight will eventually have it's health problems and how it is already begun with the joint pain and shortness of breathe with any type of physical activity. She was worried that I would not look healthy after I loose the weight, that some people don't do well after the surgery, she doesn't want me to start having health problems and last but not least, the excess skin. Thank God my skin is in good shape. Not even stretech marks. I guess that being almost 6' tall has it's advantages.She is not supportive and it upsets me. I do have one fear. What if after my surgery, I realize she was right? I try not to think like that and I have to know that this surgery is the best for me. I suppose that not everyone will agree with my decision to have the surgery. But it's my life and my future I need to focus on. Right
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I took a long time to get to this point of being ready for this life long change. It was not an easy one and I have done more than my share of research and soul searching. I know this is the right move for me and I am two steps from being there. emoticon

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